>ask girl on date yesterday, she seems super into me
>she says it sounds like fun but she needs to check with her family to see if they are visiting
>say great let me know when you have a time
>be now, the day is almost done and she hasn't mentioned it, and she seems very nervous around me and has been kind of avoiding me
What do? Is she embarassed? Does she not like me now? Should I remind her or just wait? Tomorrow is the proposed day.
Have you asked her about it today? If you've asked once, just let it be. If she doesn't get back to you, she's not interested. You could maybe try one more time if this doesn't work out, but after that you should move on.
>>17596509
I haven't brought it up, we barely spoke today. It may have been because we were busy, but regardless, it's worrying me.
>>17596488
That's a no.
I have this rash around my groin area, it smell infected, it's rather sore and hurts when I walk. I haven't gotten to see a doctor because I just moved and haven't registered with the doctor where I am. Anybody know what kinda rash it is so I can get something for it?
I have reasons to believe this is bait but change your underwear and don't touch it. If this don't get better in a week, go to a dermatologist.
>>17596437
Not bait, taken my underwear of and trying to expose it to the air. Taken something for the pain but I think I need to go to the doctor
Stop cumming in your boxers
Basically I met this girl at class and have been smoking weed with her constantly, seemed like she liked me. Found out she had a bf but said fuck it and invited her to hang out.
Long story short, we hung out and I was high af and a scared bitch so I didn't make any moves, even though I should of. I actually cringelorded that shit and was like
>So If i tried to make out with you how'd that go since you have a bf
Her
> Well you knooooowwww maaaybbbeee
basically a yes because she would of just flat out said no. Anyways I talked about it for like 30min while smoking a bowl with her being a scared slut instead of making any moves, eventually i just drove her home and nothing came of it. She would of probably been down HAD i actually made a move.
she also told me she'd be down if she wasn't in a decent relationship or if she was drunk and mentioned you know how it'd be to be friendzoned or how guys view that etc etc.
Now.... I hung out with her again this week, but didn't make any moves either which was a fuck-up but i was actually just chilling being high and talking with her, wasn't feeling it at all nor did i care. I invited her out to hang this weekend but she hasn't said anything back yet.
Obv she's seen it and probably isn't down because she knows what I want and I think I sort of fucked myself. I'm not sure what I'm asking desu I'm just god awful confused as fuck over here you guys.
I gave the short version, I could go into what happened last week more or whatever. anyways ya pic unrelated.
>>17596373
Either make a move or stop hanging out with her you faggot. Doing neither is just hurting you.
Just touch her next time. Follow your instincts. Chances are she will give in, regardless of consequences. Such is life for hoes.
>>17596373
You're a cunt and she is a slut.
Bro even if she drops her bf for u what's to stop her from doing the same to you later on when she hops to another cock?
But seriously you're a fucking terrible human being.
I like this girl 1 year older than me. She likes me so much i think im in love , the think is that i really dont know her and i don't know how to met her . The only strategy that i think is that my friend gf (she is friend of this girl) introduce me to her but that moment i will shit myself because i 'm really shy with this things and i dont know of what to talk to her .
What should i do ?
Sorry for bad english
>>17596370
Graduate from middle school first.
>>17596374
Actually i'm about a year to finish high school i'm 18 and she is about to go to university. She likes me for almost a year and idk what to do
Talk to her. But remember that what you're feeling isn't love, it's infatuation. You don't know her, you can't love her. All you're doing right now is loving an idea of her. Realize that she's probably not going to be exactly the way that you hope she is. Talk to her, but remember that she is not your fantasy. Otherwise you'll end up disappointed when something inevitably breaks the fantasy.
Then just talk to her, become friends. it doesn't matter how. Getting your friend to introduce you is just fine.
Hey /adv/ so I have always been bad with math and I gotta take a few for my degree no matter how much I study I can't seem to get it to stick anybody know ways to get it to stick or to stealth cheat
Math is one of those things that you either get or you don't. Doesn't matter how much or how little you study if your mind simply isn't wired for it.
>>17596363
Sign up for 100% online math classes, pay me to do them for you.
>>17596363
Repartition and having to use formula.
Find and example write it down with all steps you can show, now start writing it out but actually try and do the working not jdt copy it, and if you get the wrong answer check back with your example see where you went wrong and try again.
I can remember pi to 24 decimal places, because I would just repeat it all day. Of you repeat something enough it'll stick
I want to torture people, and play with thier hearts. I feel very good at the idea of doing it. Trying to understand other people grief and pain doesnt counter this as preventative desire, nor does knowing the consequences help because i accept not to live long after the fact.
are there other ways to help prevent this?
>>17596358
How about you kill yourself right now so we don't have to deal with your edgelord bullshit?
Sounds like sociopathic tendencies, at least to me... I'm no doctor but you should start looking into therapy before you hurt someone
>>17596387
lol, let me take you with me, i need a companion in hell when i tell a good story how we got there together
No matter where I put my hibiscus plant, it keeps getting worse and worse. I read they needed full sun, so I put it in a windowsill, it lost its flowers, I put it in a slightly darker windowsill, it lost two of its leaves and the ends of the other leaves shriveled. I'ts been holding on for about 2 years now looking the same, the remaining peices of leaves a dark green, and it has not grown any. The flower stalks have completely died also. In a last effort to save my poor plant, I put it into a room with slightly more sun a week ago and now the remaining leaves are turning yellow and wilting. I re-potted it today with new dirt in a last ditch effort, but I'm so upset. What can I do to save this poor little plant???? P.S. I cant put it outside, I live in Oklahoma where its mostly either too hot or two cold for hibiscuses, and the last time I tried to put it outside, it wilted and yellowed really badly.
I meant orchid plant
>>17596357
Idk a thing about plants but this thread is funny to me for some reason so I'll bump it
Did you seriously use dirt or an actual orchid specific mix? Miracle gro has a bag of pre mixed orchid medium that will do but it's best to mix your own. That said, use the pre mix. Also get some fertilizer sticks that are orchid specific or liquid. There's also some other miracle gro product that you spray on the leaves. Be wary of that. You'll need to pick up a led grow light from amazon 15-20$, get a desk lamp and have the light shining on the leaves for 15 hours. The medium/soil should be moist too but not wet
How crazy is it to visit a club or bar alone?
I´m planing on doing it to fight my social anxiety.
Any tips?
My plan is to NOT sit in a corner alone, but to talk to people and approach some girls
>>17596351
Ill come with you
:)
>>17596354
but...but....then I´m not alone anymore :(
That was part of the plan.
But yeah, I mostly go alone, cause I don´t have any friends who enjoy these types of things.
What country, OP?
I was in the same situation as you. Now I do it a lot, it took a few tries (4-5) but I really enjoy going out now. I usually get at least one good conversation a night, most nights I get several. Haven't figured out how to approach girls yet.
Some general tips coming from the perspective of a fellow social anxiety sufferer:
- I've been doing this for over a year now, and I still start every evening with a panic attack that I have to fight down. The first two hours always suck. I make it a rule to alwas give it two hours.
- You'll notice you'll constantly analyse what you could have done differently: "Oh, I should have said that". "Oh, I should have stayed out longer". "Why have I not gotten laid yet". Those are things you'll constantly be thinking. These sentences are not helpful, and when they come up while you're clubbing, you can practice being indifferent about them
- Some alcohol helps, but when you're an inexperienced drunk, you'll be the one the bouncer kicks out to make a statement. I try to pace myself: After the third unit, I drink a pint of water, thereafter I drink in a pattern of two units, then 1 non-alcoholic.
- /adv/ will hate me for this,and I aknowledge regional and country differences, but up here in Scandinavia, a great ice breaker is to smoke and use the outdoors smoking area. People who have popped outside for a cigarette are open and ready to talk.
In short, go for it!
Are networking and system admin jobs usually looked down on as "slow status?" I've heard from someone, "business types don't respect network guys. They think that anyone pulling a cable must be a monkey and is worth 10 bucks an hour."
Any truth to this?
>>17596321
I'd respect them if they wouldn't be so fucking goddamn lazy pieces of shit.
My place it took them a fucking WEEK to set up a new associate's computer properly, and they couldn't even come to the room and do it proper but via phone and remote desktop.
Yet every time I walk in the IT office they just play vidya or watch the latest episode of whatever's "in" the moment.
I can count the number of decent IT personel on one hand.
I've heard that the problem with IT is that it's viewed as maintenance and companies grudgingly accepting it's needed, but are always looking for ways to cut costs or contract out the work because it doesn't "add value" to the company.
Depends on how modern the company is and how reliant they are on IT infrastructure, but yes they're typically bottom of the barrel.
If you don't like it then work for a Managed/Professional Services company. Instead of being a cost center you'll become the actual product.
How does someone with no friends, no bank account, no life experience, no looks, no charisma, no skill, and no intelligence make easy and legal money online? The kind of guy who can't even hold down a job at a fast food place or a gas station for more than a week. The kind of guy that isn't capable of speaking above a quiet, ugly mumble, and probably won't understand half of the things you tell him.
>>17596290
Ouch. Umm.. PTC websites?
>>17596290
pretending to be a 13 year old boy and blackmailing pedophiles would be the usual way.
>>17596290
You could sell one of your testicles for a couple ten grand.
This is thread for constant posters of /adv/, those who are spending here the biggest amount of time of all visited boards.
Are you the one taking or giving /adv/?
Why, what's your story?
What makes you come back here to keep posting?
Has this board really affected you?
I was always curious about that, please do share.
>>17596248
>Are you the one taking or giving /adv/?
mostly taking, sometimes giving
>Why, what's your story?
crushing hard on a friend these past few weeks, really don't want to mess up with her
>What makes you come back here to keep posting?
read the trashy threads tbqh, but also to keep asking for answers about if i have a chance with her because confirmation bias is nice
>Has this board really affected you?
probably not, i think i got a date with her, but through no work of my own
>Are you the one taking or giving /adv/?
Giving but when times comes when I'm in need of different point of view on certain problem I ask as well but it is rare tho.
>Why, what's your story?
I just like helping people, and when I help in a way I help my self.
>What makes you come back here to keep posting?
I usually get stuck here when I shut in and take brake from irl people. You know sometimes you just hit low point and need some distraction.
>Has this board really affected you?
Yes it did in positive way.
I'll start with me.
/adv/ helped me getting into relationship with a girl I wanted, femanons really helped me work her out. Then I've stopped posting. Some problems started. I neglected the board, I thought I know best.
Unfortunately girl appeared to be BPD with really fucked up story and it backfired me hard. We broke up.
I came back and /adv/ helped me go through it again, I would always come back when feeling down because of anonymity and sincerity it guarantees.
Then I've noticed that some of my experience might help in some cases of other anons. People had similar problems like me or were just about to have them. So even though I'm fine now, I still look up to take on a problem that I might have some exp on. I feel It helps me as well as anons related, It's kinda addicting at this point. Not sure if it's a good thing, but it's one of better addictions to have.
>Need to find what to do with my future
>24
>BS in Comp Sci, minor math
>No debts, emergency money sorted and all that
>No current work
So, the above sums up my situation. I've been trying to discover what I might want to do since beginning HS, but nothing has really stuck. I took all sorts of different classes, all the APs I could, and was fairly active in extracurriculars. I'm in a pretty damn good place financially and in education, but the problem is that I have zero motivation to follow my degree now that I've graduated. I picked it on a whim and stuck with it since nothing seemed better at the time. I don't really need someone to tell me 'find what you want to do and try that instead.' I'd like to hear how any of you might have found your passions. Maybe it'll spark something or give me an idea of what to look into next. What did you guys or gals choose? How did you run across it? If you were in the same situation, how'd you get out of it? At the moment, I just stare blankly at pages of job listings and hope something pops at me.
>>17596205
you got
1. money
2. time
3. youth
..
you sound like a responsible well organized person
personally, i would take my time and money and travel to a foreign or exotic country for a few months
think about it
you are well organized enough, it sounds like you will make a nice career for yourself in whatever you do
however, once you go down that career path, you will have no time - add to that the fact that you more than likely end up with a life partner and maybe even have kids - once that happens any time you have from work will be spent with your new family - you wont have any free time between the start of your permanent relationships until retirement - and by the time you retire, it is a gamble to think that you will have your health, you will most likely be old, weak and tired - you wont want to go to the beach, run around all night or go for long walks and enjoy the extreme heat, extreme cold (if you are into that), extreme height, extreme partying or extreme fun - by that time, you will more than likely want to spend more time at home wishing you could do all the things you could when you were 24
..
im 40 now - i did some travelling (thank god) but i just wish i had done more
ive met countless retirees on my travels who all have the same regrets - they are thankful they made it to their 60s and 70s with good health but they also added that they had scores of friends that didnt make it
..
you have your youth - id say enjoy it as much as you can right now - life may seem like a joyride right now but it doesnt last long - trust me
>>17596246
I took one trip like you've suggested already; I went to Europe and toured for a month with a group since I was worried about going alone. It was fun and more sightseeing than partying since I'm not a big party animal. I suppose I could do it again before I really aim for work, but the problem of finding what to do as a career will be waiting whenever I return.
>>17596278
>the problem of finding what to do as a career will be waiting whenever I return
you sound like you are 20 years older than what you claim to be
imagine yourself when you are 60 yo with a bit of arthritic pain, low energy and maybe even a chronic back problem - that is the lower extreme - the worst would be that you are dead by that time or suffering from a severe chronically bad health that will prevent you from doing anything more stressful than walking across the street
..
a job and a career will always be something to deal with in life (or a problem if you want to look at that way)
you only have your youth once
and who knows maybe you will find an opportunity somewhere else rather than where you are located
why work somewhere near home? why not some other part of the world where you could find an opportunity to exploit using your youth and enthusiasm?
why not find something to do in a warm temperate part of the world where real estate is cheaper or maybe even a developing part of the world where real estate and job opportunities will potentially develop in the future? (im not talking about dirt poor places, just up and coming places, like say spain, portugal or some other part of the world that will develop more in the future?)
I rent a room in my house out in a large city with lots of people looking for housing.
This guy has expressed interest and wants to move in, he seems cool so I say it's his and we can sign a lease. I email him a lease, he comes over with his own lease (not the one I sent) with all this verbage about how I'm legally obligated to ensure none of the other roommates ever leave dishes in the sink or pots on the stove, and I'm obligated to provide lawncare and all these other things in a "house rules" format.
I mostly agree with being clean, but I've never had official "house rules" in a lease, I should say no to signing it, right? Like, who does he think he is making all these demands? None of my other tenants brought their own lease, should I tell him he can't live here unless he's willing to sign my copy? I don't see something like this ever working at like an apartment complex or anywhere else. I mean I kind of need a roommate to help pay rent but it won't be that hard to find someone else. What should I say?
>>17596160
>"""Legal""" house rules
>YOU being responsible for OTHER PEOPLE leaving dishes in the sink
And what's he gonna do, sue you because Joe never washes his fucking coffee cup? Get another roommate
>>17596160
Tell him to fuck off. No counter-negotiation, just straight fuck off.
He will be a problem if he moves in.
give him a new contract that makes him a 100% responsible for all the cleaning and that he has to wear a maids outfit when he does it.
i'm 26. i'm currently in my first serious relationship. i'm a recovering autist which helps to explain my late blooming. my gf and i have been together 1.5 years. she's a good person and most days i've been happy with the relationship. she has some serious issues with stress/anxiety management, possesses a fairly poor work ethic, and employs childish tactics when she's upset. these are expected flaws of a 21 y/o. in terms of physical attractiveness she's ~6.5. if she were to diet and lift then she could be a point higher but the poor work ethic gets in the way.
i was accepted into a fairly selective program and the semester has been going well. i'm spending a lot of hours with a relatively small group and there is a female peer that i've taken quite a liking to. she's a very attractive girl and is receiving a lot of attention from other guys in the program. she's the type to get lots of attention when she's walking to her car. she's very responsible with her work and seems rather intelligent. there isn't much to dislike about her. obviously i'm not privy to her more personal life so this is more of a cursory glance of her. i understand that just about anyone can come off as likable if you don't know much about them.
the dilemma isn't that there's an attractive girl in my class. the dilemma is that i'm convinced she's into me and i can't help but be into her despite the fact that i'm currently in a committed relationship.
i'm inexperienced with romance and relationships so this is uncharted territory. i know that this new girl is going to present a "the grass is always greener" scenario. my gf is obviously more than just her flaws else i wouldn't be with her. she's a great person but there are frustrations in the relationship. she's committed to me and talks about marriage and kids but i'm not so convinced. i know what sort of person i am. i'm patient and forgiving. i will tolerate my gf's shortcomings but should i if there is an alternative? is it right?
>>17596111
pls respond
Either way it sounds like you're over your girlfriend or just the idea of being committed right now. You got multiple issues with your girlfriend's personality and appearance. What's more is your unsure about being dragged into marriage or kids any time soon. Needless to say you're priorities are different than hers since your still working towards your career.
There's no need to "tolerate" a person in a relationship just because you don't like the idea of being single, which is the hidden sentiment in your post. You see your two options as staying in a relationship you have mixed feelings about (and wasting your girlfriend's time, who wants to be on her way to marriage), or vine swinging straight into another commitment. The reality is that there's no guarantee girl B wants to date you, but you're using her as an escapist fantasy to distract yourself from your unhappiness in your own relationship.
>>17596227
This actually happened to me during birth. Not funny man, now I have aspergers.
Why do people only want to date mean people? I see a lot of men complain about how girls only go for the assholes, and I've personally witnessed many many men who have chosen to break up with girlfriends that are too nice, and date or even marry the meanest lady he could find. I definitely don't want to date someone who hurts my feelings or makes me feel inadequate all the time, I can do that to myself perfectly fine without any help. I really don't understand why someone would pick someone who's so mean over someone who treats them with respect and love.
>>17596080
Let me just quote this lines from the FAQ in the "Ask the opposite gender anything" thread we periodically have here.
>"Q: This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this? A: Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing."
>"Q:XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please. A: We're not in their head, we don't know."
How does that help us answer the question "Why do people only want to date mean people"? Simply put, there's a lot of mean people prancing about doing mean things - a good chunk of those do not see themselves as mean. They just go about their day in mean ways. What to say of the smaller percentage of those that actually seek abusive relationships? We're not in their head, we don't know.
>>17596080
you're talking about a myth OP
From the outside confidence is often confused with arrogance and niceness if often confused with neediness and sycophantic behavior.
>>17596206
Im talking about people who outright degrade their partners, calling them names, and just being an all around neurotic bitch. Like, the kind of people that fly off the handle at every little thing, and make your life miserable.