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Is my girlfriend already sick of me, or am I too attached? 2016-08-22 16:16:48 Post No.17486674
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Is my girlfriend already sick of me, or am I too attached?
Mitch is not my name
2016-08-22 16:16:48
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I've never posted here before, it seems stupid to express my shit feels when everyone has them.
She and I met playing Magic: the Gathering, since a week following then we haven't gone a single day without at least seeing each other once a day for about three months, now.
I REALLY like her, and I do my best to show her that I care.
But she's... Strange...
She hates fun, as in there's no such thing as a movie date or going out with a group of friends to an event (she hates crowds of people).
I am the male and dominant part of the relationship, and we've talked about how much she enjoys not having to plan things or probe into my thoughts; if I dominate a conversation or a situation she is a part of and wants to control, she gets suuuper cold and it's difficult to even have her look at me when I leave that night and whatnot (she doesn't like making eye contact, but enjoys looking at me).
When she gets up, for a number of hours following her stomach gives her cramps and she's light-headed, and she fucking hates gifts or presentations of affection (food, in this case) while in both a mood like that and because she can't handle the care I'm giving, so no cute breakfasts or morning sex, etc.
This morning/last night she pushed my buttons and broke me down, on purpose, to see how I'd react; I weeped in the sorrow she gave me as I later rubbed her neck and knee (her right leg is fucked up, so we don't ever walk far and it also cuts off hikes as an option); she told me she's probably not going to push my buttons after that experiment, yet she wouldn't even look at or kiss me as we finished our night/morning together and it fucking tore me apart again.
I will keep going as you guys ask questions, help me find the issue IF THERE EVEN IS ONE.
P.S: Not sure if it's illegal to say on the board, but she's a janitor here. I hope she does and doesn't read this. ( ´_ゝ`)
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>>17486674
Wtf, you both sound crazy af.
I'm not really seeing anything here that is implying she is sick of you, but it's hard to tell with all the crazy.
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>>17486674
Your typing about her and your typing style leads me to believe you are both insane
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>>17486682
Could you please be more specific as to what is crazy about the situation?
I don't understand how typical relationships work, I recognize subliminal communication such as body language and gestures of spirit (emotions that are projected metaphysically), but I rarely act on them on.
On purpose.
Does anyone know of a site to get free baby samples? Im about to have a baby and would like to try some stuff out. All the sites i get on make me fill out crazy stuff and arent baby specific.
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>>17486651
>free baby samples
what the fuck comrade
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>>17486654
Yah, like small packets of desitin or formula.
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>>17486651
Someplace gives out free sample babies?
hi /adv/ i never posted here before but i hit rock bottom. heres some background info: i was raped last semester by a friend. she got me to black out drunk and had sex with me when days prior i tried friendzoning her. i went to the police; i had no real evidence so nothing happens. our mutual friends started mocking me so i tried to kill myself via bleeding out. seriously should have just used the helium. but whatever i was hospitalized. went i got out i filed a complaint with the student conflict center. things were going smooth until they interviewed her: she made up a complete lie saying i raped her and all of our/her friends backed up her story by saying they never saw me drinking. the school believes her and i was put under investigation. in the end it was found i did nothing but she also did nothing. despite many inconsistencies in everyones stories and her own admission of having sex with me 3 times when i only remember 2 the school doesnt care.
so i sent a request to the deans that did our little trial asking them to tell me why they dont believe my story. since this happened i cant talk to strangers unless i use a whiteboard, cant eat or sleep or whatever else. basically im falling apart. im really just trying to get over it but its hard to do when the only people youve told blame you.
so im going on a hunger strike until i can get these 10 deans to meet with me individually just to give their reasonings. as you guess im way mentally ill and i dont really have a problem with dying. i sent them emails and i got to meet with 2 but the others have just ignored me.
i was going to start today but i was holding out that the others would reply. ill start tomorrow on the main campus quad. how should i prepare? i think ill bring bug spray and a towel for pissing myself. probably a water bottle but i think id die faster or from heat stroke without it. thoughts?
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>>17486512
The goal in a hunger strike is to NOT die, so yes bring water. You should also find a place to chain yourself to something as they will try to have campus security forcibly remove you. Eventually the police will come and cut the chains but by then you've made your point.
Make a sign explaining what you're doing and giving a short version of what happened. Like "I was raped on campus, Deans are refusing to take me seriously and refuse to meet with me. On hunger strike until they do."
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>>17486532
i was considering the sign but i talked to someone on another forum and they were against it saying that it could be considered harassment since legally i wasnt raped. my goal is to get to talk to the deans but still complete my degree
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>>17486512
Your hunger strike will not end your ptsd you stupid fuck. You need to treat that, instead of vindicating yourself
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I have a really simple, but important question. One that sounds a little loaded, and in a way it is.
What are men expected to do to find dates now (in real life)?
Let's say for the sake of argument, all of his friends and co-workers are in a higher age bracket than he is. Or that he did have friends/co-workers in the same age bracket, but they didn't know any single women, and aren't willing to be desginated drivers or act as wingmen in any capacity.
He has a means of self-transportation, the clothes on his back, and a personality. He can use that first thing to drive places, and present himself with the 2nd and 3rd things.
His options, from there, are what?
(pls pls pls, only suggest things that you've tried yourself, or seen/heard work from a very close vantage point, this means no libraries)
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They are expected to go up to the person their attracted you and not be needy during the interaction. Attractiveness is about assertiveness (to an extent) and being confident (not a meme).
If the person they are interacting with likes their company, then they will make the effort to continue the conversation, give off visible or audible signs of interest, and will be waiting for a follow up on how the male wants to proceed.
It's up to the guy to open and close the sale, so to speak.
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>>17486442
>They are expected to go up to the person their attracted you and not be needy during the interaction.
Immediately, all sorts of questions. Where are you expected to go? What are the reliable (or hell, socially acceptable) places?
We'd agree that they have to be travelling alone, right? No guy tries to talk to one girl out of two or more travelling together. Or do you disagree?
Take confidence out of the equation by assuming the guy has it. Car, clothes on his back, his personality, and confidence. He uses these things to go where and do what?
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Guys?
Is it better to major in something that you enjoy even if it's not the most practical major?
Or to major in something more general that can easily get you a job?
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>secure future but boring as shit/wanting to kys
or
>have fun at work but making as much as a mcdonalds worker/take 10 years to find a job
Up to you honestly.
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>>17486397
You'll enjoy what you understand and are good at.
The best approach takes a bit from both, something that jives with the way your mind work AND is practical and useful to the job market.
That is to say, a degree in English isn't worth much at all, going straight to trades would be a better investiment, but if that's the way you want to go, you could go with Philosophy, Philos don't get to do much philosophy on the job, but have an easier time getting management jobs.
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In my experience people hate things as soon as they have to do them for a living because the "doing something you enjoy" involves skipping the hard parts.
Go find the part of the job that sucks and determine if its worth what you get out of it. Examples of trade offs include:
Studying your ass off to know things people don't and get paid by what you know rather than what you do
Working on an "art" everyday whether you feel like it or not and submitting yourself to outside criticism so you can get better at it. This will allow you to do "writing/painting/music" instead of work everyday.
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What does it feel like to have a girlfriend? Yes I'm serious.
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>>17486357
Couldn't tell you mate.
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>>17486357
depends on the girl desu. for me, personally, if i like the girl, its a mixture of excitement and fear.
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>>17486373
Well thanks. I wanna know what it feels like to have someone of the opposite gender with you, always by your side. I've never had someone like that, but everybody says it's so great. Yesterday a girl tried to tell me that I dropped something on the floor but I couldn't even mutter a single word in response, I just ran out.
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When the hurt turns into hate, you'll know where you stand with me.
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Sometimes its not just the hurt but the anger too. The hate I feel for some people in this world is so great I cant even describe the atrocities I want done to them
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People are, and always have been, self centred pieces of shit. Getting bent out of shape and emotional about it is a waste of your time and energy.
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I honestly have no idea how I feel anymore. Just indifferent, I guess.
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Hi /adv/.
I'm currently stuck in a major I hate (economics). I've already wasted a year and am repeating my freshman year. I'm also a lazy, antisocial sperg and once I graduate, I'd like to either find a solitary, comfy job like night security, or work from home.
I figured that it would be best for me to learn CS/software engineering on my free time. Was I right in making that assumption?
The problem is that I don't know where to start. What resources should I use and what specific skills should I learn if I want to get marketable skills?
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>>17486102
If you want to work from home (i.e. freelance), then you are probably need to learn to code.
You'll need to learn HTML/CSS and probably Javascript, and you may actually make a living (These languages will land you a freelance job that you get to work from home, however I don't know about other languages, Java, Python, etc).
That's all I know, maybe some other anons know better.
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>>17487169
Web development is the way to go, then?
Yeah, working from home would be nice, but any solitary job would be fine really, I'm not picky. If I can manage to land some sort of sysadmin job without a degree (assuming I had the right skills, of course) that'd be pretty awesome as well.
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Imagine your wife/girlfriend is angry at you, but they have no good reason to be angry at you. Their feelings were hurt because of something you're not comfortable apologizing for.
What is the best way to diffuse this situation?
I've been responding to her happily, stifling the urge to blow up and tell her to snap out of it. But we're not getting anywhere.
I've been trying to change the subject and just move past it and have fun, but it hasn't been working.
I feel like speaking with her calmly, but firmly, could go either way. She could realize she's being silly and snap out of it, or it could compound the issue.
It's like diffusing a bomb. What would you do?
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>>17485950
Why is she mad?
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You're going to have to tell us what the actual situation is, not some vague allusion to "I'm right, she's wrong, I swear, trust me on this"
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>>17485961
Basically I'm asking for general advice in a situation where that is the case. Whether or not I am actually right is irrelevant, because I'm going to keep believing I'm right.
But for curiosity's sake:
>been together two years.
>gf has two male friends
>never worried
>tells me before we got together she slept with one of those friends
>"Why am I only hearing about this now?"
>"Are you mad?"
>"Not really, I'm just worried about whether or not I can trust you two together?"
>"Of course you can, obviously nothing has happened between us since then. Plus he's married now."
/next morning
>"About last night, you were right. Of course there's nothing to worry about, I guess I was just shocked hearing it for the first time."
Now she's angry/upset that I didn't immediately trust her. Really my feelings just got the better of me, hearing that for the first time. But she is right, dude would never cheat on his wife. There's nothing to worry about. I was mainly upset that I hadn't been told, but that quickly passed.
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>celebrate 1st anniversary with bf last weekend
>travel $90 to see him (i do this all the time)
>make him a book and card with pictures and drawings and writings about him
>took me a week to make it and 50 dollars to put it together
>bf's dog got skunk'd too, so i also brought him supplies to get rid of the smell
>he's floored by my gift, we also clean up his place together
>says he didn't get me anything because he didn't know what to give me
>didn't even get me a card
>he's also given same reason for my birthday, xmas and valentine's day
>mfw he was the one hyping the anniversary weekend and about his "surprises"
>that's fine, we're going out to eat together tomorrow anyway on his tab
>next morning
>he's scrolling on his fb and sees his ex is going to harvard
>explains to me about her achievements and stuff
>i'm a little jealous but i end up saying "oh haha... geez, i hope you guys are on good terms..."
>"oh we are, we still talk from time to time"
>mfw he's seriously saying this on our anniversary weekend
>he realizes he's broke this weekend
>looks anxious about eating at a restaurant we planned to go to
>don't wanna ruin the weekend and tell him it's fine if we eat at a cheap place
>cuddle at his place before i had to go
>says he'll make up for our anniversary "next weekend"
>mfw i've heard him say this for my birthday, xmas, and valentine's day too
>okay.jpg
i can't help but feel lousy about this weekend. am i justified to or am i being a brat? he's in some debt for sure and doesn't earn that much, but he always has money for weed and cigs and other drugs.
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>>17485891
He's not that into you....
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>>17485891
Addicts promise anything and forget it the moment you are out the door
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you're pretty justified.. really justified if everything went down as you described it.
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Hello /adv/, I have a crush on someone and this person has a crush on me too. We've been talking normally and all, but he's the grandson of my grandma's brother, so he's my second or third cousin. We didn't know each other until recently, so we never grew up together. I don't consider him my relative. Is it okay to date him/hook up with him? (pic not related)
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>>17485694
You're still related by blood.
If it were only through marriage you wouldn't be destroying the gene pool, but that's still incest.
All these dudes and you wanna fuck your cousin?
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Personally I wouldn't judge someone for dating a third cousin, but I think most people would. At the very least they would act disgusted in public, regardless of what they really feel.
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>>17485723
btw I'm a guy lol. We'd not have fucked up children. we cant lol
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Hello /adv/ how do I train myself to shit first thing in the morning?
My intestines only start waking up around 11:00am and that's a huge inconvenience since I'm at work/uni then.
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>>17485469
Go to bed earlier.
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>>17485469
drink several cups of water. or ingest some caffeine, or use a nicotine product.
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>>17485472
I got bed at 11:00pm so I don't think that's a problem.
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>fap to some shit
>after cumming lose complete sexual interest and just close what i was watching straight away
How awkward is this gonna be if i fuck an actual chick?
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Depends if its a 1 night stand. Pretty awkward.
If its a chick you care about not awkward.
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>>17485038
Truly, it's the reverse.
Why would a one-night stand (IE: a woman you won't see again unless you probably pay her) be more awkward than a girlfriend (Someone you HAVE to be your best around, stamina included)?
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>>17485036
Let me explain to you about objectification.
Objectification is the reduction of people to objects in your mind. The actors in a porn video aren't people to you, they're there for one reason: to get you off. You don't give a fuck about their thoughts or interests. Why would you?
If you actually have a real live person in front of you, just don't fucking objectify her. Easy. Recognise her humanity. Understand that she is a thinking being with a unique personality and agency. Then, when you're done cumming, you will still be able to relate to her on a non sexual level.
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Is it bad that I'm a 25 year old man who's friends with a 14 year old girl who frequently invites me to Overwatch matches the minute I come online? She's actually better at the game than me at a few heroes, if we play custom games and she wins she'll actually make fun of all of us afterwards.
Is it bad that her high pitched voice over the chat gives me an erection? she even tells me she admires how manly and deep my voice is. am I going to hell?
I'm actually dating a girl at the moment but I'd like to meet this teen girl if i could
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>>17484938
In case she doesn't know make it clear that you are 10+ years older. If she wants to meet up let her ask for records sake otherwise, better to back off depending on where you live.
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2016-08-22 03:13:27
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>>17484938
I see what you did there
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>>17484959
that's pretty hot, more of her
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Does anyone know what painkillers to take when doctors refuse to give you opiates, even though they're the only things that have really worked for your pain? I'm recovering from rocky mountain spotted fever and it's a bitch
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>>17484456
Tylenol and Ibuprofen you fucking pussy
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>>17484456
Black tar heroin.
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>>17484456
You could try moderate doses of DPH/benadryl, it gives you wicked dry mouth but it'll kill the pain...there's also the spiders but that's no biggie.