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If you are sure about this, better break up before a divorce is needed or kids are involved

You're not going to have a relationship with her, romantic or otherwise, if you break up.

>>17587825
that's a price that I can pay. I just know that I really do not want to spend the rest of my life with her.

> I even said that i don't watch porn, even though i do, just so he won't ask what kind.

Why? Is your taste in porn so out there? Is it something he can't compete with on any level (e.g. have two dicks)?

> I think the problem is that i'm insecure and selfconscious af.

I think you are right. Don't you feel secure with him though?

>>17587832
interracial gangbang stuffs

>>17587802
Sex is trust. You have to trust yourself. You have to trust him. He has to trust you.
My first question is, "Do you know what it takes to get yourself off?"

>>17587756
Are you a middle aged woman?

> harmless/normal/healthy bullshit that's just a little rough

What is this shit?

And did you have a question?

Male and female brains are not the same if thats what you were wondering

If you have no sex drive, go to the doctor immediately.

>>17587711
No, but everyone else knows what you are: some dumb freshman with a head too far up his ass.

Don't worry, you'll laugh at how retarded you were in a few years.

>>17587718
Rather presumptuous, no? You don't know me senpai.

I don't think I talk "intelligently" because I curse a lot and use a lot of slang/jokes, but people often say they know I'm smart? So you could just be one of those. I know a lot of the more blue-collar people I work with kinda resent the way a talk. Which isn't snooty, just a good vocabulary and probably obvious knowledge set.

So if you're talking BETTER it might be because you're getting edjamucated.
If it's just SNOOTIER, it's because of what anon said >>17587718

write everything you know about the subject matter down on paper, in no particular order

arrange into paragraphs and structure accordingly

write an introduction and conclusion

word count, then fluff out or cut as needed

Get off 4chan. Stop everything you're doing and start now

Write an introduction with three topics, do a basic skeleton of the topics and a conclusion etc etc

then just keep fleshing it the fuck out until you hit your cap

nice thing about this method is it stays organised

good luck anon

>>17587655
Consult a lawyer if you can, depending on where you live you might be able to do something.
Most important thing is obviously to get your uncle out of your life. If that means severing ties with your family because they're siding with him then so be it.
You're 22 years old, your uncle shouldn't even have access to your room.

he touched you once, years ago? what does he do all these other nights? just watch you?

your country should have a help line for this type of abuse, try calling it and take their advise?

>>17587655
nice dubs.
get help. therapy and legally.

Good luck. You are stronger than you give yourself credit for, trust me.

>>17587641
You only stop when you finally grind him down into submission.

>I start the fight

Stop doing that then. My first real boyfriend I fought with all the time time. The excitement of anger and making up was a roller coaster I really enjoyed. Of course, the relationship was toxic and awful. We were both addicted to the constant drama, but it fucked with our lives and didn't exactly make for stable partnership.

My current (six years this month woo!) boyfriend will NOT fight me. He's mature enough to refuse, and over time, I've learned how to not be a stupid cunt.

Since your bf apparently can't help but be drawn into it/occasionally starts it (I assume), you're just going to have to work on it yourself.

It's stupid and unhealthy.

>>17587641
Stop starting the fights?

If you're not happy with each other just dump him.
It doesn't matter how much you love each other, if you're unhappy and fight all the time it's not going to last.

"How does creativity come into play in hard science/mathematical fields where you need to learn how rules interact to understand their relationships, see patterns, and discover new concepts?"

I'm thinking maybe you're just retarded since you apparently drank the creative/uncreative dichotomy kool-aid without much examination of the issue.

>>17587665
>I'm thinking maybe you're just retarded

Cool, thanks

>>17587639
>who told me I should start trying to think about math "creatively"

I bet they also didn't even try to explain what they meant by "creatively" either

you've been under the wrong impression the entire time if you truly believed those people

so it's no wonder you still don't get it.

Now for the actual question

what is the highest level of "math" that you are capable of?

you've already established you can't do Algebra if I read your post correctly

>tfw want to drop out of school and be an artist
How did you go wrong?

>>17587618
whether you move out or go to college, both will end up with you staying a NEET

What do you even want an art degree?

your first order of business is to at least find a part-time job if you don't already have one, and I can guarantee you that what you can learn at an art school you can learn on your own

so if the only reason you want to go to art school is the knowledge and skill, then learn on your own, unless you're stupid, in which case you'll need to pay someone to teach you.

>>17587618
I went back to school, to art school.

understand the following:

no job guarantee
crippling debt (I'm $100,000 in and did community college for two years)

convenient access to a shitton of resources you would not otherwise have, including but not limited to: wisdom of professionals, materials/equipment/devices, programs, other artists
a degree

don't go in looking for a way out, go in knowing what you want and seeing it as a way to get there, if you even do decide to go in.

I think it would be beneficial for you to just get out there and experience the outside world a bit more. You have an extremely unhealthy mindset too (>both paths lead to crippling depression), so I suggest you find some way to work that out. Maybe Cognitive Behaviour Therapy.

>>17587578
don't do what isn't comfortable. if she can't accept that then she's not for you.

>>17587578
This is kind of anecdotal but whatever.

When I started dating my gf, I honestly found her to be a 6/10. We were set up by friends and got along so whatever. Somehow over the two years we have been dating idk if her appearance changed or if I just look at her diff but she's a solid 8/10 IMO. Things change. If your personalities fit that's the most important thing. Let her appearance grow on you over time.

Also, yes of course kiss her on the first date, when you drop her off maybe

>>17587586
I could see that happening, I was thinking that must happen over time. And is it like 100% yea kiss her on the first date or not, because honestly I'm autistic but she kind of is too

>>17587576
>How do i get better at life in general?

you live it.

go outside and live it

>>17587587
>go outside and live it

if you can only manage to shit facebook-tier responses you have no business posting on /adv/

>>17587576

>How do I get better at life in general?

This depends heavily where you are situated.

If your from Turkey or Ukraine or some other country I've never lived in there is little useful advice I could give

Remember if you want real answers give real information all I'm getting out of this is you play vidya and browse imgur/tumblr/reddit a lot.

and also the fact you have 0 skills of any worth

>>17587712
>implying staying inside all the time is more beneficial than going out and doing activities in a place where one can build offline social skills and experience more of the world

>>17587562
Respect her.
The fact that you need to jack off doesn't mean that she has to do something she's uncomfortable with just to make you happy.

Ask her to sext without sending pics, or to do phone sex, or other things.

>>17587568
That's a wrap bois!

>>17587562
you'll need to build comfort over time. It's very understandable why she wouldn't want to send nudes. maybe camming or snapchatting would be better for her mentally, something where you can ease into it.

Or, cyber with her. Explain that sex is part of a healthy relationship and you'd like to simulate this with her. Don't pressure her. Ease into it, building up as time goes by and she should become more comfortable.

But dude nudes in this day and age are instant blackmail. For me it would help if I could get in writing that the person will never share or post to the internet so I can sue their ass if they do.

>>17587504

This video is the closest thing I have to advice on dealing with stupid people, OP:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FaCHBmGWcBc

>>17587504
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=du035tg-SwY

>>17587508
stop please

>>17587498
inb4 breakup

it's inevitable. there are also things that aren't being said between you two. you need a "put everything out there" talk. also look up mental/emotional abuse and see how you and her do that to each other.

>>17587498
>calm guy
>she's confrontational

Uhhhhhh yeah break up. I had the same situation. Just fuck it. Breaking up with that bitch was the best decision I ever made.

We love each other very much.

>>17587477
the obvious answer is nice dubs.

the obvious question is have you contacted or thought about contacting your parents or other relatives? friends or associates of his? just showing up (with a trusted friend/neutral party that can facilitate/mediate/record for potential court case)

>>17587477
Contact the police, as I assume if family could help, you would have spoken with them already.

The little degenerate has left you no choice.

>>17587506
He has completely discontented himself from our entire family. The rest of our family is always trying to come in contact with him and see him but he wants nothing to do with them. I used to be the last person in our family that he would talk to but not anymore.

>>17587528
If the police were to get involved with anything even come of it?