Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 3770. page

>>17597602
A person who said that is a sadist and as a result is attracted to emotionally weak people.

>>17597607
Hey cutie

>>17597626
h-h-hi

You could have posted this on fucking sci.

BUT YOU DIDNT

WHY HERE WHYYY

>>17597606
BECAUSE I CAN

>>17597633
What a Dickhead

Throw yourself into the dust and apologize thousandfold. And promise to be more tender and careful the next time.

>taking hints from porn
goddamn...

Holy shit, you're a retard. This is why animefags should never touch a girl, you've been poisoned from years of it.

did this really happen?

please be honest with me OP

Have sex. Then it's kinda official.

>>17597616
we're trying to take it slow before we end up having sex

>>17597654
I hope that doesn't mean you will take a year of dating before even a kiss.

absolutely disgusting

Scrub yourself when you shower, either with a loofah, washcloth or sponge. Scrub your armpits, your genitals, your asshole. Scrub hard. Don't use cheap, shitty soap. Use a shower gel that smells nice. Make sure to wash the loofah/washcloth/sponge thoroughly.
If the bathroom smells good after you're done, it's a good sign.

>>17597660
Forgot to add that showers should be at least 20-30 minutes.

my god what a shit attitude you have, you should probably wait until you're gainfully employed to gloat

your degree might wind up being just as "useless" as theirs

[2/2]

I brought this up with my girlfriend, who stated that college is about the “experience,” and even if they don’t do anything with their major or make a career out of it, then they are “perusing knowledge and elevating themselves.” After I asked her how she felt about people who get gender studies or arts degrees and then work at Subway, and then got very upset with me. After the conversation ensued and I told her that those who take institutional and personal scholarships and grants are being disingenuous by not doing anything with their college degrees, she essentially stated that she’s currently in college because she wants to “learn things,” and hinted that she could actually care less about getting a job. I told her that I would feel very frustrated if she left her parents and I for four years, encouraged myeto go to college with her and influenced her parents to move to her college just so she can learn things and not actually do them. Essentially, neither of us could budge on the subject.

She currently doesn’t have to pay for college because she has scholarships, has free housing, and is on work/study. She says that college’s function, or her interpretation of it, is that it is used to delay having to work, as working is something that you don’t want to do. I feel as though if she left her family and I behind just so she doesn’t have to go to work yet, then I would feel betrayed. It makes me feel bad that I’m dating someone who takes up government and personal money with even an iota of thought of using it just so she can freeboot and do nothing with herself. As she’s confided in me, she wants to have children and be a stay at home mom, and I believe that this is why she doesn’t genuinely care at all. She has the option to quit if she wants to at any time, and she knows that she can always have someone to pay the bills.

It’s like she’s living in some socialist fairy tale where the reason money is invested in students is so that they can just fuck off for four years and not work, and then do something that they would be able to do with a GED.

I feel like a bad guy because I’m taking a practical and frugal approach to college while everyone else is seemingly making mistake. I’m confused, /adv/, could you give me some opinions?

OKCupid

>>17597438
I'm not sure how anyone's supposed to find anyone these days, I guess sign up to every dating site out there and pray you find someone interesting that's not a bot or trying to rape/rob you. Where do you live out of curiosity (I'm sure no where near me.)

>>17597438
I was going to offer to be your bf but then I saw that you're not a real woman.
Fug

In a similar position would also like to know

>>17597418

OP here, pretty sure we're in the same boat as most modern students nowadays.

bump in case more people are awake now

Go to bed shelby, im not breaking up with you im just fucking tired

>>17597409
I'm not Shelby, Anon.

If you fight a lot

>>17597404
Part 2/?


So of course I'm pissed. I'm pretty much shaking with how mad I am. I have a small brain tumor (not deadly, just annoying) and if I become stressed it's magnified greatly in my actions. My voice becomes super shaky and I have no control over it. So I left a jittery message at the office for them to call me back (since this isn't the first problem I've had with her), and then I texted my roommate.

In short, it was pretty much 'what is your problem, I have to get this done and I've been waiting for 6 hours'... To which she responded 'i told you not to touch my stuff' (To sum up this nonsense, she keeps an ugly ass ceramic spoon on the stove, which I moved to her side of the counter while I cooked, and didn't put it back in the center of the stove)...

She came in the front door and I just fucking lost it, guys. I have been putting up with her being loud, having people over until 2 am, leaving her dog unattended and barking all the time... In like 5 seconds we were both screaming at each other.

Should I have yelled? No. Did I make a mistake by losing my shit? Yes. Did she scream back at me? Absolutely.

It was pretty much a back and forward of me saying how I was tired of waiting for her to get this done and needed to take care of my stuff, and she screamed at me about how I wasn't supposed to touch her things and that I should wait for her to get her laundry done. That 6 hours doesn't matter. There was some dumb shit said, but nothing severe.

Then she held up her phone, and apparently she had been facetiming with some guy. He looked older, so it might have been a relative. To which she said, "you see what I have to put up with?"

Guys, I don't leave my room when I'm there. I stay in my room to eat, even. The only "altercation" we might have had was the night before when she had the TV volume blasting and I asked her to turn it down so I could write papers. She said "okay", I said "thank you", and there were no problems.

cont...

>>17597419
Part 3/?

Then she says something very interesting. She tells me that if I ever touch her things again, then she's going to throw away my things in the dumpster. I asked her if it was a threat or a promise, to which she replied 'it's whatever you want it to be'.

Soooo by now we've gotten into a stupid screaming match that accomplished nothing, which I'm willing to own up to I got loud first. It was immature, but it happened. I lost it. And now she's threatened property damage.

That's just an update for where we're at right now.

Following that, I put my clothes back in the washer and spun them dry, and told her that she needed to take her clothes out of the dryer so I could do mine. And she tried to blame me for breaking the dryer. The dryer hasn't worked since day 1, I've put in notices about it but no one has come out to check on it. Dunno why. Apparently that means I broke it.

At this point I'm so pissed I'm shaking again. And I told her that if the floor gets water damage, then that's her fault... And she says, 'you did that'. So, apparently I also grabbed my soaking wet laundry out of the washer and plopped it in front of my door. Apparently that's my fault.

One more update, since we're about to hit a grand slam, here: She's threatened to destroy my property, she's blamed me for breaking something I didn't break, and she's trying to put the blame on me for the wet floor.

cont...

>>17597434
Part 4/? (almost done, I think)

I told her that she has 3 minutes to move her clothes before I move them for her. I told her that I was going to move them to the top of the dryer. Not the trash, not the floor, a clean surface.

So Jessica comes out from her room and points her iphone at my face. Like, 15 inches away. I ask if she's recording, and she says that I record, so why can't she? (For the record, I've been taking pictures of the food mess she leaves in the kitchen so I'm not responsible for the damages. I don't even really use the kitchen aside from boiling water. There was an open pot of grease left out for 2 days. We already have like swarms of gnats in the apartment). By this point I'm exhausted, I got 3 hours of sleep and I'm over this bullshit.

Aaaand of course here's Jessica, "oh, your tone changed! I wasn't screaming, you were!" So I'm sure that somewhere on social media there's a crappy cell phone video of a fat girl losing her goddamned mind, cursing and screaming over waiting for six hours in a cramped laundry room.

...Do I have room for the kicker? Nah, one more post then I think that's it.

cont...

Lol you "didn't ask for these feelings". It's really obvious you fucking love this shit man. Drama and bullshit seem to be your hobby.

>>17597402
So many red flags and you still proceeded to even exist in the same area of space as thjs chick... You clearly like this kind of crap. Probably get off on it like it's fuel for you blog on adv where you get to be the special snowflake for a few moments.

>>17597429
>>17597441

Eh, you're not entirely wrong, but it's not why I associate with her. Sure, it does add intrigue to my work-gym-sleep life that I'm living at the moment but until this most recent time I was always the one pulling away from her, especially during the actual affair. When she and I weren't talking over the summer I was at peace and I really loved having an actual, straight-forward relationship.

It's always been about her. Seriously, minus the rampant infidelity she's an amazing person and my ideal girl. The way she sees the world, the way she talks to me and remembers everything, her passion for her work and other people, her thoughtfulness, she's a great lady. The only caveat is that she's, you know, a total fucking snake who'd break my heart. I don't know why I think I can do differently.

I'm not even denying that if she suddenly started spending a few hours working where I work and waiting for my lunch breaks again I'd be happy. If she invited me back to her town again, I'd jump on the opportunity. I've even imagined it since she got back in touch, which is really healthy for me, right? I really don't like this about me and I've tried cutting contact before.

>>17597395
kek. why didnt you say something or go for a walk together lol

>>17597395
Maybe he just wanted the doggo to play

>>17597395
Maybe he prefers dogs over pussy OP

You need to stop reading the theredpill, pol or whatever crap that spews this nonsense kid.

Hating women will just make you more miserable and desperate to find one.

There's nothing wrong with hating women OP. I do too. If there are women near me, I just leave.

>>17597267
I long ago left the process of finding women, I am in no way desperate to find one, communicate with one or hear another one speak ever again.

>>17597259
No there isn't. You can do and think whatever you want. Just be ready for the consequences

>Are you guys funny?

Not really funny but I can make a girl smile with my charm. You see I figured a long time ago I was never the club, bar, party kind of guy. The way I get girls is through meeting them in everyday locations like coffee shops, libraries and groceries stores. I start a convo, make an observation, say something cheesy and gauge how they response. If they are feeling me and are receptive I push and possibly get their number if nor I leave them alone.

>Do you guys have good jobs (financial status) ?

I make good money but live a modest lifestyle. From the way I dress, the car I have and the apartment I live in you would think I was poor but I can afford the finer things in life.

>How did you guys achieve a lot of confidence ?

Cliche but I failed a ton. In the early days I had to talk to myself to get myself pumped. Wrote down how many girls I would approach and do it. Didn't matter if it was my neighbour as long as I did it before midnight. Eventually I carved my own style and way to talking to girls which attracted a certain type of women.

File: image.jpg (241KB, 1920x1090px) Image search: [Google]

241KB, 1920x1090px

>>17597244

I'm quite shy and 100% serious all the time but whenever I open my mouth somehow I make people laugh, like it's not because I talk funny(because I don't) actually I don't know why they laugh,in college I took some logistics class this week just to see how it is and I've no idea what the professor asked nor what I answered but the class laughed

I came to the conclusion that I don't tell jokes, I am the joke

that's literally my only way to approach people and girls in general, screwing my social image

Read The Game and How to Win Friends and Influence People.

If they are family, friend or a person you are dating then sure...otherwise keep your hands to yourself.

Generally not weird if you're friends! Weird if you've just met or if it's a class photo or office photo.

>>17597204
last year a girl i'd never met before asked to take a picture with me in my halloween costume and she put her arm around me
did i miss a chance there