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Damned if you do, damned if you don't. Give yourself up as a fraud. Admit your shortcoming. That's the best way for everyone involved, but you'll be embarrassed and your reputation will sink.

Alternatively, you could do the surgery. But they'll probably die and you'll be sued, with your reputation tarnished.

>>17593523
I would just quit. Walk away and the patient won't die by your hands.

I have my doubts that you could cheat this hard and make it to clinicals, but you need to give yourself up. If you fuck up they are going to look into why you did so badly, and they will investigate and catch you. And you will be held liable for the damages the patient undergoes. If they die that means manslaughter, maybe even 2nd degree murder.

>>17593446
No.
Just stop deciding what your girlfriend should look like before you've even met her.

>>17593464
This

Also, you sure you're not homosex op?

>>17593464
Impossible. I've tried dating other girls and I legitimately can't feel any romantic or sexual feelings for girls besides this type.

>>17593471
I do think about dicks a lot, but otherwise have zero interest in guys, so yes.

she wanted physical contact over pen pals


either to look for it, or found it

>>17593435
lol who knows. this seems to happen a lot

Sort of henpecked. You sends long message, and she answers formal short message

>>17593402
>bring cute doggy to date
>take woman home
>lock doggy out of bedroom and fill its bowl
>plow her

if you forget step 3 youre a monster

>>17593402
Relax for starters, as of right now it's just another person

Secondly, go out and have a drink together. A little bit of liquor will ease tensions for both of you. Then just take it from there

>>17593432
We're going out to a restaurant. She's 24 and I'm 19, so I can't have drinks in the restaurant, she probably will though.

Should I smoke some weed beforehand? She knows I smoke weed, but I don't know if she would want me to be high on a date

>>17593385
>What should I do?

First off, stop texting her 24/7. Save those conversations for when you're in person.

Secondly, stop being a shoulder to cry on and letting her talk about her ex like that.

Third, stop beating around bush/making excuses and just kiss her already.

As far as the other guy, I wouldn't be too concerned. If she truly likes you, she'll stick with you, but you need to make a move soon, or she'll lose attraction. Maybe you can try to convince her and take her to your homecoming instead and kiss her then? If she's stuck with Panjeet, don't flip your shit. As I said, just take her out and make a move soon.

>>17593470
>>17593470
It's homecoming at another school, ours isn't for like a month. But you do have a point about the texting. Idk about the ex thing cause he apperently bitched her out. I just said she could vent, she said thanks and called me sweet a bunch--it was just a text or two about it. I said we could get coffee tomorrow to cheer her up. She had to babysitt so she speed off before I could make a move

>>17594213
By tomorrow I mean yesterday now

>>17593329
I used to work as a mechanical engineering consultant and most of or projects had the architect as the lead consultant. Architects go to at least 7 years of school, some of that interning at a firm. After graduating they continue working to the path towards licensure, and accruing other credentials. Their actual work at the firm will likely start low as a draftsman working in autocad or revit, learning the various building codes. They also need to know the basics of mechanical, civil, structural, electrical engineering as well as landscaping, sustainability, fire protection, etc. They'll start to assist in managing projects until they're able to manage their own multiple projects. Much of the day is spent coordinating with the other trades and contractors and night is the only time left for design. I'm speaking mostly from the commercial industry but even if you go into residential design, no one will hire you unless you have a reputation. Reputations are built churning out soulless projects like targets and store spaces in minimalls. Enjoy.

>>17593369
Gotcha. In that case, I'll just spend my savings on a shotgun and a single shell.

>>17593329
>>17593369
Talking about Europe but here you study for 5 years which includes internship or in some programs, you do it in one year before graduating, so it is 6 years all together.
But schools are free or really cheap and you get government support to live.
If you are more active, you can work already when you study. The most important is that you have great rendering skills, which some who like IT and working with various programmes, have already before school. You just need to have a decent portfolio and when it comes to rendering, you can just make some famous building or your own unpaid project.
I have thought of studying architecture but don't want to settle right now. Also, working for someone else doesn't attract me.
But if you really like something, you will be successful at it. Interest and self reliance are the main characteristics that differentiate "normal" and successful students

Surprisingly this post is super germane today...

Made a fucking LOOOOONG post chain in another thread about how I did exactly that (Be warned: It's a legit 10 posts long)

>>17592512 →

The TL;DR of it (there's one in that thread too), i took baby steps and forced myself to be in positions that would make me grow as a person, even when shit sucked and I was at my wits end.

>>17593269
I didn't have crippling anxiety but I did have a really bad case of PTSD, I was ambushed and attacked by a group of dudes that I didn't get along with in college. When I reported the crime to the cops, they didn't do shit because they thought it was just a bunch of kids rough housing, so I also gained an extreme hatred for cops. On top of all this I refused to tell my parents because they would never let me forget it. So I bottled it all up for a long while. Eventually I didn't want to explain why I didn't want to go to college so I learned the times the schools and halls are the least crowded, walked the long routes to avoid large crowds, took internet classes. If I needed to speak to someone I asked or said what I needed to and left, if the want to talk I listened. I eventually saw a phych but she was kinda shitty to honest, but it felt better to tell someone about what happened. In time, things got better, I got work, I got my masters and even keep in touch with a couple of friends. I don't have many gf's but beggars and choosers.

If you see somebody who could do with some help, give it to them, you will interact with people and feel good after you've done it.

I'm Sorry. Take time to think about all this and write it down. You are still in the shock stage.

>>17593317
This and talk to someone about it?
He's not gay....he's a paedophile...

>>17593252

trust me when i saw ur not alone, though my dad was far less subtle about it. started touching me inappropriately and ended up molesting me through most of highschool.

When you say wealthy, I am assuming a trust fund kid.

>>17593249
I have a high paying job but yeah thanks to mommy and daddy's money.

>>17593257
I mean it really doesn't make a difference. At least he admits it and doesn't try to claim he got to where he was with pure determination and smarts

>>17593193
You can hold a conversation for 10 minutes?! I thought three minutes was good

anon if you figure it out please let me know. im horrible at conversations with people.

>>17593201
Well idk it's not like i count the minutes but compared to how others talk about nothing for hours it's not much really

Don't bother. She isn't interested in you that way.

>>17593143
ok will do

>>17593143
why would she send me a friend request after all those years? It's not like we ever talked or anything.

If you were sick, are you sure you're not still sick?

read take notes and memorize. even if you have to write something down 3 times and say it outloud make sure you memorize the important things.

>>17593146
Still got a bit of a cough and residual symptoms. I guess that coupled with the sudden realization of how much I missed has thrown me for a loop.
>>17593194
I'll give that a try with the notes I got to catch up on, thanks for the idea

>>17593106

Maybe your body and mind needs a break or it might be pressure to perform.

Hows the relationship between your mom other than that? How's the relationship life?
Do you live with your mom?

>>17593106

How long has this been going on OP?

>>17593163
Yeah I live with her, the relationship has been very rocky since childhood. It's not all bad it has it's ups, downs, or just in the middle. I mostly just remember the middle and downs (could just be my pessimistic personality.) We don't really have compatible personalities.
>>17593166
Since the end of spring this year

that's a good way develop some kind of infection, i'm sure

>>17593104
this is what i used to think sex was

>>17593161
Optimal.

just be yourself

I would advise to become one of his harem... but by your description he's the opposite of a harem lead. Tough luck.

Maybe you can sublimate your feelings into friendship?

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>>17593150
I've done this and he didn't appreciate.
Stuttering naive girls don't attract him.

>>17593155
I am trying to be a friend and can act politely cold when i talk to him irl.
After that i can't wait to tell everything about him, including how i stalk him on facebook to my best friend.

Can you even live with an obsession over someone you don't see as a romantic partner?

He is a perfect role model and likes the same bizarro crap i secretly like, i simply can't