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Is it worth trying to date a guy I am not like "hot" for?
Is it inconsiderate to try dating him while I'm unsure how I feel about him sexually? Should I talk to him about this?
I have been friends with a guy for a very long time who has always loved me, always put up with my shit, always forgave me for friend zoning him, in general treats me better than any other guy, despite me not treating him so well. The problem is I'm not like, super attracted to him. A lot of the things I didn't like about him (personality/lifestyle-wise), he changed for me. It is amazing when I think how much he's done for me and never stopped caring about me. He is also a super nice guy, everyone likes him, and he is even kind of famous in some online communities.
I feel like giving him a chance because of how much he's done for me. I wonder if I give it a chance, if I will grow more attracted to him. We kind of hung out in a dating like way for the first time, and I was surprised how comfortable I was, although I wasn't like lunging for his dick or anything. It made me want to try dating him, but I'm still not sure if I want a sexual relationship with him or not.
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>>17598451
My mantra in life is "fuck it"
Just try it
Hell, it sounds like itd be easier to straight up tell him, "hey so like, ive been having these thoughts see, but im not entirely sure what to make of them, so i think we should try dating" personally, i'd find it interesting if a girl tried to start a relationship with me this way
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>>17598451
Probably not, but you're on 4chan, a Mecca for guys who are bitter and lonely and think women that won't "give them a chance" are sluts and whores.
In my experience (as a guy), trying to force attraction to someone when you know you're just not is already a losing battle. This guy sounds decent enough, but let's be honest - once you're in a relationship for a few months or whatever, some attractive dude is going to enter your life and all of the forced sex with your "nice" boyfriend in the world isn't going to keep you from feeling that surge of passion for the more attractive person.
That's not to say you'll cheat, but the lack of attraction will catch up and just build resentment in the relationship. Keep in mind, I'm not saying that you need to hold out for a 10/10 here, just that you should date someone that you can at least see thinking is really cute if they dressed a certain way, indulged in your fetishes, whatever. We all want to do the "right thing" and pretend that personality and shit comes first and looks don't matter, but that's a lie.
Lastly, you could go on a few dates and see if something builds, but it sounds like this guy has been harboring feelings for you for a really long time. If you go on a few dates and the chemistry isn't there, you may just get his hopes up to hurt him even more.
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>>17598451
kek yes let him hit it
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You shouldn't date people out of gratitude
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>>17598451
He sounds like a beta, so you wont find him more attractive.
It's your beta bux instincts that are confusing you.
If you really want to help, tell him to cut out xenoestrogens, do NoFap, NoPorn and that he should get his ass to the gym, since it raises his testosterone levels.
Once he resembles a man your problem is solved.
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>>17598490
got a winner
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Oh no, don't do it. You're settling. You'll end up regretting your decision and hurting him once someone more attractive is attracted to you.
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