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it's gross and it takes forever for the water to drain. like hours.

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I've just broken up with a girl for reasons. I was her first. I talked to her face to face. I feel like complete shit right now. What can I do to reduce the pain? What approach do I have to take to not feel so terrible?

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Ok /adv/ you guys always have my back and I believe someone can help me. This is a story…
TL:DR
>Buddy’s phone was on 1% for 60 minutes with full brightness and no low power mode playing audio via aux cord.
>I heard my friend who passed away early august sing along with the music or through the music idk, he was singing with us, we used to sing old school songs all the time when we worked at Panera
>Buddy of mine lost a friend not too long, same as me.
>She spoke to him the night before
>Sang with us the same night

My buddy and me smoked in a tiki hut at 2 am when we were hella drunk and stupid stoned. Now being crossfaded is one thing but get this… Me and my buddy has just lost friends not too long ago, the night before we were smoking my friend got real quiet and said that she (the girl he knew that died in a car crash) was talking to him and saying sorry about driving like a dick, and she was sorry, now just two more parts bear with me. I lost a good buddy that I had worked with for years, we used to sing old school songs when we closed where he would say a line then I would finish it. We would be belting out the songs by the end of the night.. Now my buddys phone is at three percent when he asks me to give it to him and we plug it in to the aux and he says shit one percent. Now there is NO charging of the phone at all, maximum brightness, all that shit. As the songs went along I got quiet, Rob was singing with me, I heard his voice and as I heard it I got goosebumps, it felt like we were in Panera, I didn’t visual it but the sounds and the vibe I was feeling, screamed that we were at Panera, my buddy’s girlfriend was worried so she snapped me out of whatever I was doing, I said wait? I was singing with rob why’d you do that? As the songs went on we were out there for 60 minutes listening to old school songs on one percent. I gotta ask you, what do you take from that story, There’s no possible explanation right?

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So, when I meet people, specially girls IRL I seem to be liked a lot. They laugh at my jokes, they genuinely look interested in what I say and are engaged in the conversation, etc. I have instances where they would initiate physical contact, ask me for my number, or faccebook, and so on. Even give me their number after telling me they have a boyfriend.
The thing is, when I go to talk to them online, or on the phone, they could give less of a fuck. Seriously, be it that I want to hang out as a friend, or go on a date, or fucking whatever, people will not reply to me, they will never agree to go out to do something with me, etc. I end up being left alone. The only moments I can meet people and have fun and enjoy being social is when I see them face to face. After that, poof, the relationship is gone, even if THEY asked me for my contact information.
Any help?

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Is it acceptable for me to ask this girl I like to homecoming? I figured it would be a good thing for me to do since we've never talked but I like her. I just haven't known how to start anything without looking like a complete beta. The only problem is she goes to a different school than me. Acceptable or no? Would it be weird to basically be asking her to her own school's homecoming? (my school already had theirs.)

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I have just killed a massive spider that was in my room because i was too scared to pick it up. now i feel guilty. help me.

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Is it queer for men to put their phone in their back pocket?

>age
>gender
>where do you put your phone

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It's happened /adv/ I can't deal with this crisis, tearing my mind apart.

It's a depression caused by a philosophical realisation I came to about the world. For a long time I was an existentialist, I felt the world had no meaning, no loving creator, no reason.

I never had an existential crisis per se, because I always felt that there was a slim chance of meaning existing in the universe, and that through creating an idealised self I could have something to strive toward.

However, I realised that this didn't solve my problem. I felt completely and utterly scrupulous at all times, with this idealised self hanging over me, knowing I could never hope to live up to it's standards of morale behaviour, self-love and good attitude. I felt bad that there was no way I could live up to it.

Then it hit me, the depression of the world exists on both sides. Either you face the sad situation of knowing nothing you do is meaningful and are depressed, or you invent a purpose and reason to exist be it God, an idealised self etc, and realise that there is no way you can live up to that purpose or the standards it then sets on your life.

There is no escape from the bitter depression of the self. Either you languish with no purpose, or drown in the angst caused by not living to your purpose.

It's impossible, help /adv/

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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.

>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out. If you can't automatically intuit this, the only way to build up that intuition is experience. So ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online. (See above. Start somewhere, build experience.)

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.

>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.

>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.

>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off.

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How do I get over a fear of public speaking?

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Hey guys

About a month ago I had the worst string of panic attacks in my life. I couldn't stop shaking for nearly 2 days, got nausea and vomited. I was convinced I had brain cancer. I even cried a few times for seemingly NO REASON, which further supported the brain tumor idea.. When I went to the doctor and had abnormal liver enzymes (AST 67 ALT 94) I was convinced it was the end. The cancer had spread to my liver from my brain.

I got another liver test and came back normal, saw a neurologist and be said it's all anxiety.

I saw a psychiatrist on the 8th and started cymbalta. Since then I haven't been able to shake the feeling that I'm loosing it. Everything feels like a dream. Sometimes I have a hard time sorting my memories. Confusing some dream memories with real life. Last night I had a vivid nightmare and was upset for a few minutes, it took me two minutes to realize it was all a dream

I'm also having existential issues. Why am I here, what is the point, am I going crazy, society is so fragile, life is so fragile...

A few days ago I was driving home and on my way I saw a mailbox and firehydrant. In the corner of my eye. I was sure it was a person about to step in the road. Like 99%. When I looked at it for a second I realized it was just a mailbox

Sometimes I will think I hear a phone ringing.

I have had this happen before. I've also had delusions of medical problems. I was convinced I had a brain tumor a while back. I also have small sparks or flashes light in my vision ocassionally, especially when moving my head. I have had it looked at my an Opthomoligist and they said my eyes are fine.

After all of this, I started researching and noticed that many of these symptoms appear to be the signs of early schizophrenia
. My Symptoms: Derealization, Brain Fog, random messed up thoughts, replaying music in my head, Illusions, and anxiety.

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anyone else here feel like they have zero control over the decisions they make or how well/bad they come out?
Literally all I want at this point is to be fucking better at life. but no matter what i do I'll always end up as bad as i started when i first realized everything i do is shit

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How can i live a hermits life? How can i avoid people at all costs?

Im coming to the conclusion that i am nothing but a negative influence on the world and its the core of my being. Ive tried getting better and i only hate myself, and often everyone else, more.

The realization i dont havr the guts to kill myself haunts me at minimum every half hour. I hate myself and need to die but cant. I dont even want to talk to my family ever again. I feel like theyd miss me at first but overall itd be a good thing, theyd come to see it too i think.

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Is fingering a girl to orgasm equivalent to a handjob? Is a blowjob equivalent to eating her out?

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Okay, so there's this girl that I tried to go for a while back and we never ended up dating but we are good friends. I recently texted her after not talking for a couple months and she seems to be having some issues with her boyfriend. What do I do so that I don't appear to be coming on or trying to take advantage of her while she's rather vulnerable. By the way she doesn't seem to be the best at responding and I also dont want to seem desperate. What do?