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I feel your pain anon. I've had the same issue. Even when I found someone with the same interests I couldn't really get that deeper connection.

I've come to realize that your just can't rely on others 100% of the time. They are almost always just temporary distractions made to help you forget your faults.

My only advise is to try and get yourself into a small circle of friends. That way if one lets you down there is always another to fall back on. Just make sure you don't get excluded from the group and left behind. That's a really shitty feeling.

>>17590213
>to try and get yourself into a small circle of friends
this is one of the things I was looking for but I still can't find one person, let alone a whole group.

And if I have to act aloof among this circle, it's no different than acting aloof with everyone else.

I have a 'group' with my roommates but they gossip, are loud and it as if I'm in middle school again.
Maybe I'm approaching the situation wrong.
I don't want to sound arrogant about that. I just know those that gossip often gossip about you. And they don't have much for you other acting as
>temporary distractions
which I completely agree with you on. I was just wondering whether I should still try, even though my hopes are dim.

Thanks for advice

anyone should be considered lucky to have even a couple of good friends by the time that they are old

>>17590069

Why would you ruin someones party for stupid reason like that.
Grow up...

>>17590069
Peak resentment, this is dumb and pathetic.

>>17590086
Grow up freak, my brother wasn't invited thats why. Also they are drinking and they are underage.

>>17590089
How about you give advice or fuck off

>>17590067
Put a million dollars in the bank and live off the interest. It was the smartest thing I ever did. I retired at 28. Now I only work when I want something extra.

>>17590067
what trade if you don't mind me asking ? I'm looking into my options as a 27 year old loser with liberal arts undergrad degree that never did much for me.

Learn a language.

It's one of the most rewarding things you can ever do if you apply it in real life. The next time you go somewhere, you could make connections. it's be even more impressive if you learned it yourself.

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Less though when the opportunities present themselves to me though. I don't know why that is, but I tend to feel fine when say, someone approaches me to talk to me for example.

Anyways, today an opportunity to do something fun, new and exciting presented itself to me. Someone in the hall at school was handing out flyers for an outing on the weekend. $30 to go and it actually seemed pretty fun. However it conflicted with my work schedule so I can't go. It dawned on me that this has happened numerous times, almost always whenever an opportunity to go out and actually do something other than "hangout" presents itself it always conflicts with my school and work. I really don't have very many college friends desu, most of my friends are friends I've had from highschool that went right to work and live on very different schedules than me.

Anyways, to the actual topic at hand. I was talking to my friend about this realization and he said that it might be a good idea to look into moving out. It'll give me a push out of my comfort zone and simply living in the city I go to school will simply make it easier for me to... well.... live.

Don't get me wrong, I want to move out. I absolutely fucking loath this town. There's absolutely nothing to do if your over 10 and under 50. However my parents are super against it, and even though I'm an adult that can make my own decisions every time I brought it up with them they were so pushy with their opinion I kinda felt like I didn't have a choice but to do what they said.

It was your typical "It's cheaper to live at home, you can't afford it blahblahblah" stuff. Too be fair they don't try to hold me back socially, if I were to say I'm going to the bar/a party/whatever they wouldn't care. Basically they think I can't afford it, and in all honesty I'm a little inclined to believe them.

But anyways, is my friend right? Do you think that even though money might be a bit of an issue sometimes it would be good for me?

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I've been wondering the same thing.
I think it's a comfort zone thing. When you live at home you're in your comfort zone and the thought of going outside of that (ie. socializing, doing new things) is daunting. But if you lived on your own in a new place you wouldn't have a comfort zone to hide in and you would be forced to adapt or slink back home to your parents.
Anyway, I'm in the same predicament as you and would like to move out as well. But it is very expensive...

>>17590105
Is living at home for school just a surefire way to ensure you don't have fun?

On the flip side I have friends telling me that if I can't afford to move out I can't afford to move out, and I just have to accept that means college might be a little boring.

Porn is unhealthy for most people. For most people, it warps expectations of sex.

Alternatives are always better.

>>17589986
Yeah but I'm fapping to someone I'm going to work in class with until December. If I don't somehow seduce her with my virgin magic wouldn't all the fapping make me awkward?

Note: I'm restraining myself as I type this.

>fapping to thoughts

she's going to know and you'll start getting creepier and creepier to her

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>>17589971
>Sure these women will sleep with him but can split up with him at the drop of a hat.
Fucking redpillers. Leave the cancer in the containment boards, creep.

>>17589989
white knighting self centered women intensifies.

These women will put their careers before their relationships/family

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So you personally had a bad experience so you're going to try to tell your friend this is what happens 100% of the time?
Ok.

>>17589962
Get her involved in communities for things she's interested in. I'm assuming college age, so find clubs, political groups, whatever. They're usually small groups, so not terribly challenging or intimidating.

I'm an introvert myself, but at some point, you need to get out if you want to meet new people.

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>>17589990

Yes, she is in college, the last phrase, exactly what I said, I'm glad I'm not the only one thinking this way.

About clubs, she's willing to do it, she doesn't have nobody to go with her, yet ...

Political groups sounds good, didn't think about that one.

Thanks for the advices

>>17590023
Dress up and walk around a black neighborhood at night. She'll meet people.

Don't do it for pay.
Get ready to hit the books.
Most of the times you aren't saving anyone.
Hope you like gore

All said, go for it. It's a great thing to do

>>17589995
>Don't do it for pay.
Money is always last thing one my mind

>Get ready to hit the books.
I'm sure I could manage. My friend is doing EMT training, College and working 2 jobs currently. If she could do it, I'm sure I could do it with a lesser workload

>Most of the times you aren't saving anyone.
Yep. I know.

>Hope you like gore
Does not phase me.


(My district only get's ~5 call outs of any type daily. That's Fire and EMS combined)

A career as an EMT considered as a midlife crisis proof career?

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As of this post, the rate of acceptance for transfer students in 2016 was 24.2% at UC Berkeley.

/r/berkeley

now fuck off

>>17589925
I don't have enough comment karma to post there.

>>17589877
Chad will. If you only want Chad, then yes, enjoy being just another replaceable bitch.

>>17589877

Most people would. Morality is something you adhere to publicly while pursuing your self interest privately. It's easy enough to rationalize this behavior after the fact.

Nope. Even if no one else did, I would know, and that's enough for me to be against it.

Self-respect is a thing. If you believe no one else has it and can't sympathize with that, your worldview is kind of fucked up (not necessarily blaming you for that, but that is your reality).

im almost 25. ive been kissed on the cheek twice by non family members.
1. 75 yr old woman at supermarket i didnt know
2. one girl prob 18 when i was 19 she did it as a thankyou for taking her picture with her friends.
im telling you this to make if you feel better if youre alot younger than me im pretty novice

>>17590005
I am a lot younger than you, thanks.

>>17590005
should have asked for her number

That's just not true.

>Not having them sign a consent form and getting it notarized

Have fun with jail

>>17589867
Just wait till they pass out, then if they do cry rape you know they aren't lying.

Sounds like he's either on a rebound or loneliness got him so hard that he decided to try for you. Investigate.

>>17589856
Try to spend more time with him alone. You don't have to ask him out exactly; keep it a bit ambiguous. You'll end up progressively closer together and eventually end up dating if he does like you. If not, no loss. He's probably interested but just concerned about being rejected. Rejection hurts more as a guy, because guys can't be ambiguous about asking the way girls can.

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>>17589856
You have got to SUCK his fucking COCK! COOOOOOCCCCCCCCKKKKKK!

>>17589848
Time. Go do shit completely unrelated to her. Lift, hang out with friends, get fucked up, but have fun. Enjoy yourself with people you like and things you like. You don't need her to make you happy.

>>17590000

>Time.
I'm not OP but how much time? It's been 3 years since the love of my life decided to fuck around literally a week before I was planning on proposing and I still can't look at a picture of her without feeling like utter trash.
wat do?

>>17590021
This is meme shit, but get a hobby and focus on what makes you happy. Just ignore what she does, she's irrelevant now. You're the only person who can make you happy, so do it. Stop pitying yourself. Take charge. You got this, man

>>17589803
Bump

What needs fixing

People who talk too much, very rarely have anything of value to say, and their words hold little value to listeners, people who'd rather listen than talk, talk mostly when they have interesting things to share or important words that can't be left unsaid, and these words hold very high value to listeners.