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>Be me at college
>all other friends drop out or transfer
>one really good friend though
>Get along really well
>Always happiest with each other
>Close friends for two years
>Type in "kiddie porn" in Google images on his computer
>Gets angry, I laugh
>A day later, tells me he talked to the security people of the college
>They tell him it's the most malicious thing they've ever seen and that it's illegal
>I tell him it's not (it's not) and I'd never do anything to hurt him
>Tells his mom allegedly
>Says mom told him to never hang out with me again or she's not going to give him money
>I apologize before he tells me
>He says "He can't afford to make mistakes"
>We part ways
>Hoping that it's not really over
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My life is a joke
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Needa a bump. :(
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>>17599063
woof thats rough, but yeah you shouldnt do that. its not illegla and its a joke, but honest to god, its the most feared thing to be. you dont even have to be arrested or anything, imagine if someone came in and saw that in his search history. think anyone would believe that it was 'just a prank bro'?
and that automatically has to put you on some sort of watch list. you think he wants that?
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since so many people are talking about relationships... 2016-09-23 18:49:21 Post No.17599055
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since so many people are talking about relationships...
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From what I've experienced, sharing ownership of a bed with your partner is not a positive experience. It's great to lie in bed with your partner, but actually sharing the bed has drawbacks. For starters, one or both of you might need to tell the other, "Shut up, I'm falling asleep." Sensitive people might start to feel overwhelmed by their partner's constant, presence and want to put their back to them.
Secondly, you lose your own bedroom. Most couples who can afford a one-bedroom apartment can afford a two-bedroom apartment together. Almost every time I look at a couple's bedroom, the less apathetic one is dominating how the room looks. Having rooms to design and decorate yourself is very important, and probably has been for many thousands of years.
There's nothing saying that having separate bedrooms would mean less love, less sex, or less interest in being around each other. If anything, separate bedrooms might lead to more of these things. I can see why couples, especially "serious, romantic" couples would want to see each other every day. I think having time away from someone is the basis of desiring to be around them. If they loom over every conversation, and are always at arm's length, don't you expect things to get boring and die down?
pic related: very staged
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>>17599055
ever heard of an one-night stand?
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OK.
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>>17599055
On more than one occasion my wife has slept on the couch because of my snoring. It's gotten better so it happens less.
Funny thing is she snores as much as me (I think) but I just like hearing her next to me as I lay in bed.
And personally I don't care how she decorates the bedroom. I do three things in there... sleep, sex and get dressed.
I feel AWFUL, and request your aid and insight.
I've masturbating once a week. This is in addition to having sex about twice a week with my girlfriend. On it's own, this isn't alarming.
What IS alarming is this:
IT TAKES FOREVER FOR ME TO GET AROUSED AND MAINTAIN AN ERECTION!
With both porn, which I'm attempting to quit, and with my girlfriend. I used to have an erection even before my pants were off. Now it takes much longer to become aroused. Hell, I don't even feel excited when I look at porn or women nearly as much as I used to. This concerns me. Even though I haven't eliminated porn, I'm cutting back on it. Shouldn't I see minor improvements instead of significant losses?
Maybe it's because I feel guilty for masturbating to porn, and guilty for sleeping with my girlfriend because of how she betrayed my trust in the past. Either way, my plan is to cut porn out of my life COMPLETELY, exercise more, and eat healthy, and just hope for the best.
I'm really concerned, dudes. In general, I've felt more anxious, unable to focus, less excited by life, and less aroused by all that used to turn me on. I need to reverse all of this, and will do all I can. Help.
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you only masturbate to porn once a week, and have more sex with your girlfriend than you watch porn. I don't think porn is the problem.
you're asking us for medical advice. see a urologist.
>i'm having other psychological problems
maybe a psychologist. depends which problems came first. see the urologist first.
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>>17599050
Are you fat?
Do you take medication?
Do you smoke?
Do you do drugs?
Do drink everyday?
Are you stressed out?
Are you unhappy in your relationship?
Has she become fat?
Does she get fucked like a dead fish?
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low test
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OK /adv/ it's a little bit special, but i'm a guy and I have VERY girly eyelashs...
So as a guy I don't know shit about appearance... so how do I make them less "girly" ?
I can't just shave/cut them it would be weird, and tweeze them could do just holes in it...
Any advice how to make thme more discret ?
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>>17599011
It's common. For some reason most guys have better eyelashes than girls do. It's some kind of a universal joke and eyelash envy girls feel toward guys is a real thing. Anyway, it's nothing to be insecure about. Just don't use mascara or anything and you're good.
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Nha dude (girl ?), it's just not pleasant, I looks like a living joke, so if you know a way...
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>>17599011
post pic and well let you know if its thick enough to worry about.
you can trim them though
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Most nights I panic myself to sleep and wake up too disoriented to leave bed for several hours. My insurance won't pay for a therapist that isn't a part of some phony agency made for poor people. Most people I talk to are either too busy and closed off, that or they are lonely due to how much trouble they cause everyone close to them. Money and material possessions are the only things for me to be happy about, because I must be fucked up and unable to break through with people.
Is this ever going to get better? I was thinking about becoming a dog/pet adoption guy.
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Try weed.
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Read a book titled 'Mind, Life and the Universe'. That book aided my understanding of reality and the universe but most notable helped me understand anxiety. Anxiety is not something that will ever to away because it's necessary for survival (nervous system). Rather, recognizing and understanding why it does what it does what it is has helped me immensely.
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>>17600015
Will do
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I am retarded or something
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Fourth year university, failing classes, taking adderall, hating myself.
So I live a pretty nice life, but here in college I struggle SO much that I am beginning to think I am retarded. I am a STEM major, doing Biology and that usually goes pretty well. But the mathematics behind the chemistry and the bio-statistics I just don't understand. Not just the typical "oh, math just isn't your strong suit" kinda dealio, I simply cannot do this kind of stuff. I can't tell you how many times I have cheated or plagiarized my math tests (and that's only cause I cannot add). My whole schooling experience has been riddled with me crashing and burning during math or math-related courses, falling into a depression, almost killing myself, getting help, going back to school, and then repeat.
I have done a lot to improve myself. I work out, eat my fruits and veggietales, talk to pretty girls (and guys), work to pay my own bills, wear decent clothes, decorate my apartment in a sorta Nantucket-mancave blend. But the one thing I cannot improve, despite the medicine and extra work I put in, is my fucking retarded brain.
I do not want to crash and burn again. I don't want to put my family through all this shit for nothing. They worked hard to get me here and only now I realize I am a fucking retard. What can I do to stop being so fucking retarded?
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>>17598961
ur taking cocaine. try not taking cocaine. aderall is cocaine.
and while it should supposedly help focus its also COCAINE. imagine ifa coke head said 'I DONT UNDERSTAND WHATS WRONG I EAT FRUITS AND VEGGIES AND PAY MY BILLS AND TALK TO PRETTY GIRLS BUT I AM FAILING SCHOOL NO MATTER HOW MUCH I SNORT'.
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>>17598988
nah, it ain't like that.
I only just started taking adderall cause some neuropsychologists told me I have ADHD and that it'll help. Before then, everything was the same. I have been on adderall for only 6 months. Do you know of another tip though?
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>>17598961
this is eerily similar to me (minus the druggos). im wanting to major in Mechanical Engineering or Physics. Im a freshman though. i am very hesitant because ive never really been good at the school stuff but i feel pressured into getting a degree because its all people in the industry care about.
A guy I dated briefly sexually assaulted me about a month ago and I can't get over it. I can't stop thinking about it. It's making me really miserable, and my already very low self esteem has hit rock bottom.
Therapy isn't an option. Am I overreacting? How do I get it out of my head?
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By going to the police?
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>>17598929
Why isn't therapy option? You sound traumatised and usually therapy is the only thing that helps.
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>>17598931
Big legal fuss that will amount to nothing. >>17598934
Therapy has never helped before and I don't see how it will help now. I just want to get over it.
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Haircut suggestions for a guy with curly hair? Product suggestions?
What about something like pic related?
/fa/ isn't responding, they're too busy talking about black shirts and brown-colored boots.
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>>17598917
Most of those look pretty faggy to me, but I know little about fashion.
I'd recommend very short.
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>>17598917
the guy in the bottom right corner has it best imo. looks the most natural. i love curly haired men wtih a passion but it does admittedly look gay in most cases.
if you post a picture of yourself we can better recommend styles though. it all depends on the face. and no describing your face or posting a picture of someone else does not help
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I've been told by real girls that my hair looks better longer. Also, when its short it actually becomes straight, so I don't like that.
Pic related, this is my current cut. A bit long so instead of trimming it, I was thinking of trying something different.
Also,
>faggy
Isn't that just the way all male haircut models look?
I feel grossly inferior to women. I am a guy and I just feel like women can just shit all over us because there are just so many dudes out there pining for them. Like, a woman can just tell you to fuck off, call you a limp dicked faggot at your job and get away with it.
I feel like the sheer number of dudes chasing these women trivializes dating. She can just wait for what she is looking for.
I know life isn't fair but it honestly feels like the only justice you get, is the justice you take. But people think taking justice or standing up for yourself is wrong.
It's a shut show. I hate that I am supposed to just let them walk over me and if I retaliate, then I am the bad guy.
Fuck this world man.
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>>17598880
ive found that if you dont faggily attack every women you interact with, you retain a level of control. dont invest in a woman until you've decided if shes worth pursuing. looks are enough to warrant talking casually, but nothing else. train yourself to only pursue a woman if she seems to actually have a personality quality you like on top of those looks.
it means date are fewer and farther between, but it makes each interaction a bit more meaningful and takes the power away from a woman.
if someone literally calls you a lip dicked faggot at your job, feel free to insult them back, to leave, to report them, whatever you want. its okay to stand up for yourself even if others say its not. just try to plan ahead how you'd react to certain things so you dont feel the need to over react when you're presented with the situation.
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>>17598880
In what setting do women walk all over you and what do you mean by 'retaliation' in this context?
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>call you a limp dicked faggot at your job and get away with it
That's bullshit sempai. If this happened in any medium/large company she'd be fired on the spot. Do you not understand what a huge media backlash this shit could have? Well the managers sure do.
I cut my hair short awhile back and I regret so fucking much. How do I make myself feel feminine again?
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I wouldn't mind advice from guys either
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Girls with short hair can be cute too if you rock it right bone density/facial features wise. A lot of people can't do it for shit but some can. Depends on how lucky you are.
I could only say if it works or not if I had a pic to base it off of. But I mean, it'll grow back eventually. There are bigger things to worry about than your hair. Just focus on being happy.
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>>17598878
I'm a guy and I have the same issue, just wait a few months.
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So I'll try to be on point
>23yo
>played games almost daily since i was 3-4yo
>it's all i know of, the only subject i can discuss, i have no other skills in any other subject
>still like games despite them often depressing me with thoughts about how much of my life i've been wasting etc, but i have general depression as of some years now for many reasons
After that background, here's the reason that I started this thread
>probably have asbergers, hasn't been confirmed but i'm on some queue for investigation
>immerse myself WAY TOO MUCH into games
>literally WAY TOO MUCH
>literally can't enjoy games if i can't self insert into the characters i play in some way - not in appearance but in character
>for instance i can't play a class in WoW without having to justify the class fitting me as a person at the moment, and then i have to make dozens of excuses of why i could fit like one in real life even though i'm fully aware that it could never happen
>for example, if i want to try to play a warrior class, i have to convince myself that i could live with a strong, frothing berserker-personality
>i'd have to to be able to wear heavy plate armor and large weapons in real life
>i'd have to make sure to act more angry and tough in all situations, because the stoic warriors in this game use rage as a resource
>AND when i do get into this mindset, i can't touch anything else until i get tired of the option i had picked (here: warrior), because then everything else doesn't fit me personally
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So I mean... help? What the fuck is wrong with me and why can't I think rationally? Noone, including psychologists, that I've tried to talk to about this thinks I'm being serious.
It worries me to the point of where I think I should quit videogames. But I still love them and keep coming back shortly after every time I've tried to cold turkey it.
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>>17598870
Become a video game tester. Learn to bitch and moan about every little glitch and bug and you'll be good.
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>>17598870
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A girl just said she really 'respects me' because of my music taste
What the fuck does this mean
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>>17598841
That she complemented you and you should say thanks and complement her back on some suitable occasion.
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what do you listen to ?
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>>17598856
Modest Mouse
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Should I tell my date that I'm a social retard? 2016-09-23 17:38:23 Post No.17598837
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Should I tell my date that I'm a social retard?
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>female, 20, social anxiety disorder, never been in a serious relationship
>meet a guy at the gym
>talk myself into talking to him the first day I see him, just because I know how hard it is to start working out in public even if you're just a bit overweight (which he is)
>oh no. He's actually kind of cool, and funny, and smart, and not bad-looking
>after a few weeks of doing cardio next to him between weight reps, psych myself up enough to ask him out
>he says yes
>so happy I want to throw up
>realize I only ever talked to him about college, exercise and food
>realize that college, exercise and food are about the only things I can talk about without spilling my spaghetti
>he's, like, 24 and is a sound engineer
>I practically live in the gym and just want a job where I don't have to talk to anyone
>date's tonight and I really don't want to have to resort to writing out note cards of conversation topics and practicing talking to a mirror to avoid making an ass out of myself
>the most I'll probably be able to manage is convincing myself I'm not going to fuck it up (crying optional)
Should I keep pretending to be normal, /adv/? Do you think the ruse will last? Or should I just out myself as a robot and hope he doesn't run away?
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>>17598837
be honest, just be like, "sorry i'm a bit weird, I'm not a huge social person" If they dump you for that, they're superficial cunts that you wouldn't want to date anyway.
>he's an engineer
Literally every engineer I know (they go to NJIT) are social retards, you'll group in just fine
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>>17598837
Don't pretend or act (exhausting), but also don't put any focus on it. No point in telling.
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He is a guy and you're a girl, how socially retarded you are does not matter in the short run.
Should be fine because being quirky and weird can be attractive as long as you are not a complete sperg or bitch.
Long term such as a relationship it could be alright because by the time you start acting like yourself he should have his mind made up if you belong.
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Best to do this in green text guys, but Im really heartbroken and just have had a shit week, and need advice.
>Be me, 20 yo
>meet cute girl at work
>hang out, tells me she has a bf though but are gonna break
>give it some time, but start to get the feelings
>we both confess feelings before she goes on vaca
>2 weeks later, she tells she has feelings for me, we kiss that night
>still hasnt broken up with bf, but she feels bad
>one night she kisses me again, so we start a trend of making out and cuddling.
>she goes to school with her bf, in a large university
>end my summer course with an A and feel amazing about it
>start the fall sem, still feel good becasue things are going well between
>her bf is neglecting her
>she asks to come one weekend, I do
>3hourdrive.png
>make it, have to help fix her car, end up being a battery, then the alternator belt, but w/e fixed on a later time
>We make out a lot, and ends blowing me
>she cant live with it she says
>her bf is an asshole to her, basically studying 24hrs and bitches otherwise
>things are becoming strange, but she has moments where she is super affectionate
>she starts removing affection
>tells me Im too affectionate, so I start to pull back, but I ask if she wants to go, she says no
>2 days ago, she says she cant break up with her bf
>says since she's not willing to break up with him she has to try to make it work
>Asks me to be my friend
>say no because Im hurt af
>big arguement ensues
>i told her I need to move on
>she cant see why
>been 2 days since I talked
>stress caused me to do bad on exams today
what do I do? whats a good way to make sure I dont slip up and message her, ik its not worth repairing this, I just feel empty bros
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>>17598807
Nice, got a blow job.
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>>17598812
thx man, still feel like shit. Is it bad I miss her?
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>>17598807
>hang out, tells me she has a bf though but are gonna break
Yellow flag...
>we kiss that night, still hasn't broken up with bf
...orange flag...
>we start a trend of making out and cuddling
...and she still hasn't broken up with her bf. That's it. Red flag. That's where ought to have pulled back.
>>17598825
Is it understandable? Normal? Yes.
Is it bad? Fuck, yes.
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I think I'm pretty bad at taking selfies, should I hire a photographer to take some pics of me for a dating site? I really don't know what else to do, have my mom or my 1 male friend photograph me? That would just be awkward.
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>>17598804
just have your 1 male friend take some photos. its not awkward, and if he makes a big deal out of it hes not a very good friend. either way yeah.
i suck at selfies cuz my main camera where i can see myself (the flip camera on my phone) is like 2 megapixels so everything comes out shitty blurry. whereas the main camera (where you cant see yourself) is like 18 but i cant aim it right at me without a mirror,a nd even then its rough.
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I know your pain. Cause this is a problem for me as well.
Just, from what I've learned. If you can be in the right mood, and at the right place when you take a selfie. It can turn out really good. I'm terrible with selfies and generally hate getting my picture taken. But I have taken just a very very few decent selfies. It was just because I was out and about saw something scenic, and took a selfie with it in the background
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>>17598804
take a thousand pictures at every fucking angle you can. sort through em.
for every good picture i take there are thirty where i look legitimately retarded.