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>>17598451
My mantra in life is "fuck it"

Just try it

Hell, it sounds like itd be easier to straight up tell him, "hey so like, ive been having these thoughts see, but im not entirely sure what to make of them, so i think we should try dating" personally, i'd find it interesting if a girl tried to start a relationship with me this way

>>17598451

Probably not, but you're on 4chan, a Mecca for guys who are bitter and lonely and think women that won't "give them a chance" are sluts and whores.

In my experience (as a guy), trying to force attraction to someone when you know you're just not is already a losing battle. This guy sounds decent enough, but let's be honest - once you're in a relationship for a few months or whatever, some attractive dude is going to enter your life and all of the forced sex with your "nice" boyfriend in the world isn't going to keep you from feeling that surge of passion for the more attractive person.

That's not to say you'll cheat, but the lack of attraction will catch up and just build resentment in the relationship. Keep in mind, I'm not saying that you need to hold out for a 10/10 here, just that you should date someone that you can at least see thinking is really cute if they dressed a certain way, indulged in your fetishes, whatever. We all want to do the "right thing" and pretend that personality and shit comes first and looks don't matter, but that's a lie.

Lastly, you could go on a few dates and see if something builds, but it sounds like this guy has been harboring feelings for you for a really long time. If you go on a few dates and the chemistry isn't there, you may just get his hopes up to hurt him even more.

>>17598451
kek yes let him hit it

>>17598439
>I keep overeating and taking the bus

I dunno about this one scoob

>>17598439

You just do. Either you utilize discipline or you don't.

You just do it. Idk what to tell you. I'm strict on the gym schedule, but with school and work i always put things off to last minute. Maybe figure out why you overeat. If there is an emotional trigger or you eat to mask bad feelings or something like that. Good luck, and don't beat yourself up for failing.

>>17598419
Sex is most accessable at this stage in life, this is your best, but possibly last chance, virgins.

Where you go is massively less important than what you do when you're there.

Women only lower your credit and your grades.

>>17598418
>Tfw my uncle is a gym-nut
>Tfw I've just cleared what I can easily call the most intense workout of my life
>Tfw this guy wants me to go for another hour on top of the hour and half I've already done
>Can't go back now, so I get in the fucking line with the rest of the people there
>I hear giggling
>We start running a few laps, my headphones fall out of my pocket
>Coach picks them up
>"THE FUCK YOU DOIN'? DON'T BRING THIS SHIT IN HERE TO TRAIN, THAT'S HOW YOU SERIOUSLY YOU TAKE BOXING?"
>I know better than to answer
>People around me giggling harder
>"PUSH-UPS! GO!"
>All of my muscles are cramping, I can't keep up with all the reps
>Still doing more fucking reps than half the people in the course
>The coach straights up ignores the guys doing nothing and walks up to me
>"SEEMS TO ME LIKE YOU CAN'T TAKE IT. FUCKING PUSH."
>This goes on for a long time, with me not managing to keeping up, all my muscles cramping up from the previous workout and the guy screaming in my face despite the fact that I'm doing better than half of the people in the room
>About half an hour in, my body has decided it fucking hates my guts
>Heartbeat slows, thoughts get hazy, everything blurrs and I pass out
>"GET THE FUCK UP PRINCESS, YOU SLEEPIN'?"
>I've been laying on the ground for I don't know how long. Can't be longer than a minute, I assume. I'm covered in cold sweat. I can't fucking do a SECOND workout now.
>I get up and leave the gym without a word.
>People laughing behind my back.
(2/2)

It's been months, I've changed gym and I still can't get over this fucking story. That fucking asshole and all the pricks laughing made me feel so powerless and worthless. How do I stop thinking about it?

>>17598418
>1.68
When will they learn

>>17598438
Fuck off, mate.

>>17598404
it's a perfectionists point of view, everything SHOULD transpire as you plan them out to be, but the slightest mistake haunts you for awhile

I'm the same way, you just need to accomplish bigger and better things to wipe away the mistakes (that's what I do anyway)

>>17598404
examples:
>take an accounting exam
>get 3 questions wrong, get a 94
>feel shitty about the mistakes
>next exam rolls around
>studied for 5 days straight
>memorize every formula to the T
>get 100
>94 feels less like a disappointment

>>17598440
Mine would be something like that.
>do exam
>get 100
>meh, might get a subway to comemorate or something
>study hard for next one
>get 96
>feel like a Goddammed dissapointment, feel all my effort was wasted
>completely forget the 100, the 96 feels much bigger influence-wise than the 100

Hell, even not realizing it was ''Perfectionism'' my problem first hand is already bothering me.

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I didn't even get to the good part. I never asked to live, originally I intended to die back in 2014.
I wrote a very personal journal with all my thoughts and feelings, but I think my mother will flip out like a moron like always and won't understand a thing I said or won't know what to do in conclusion.
She's bullshitting me now with crap like "I've never called you, so I can motivate you to learn. Still love you bye" She's become very shallow, hypocritical and bipolar lately. She won't open to me with any of her thoughts and real feelings, she barely talks to me like she used to, but she expects me to when all she does is tell me what a retard I am a few weeks later.
She's become shallow and uncaring since 2014 when she told me she doesn't care what I do with my life anymore.

I think I should have stood with my grandmother. She used to give me a lot more money while I was with her due to her developing feelings for me. Now that I left she started to give me less and less. I used it to pay my mom's taxes.

Instead of investing it, we're going to crash both. Thank you mom, real genius you are. She's a geek who only knew to stick her head in fictional books and never outside the real world. She never thinks ahead and understands what she should do, be honest and aware. She also doesn't want to get interested into ways of making money online, despite having 7-9 hours of free time every day. She prefers letting me do it on my own. She couldn't even be assed to research some good banks at which to make my debit card, my grandma had to do it for me, a pretty good bank too. Obviously I'm making it look like my mom is a douche turd and I the good boy didn't du nuthing. But for once let's pretend I'm the victim, because what I'm about to say is very sincere.

Now /adv/. Should I kill myself for my own good and my mother's sake?
Take a minimum wage job.
Or go to my grandmother and hope I manage to get good at money making to save both me and my mom.

>>17598385
Ah life is but a series of choices eh mah boi?

Usually the happiest option provides the happiest results, option 3 is the obvious choice for any man with a destination in mind, otherwise, you will go nowhere

>bump

>>17598355
Like you meet any other kind of girl.
Pretty much anywhere.

You'd have easier time at a church, but if not that.. meh, anywhere, really.

>>17598358
How exactly do I go about saying no sex till marriage during dating? I dont wanna waste their time or mine if we both have false expectations

You tell them in the first date.

Also enjoy getting rejected or ignored for a few hundred times. What a retarded belief.

>>17598331
Shes flirting with you dumbass.

>>17598331
Wait let me recollect some things. You're a femanon with a bf and you think your best female friend tries to seduce you sexually by using your overreactive mind?

>>17598341
I guess so. It's just the imagination though, not the mind. I wish though. Then I'd be like Einstein or something.

>>17598316

Sounds normal to me.

>>17598325
So I'm sperging over nothing, should I invite a friend too?

>>17598371
Is the friend she's bringing male or female?

I am being serious when I say I thought casette adapters were dead and stopped being made.

Upgrade to the 21st century gramps.

>>17598158
I probably could but that would hurt the collectors value if i gave it a new radio and then its not "classical".
This way i can listen to my shit and not fuck it all up.
Also sony JUST made a new one the other day thats supposedly some damn HI-Fi bullshit that popped up when i googled "Cassette Adapter"

>>17598167

If you value sound quality then I suggest you for bluetooth. With the iphone 7 out and them getting rid off the audio jack, casette tapes will be phased out in about 5 years. So I am only saying this for a long term investment.

Sell the casette tape, make a quick buck and then invest in a top tier fm transmitter.

You shouldn't even be listening to music when you drive to be honest considering it impairs your reaction time.

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How old are you and what is the scenario you have got yourself into?

>>17598151

1. My wife used to pie to me and would bring to our home the daughter of the dude she was cheating with while we were still together

2. She would also bring around the dudes sister as well

3. ,She would go over the dudes parents house and would take one of my kids with her.

4.so baby we had turned out to not be mine, we decided to try to move one(when she told me she cheated we decided not to dna test the baby, after I left her a month later I did the test and it was negative) while we both agreed to move on she kept in touch with the dude and his family.

Does any of this shit look bad on her?

>>17598154
Alright... After 6 years of being with her, after the verbal abuse and lies from her.... I snapped and I hit her a couple of time. I got myself arrested. I regret it, and I hate myself for doing what I did.... But it was the cause of all her shit. Still no excuses justify what I did

There is a difference between liking girls and being sexually attracted to girls.

>>17598108
im sexually attracted to girls

>>17598103

Just kiss whoever you get a chance with and see how you like it. The thing about sexuality is that you don't really have to "figure it out", despite what people seem to think. Just do what feels right and good to you, and then that's it. Why worry?

>>17598083
If I were you I'd tell her about what happened with your first girlfriend, to make her understand and work together towards fixing it. Don't be controlling, that's always bad. Just, tell her about it.

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Mind you, I have trust issues, but this seems like a huge red flag to me. It would be one thing if you two were browsing tinder together for fun, but after you asked her about reading the messages it seems she sort of brushed off before moving her phone away. Seems off to me, OP. I had a girl do something similar and I bought into it until the day I caught her deleting messages.

>>17598083
OP, she just flipped this shit right back on you and bet she is afraid you did read and there may be something incriminating there. I don't understand her using a fuckapp for kick and giggles especially since she is having lengthy chats with guys she cultivates there. She's acting like she is single so why isn't she.

if you have $100 you better be younger than 16 cuz god damn dude, get yourself a job first. and to answer your question. 100 will be enough for macaroni grill. and some free advice, Iv'e always found that having the first date be somewhere quiet, but public (like a park), where you just talk for a few hours and do an activity, usually works out better. Thats assuming you have just met this person and asked them out. anyway... 100? fuckin hell

I don't know how much Mac grill costs, but you're already trying too hard. Wear something that looks presentable and don't sperg out. And $100 is more than fucking enough for a first date, you don't even have a reason to be invested in her yet. $30 is probably a better amount to spend on a first date, and that's with someone you really like.

I mean, I'm also a poorfag college student, if $100 is nothing to you, then hey, go for it. But youre gonna set an expensive precedent.

Take it from someone who has dated a lot of women. Spending that kind of cash on a date other than your girlfriend is a fruitless endeavors. You aren't impressing her with the meal or how you dress.

I seriously advise you to take the first anon's idea and keep the date as cheap as possible. Feel her out, get to see what this broad is about and if you feel she is worth dating.

Seems like you get a fight of flight response, so try this:

next time you see a roach, fucking crush it with your fist. Your adrenaline will trigger and you'll most likely pussy out at first, but remember this comment and just fucking crush it. Enjoy the adrenaline high afterwards.

Keep doing this everytime you see one and eventually your fear will be replaced with a deep hatred that will turn you into a cockroach killing machine.

A year ago, my house was plagued by those fuckers. They were everywhere: the kitchen, the bathroom, the table on the dinning room, even inside my fucking PC.

So, due to being a poorfag, I couldnt a fford a exterminator, and have to live with them for a while.

It got to the point that when I saw one, I crushed it as soon as I can, be with my foot or even with my fingers (there were a lot of baby roaches)

You know what I learned from them? Those things are absolutely harmless, if unhygienic. They wont kill you, unlike those spider shits.

Why exactly do you find them horrible?

>>17598077

omg sounds brilliant. I hope I can make that first step.

>>17598096

Its like rationally I know they're harmless but they look so creepy and disgusting, so their appearance mostly. It would explain why even dead roaches send chills down my spine.