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I think I'm kinda fucked in the head and I want to go to a psychologist. However it would be awkward to tell this to my parents, and I can't make an appointment myself because I have no idea how the insurance stuff works or any money. Plus, I don't have a car so I wouldn't be able to go even if I did make an appointment.

The thing is, I just can't bring myself to tell my parents. Our relationship is really awkward and I'm sure they'd say I'm stupid for thinking I need help. They'd probably be right but I'm a fucking useless piece of shit so I can't do anything on my own; I just want someone to hold my hand through everything.

What do? You'll say I just need to tell them but I fucking can't, I've tried and I always just say something different last second and pretend it's not important.
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>>17484313
why would it be awkward to tell your parents?

what is your problem exactly
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>>17484316

Just say it and sound retarded when saying it and be okay with that. "I need to see a psychologist because my brain is fucked." Suddenly a huge weight is off your chest.
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>>17484326

Meant to respond to OP obviously.

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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.

>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant.

>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't fucking know.

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.

>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.

>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off.
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>>17484117
Claiming this thread.
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>>17484129
MOTHER FUCKER I WAS RELAXING IN POST ORGASM BLISS
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>>17484147
Suck it bitch

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>not getting morning wood anymore, or random boners throughout day
>just happened very suddenly, it's been two weeks now
>having more trouble staying hard during sex than ever before (although it's always been a little difficult)
>haven't changed anything about lifestyle or diet, besides quitting porn and fapping less

W-what's wrong with me? Can clinical ED really just strike like this out of nowhere?
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>>17484031
lose some weight fatass
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>>17485093
I weigh the same as I always do. 5'11" and 165lb
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>>17485301
then go to a urologist

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>27
>Currently a wageslave at a supermarket
>2.5 years experience as a wageslave
>2.2 Maths Degree from 2011 - I guess 3.00GPA is the american equivalent?
>No other experience
>Remember fuck all from uni
>No hobbies or a personality aside from vidya and telly
>London
>Things are starting to get tight

What are my options to a better career, in a small amount of time?

>inb4 suicide

I will soon enough, I've even marked some bridges to do it from, but not just yet.
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>>17483709
get your math PHD, any job you want 300k starting salary
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>>17483714
Doesn't that require money? I still have my student loans.

Also my skills have deteriorated, a lot.
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>>17483714
>PHD

That's like another 3-4 years.

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How to accept injustice?

I got born short, ugly, small dicked. The whole package some might say. Thanks to this I will have to work harder for everything in life. Also compared to gifted people I will have much worse outcome. How the fuck can one ever be okay with this? I'm serious. You're being shat on and fucked in the ass by everyone you meet for things you can't even change.

How do so many people accept it without being angry and wanting to take revenge?

And please don't say bullshit like
>just the way it is
>stop whining
>deal wid it
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>short
Literally only matters in amusement parks, 4chan manlet hate threads, and vapid one night stands
>ugly
Find a better barber, wear better fitting clothes, maybe grow, style, or lose a beard. Wash and moisturize your shitty pepperoni face
>small dicked
Average cock is 5.5", average vagina is 3-4", women care more that your dick is clean and your pubes are in check

This is the way it is, stop whining, and deal with it. How old even are you, this is a middle school mentality to have.
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>>17482389
>And please don't say bullshit like
>just the way it is
>stop whining
>deal wid it
Sorry, but that's the way the world works. If you wanted to be born into a perfect society, I'm sorry to inform you that you fucked up. You were born into a world of fuck ups, and you are a fuck up. I'm a fuck up. Everyone here is a fuck up, and we're all trying to unfuck our shit the best way we can. Either it eventually works, or you keep trying until you eat a pistol.

Life sucks, the sooner you get out of the delusion that everything will eventually work out the better. If you want proof, go for a car ride to your local inner city and see the amount of homeless people begging for food and money in the streets, and then notice the more shitty people who have been homeless so long they just give up.
By having the ability to type on a computer and post to the internet, you already have a head start over about 90% of the world.
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being born in a first world country already puts you ahead of 90% of the world

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I wonder why you unblocked and came back to talk to me if this is to blame me.
You ask for limits beetween us. Ask for friendship.
As I gave you my answer, You criticize and get mad. Telling all the negatives things about me.
As if I didn't know. As if this not complicated enough for me. And for us.
I would like us to stop that madness if this is possible.
I don't want to block you, cause I don't want to be too far, I want to be supportive when you feel low. And I don't know...
But right now, I will have to if our contact is always rough and can only be madness.
This spiral going down is not good for both of us.
This is not what we want nor what we need.
I'm sorry for hurting you always.
Salut A, take care.

-J
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I miss you. I don't think I will ever stop missing you. I wish I were warmer to you in your last days. I wish I hadn't let anything or anyone distract me from how important our friendship always was to me. And sometimes I wish I had listened to your threats, really listened and taken action to prevent you from leaving this world. But at the same time, I know it was what you wanted, and I don't know if I would have been able to make your life better. But I always tried.
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I want you to reflect on the following: would a good person have lied as much as you did? Would a good person have done half the things you did?
Flirted with other people, indulged their advances, kept secrets from me, told others you'd be with them while you were with me. Reflect on this and get your own answer. But anything short of a "no", is just poor justification. When others tell you otherwise, they're just trying to make you feel better, not improve.
This is your reality check. Pinch yourself, pull your own cheek. Wake up to the harsh reality. Only then you can admit to it all and begin improving. I know you can do it, it's just a matter of wanting it.
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M,

Call me when you're ready to try one more time. I'm ready to drop our past, and start a future once more.

R

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I can easily make friends, but for the life of me, I can't keep them. I have abandonment and trust issues. I will cut people out of my life easily. I sort of blame 4chan for that mentality (here we suggest breaking up a lot) , but it's my fault too.

So I'm left with no one and it's pretty crippling. I'm a pretty shitty friend.

Do you have any advice for me besides kill myself?
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use your time to yourself to improve, maybe see a therapist about your trust and abandonment issues.
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>>17487080
IF you actually want to have friends, force yourself to hang and do shit with them and eventually it will become normal. Basically fake it till you make it.
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>>17487087
I can do that but I can't let them know me too deeply. Everyone I've opened up to basically hates me.

>>17487085
I was actually to a therapist recently. I felt uncomfortable because I was paying for it totally out of pocket and couldn't really afford the help I needed. Financial worries are definitely a thing

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tl;dr Gave "friend" ultimatum to either trust me or ut off contact, did I do the right thing?

>known each other for 8 year
>met online
>e-dated for 3 years, met a few times
>terrible break up, no contact for a year
>try to be friends, only way of contact is via skype
>i still love her, but she's moved on
>try to be friends for 3 years, ups and downs
>over the past year we've only spoken a few times, lose all feelings for her but still care for her as a friend
>she doesn't trust me, so don't have her new e-mail or phone number
>only way of contact is skype
>she barely logs on, made a new skype to avoid me
>wash my hands of her, but still miss talking to he
>don't initiate anything, she logs on once every month or so and we catch up
>last time we talked she told me that she loved me, was her soulmate etc.. and she starts to cry
>ask her why she doesn't trust me then, doesn't answer
>no contact for another month
>leave her a message that I'm done, she either trusts me and gives me more ways to contact her or she just leaves me alone
>leaves me an offline message yesterday

Message was

>hey anon
>i agree with everything you said
>i guess i never gave us a real chance to be friends
>take care of yourself anon

And blocks me on Skype

I know I did the right thing and that I deserve better, but why do I feel so shitty? We've gone 3-6 months at a time where we haven't talked and I haven't missed her but for some reason I just feel shitty now. Can't even go and drink with friends and talk about this as I've been hiding the fact that we started talking again.
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People come and go in everyones life, but the ones who stay are the ones who are meant to be.
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>>17487062
>but why do I feel so shitty
You've known each other for a long time, and claimed yourself you still loved her even after you "broke up" and she made efforts to not be in contact with you. Final goodbyes aren't easy, especially if you're invested in a person.

It's time to move on, anon.
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>>17487062
your better off. a fuck ton of online relationships are no more than making a connection with someone to feel something. Eventually you learn that either its gonna become a relationship or its a waste of time. Your situation was a waste of time.

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Hello /adv/ I need some help. For about 2 months now my boyfriend got a job which the hours are overnight, 1-7am. In april, we took a break of our relationship which lasted for about 3 weeks. When we got back together, everything was perfect and fine. Then when he got the new job, everything started changing, and it's been scaring me. His vibe seems different, and he's been a bit rude to me here and there, saying things that aren't like him and sometimes hes not acting like himself. I've been having this sinking paranoia which makes me think he's been seeing someone else at his new job, and is going to leave me. Is it just the new job that's making him act different? Am I just being paranoid/anxious? I really don't want to lose him. We've been together for a year and a half and he means everything to me. When I talk to him about it, he always tells me there's nothing to worry about, that he doesn't want to lose me, etc. Whenever I'm in a bad mood because of it, he gets in a bad mood because I'm upset. I'm trying really hard to adjust to these new hours and everything, it's just really hard but I'm willing to do it for him because I love him so much. Am I just really overreacting?
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I worked overnight for 3 years and my girlfriend always tried to get me to quit for the first year, and it annoyed me. Also, if it's his first time working overnight it's going to take him months to adjust completely to eating and sleeping at weird times, and he may be under stress, tired, and just grumpy. I doibt that means he's cheating on you.
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>>17487015
I'm definitely not trying to make him quit, I told him I want him to work there because I know he likes the job and the people he works with. I'm trying to be really supportive and understanding of the new job, it's just sometimes hard when paranoia kicks in
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>>17487025
Working nights is just its own set of problems that you have to adjust to. The weather has a much greater affect on whether you can sleep or not. If you wake up for any reason it's much harder to go back to sleep because you naturally want to be awake due to the sunlight. You don't feel like eating a huge meal at 3AM. When you get off work you have to wait several hours to do your errands because places are simply not open yet, and all you want to do is get that stuff out of the way so you can relax. Two days off feel like one because you either have to not sleep to be up all day, then not sleep to go back to work, or be awake all night doing nothing on your days off with nothing open and all your friends alseep.

I used to be a night person, but it was still hard for me to adjust to it all for a while. Just be there for him and understand that he literally has to adjust to a completely different lifestyle, and it may make him grumpy for a while, especially if he's the type to get grumpy when he's tired, because he's always going to be tired now.

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Why i am bad in math? i am good on all subjects, i am a bit of narcissist [I don't think i am better than everyone, just everyone is shit].I am good on all subjects, i am the only one who really can discuss something deeply, but for some reason i can't focus on this, like i know what to do, but i made mistakes doing, i do soo fast that all my equations go wrong.
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I am 18 years old, finishing school on my country, everyone thinks on pokemon go and idiot stuff. I am ENTP [For people who care about MBTI stuff] and i am trying to improve, but i didn't pay attetion to my early education, now i lack some basic stuff.
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>>17486988
If you say you're good in other subjects then you must not have delved very deep into any real science discipline since math goes hand and hand with science. If you're making mistakes then you don't know what to do, kiddo. Have a slice of humble pie, buckle down, and study your math just like most everyone else has to.
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>>17486988
Force yourself to slow down.
It sounds like you're smart enough to be teachable (which is great, you have no idea how many kids go full non-teachable on maths), but don't care about it and go as fast as you can, without double-checking.
You probably don't want to waste the time, and have better things to do, but if you skip the practice you'll eventually suck at math, as things get more complex you'll need to use the tools you've learned before on the fly, or waste a fuckload of time doing the work you should have already done years before.

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Hey /adv/ I was on this cruise about 11 days ago and I had sex with a girl there, she was 28 year old and I think she was a nurse. We had condom but at one point I remember being drunk as fuck and she took it off and she rode me bare. Now I'm scared shitless that I got hiv since I got a really bad flu yesterday and It's one of the early symptoms. Now I'm supposed to wait 3 months before I can take the test. What are the odds?
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Anyone?
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It's extremely low bro.
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>>17486985
getting hiv though piv sex is pretty low odds, like 1/100 or something like that

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How do you overcome introversion, being shy and not knowing how to hold a conversation ?
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>>17486963
You need to distinguish the two things.
Introversion is more being comfortable with/needing time alone. I don't think you can overcome it.
Being shy and awkward... you just need to progressively walk out of your comfort zone. At some point, you'll learn.
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>>17486963
>>17486969

I think you can change, I was definitely an introvert when I was younger. I didnt like socialising, I enjoyed time alone with my thoughts

But as I got older and left school something snapped, probably around the same time I realised I wouldnt see my friends every day anymore.

And I couldn't go without some social stimulation anymore.
Was awkward at first because I was still an awkward shy introvert at heart, trying to be social, but overtime I've just molded myself into something else


I think its just a case of believing in something. Its amazing how you can change when you really, REALLY stick to an ideal in your head.

Fake it till you make it and eventually you start living the lie, until it aint a lie no more

Keep telling yourself its what you want, force yourself to talk to people, take note of other people talking, it'll come with time
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>>17486963
Think out loud. One thing leads to another and youll discover how to communicate at least in theory. When you say something awkward push through it. Your face will glow, you'll hit a wall but dont stop. Never stop.

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How do I stop finding women who are submissive disgusting? I just don't feel that they're human. Its like how women find weak men repulsive but for me I feel disgust and could never respect or like a girl who does that. I broke up with my last gf because after 7 months of what i thought was the best normal sex she told me she liked to be dominated in bed.
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Well, do you have a femdom fetish?
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What was the relationship between your mother and father like OP? And what was it like between you and her?
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Just read the previous thread

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Can anyone name an alternative to PUSSY MONEY WEED for my very short stay on this planet? I'd rather kill myself very slowly than live a 9-5 fantasy.
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>>17486939

creativity, inspiration, relations, etc.
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a good meal or pissing after you've held it for a long time feels better than the 10,000th orgasm in my opinion, so probably love > pussy

I'd say investments are better than money because like you said, you don't want to have a 9-5 job every day until you die. You want to save the money in investments so it can be called on for small purchases or things like housing.

weed is alright I guess, if you're peter pan and/or really bored
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>>17486939
>Can anyone name an alternative
you either act like a "grownup" aka accept beeing a wageslave cogwheel
you be a leech
you be a criminal
or you be a self employee
im pretty much in the same boat as you, the worlds so fucked up, i cant pretend like theres nothing wrong with it

you have to find a way to acquire money no matter what

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Am I ever going to find a girl who contemplates things as much as I do, or will they all be "xD" by comparison? I was with this one girl who was more intelligent than me, had been out of the country, and had way more studies as well as shits happen to her. I didn't see her stopping to contemplate nearly as much as me, no, she was pretty "xD" by comparison.

I always see women doing things like temporarily prostituting or selling drugs (because doing so for a short time has few if any consequences), or watching some stupid talk show where they laugh at the same time as the studio audience that was probably cued by a sign to laugh.

I never considered myself to be a philosopher. In fact, I'm not highly logical. I just contemplate things, see things as worth contemplating morally and ethically, and I like to make sure I know things as certainly as possible.

Is this just not a female thing? I know plenty of guys who do this more than I do, usually as a result of going to college.
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>>17486929

contemplate the following: just date dudes.
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>>17486929

you're not very good at this contemplating thing though. the only reason most people DONT do things is simply because they do not have the option.

if you could easily prostitute yourself to get through a hard time, you'd do it. you simply say you wouldn't cuz you have no ability to understand that option. its like saying you would never cheat on your girlfriend. the only reason you cant comprehend why someone would do that is because actually being able to cheat is outside of your scope.

until you've been tested you shouldn't be so quick to judge. for all you know you have zero ethics or constitution. you just live a life where either A) you don't need to be unethical or B) the option to be unethical has never been presented to you.
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>>17486933
>just date dudes
are you a dude? only if I get to fuck your butt first. make sure to, like, not eat for 12 hours or whatever needs to be done.

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