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I feel like I blew it and I have no idea what to do.

So me and this guy have been 'seeing each other' is what we call it since we are not actually girlfriend + boyfriend but we often do out for dates, drinks, hang out at home. This has maybe been a thing for 2 'months. He is someone who I am really into.

We are both different in ways, the biggest thing is he takes drugs ~ mostly just weed and hash but I have seen him do others, and I do not. My first time smoking weed was in fact with.

SO last night I went out with a girl friend and two boys who she invited, I drank a lot and I even smoked some weed. Later on in the night I invited the guy I was seeing to come down for a few drinks since the pub is close to his house.

By time he came I was very gone. And it got to a point that I was white girl wasted and what it probably feels like to him was I inivted him out to look after me while I throw up all night :(

So I wake up this morning and I just feel like I blew it and isn't so interested in me anymore since I'm just a mess. What do I doooooo :(

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How do i harden the fuck up? I mean, even more. I lost my family years ago, was betrayed and got a big chunk of my not so big heritage stolen by relatives. I was abandoned, abused, betrayed, lied to a lot through those last years. I've grown a lot. People say that. I'm big, tall. I'm starting to go to the gym. I'm strong, i do Judo and will do Muay Thai, but i still don't feel strong enough. I don't feel good enough. I don't control myself good enough, my emotions. I succumb to anger sometimes, i rant or talk too much sometimes, or i'm way too gentle sometimes.

I don't want to be an asshole, i don't want to be a cold blooded psychopath. I just want to harden up even further. I want to be a Man. I want to be in control of myself. I want to be the Man my Father and Mother would be proud to have, that I'D be proud to be. Seeing advices and motivational images, self help books has helped enough and still does. But i need more. I don't know if i have suffered enough, or even if i need to. I'm 22 years old. What should i do? Should i just enlist in something like Foreign Legion and go kill someone, suffer inhuman treatment, lose a limb or two? Work harder? Study harder? I want control myself. I want to -tame- myself. I'm very confident, but i don't feel it is concrete. I feel that, with the right words that i don't even know of (and that's scary), i'd be broken.

So, to make it short: How do i harden the fuck up?

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>lying to my gf about how much money i make and have saved up
>her birthday is coming up on the 30th
>literally have $4 to get her a gift when shes expecting something nice

what should i do bros?

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She's a childhood friend from elementary but i moved away from her town. We're both 20 years old now and we have been flirty on facebook for the past few years. Sadly we never manage to meet each other until now. She's bringing some anime over for us to watch.

I need advice on what not to do. I'm really nervous but excited to meet her and i don't want to fuck things up.

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I dropped boxing after a year and a half some months ago because i felt like i was garbage at it, everytime someone new came i felt like he was outclassing me in every aspect and i could do nothing about it.
I had three official bouts
I lost the first one, it feld bad
I lost the second one, it felt worse
I lost the third one, it felt even worse
The worst thing is that my coach is the sweetest guy ever and when we start fighting he doesn't make us pay the lessons anymore, i hate not being able to make him feel even a little bit proud of me.
But i want to start boxing again, i remember how much i liked it in the beginning and how much i liked learning new stuff and practicing punches and footwork; yeah, i was bad back then, but it was normal since i had just begun boxing.
What am i supposed to do? I don't want to drop it forever but i don't want to feel like shit everytime we spar/train too.

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Im actually getting to the point where I'm feeling way to stressed to handle school.
I recently had to send my laptop in for repairs, I was able to borrow a loaner one from my school, but re-setting up all the programming software I need really set me back time-wise (not to mention there's still some shit i can't figure out how to re-setup because it's being fucking stupid on this piece of shit laptop).
It seems like school is causing me to get frustrated beyond functioning on a regular basis. I've been really really struggling to focus, keep up, get motivated and simply understand on a regular basis. It's getting to be too much and i feel like I'm completely losing my mind.

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Why am I obssessed with guys with social and mental issues? Most of normal guys I've been on a dates with seems just ordinary and boring. I loose interest in 10 minutes. But if guy is showing abnormal attitude and is labeled as 'he is a complicated person' he instantly becomes my love interest. Why so? Am I into crazies?

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I really need advice, I'm a lesbian and I have a really sweet girlfriend, the nicest and prettiest person I'll ever meet, I love her so much I can't even express it by any mean
A month ago I've gone in a night club with a bunch of friend of mine, while my girlfriend was on a trip oversea, and I woke up in my bedroom alone and I found a condom for guy on the ground.
My girlfriend is coming back next week and I don't know what to do, I didn't talked about this to anybody and I'm scared of losing her
What do I do ?

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>Schizophrenic
> Thanks to being abused as a child/teenager I'm extremely terrified of people ( men since one actually beat the crap out of me for years. not as scared with females) and think they are going to hurt me
>Working retail as a customer service manager.
> Having anxiety and panic attacks despite being medicated for it.
>Medications give me heart palpitation but trying to get myself less scared of people

I know it's the illness making the fear worse, but what are some coping techniques I can do to make myself more relaxed with dealing with people? I do not want to change jobs as right now I'm making pretty decent and can afford the medical stuff I need to treat the schizo.

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Most of the time my tinnitus is low that I barely notice even when falling asleep.

However two things have started to happen in the last month or so. When I use my blow dryer, my left ear starts to ring loud enough that I can hear it with the dryer on full blast. This ringing immediately stops once the dryer is off. The sound of ringing is a louder form of my tinnitus. What is this a sign of?

Also when I hum it is distinctly louder in one ear than another and this occured while using ibuds in a city. Before ive found depending on sound frequency its noticeably louder in one ear (its interchangeable depending).

I am already in a long waiting list for an EMT and was wondering if anyone here may have an idea?

Is it hearing damage or maybe an infection? Gp last time noticed nothing.

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I don't really need advice but would like to hear anonymous opinions.
I come from a middle/upper middle class family, know three different languages, have a normal social life, live and study (second year of bachelor) in Serbia, which is currently a pretty undeveloped country considering it's in Europe (high corruption rates, high unemployment rates, inefficient state... you get the picture, and it's probably just gonna stay like that for some time). On two separate occasions I went to Prague and Plzen, met some locals, had interesting conversations, seen a bit of the countryside etc, and later read about their history, the current situation in the country and I can say I'm very pleased with how things are going there.

I think my ambitions would mostly be blocked here in Serbia, where I don't have enough money to start my own businesses (I plan to open my own production of products that rhyme with... "deer" and "salt"..., but earning enough money to open something here would take years and years of slave labour) and that waiting to finish my studies here is also not good carrier-wise (almost no practical experience unless you find something yourself, the books we learn from are outdated etc).

The questions here would be - why and how? Why as in the moral dilemma, should I just go away from my family and friends although I *have* a chance to succeed here (a small one, but still), turn my back from my homeland (I'm not patriotic at all but it's still a dilemma). How - do you I apply to the Erasmus program and maybe finish college there? Do I first find a job and later continue my studies? I could probably get a Hungarian citizenship/passport (that is - European) in 6-8 to months here in Serbia, because they have some special law that allows it

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Say it Anon!

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How and where? I always go by train and I see some qtie's but I don't know how i should start.

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Help me guys
My sisters bf has hit on me before, and it's pretty creepy considering he's a bit older than me. He stopped when i called him out and also told my sister. She didnt take me too seriously (probably just didnt want it to be true), so i avoid him like the plague instead and dont talk to him when he's around. But he recently went on a trip and bought gifts for everyone, he bought a shirt (pic related) to me. Am i overthinking this stupid fucking shirt print or was this deliberately?

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Hi fellow anons.

After talking to a girl for a longer period of time and she showed me her true colours, which weren't nice. Upon which I decided to drop her. In hindsight there were a couple of indicators that I should have noticed, now it feels like I wasted time on her.

I would appreciate it if you would post some red flags you usually see in people, so that I can keep them in the back of my head when I meet new people and cut them off before I actually discover how horrible they are.

So these are the ones I discovered so far:

>Not being open minded
>Not being able to cope with neutrally brought criticism
>Never worked in their life/spoiled by parents
>Me being a source of entertainment
>(extreme) Clingyness
>Posting a lot of selfies