>fap to some shit >after cumming lose complete sexual interest

Depends if its a 1 night stand. Pretty awkward.

If its a chick you care about not awkward.

>>17485038
Truly, it's the reverse.

Why would a one-night stand (IE: a woman you won't see again unless you probably pay her) be more awkward than a girlfriend (Someone you HAVE to be your best around, stamina included)?

>>17485036
Let me explain to you about objectification.

Objectification is the reduction of people to objects in your mind. The actors in a porn video aren't people to you, they're there for one reason: to get you off. You don't give a fuck about their thoughts or interests. Why would you?

If you actually have a real live person in front of you, just don't fucking objectify her. Easy. Recognise her humanity. Understand that she is a thinking being with a unique personality and agency. Then, when you're done cumming, you will still be able to relate to her on a non sexual level.

You wont.

>Be virgin
>become increasingly more horny these past few months
>can't focus on things because I get so horny
>always jack it before bed.
>constantly fantasize about my female friends

Whats gonna happen once I lose my virginity? Will i end up losing any if not all of my sex drive once I finally experience the real thing?

>>17485322
You wont.

Judging by everything written in this thread the only women who would willingly let you stick your shameful cock in her would be some behemoth of a whale.

Youve got issues op. Id worry more about your mental welfare than what youll feel after you fuck someone. And thats IF you fuck someone.

>>17485038
This. If it is a long term partner you share an emotional bond with, you'll want to cuddle, etc.

Happens to me anyway. I also close whatever I was watching as soon as I finish, but have no problem kissing and cuddling with a girl I care about and can even go for round 2 almost right away, often times.

I recommend you quit watching porn. You don't have to quit fapping, just quit watching porn. It's helped me a lot.

>>17485036
>How awkward is this gonna be if i fuck an actual chick?
not at all. what you describe is absolutely natural.

>>17486055
This.
Make sure you really know each other through, and are emotionally connected.

If you fuck a random slut you will feel bad, Superbad 1000x worse then the shame regret after porn

Your mind is playing tricks on you, you know you want a caring and lovely girl only for you. Dont go for less

>>17485036
Here's how it works:

When I masturbate, I jizz, lose all interest, close tabs and get on with my life.

When I fuck my wife, I jizz, lose all interest, climb off of her, collapse on the bed in exhaustion, then wrap my arms around my wife while we catch our breaths. If you are fucking someone you love, once the arousal disappears it's replaced by affection for the person. Even if you don't love the girl and are no longer aroused, hugging after sex is still nice. Squishy...

>>17485322
Being 14 sucks anon. Fap first thing in the morning instead of right before bed, that way more of your waking hours are spent in the non-horny zone. Don't fap more than once a day, fapping more makes you hornier. Do not fantasize about your female friends if you are at all capable, that is rude to them and will make you horny for them.

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>>17486055
>You don't have to quit fapping, just quit watching porn

>fapping without porn

There are people who do this?

Lfmao why even bother fapping at that point?

>>17486340
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>>17486340
So that your dick doesn't explode?
You can't get off to your imagination alone? Sounds like you've desensitized yourself way too much. Look at too much porn and you will become like one of the sad shits on /vp/ and /r9k/.
You fap so you can get through the day without wanting to fuck everything in sight. If you overdo it you become a loony who's turned on by everything, and that is a hellish life to live, believe me I know.

>>17486712
>You can't get off to your imagination alone?

Well yeah when i was a kid i could easily fap to anything like imagination over fuking a crush or even damn pics alone but like now I'd deffo won't get off to anything like that. I need my sound and visuals.

Anyways i ain't that horny where I'd bother to fap every day just so i don't attempt to rape a chick on the street lol.

It's pretty bad. Whenever I finish I just lie there with her in my arms and think "Is this really worth it? Going on dates, flirting, spending hours at a time with her, just for that? I wish she'd just disappear right now so I don't have to bother with her for the rest of the day."

Post-orgasm regret isn't something that's just going to go away even if you care about them, you've really got to put some effort in if you want to delude yourself into thinking spooning afterwards is an enjoyable thing and not just an obligation so you can get laid without her thinking she's being used later on.

>>17486945
You need an emotional bond bro.
You might not know, but subconsciously you do.
You're not supposed to stay with random sluts, only with the girl you really adore and want a family with.

This us just how we humans are.

>>17486945
well, you need to love someone for it to not be just sex

it's reaaaally not that hard to love someone

if you aren't selfish and don't have trust issues

it makes life better actually

>>17487442
You can't exactly prove that. Humans aren't instinctively monogamous.

>>17487442
>being this culturally biased

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https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Post-coital_tristesse deez nuts lmao

>>17487442
are you fucking serious?

We are for millennia predispositioned to be polyamorous. gotta keep those genes going. gotta mate with every virile partner. wtf OP. just because Disney and Full House show you 2 halves of a whole completion and happy families doesn't mean that your not a whole person, who can love yourself and enjoy casual sex.

masturbation is not sex. I still get that, "I don't want to fucking do shit' after fapping. and I have had scores of partners, some whom I did regret, but not until the morning after har har.

>>17487505
not that anon but
>You're not supposed to stay with random sluts, only with the girl you really adore and want a family with.
doesn't necessarily mean one person your whole entire life. in any case, there's more to us than instinct.

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>>17485047
> Truly, it's the reverse.
Oh really.

> Why would a one-night stand (IE: a woman you won't see again unless you probably pay her) be more awkward than a girlfriend (Someone you HAVE to be your best around, stamina included)?
Why would anything be awkward with your girlfriend?
Yes, sometimes sex wasn't the best around and we just laughed at it and cuddled. Sometimes it was great.

I had sex with a random person before and it wasn't awkward but after cumming I had this horrible feeling that I was offering something special with a complete stranger. Like if a had tickets for two to go to a weekend in the International Space Station and I choosed a women I don't really know and who is 20 years my senior and who's into tv-shows I dislike and she's ok with having sex with me but we don't really talk and I don't want anyone seeing me with her... I just felt mediocre.

what the hell I do this all the time (femanon)
but when it comes to actual sex I also lose interest but I do stick around to talk.
what's the big deal