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If you and the girl are practically a couple, and only your lesbo BFF's ignorance keeps it from being official... and you two WANT it to be official?

If your lesbo bff says she wouldn't mind, then take her word for it. If the lesbo starts re-developing feeling for your girl, then you know what to do, lol.

>>17591042
Tell her to get over it? She's dating someone at the moment btw

Unless this chick is just amazing, which for the sake of argument I'll assume she's not, then you clearly don't value the friendship if you make this move.

Doesn't make you a bad person per say, but just know that it's not a friendship that truly matters to you if you go to these lengths to shag some skank.

keep your fucking window closed faggot
let the man enjoy his weed, or even better, buy a house, fucking millennial

Is the smell that potent? I smoke tobacco and not to mention weed and never really thought anyone near could smell it.

inb4you'remyneighbor

>>17591026
IF THEY LOVE THEIR FUCKING SMELL SO MUCH WHY DON'T THEY CLOSE THEIR WINDOWS AND BOX THEMSELVES IN. FAGGOT.

>>17591028
Yeah. I'm sure they know because even they leave their back door open to let it out. Since it's an alleyway, that's how it gets to us but we're fine through the front doors...oddly. Either you're okay or neighbors are too scared/nervous to really complain. I'm fine with it like once a day but they smoke when we're getting ready to sleep and I really don't wanna go to sleep inhaling that all night.

Be there for her, and especially BE PATIENT WITH HER

you can't get her to get through whatever she is going through, but you can help by supporting her

>>17591015
I am a calm and pațient guy usually, but how can I "BE PATIENT" with her specifically? What does it mean? Not push her around to do things she doesn't like?
I told her yesterday I don't know how to treat her because I don't want to distance myself from her, but at the same time I don't want to suffocate her either.

It broke my heart to see her cry, man. It killed me and I silently wept as well. I actually dropped tears right there with her, something that never happened to me in my entire.life.

I love her damn it. I will always love and support her and I want her to know that.

How do I do that?

>>17591012
does she have friends ? male friends ?

>>17591004
R u black

>>17591004
You seem type A-ish, or at least hold some of those qualities. That's fine, everyone has triggers that make them anxious, as the SJWs are proving.

All jokes aside just be aware that you're someone who prefers to have important business handled asap. That's you and that is okay.

>>17591059
bull'seye

Xenophobia attacks are everywhere now as a result of brexit, especially against eastern Europeans.

>>17591002
I'm sorry, but did you even bother trying to find even the tiniest bit of information about this?

>>17591008

I googled it, got some info about permanent residence permits and stuff. Wanted thoughts from people that have dealt with it personally

>>17590988
I shit like a Swiss train, it takes me 30 seconds, minimal wiping, it's a golden world. Unless I am pregnant, then it's a complete nightmare, but, if you regulate your diet properly, it's not really such a bad time. Feels kinda good, man.

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>>17590988
First-jesus christ dude get some therapy

Second-You need to change your perspective on it. I know that's not easy, and obviously you aren't going to do it over night, but seriously let yourself think about what shit is.

It is waste. It is simply the by product of material from food that your body did not need to keep functioning properly. It stinks because that is your bodies way of saying 'we didn't need this part of the food, don't put it back in'. It looks gross and all around un-appeasing because it goes back to your natural instinct of-this is waste, you don't need it anymore, and it carries germs. Stay away.

This is also why humans created plumbing, because proper plumbing and disposal is essential to keep the waste from reaching areas that could possibly make us sick.

It is just a by product of a properly functioning body. Just like we have saliva to get our food wet so that we can chew and digest it properly, and why we have to blow our nose sometimes to rid our nasals of unwanted debri. It's just another function of our body, and every living creature has or does some form of it.

>>17591007

I just can't stand it. I don't think it's a problem from my childhood because I only remember becoming aware of it as a teenager (older now).

I only go like once every three days and even that is too much. When I read medical sites saying "once or twice a day" is ideal I want to fucking puke. How can people live like that?

I'm even thinking of going on an all liquid diet or something to cut out shitting as much as possible. I don't want to live if I have to shit once a day.

>>17590942
Damn, bit of a cringey convo.

Get a financial needs analysis from a account, or consultant, nigga. We don't know what the hell your goals, bank account, etc look like. Its too much for random people on the internet man

>>17590948
Accountant*, financial consultant, bro-tier lawyer

>>17590948
Fuck, I knew I should of opened with a stupid question about a girl I like... This manager bitch at my work that is fucking around with one of the bosses and cheating on her husband, keeps randomly coming up and and complaining about her husband and the other managers at work. Bitch is nagging, I know it. I would smash, She is about my age. But should I smash?
>it goes against my morals
>if anyone found out I would prob get fired

enjoy while you can, it goes away
then it becomes a struggle to cum

>>17590944
I just wanna last long again

>>17590938
23 here and I feel like my sexual endurance has only increased since 18. I can cum once and feel great then 5 minutes later be just as hard as before. Kinda scared of that going away at some point because it's a nice thing to be able to do every day.

>>17590937
One of you has to do something. Otherwise it's sure to never, ever, happen.

>>17590937
you don't have to make any big declaration or anything. just tell her "hey you seem really nice, would you like to go get coffee/go to the museum/(insert name of date-like activity here) next week sometime?"

>>17590937
You being introverts is irrelevant.

Also I would recommend not saying this until you're hanging out and in a more personal situation.

>>17590878
I don't think you can I don't know if it's because I'm on the down swing of my depression again but I can't live without MDMA, amphetamines or drinking. I'm scared too because I don't want to hurt my friends or family but I've pushed almost everyone away because of depression. And I'm tired of living like this there's no getting better so I think I'll end up dying along the way instead.

You need to stop doing any kind of substance in general. Now I'm not saying go straight edge or any of that other bullshit but hear me out. I spent two years dealing with terrible depression and anxiety and all of that. During those two years (and a few years prior) I dabbled quite heavily into alcohol and did a fair variety of drugs (nothing hardcore though).
During that time I was spiralling downwards and downwards and just getting overall worse. Then I had a buddy who was going down the same road as I attempt suicide and luckily failed at it but the shit woke me up. I stopped from doing any substances at all and spent a year sobered up. It was hard, God damn was it ever tough to just cold turkey it all out but Months after I've cleaned up I felt the weight of my depression and anxieties lift up and get better.
Now I'll drink and have an occasional toke but only touch substances a small slight fraction of the time that I used to and things couldn't be better. I have my days and moods but every person does.
Tl;dr lay off the stuff and you'll feel better

> it isn't to the point where i spend every waking moment intoxicated

It definitely sounds like it, taking red bull and amphetamines in the morning and weed and alcohol at night.

> Being a little intoxicated actually seems to unlock the doors in my head and let the REAL me out.

No, it's fucking you up, you're hiding from your problems by getting intoxicated and the amphetamines and red bull are making your anxiety a million times worse. I would strongly advise you to stop using any drugs for a while until you can be happy sober. You're romanticizing your drug use and you can't start getting better until you stop, you even admit that you're addicted. Then I would suggest reading about cognitive behavioral therapy, get a book on it.

>>17590842
Dude, it's hard to explain but you'll know. It goes beyond lust. You almost can't help but come off as a beta for a bit. You're extremely nervous, mental tingles, can't sleep because the person dominates your mind... you'll just know

love doesn't work that way.

what you "feel" only lasts for a few months, at most. it is a neurological change.. your brain chemistry changes a bit

the purpose is to get you to pair bond and then have sex, and then pass on your genes.

the feeling that you think you're looking for (and that hollywood glorifies) is 100% biological

and many breakups, and divorces assume that they should feel like they felt in the "new relationship phase" forever. but of course, the brain chemistry wears off, so you won't feel like that forever.

then what?

when the chemical attraction subsides a bit, and you, when in a clear state of mind, decide that you would sacrifice your own happiness... even your own life.. to improve the happiness of this woman.. and then you are able to reliable act on that sentiment without feeling resentful... then you are are doing love.

The english language only has one word for "love". The early Greek versions of the bible had 3 different words that all get translated to "love" in english, but in the Bible, they mean different things. Much of the bible talks about "servant love", which has a connotation of what you do to and for someone else because you wish to serve them.

That's the stuff long term relationships are made of. Very few boys and girls are brought up that way in our society, however.

>>17590842
>when you act like this
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6vYnas6q3Sg

it's just chemical bru

how old are you two?

what denomination(s)? do you go to church together?

how long was the engagement? did you do any pre-marital counseling at the church?

>>17590805
Sounds like bullshit to me.

She's not happy about something, and is filtering it all through her faith to produce a faith-based reason for breaking up with you.

I'm not saying she's left you for Chad.

For all I know she broke up with you as a form of self-harm... but bottom line is the STATED reason is a load of crap.

>>17590907
> She's not happy about something, and is filtering it all through her faith to produce a faith-based reason for breaking up with you.

This

> For all I know she broke up with you as a form of self-harm

Not this.

Don't wait for her, it's fucking over. You just weren't satisfying her or something about your relationship wasn't working out. also she's saying that stuff about missing you because she does, and she likes you as a person and doesn't want to hurt you, she likes you as a person but not as a lover.

> but I can't stop shaking the feeling I was meant to be married to her, grow old and have kids someday.

The quicker you let go of this the quicker you'll heal. Seriously, stop thinking this garbage because it can haunt you for years if you don't move on. Go find another Christian girl and move on.

>>17590795
Ughh, fucking polygraphs. Cant believe its still a thing even when the inventor said its just a toy. Its hard to say if they're subtly trying to discriminate you.

How was your past with marijuana?

>>17590832
I know right? I just think it is a vetting tool that they use for applicants they deem "just not right."
I smoked marijuana 6 times between the age of 15 and 18. The ploygraph examiner told me "The machine is showing a reaction to those questions." "Your generation is known for smoking a lot of marijuana- I would believe the 65 year old man next door, but not you." While I didn't say anything, I found that comment odd because generationally I would say marijuana was more popular in the adolescence of that age group. Interesting process that I don't think I'll go through ever again.

>>17590795
No wonder cops are all a bunch of dick bags nowadays. Anyone who has never smoked pot is a tight ass grumpy butt, and everyone who did and made it is a spectacular liar.
Reminds me of an article I saw,about how the FBI can't find any really good computer guys to hire because they all smoke pot.
They're shooting themselves in the foot. OP sounds like a stand up guy who is being honest about being a normal teenager. But everyone should know, that in any kind of government job, honesty is a one way ticket to ass-rape station.

>>17590754
>I dont want any drama in my last year.
Then don't give her any attention. You said that asking her what she's doing will give her attention, so don't do it. Ignore her, continue life as normal. You'll only have drama if you invite it.

>>17590760
This.

Just sneer, dont make eye contact, don't give attention. If you're not entirely beta, id suggest making awkward moments on purpose. Make her and her friends feel awkward for tons of WIN!

I promise you, some of the best stories in life are awkward ones, but certainly dont embarrass yourself or make it too cringey. Side benefit is experimenting and internalizing good social skills for future use, get over any small amounts of social anxiety you may have, but you seem well put together already

>>17590814
Nah i got over my anxiety and shit during the relationship. I started dating her because we were both shut ins who found stuff in common.

"Okay cool he can come"

Depends on how butthurt you are

>>17590748
What if she actually brings him lol