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I used to be an awful person. A banal kind of evil. I'm trying to become better and in many ways I did grow over the years but I still catch myself fucking up on a weekly basis. It's like I'm compelled to say hurtful things when socializing in a group setting because I feel the need to quickly retort to the comments of others with something funny or clever. I never think that what I'm saying isn't alright while I'm saying it but later realize that I've crossed a line. There's this one woman who I've accidentally insulted then apologized to again and again over months. At this point I'm so embarrassed that I might just stop seeing the group of friends which she is part of. How many times can you expect someone to forgive you, really?
How do I stop being a compulsive jerk?
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>>17720379
Weed
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>>17720379
Practice.
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>>17720400
The reaction is borderline pavlovian. Someone says something and I immediately respond before I even consciously process what's going on. At other times there's a lull in the conversation and I similarly immediately try to fill it.
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Does the male virginity matter? 2016-10-30 23:04:57 Post No.17720361
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Does the male virginity matter?
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Assuming someone's at a point where losing it wouldn't in question; should the person/environment matter or should one take what he can get?
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>>17720361
is this your convoluted way of asking if oyu shoudl get a hooker?
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>>17720361
Nobody cares about your virginity, do whatever the hell you want.
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>>virginity important?
Virginity is only as important as you make it. Just like you first road-trip or your first time ice-skating.
It is what you make it.
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So the family is over for dinner right now and my mom says to her husband, "you treat me like a slave nigger." How do I fix this? Mom tried saying sorry and it was only a joke, and now she's in the bathroom putting on makeup for her costume.
Thing is my mom doesn't even dislike her or black people in general. She just literally has zero fucking filter and now a word she uses in private was just used in front of my girlfriend who is literally from Zimbabwe.
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>>17720357
It'd be an easier solution to explain that your mom is just wacky and has zero filter but isn't a racist than trying to fix her. If she still didn't learn it by now, there is pretty low chance she ever will.
Even if your gf and mom won't become best friends, as long your gf can tolerate her shit it should be fine, no?
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>>17720357
You could avoid this by getting a nice white girlfriend.
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>>17720357
Maybe your mom is trying to get rid of her.
Pic unrelated.
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Ask me your questions about anything and everything
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Why should I?
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>>17720344
That's a good question but u don't have to ask me anything
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How can I learn to be confident with my body
I'm not fat, but I'm not skinny either. I'm just weak and pasty and soft on the edges, and my boobs are too far apart.
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Is there always inherently a dark side to another person?
Just asking because I think girls are people who have no souls
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>>17720307
>they dont all love me
>so they must have no souls
lol
>is there always inherently a dark side to another person
depends on your definition, but yeah you can argue that everyone has some dark thoughts, secrets, etc.
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>>17720307
Well, yes. People ARE allowed to keep secrets.
And you're just jaded. Get off r9k and quit poisoning yourself with those cartoonish representations of women and men.
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Yes OP. Never trust anyone until you've learned their dark side. Also know that energy goes both ways, so the better a person is, the worse they usually are as well.
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Is teaching in the USA as shitty as information is telling me it's going to be? I'm a 19 year old male, in college, and I want to pursue a career in education, probably in English or Math, History/Social Studies if I was really lucky. I love teaching, and I love the atmosphere of passing on knowledge to younger students (I want to teach at a highschool level). However, I'm worried that the combination of pay, shitty funding for education as a whole, and kind of being treated like shit by everyone in American society, it'll be a hard job to enjoy, despite my passion for it. Is it like this all around the world, or would I find teaching more fulfilling in other countries?
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>>17720302
Math. You'll be an actual asset. English teachers aren't worth the paper they're printed on.
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>>17720324
Not really what I was asking for in terms of advice, but I'll keep your wise wise words in mind, friend.
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Just pray you don't have to teach at a """"""urban""""" school. Around blacks, never relax.
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I'm a guy with lots of love to share. I don't believe in serious monogamous relationships, but I'd like to. I'd like to have a girl by my side, but seems that all the girls that I find interesting or attractive already have boyfriends.
How to solve this?
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Don't be twelve, have something to offer
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Check out Polyamory.
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I'm not sure what you're asking. How do you solve not having a girlfriend or not being able to find a girl OK with polygamy or not being able to believe in monogamous relationships?
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I've been on dates with 5 different girls in the past month (5th tonight) and I'm starting to feel like a man whore. It's almost like I have no self control; I meet a girl, think she's cute, and the next day I'll end up having a date with her without stopping to think about it. Is this okay? How do I stop myself from doing this?
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Why do you think this is a bad thing? It's hard to give advice without knowing your motivations.
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>>17720282
I don't wanna just date to date I guess. I want to form meaningful relationships whether they're just as friends or not.
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>>17720295
I would recommend you delving into a hobby, or an interest that you have. You make female friends the same way you make male friends. Through shared interests and experiences.
If you like food, go to some cooking classes and join a recipe sharing group.
If you like cars, go to car-shows and chat up people at the events.
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I need your advice guys
I'm having a semi long distance relationship (I'm gone out of country most of the time due to work and I'm back only for two weeks every 4-5 months or so)
Today my gf said she bought a dildo and sent me pictures while shes sucking it, I didn't know what to say , I felt replaced and I told her that it doesn't turn me on and i didn't know how to react , did I overreact? Or is it a bad sign for the future to come?
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What the fuck do you expect her to do when you're away? You should be happy it's a dildo and not a real guy
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>>17720234
Ok. Let me get this straight.
So you only see your girlfriend for maybe a month out of the year. She goes out of her way to purchase a sex toy, take sexy pictures with it and send to you as a way of showing you that she wants to stay sexually connected to you while you're gone and your FIRST reaction to your girlfriend's thoughtful, innocuous attempt to keep your sex life is alive is to feel "replaced"?
You should be thanking your lucky stars she isn't sucking actual dick while you're gone but instead you're acting like a giant fucking baby.
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>>17720234
I understand where you're coming from OP. I'm in a long distance relationship as well. Seriously, don't worry. She did it to treat you and it's about you not a dildo. It's just a dildo dude. I'm not sure how to get it in your head because you're not choosing to react how you reacted, but I guess try your best to not be irrational, my dude.
I like dressing up as a girl and going on webcam sites to talk to guys. I don't strip or make it sexual and I don't get off on it in any way, I just like having a nice chat with someone and being called pretty. Otherwise in normal life I'm a creepy-looking manlet who doesn't get attention from either gender. I'm not even interested in sex in any way, and I wouldn't know how to be in a relationship if the opportunity ever came up.
I've never considered actually having a sex change, and the thought of taking hormones or going through surgeries makes me want to throw up in disgust, but I can't shake my weird habit, either. I've gotten pretty good at it, invested in cosmetics and cute clothes and even a few wigs which I keep around with the convenient excuse of cosplaying for a hobby.
I've tried to quit doing it but the temptation is always there and I get anxious and irritable if I don't get the opportunity to do it for a while. At worst I can do it for hours every day for weeks on end, though sometimes months go by when I don't do it at all.
Is this normal? What can I do to get myself to stop?
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It's almost a compulsion at this point and I'm terrified that anyone would ever find out, but I just don't know how to make it stop and it's definitely not something I want to confuse my psychiatrist with. I just don't know what to do.
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Got to the agp general on lgbt, once you start hormones your sex drive will fall into place.
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>>17720351
You don't understand. I don't want hormones.
I know how to fashion an illusion of having breasts proportionate to my build in a nice blouse. The thought of actually physically having breasts is disgusting and horrifying. I think I've actually had nightmares about it.
Is it ever a good idea to try and date someone you're not physically attracted to? Like, you share a lot of hobbies and get along well, but you just don't find this chick pretty/cute at all.
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In my opinion, sex and physical attraction are pretty important factors in a relationship.
So no, not a good idea just for that. If you're completely fine with that, go ahead.
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>>17720220
If you don't find her attractive then just stay friends.
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It really depends on whether you are a Sotapanna or not. If you are, you can have a sexless relationship like that and it's no prob
I lowered my standards to dogshit, now I'm dating a really nice girl that I want to break up with. I know this sounds fucked up but I'm 24 and I want to be with someone I'm more physically attracted to. Thing is if we break up I'll break her heart pretty bad, I know it. I want be selfish for the first time in my life.
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>>17720216
Maybe you could have her do things to be more sexy?
Get her to exercise with you if flabby, help her pick out clothes, try new positions etc. etc.
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Do it. She's not going to want to be with someone who doesn't want her.
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>>17720242
I just dont want a relationship. I finally finished college and have a decent job, now I just want to fuck around for a few years. This is it for me, I want to have kids at around 28/29.
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I've had lots of boyfriends but I decided to hook-up with one guy who was quite shy and timid. He doesn't have a lot of friends, but he's not a bad guy, nor is he unattractive, he just keeps to himself and never puts himself out there.
Took me a lot of effort to get him to open up to me, but he did. We were dating for a few months and be admitted to me the reason he's so inclusive is due to childhood abuse and subsequent trust issues.
Apparently he was abused sexually by his step father. He was made to preform humiliating homosexual acts on him and his mother would beat him if he tried to get help. This lasted until he was 12 or 13 when his step father got arrested for possession of child pornography. His mother was an alcoholic and they lived in poverty until he turned 18 and she hung herself. He told me he has been in therapy for years and was finally happy he found someone he could be open with, someone he trusted.
Well the issue is at the time I was grossed out and realised I didn't love him. I told a few of my friends about it and word quickly got out. I haven't spoken to him at all this week, he's texted me a lot, apparently he is getting ridiculed for it and he just wants to talk. I don't really feel like making up excuses so I just said we're over and blocked him.
I feel kinda bad, but it's not really my fault is it? I only told 4 or 5 close friends.
Should I feel bad?
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>>17720212
Talk to him, this is not about you its about him.
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No. emotionally you two are the same
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are people really gonna take this bait?
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My girlfriend keeps saying she wants me to wear her panties to work under my normal clothes, she says it would turn her on. She says it's a thing for women
Is it a thing for women?
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She also wants me to steal my mom's panties and jack off into them, she says it would turn her on. Is this normal
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>>17720266
And she wants me to wear a nightie and stockings and pretend I'm a girl for her and let her fuck me up the ass with her vibrator
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>>17720266
I'd have no problem with either desu it sounds like you have a fucking hot gf and you should enjoy every moment of that dirty girl and go with it. you lucky cunt
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Girlfriend has a fetish and is angry about me not sharing it 2016-10-30 22:05:51 Post No.17720162
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Girlfriend has a fetish and is angry about me not sharing it
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So I've been with my girlfriend for about 2.5 years and within the past half year she's been increasingly more open about sex in general and what she wants me to do to her (she also asks me what I want). I love the fact that she's been so open about sex. We had some trouble in the past but this openness really improved it.
Whenever she asks me to do something that I don't want I simply say 'no' and she's cool with it. However, on Thursday she asked me to shit on her chest after I cum inside her. I wasn't weirded out or anything - I understand that if that's what's she's into then whatever. I told her I don't feel comfortable doing that because I'm not interested in poop. She responded "okay fine" and went to the bathroom or something. That was an unusual response because it felt like it REALLY disappointed her, but I didn't say anything to it or bring it up at that moment.
Now it's Sunday and I can barely talk to her without seeing her make a bitter face.The next day I asked her if it's about the shitting on chest thing and he said yes, but she also said "don't worry it's fine" and cleverly changed the topic to make it awkward for me to bring it up again.
What the fuck did I do? I'd always tell her I'm not comfortable something if I felt that way and it used to be completely fine. I don't wanna shit on her chest because it's gross to me. Like, I'm not sure what to do? Should I keep bringing it up or what?
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Tell her to grow up.
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>>17720162
just shit on her dude
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>>17720162
This is really lame pasta. 0/10.