Has anybody been in a relationship where they were your first but you weren't theirs?
How did the relationship last long term, did you manage to get over feelings of jealousy or did you always feel like you were missing out somehow?
Yeah I did because I wasn't a child. People aren't the same and so if she had already been with someone then doesn't take anything away from her. What am I going to get angry she didn't hold out for me? Please. Normal adults don't worry about stupid shit like this because it is wasting brain cells thinking about it.
>>17598043
Yeah.
Old buddy i slouched around with back in the day was a known casual fucker. All we ever did together was break windows on abandoned factories, burn shit, steal shit, or generally be delinquents.
One day when we were 14 she just up and asks why i never made moves or why i generally just acted like she was one of the dudes. Told her i figured she got enough of that from every other guy she knew and I didn't want our general relationship as it was at the time to change. She asked if i'd ever wanted to bang her and i just sort said "well yeah, i'm a dude in his puberty phase i kinda wanna fuck any girl i meet." Almost immediately knew that sounded douchey but it seemed to move her or something cause she basically just tackled me.
Was it awkward? Kinda, but i accepted that, and knew i would be awkward at it going in cause she's had 4 years of experience on me with at least 20 others, that i know of, and i was a virgin.
Banged for 3ish years casually cause we rented a trailer for our own purposes later that year and occasionally we brought others home.
Ended nicely when we both went to different schools though we still occasionally met up and now we get drinks together occasionally to catch up.
There's no getting around this, just accept it and follow their lead. Just make sure you tell them going in that way they know ahead of time they're gonna have to guide you.
I've been told by other chicks that its actually kinda of good in the long run cause they can train you and everything you'll know about sex during that with them is strictly what pleases them rather than some hold over habit the guy has from another chick. Which honestly is how my experience with other chicks have been though an experienced chick hasn't been an issue though maybe thats just the difference between equipment used.
Either way: expect awkwardness, expect a good chance of popping early, listen carefully, and enjoy.
>>17598134
Either way: expect it to be awkward, expect to pop early, listen closesly, and enjoy.
Oh, and if you're THAT worried about popping early just jack off before hand(clean yourself) and that should buy some time.
Pineapple juice, grapfruit juice, and orange juice ALL help with recover if drank just before or after and shit doesn't have to end the second both of you have cum. You can work her over at her guidance while your boy takes a rest and you can obviously go again once he's ready.
Shit doesn't have to stop and be some awkward spooning for the rest of the night, seriously avoid this.
I used to be a gamer. I spent 3-4 hours a night on MMORPGs or strategy games, had a $4,000 Steam library, owned the latest consoles, and occasionally would do things like 30-minute Mario 64 speed runs for fun
Despite that, I always valued responsibility over games. If I had homework I did it first. If I had a job I went to work first.
As time has gone on I've gained more responsibilities and my time has slowly disappeared. I now have a yard to mow, a business to run, a house to clean, I help my wife with her homework, every weekend I'm asked to attend some social outing, I regularly spend about an hour cooking a nice meal since it's cheaper than eating out, I make time to exercise so I don't get too fat since my 9-5 job has me sitting in a chair all day,...
As a result I haven't had time for games. In the last two years I've only played idle games like Clicker Heroes
I tried to get back into games a few times but I just find them stressful now. I tried playing Overwatch most recently and every minute I just feel like something isn't getting accomplished.
Last night my wife was on TeamSpeak talking to some friends and she suddenly realized I don't game anymore. She turned to me and asked why I don't, then proceeded to berate me and demand I play games "because she married a gamer". I tried turning on Skyrim to humor her but over the course of the opening cut scene I had to pause the game 3 times because she asked something of me ("come look at this homework problem", "go swap over the laundry", "make sure the cats are fed") - then when she realized I hadn't gotten past the cut scene she asked if I was even interested in playing anymore.
I thought about it and I don't know what I'm interested in anymore. I used to always have something I WANTED to do, so that when I wasn't busy I knew how to spend my time. Now when I'm not busy I stare at a wall because I've forgotten what I enjoy.
Is this a normal part of growing up?
You don't have time which made you very rusty.
Your wife's interruptions and pressure to play video games is not putting you in the right mood.
You probably had a better environment to play where life didn't have so much hassle and thus you could enjoy your vidya games in peace. That is gone now, hence why you feel like you can't get into it.
>>17598008
>Is this a normal part of growing up?
Yes and no. Lots of people find that their responsibilities take over from the things that they enjoy.
You need to make sure that you are making time to enjoy yourself and relax or you are going to burn out.
>>17598008
No one forced you to get a house or several cats. You've feature creeped your own life and now you're complaining about how it's a bloatware. If you want to have more quality time you need to live a simpler life.
Hey there. Just turned 18 a few months ago and decided to get a driver's license. I passed the theorical exam but today I did the practical (actual driving test) part and failed. The examiner (a woman) talked very silently and I couldn't even hear her. She was talking but I couldn't understand a word she said. I lasted less than two minutes because I couldn't hear what she said. Any help?
>>17597988
If you can't hear shit, stay off the fucking road dumbass
>>17597988
Did you tell them you couldn't hear the instructions?
Moron
>>17597991
That's not how it works. Read some law kthx.
>>17597996
Indeed but they first need to talk and you have to hear them ;)
I would think that someone who was actually cheating would act with a little more discretion.
My gf and her best guy friend are really close now (they used to be involved) and she asked me if it was alright if she went to a birthday party with him last weekend. My friend told me that the guy 'was extremely touchy with her' and even saw him grab her inner thigh at one point. Apparently there was no way they could have smashed since they never left the venue, so I know that she hasn't exactly fucked him yet. I confronted her about it and she said that they're just friends and that I'm overreacting. I'm not sure if I can believe my friends story. If it actually happened would you consider this cheating?
It isn't cheating, but stroking the inner leg comes close. It's still unacceptable for her not to stop him while she's in a relationship.
>>17597922
You are getting cucked obviously, they might have not fucked there but surely fucked somewhere else before that and the guy was just teasing her with the situation
>>17597946
That's a lot of assumptions, an inner thigh grab doesn't necessarily mean that she's cheating
So here's the deal.
>21 yo virgin, never kissed, hugged, held hands, anything with a grill, zero experience
>Prostitution is legal in my country and there's a supposed 5 star brothel less than an hour from where I live
>Really feeling the need for intimacy/affection of some sort from a female
>Issue is I've been watching and fapping to porn almost daily for the last 10 years, so I'm concerned I'm going to have ED when the critical moment comes
How long would I have to abstain from fapping/porn until everything returns to normal?
Anon, I can nearly guarantee you that you can get these things from a girl who cares about you. Be honest with me anon. I need you to stat yourself.
>Looks
>Charm
>Intellect
>Potential partners known
Please go into detail here. 5 is average, 1 is horrible, 10 is flawless.
Do you have autism? Is there anything wrong with you? Include such possible negative qualities. If you're not honest I can't help.
Do nofap for a week. Swallow a viagra an hour before going to brothel. Enter.
>>17597913
Not op, but I have a similiar problem
7-8
3
8(what do you mean by intellect? I habe the score by hard uni major + iq)
6
I got hit on a few times(5) in the last few years but spaghettied out every time :(
Working on it though
I have no autism.
hey. someone took my laptop because they suspect it has illegal things on it. its a macbook. is there anyway they can get into it OR access imessage if they dont know my password? Is there anyway I can manually purge this information from my dekstop?
>>17597884
they also have a shared account on this laptop w/o admin privs.
Assuming it was the police that took it, they have ways of getting through without your password, and they've probably already done it already too.
Also if it's on your hard drive, you can't delete stuff off the hard drive remotely like that.
>>17597884
Underage kid hiding porrn from parents
Get banned
>be me
>23yo khv
>pic related
How do I get out of this despair?
just be yourself
>>17597876
This is a meme, yeah?
>>17597890
you're trying too hard
my gf came over today to my house to hang out and she was wearing her guy best friends hoodie. I didn't say anything cause technically she didn't do anything wrong, but I'm sort of worried. Should I be concerned or am I being stupid?
>>17597864
if she was fucking this dude she wouldn't wear his hoodie over to your house, she be a little more secretive than that
>>17597881
Unless she's trying to cuck him (^;
I'd be a little taken aback by it, too. Trading clothes crosses one of those subtle relationship boundaries, like having extended hugs or eating from the same dish. Things that aren't "wrong" but seem like they should be saved for the partner.
>me
>21 male
>everything a 21 could ask for has
>money, no debt, uni course, friends, family etc
>often mistaken for model, once mistake for super model
>found out last night the absolute love of my life doesn't really give two shits about me
>still feeling cripplingly sad, suicidal every day
>about to start third uni year, couldn't care less
This girl made life worth living. I love her, she is a goddess only actually real. I have been rejected by every single person in my life and for some reason I thought maybe life would be different for her but of course it wouldn't be what the fuck was I thinking right? I know nothing is going to change but so what, i'm not special. This happens to everyone all the time why am I complaining. I have money and a stable life otherwise.
Am I an entitled stuck up prick who deserves to shut the fuck up and die?
>>17597860
Are you an entitled, stuck-up prick? Yes.
Should you shut the fuck up and die? No.
You loved her initially, yes, but you didn't know her well- you knew her initially and extrapolated favorably so she was an ideal- not attainable. Of course, this resulted in her leaving your life.
You're right, it does happen to everyone. But how we deal with it is a different story- you can either be a sadsack, whine and cry and listen to Evanescence in your dorm room about your goddess leaving you. Or you can adknowledge that God is dead and all that's left is what we can make with our two hands, shut up and do your damned work. Don't worry about others.
They will come, eventually. I have... Three people in my life I care about, and who care about me. Two of them are dating, and the third I've known for six years. But that's enough for me.
Take solace in the fact that your biggest concerns are interpersonal. Straighten your back, look forward, and take the first step. The future isn't waiting for you, and your ideal may have a name, a phone number and you may meet her. Life has a funny way of doing things. But you'll never know until you go forward.
Plus, if nothing else, girls are attracted to guys with degrees.
>>17597860
>tfw OP is apparently hot
>tfw im a 5/10 at best
>tfw ive never been turned down or rejected by a woman, not once
At least you made my day OP
But cheer up, if you're that good looking many more wonderful women will come your way
>>17597871
>>17598370
not entirely sure how that was supposed to be advice but cheers for making things more hopeless than they already were
How to get gf?
>inb4 0 replies
1. Real life friends equal networks equal exposure to women
2. Women will never hit on you, accept this
3. Talk to women
If you can't do the above things, message a trap off r9k, meet up with him, pretend he's a girl while you're fucking him and watching his deformed dick swing back and forth, then go to the clinic when your dick is oozing green mucus a few days later
Put yourself out there. Go to places where women will see you exist and interact with them. Read up on body language and how it pertains to flirting, as well as flirting in general. Flirt with them, starting out slowly and ramping up. You're learning, so expect to mess up at first. That's totally okay and it's how everyone learns. Once you've got the basics down enough that your target appears to reciprocate, ask them out to a specific place, not "do you wanna go out", but "do you wanna go to [restaurant/cafe/mall/amusement park/concert]" with a vague date in mind, a weekday or something.
Do not use PUA. It's got a couple of right ideas about how to flirt (teasing is a legitimate way to flirt) mixed in with a whole host of poisonous mindsets, wrong justifications, and some ass backwards ideas of its own. It's not completely useless for getting sex, but it is for building anything approaching a healthy relationship. On the other hand don't be a completely needy and emotionally driven person. Stability is attractive. It's okay and even good to confide in your partner as things are getting serious, but don't be a mood killer all the time and don't drain all of her energy to the point she wants to not be around you. Look up the languages of love and identify your style and your partner's style as you get to know them better. Try to show them affection primarily in the way they'll respond best to, and likewise try to communicate which way you prefer.
Don't bother. All they do is waste your money and toy with your emotions. Not only that but you'll have to settle for some used up skank who's barely a 5/10.
If only there was an alternative...
>tfw literally everyone is ignoring you
>tfw haven't heard from dad since his stroke in july
>tfw haven't heard from mom and sisters since the fight last month
>tfw best friend suddenly goes mia this month
>tfw other friend stopped replying to facebook posts two weeks ago
>tfw another friend I normally go to in time of need doesn't reply to facebook messages, just reads them, ever since getting back with her boyfriend
>tfw girlfriend broke up with me in august
>tfw different friends stops texting and replying ever since my panic attack in june
>tfw another one just stops communication mysteriously
>tfw haven't heard anything from coworkers since the company went out of business in spring
>tfw insurance went under and can't afford doctor now
>tfw about to go homeless in november
And all of this is happening while my suicidal tendencies are starting to come back. It seems this may be my last months on this planet. It was nice chilling with you guys.
>>17597691
what do you mean "insurance went under" get medicaid
and no you're not about to go homeless in november, you're going to get a job instead
>>17597691
>tfw literally everyone is ignoring you
There must be reasons. You're leaving out a lot of information here.
Aside from the loneliness, you have the ability to turn your life around. Get a job, get Medicaid and reach out to your family. What did you fight about anyway?
Don't worry OP you have us!
How do I detan my skin?
>>17597645
Time, my son
>>17597645
Stay out of the sun and it takes time. Your melanin will drop with time+lower vitamin D intake
>>17597648
Time will probably do nothing, my father has brown skin and my mother has light skin, although most of my cousins (from my dad's family) has light-colored skins
bleaching tipa perhaps?
Sup /adv/
I found out yesterday that my girlfriend of one year is pregnant. How fucked am I?
Both 22 for further information
Is running worth it?
Pic soon to be related
>>17597637
It depends, OP, are you one of the people on this list?
http://thezog.info/list-summaries/
If not then you might want to beg your parents or relatives for money.
Also, if you want to know how the people on this list got to be where they are, start reading at page 12 in this book:
http://prometheism.net/library/jewishsupremacism.pdf
>>17597637
Do you know who the father is ? I mean actually know, not what your gf tells you
Be a good dad op
I made the mistake of fucking a super nerdy, nervous, blue haired chick today and she bled on my dick. This grossed me out so much that I don't want to even talk to her anymore. Thankfully she lives in another city 30 minutes away, but we spoke quite regularly via text for the last week. How do I softly let her down that I don't want to be around her anymore?
(Pic not related.)
>>17597634
She was a virgin? She sounds like a virgin
>>17597634
Is that like the only reason you don't wanna be around her?
>>17597651
yeah need confirmation on this, if she was a virgin some blood is normal due to the hymen being torn
I had a fucked up upbringing in regards to sex, and I am a huge prude. How do I not be shy about sex? It is really beginning to wear on me that I cant open up at all in regards to anything sexual
Elaborate further
>>17597630
are you a male or female ?
>>17597656
Talking about anything sexual seems wrong. I cant open up at all to anyone about anything remotely sexual. Even if I find someone good looking talking about it is terrifying