I just realize i'm effectively hopeless.
I've got a girlfriend, and things are great, but I realized that I've effectively become more uneasy with myself. She is completely out of my league in almost every single way, has friends, and gets along with everyone. The problem is that I've got no friends, get along with almost no one, and have no idea what she see's in me, and I've become self conscious about it.
My average day consists of waiting for her to have time for me, and sometimes working. That's all. when i'm with her I have a great time, all my depression clears up, and life is great, and then when she goes to bed or otherwise gets busy, I feel like a dog waiting at home alone for their owner to come back, not knowing if they'll actually come back this time.
I've got an enormous fear that when she inevitably gets bored of me that i'll be in a worse situation than when I left, however she does things that sometimes put me at ease.
I guess the main problem is that I feel extremely neurotic, i'm not used to being friendly with people, and up till this point in my life I've been alone in my own little hole of misery putting up electric razor wire fence around it so people leave me alone, and then this girl just kicks that fence out of the way, grabs me by the hand, and drags my ass out into the sunshine and seemingly has no ulterior motives.
What the fuck do I do?
I had gf with similar issues, I was with her because it was my decision and I wanted it, nothing more. You can look forever but sooner or later you have to pick someone to settle down.
She would always ask me, why me, you can do better, what special do you find in me etc.
She freaked out and did something batshit crazy and crossed the line for good. Then I dumped her. Her insecurity was her only undoing. Her loss, mine too since I'm alone now but mans gotta set the rules and keep em.
>>17596073
What did she do?
>>17596078
Probably cheated on me, or just met this guy to feel more self-worthy, wanted and secure, or just imagined it and made up a story to tell her friends as she tried to explain later. It's enough I found out about it and that was the moment she went into trash.
How do I overcome my fear of death?
I want to die with honor...
>>17596011
It's pretty much impossible to "die with honor" anymore. Honor as a concept pretty much died out in the '50s.
>>17596011
death is rather random so its hard to ensure honor is in the occassion. unless you plan to force yourself off to war just so you can die with 'honor' but were not a naive people and knoow what the war is REALLY about so its hard to really say its honorable anymore
>>17596017
>implying it existed then
Would you fuck me?
"I'd fuck me."
>>17596008
not with nails in that state
>>17596008
Go fuck yourself, Buffalo Bill.
captcha: billboard
I've been with the same girl for the last 15 years. Engagement, future plans, everything. Last Sunday night I caught her texting with a guy she was making plans for a whole series of dates with. The guy is ten years older than her and not her type at all. I went through her phone and basically found out that, no surprise, the whole thing is about his money. I through her out, and I don't want her back, but I have no idea what to do now. My whole life, and my whole self was based around her. I feel like nothing and i have no idea what to do.
>>17595953
Break it off. Never go into a marriage with someone who would trade you in at the first chance. Sounds like a two sided hoe, basically low key prostitute since it's for the money. Don't marry a prostitute
I dont intend on it. I just don't know what to do with myself now. she has moved on to him and is getting exactly what she wants and i am stuck here dealing with whats left
>>17595994
What's left is your life, man. You can finally live.
Girlfriend didn't want you staying up until 3 in the morning playing video games? Don't matter now.
What're you doing after work tomorrow? Whatever the fuck you want.
No hassle when you go to bed, you can just lay down and go to bed. Sleep with the TV on, jerk off and wipe it on the side of the mattress.
Go hang out with your friends, smoke some weed near the lake dock, spoil yourself with something expensive you wouldn't be able to splurge on because she was micromanaging your finances.
Are there well-educated women that won't shit test you for your whole life and want to marry up/fuck up every time you fail it?
It's like you just can't trust anyone and take a rest, keeping bitch in here place seems not worth the constant effort.
Is there a female that has more to personality than just thin cover for hypergamy reproductive biology?
How to find such beings if they are real?
Just give it up and find yourself a trap
>>17595952
I have even easier solution.
>How to find such beings if they are real?
Try dropping the shitty attitude. You won't, though, so nothing can help you.
>21y old male, college student
>have severe gynophobia
>bullied by girls until high school
>problems at home with parents
>suffered my whole life from verbal abuse by females
>then since two years I started to develop some kind of fear
>was already by two therapists, but nothing helped
Whenever I have to deal with women all I feel is dread, that they reduce me and criticize me with their looks or that society discriminates men as inferior beings. I can't even shake hands or sit next to women on the bus, never had any relationship with one of them. It depresses me whenever I'm alone, due to this I also have very few friends and even on the internet I can't escape from this cage. What did I do to recieve all this from them? Please help
>>17595938
>Whenever I have to deal with women all I feel is dread
You need professional help.
See a therapist.
You have shit in your past that needs to be worked at before you can move on.
That is your FIRST step.
Right now you are under a clouded veil of pessimism and negativity, and it's not letting you objectively see things as they really are.
Your past is tainting the way you see the future, and you need to take care of this and get yourself to a more objective state.
Get help from someone who knows what they're doing, for your own sake, to break yourself out of your cage.
>>17595951
I've already been with two different therapists. The first one was a psychologist, that diagnosed a general social anxiety and gynophobia, but I couldn't work together with him and had my problems with loosening up to him. Then I tried a psychiatrist, that prescribed me different meds with fluvoxamin, which I take till now, but don't work out as I hoped.
I'm currently trying to get money for a long cbt therapy, but at the moment this goal is far away. I also want to try autosuggestion, but I don't know how to begin with that. Is there someone that can recommend me some book or has experience with that?
Society does not thing men are inferior. In fact it's the opposite. You are suffering from the PTSD of bullying from women in HS. Girls in high school are petty creatures. Women may seem judgmental because they constantly have dicks thrown at them and they are searching for honesty. I'd suggest making small talk. Talking to women older than you and making friends platonically. This way you can get to know them in a healthy manner. Of course you have to take a million baby steps but think of that as an ended goal. You will quickly realize we are just humans with our own insecurities. When someone intimidates me I just remind myself that they are just another shitting, breathing, gets sick and dies human and in no way better than me. I hope you recover from this.
Hey guys, I'm a 22 year old college grad. For the past few years, I have been only sleeping with hookers. I have wasted a ton of money on them, nearly been killed after being held at gunpoint, and most of the time the sex isn't rewarding.
Now I am going to Atlanta in a few weeks and I am already thinking about girls to buy over there. And I wish it weren't that way.
I am mixed half indian half white, and I have vitiligo. I'm a bit overweight, but I look pretty strong. I have been dieting and exercising trying to lose weight over the past few months and I ahve had some pretty good results so far. I have two degrees, but I can't seem to find a job.
I really just want a satisfying sex life. How do I get rid of the urge to see hookers? How do I find a girl who likes me for me? How do I lead a truly satisfying sex life?
A really good way to get over hookers is to watch some documentaries on the prostitution industry. What you come to find is that they hate that they're selling themselves for sex with you or anyone because they have moral issues with it.
So once you realize the girls you're having sex with are disgusted by what they're doing but not telling you, its a pretty big turn off that makes you not want to have sex with them anymore.
>>17595969
I try, but when I'm in the moment I don't care nad need the release. I never speak to them again so their feelings are pretty inconsequential. maybe that's what's wrong with me
Have you tried tinder? It's pretty much the same thing, except you don't have to pay.
I'm not saying every girl will go for it, but I have gotten good results few and far inbetween by simply initiating the conversation with "dtf?" I'm not a good looking guy. I'd say I'm average, guy next door type of shit.
You get a couple consistent FWB through tinder, and your sex life will be amazing, as will your self confidence.
So this happens just about every time I take a shower when I get out. Bumps on the outside of my hands and my palms burn like holy hell for about 10 minutes. I've tried switching soaps, using cold water, taking shorter showers, everything. Nothing seems to work. Any medfags out there know what might be the problem?
Waters go through your pores and clog up your veins but the blood struggles with it for about 10 mins before all the water is fully dissolved into your blood. I think it has somrthing to do with calcium deficiency but definitely don't worry about it, it will go away
>>17595848
your water may be to hard
this is probably not helpful but I had the same thing happen to me for about two years. Went to the doc and she told me I probably had a heat allergy. I tried switching to lukewarm showers and it helped a lot, but mainly just shortened the duration of the time I had the hives. (went from about 20mins to 5). One day it just randomly stopped and I've never had it happen since. Would be interested to know if anyone actually knows wtf this is
>Senior in High School
>No Friends
>Dad: Have you thought about prom at all oh son of mine
How do I politely ask him to not mention it again
Please stop mentioning prom, I have no friends
>>17595837
>dad I'm a gay loner
>dad kills himself
>problem solved
>hey dad, I have some trouble making friends.. Could you help me out
So this probably isn't the usual thing for this board but hey, why not? Pretty much I'll be going out to a club with a girl i know and boobs are great so I'm just wondering if it's uncomfortable as fuck to have your tits felt up under a bra or not.
>>17595815
you'd be surprised how many people have made threads like this, search club on archive
>>17595826
Oh, really? I'll give that a go. Thanks!
OK so I checked and didn't turn up what I was looking for, so any help would be appreciated
I've got an English Comp course this semester, and the professor has us learning how to construct argumentative research papers. I've already done this in two separate courses at a prior university (one in an english course, and another in a political science course). I've been really trying to pour the majority of my time into a Math course that is required to get into the major I want, so I was wondering how ethical it would be to revise and resubmit one of the papers I used for my previous courses. I already understand the lesson that she is trying to teach, (how to construct an argument and properly use APA formatting), and I really could use the extra time focusing on Math. But it feels wrong. Should I bite the bullet and do a new paper? Would it be wrong to reuse it? Or should I spend my time on my math prerequisite?
(The paper I'm thinking of using was only submitted through paper and was given back. I don't believe it has been uploaded to any databases.)
>>17595809
Bite the bullet and write the paper. If you get busted, you're looking at an automatic F and academic probation, for a start.
Also, for the record, when I was an adjunct teaching graduate students I turned all of the papers I collected over to a secretary to scan, convert to pdf, and run against two databases.
>>17596756
This. It is possible to plagiarize yourself. The only way this would fly is if you got written permission from both your previous professor and your current professor.
>>17596761
Even then, theres a good chance the university has a policy against it.
I have adult ADHD. I wish I had accepted my mental disability sooner. I wish I'd gotten the help I needed. Now I'm almost 30, and I have no idea how to cope with life, because I was arrogant enough to think I could function like a normal person. I'm finally, finally giving up on that.
I thought I could be a graphic designer. I wish someone had discouraged me from following my dreams, and saved me so much pain when I failed. I just can't keep trying anymore. I'm tired of bouncing back. It's hopeless. I'm not a functional adult, and I never will be.
I have a BFA in graphic design, and I work in fucking retail. I don't know how to recover. I lost my youth chasing a stupid dream, but I can still save the rest of my life if I just give up now.
But I don't know what to do. I used to confide in my step-sister for things like this, but she's become a real stranger since she got married last year. Now I face my problems alone, and every day just seems more hopeless. I'm running on fumes here.
I don't know how to get my life on track. My 20s are almost over, and I've gained nothing.
You can't live a easy life if you keep your hands in your pockets and say "I tried"
If you tried and it didn't work just try harder, and if it's not working continue to try harder and harder, don't lose faith until it work, try elsewhere, try differently but don't give up, it's useless
You think you're going to win something by giving up ? That's not how it work, work you ass off, break your back working as a janitor and one day you'll own the building as they say
Your 20s are almost over ? So what ? Life isn't defined by your age or your experience but by your willpower
Stop complaining, act.
>>17595817
>You think you're going to win something by giving up ?
No, I need to cut my losses and find a new path. I was delusional, thinking I could be the artist I wanted. It's time to find something else and salvage what's left of my future.
>>17595790
Maybe get a new diploma? If it helps you?
Hey, I'm looking for good books or journal articles written by prominent individuals that prove that the earth is flat. Does anyone have any suggestions?
>>17595753
>prove
you do see the issue with that right?
>>17595753
look into projective geometry, there's nothing new about that, Just like NJWildberger's number system where real numbers dont exist. The idea has been around for a long time, it just that generally people go with what's considered a useful model.
If the earth is flat.. How do we circumnavigate?
So for the past 14 months, I've been dealing with severe depression and suicidal thoughts. I graduated from highschool 3 months ago and before grad, I spoke with a counselor weekly because of this. She gave me the option to have me referred to a mental health specialist at a nearby hospital so I'd have someone to talk to after graduation. She sent me details for the referral over email but I felt fine and optimistic after graduation so I didn't go through with it. After the honeymoon phase (for lack of a better term) my mental condition has steadily declined and now my suicidal thoughts are back with a vengeance and I feel I need to talk to someone before things get worse. What are my options at this point?
>ps, I live in the northern wastes of Canada
>>17595746
This doesn't work for a lot of people but personally it helps me a tiny bit. I listen to my favorite songs when I get really down. Try doing this while thinking of ways you can take on your depression. If you don't like music then you have bigger problems.
>>17595746
Get professional help. Book a time with a psychologist through your hospital or do it with a private clinic. It will help you the best.
You need a pen pal down in the states to chat about happenings in other places.
Hey /adv/ i don't come her often, but as far as i know you guys have some experience with this kind of thing:
>Almost 2 years relationship
>Never had a fight with gf
>She always complained about being the victim somehow, people don't like her, family gives no support etc
>kept showing growing signs of depression
>kept getting more and more clingy, to the point of complaing of not getting attention when she knows i'm studying or doing my shores, calls last hours
>had a fucking scary meltdown, cryed non-stop for hours, felt pain in chest and arm, we took her to the hospital, thought she was having a heart attack
>doc says is psychological
>take her to psychologist, she starts therapy
>she might have fucking borderline
>has being more sensitive than ever, calls me crying when i'm with my friends and feels rejected if not invited, even if she was the one not available
>started jokingly calling my female friends whores, she does inapropriated jokes all the time, i'm browse fucking 4chan so i find it funny occasionally, but now she does the fucking stupid joke every time i talk to a female friend over the phone which really pisses me off
>wants to cut herself, has mentioned suicide a few times
>today i found out people she says to not like her call her a "little princess" for mentioning my family in a threatening tone when in trouble (my family is a bit influential in relevat ways for her)
>my mother is fucking mad, she never protected me or anybody like that but my gf seems to tell people otherwise about herself
>Therapist says any chock like death in family, big fights AND i leaving her might cause another meltdown with serious health risks for her
Family and friends think she is not the one for me, i like her and worry about her but i'm getting tired and don't know how to even try to talk about it with her.
Opinions/suggestions?
I'm open to any comment.
Make her leave you
Put that bitch in a loony house, or dump her corpse in a river.
Good luck
>>17595722
either you hurt her or she hurts you
seriously, sickness is hard, but as her partner you have to cope with that