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>college
>finally where I need to be
That sure doesn't sound like "throwing away my degree to be a stay-at-home mom"

>>17719497
Let's start then!

Why do you think that your previous experiences and current position is enough to justify your own thread?

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>>17719497
Hey so I would like your perspective on relationships. I am a 21 year old male college student and I have never been in a relationship. I have had like 3 hook ups since I have been here, but none of them were that good because of porn induced ED. Fucked with a half cubby and didn't even finish.

My question is:Do you think most relationships start with hook ups? Have your relationships started with a hook up or did your relationships start slower?

I honestly don't know how dating works anymore :D.

>>17719429

make a list of everything you want to try. then try it. give it the old college try not the

>'oh that sounds stupid so im not gonna' try
or the
>'oh i read about it but didnt like it' try
or the
>'i went to one meeting and was kidna bored' try

see things through for a month or until the end.

make an entire short film, not just write a script and give up. finish three issue arc of your comic. create a single level video game.

but dont just start something, not finish and say 'ITS NOT FOR ME'.

>>17719456
That's the thing, I can't find something that attracts me enough. Like, I don't really know where to start.
That 'list of things you want to try' is empty.

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>>17719471
Then try everything until you do find something. Thats literally how you get interests. You see something, try it, decide to keep it or not.
Go look at your city's meetup.com page. Go down the list if there's absolutely nothing you have even remote interest in, because I highly doubt that's true.

>>17719409
no

Probably. Ldrs rarely work because one person is always a piece of shit and cheats.

>>17719409
No you fucking dumbass holy shit

>>17719379
bump

>and would allow me to bring my dogs to work.

With all seriousness: Are you autistic?

>>17719894
This. Who the fuck thinks it's normal to bring a dog to work unless you're disabled?

>>17719366
Just follow your heart OP

flip a coin. If you're happy with the outcome, then go for it. If you're not happy, then you really know what you wanted in the end either way.

>>17719366
You've been preparing, yet you say Air Force lol

>Spending the past 4 years of your life training for a job that's on-par with being a garbage man
Why?
>This upcoming April I can apply straight into the air Force special forces weather unit and JTAC
Don't believe anything recruiters tell you

You can join the military, do your 4 year tour, have an easy time saving up money, and THEN start a dispensary. I don't see why that plan wouldn't work, but if it doesn't, you got a real purdy mouth and can probably make a lot of dough being a trap camwhore.

>>17719343
You do not say a fucking word. You prepare until you find yourself another place to stay. You move your shit out, then you tell her. Until then, you keep your mouth shut.

>>17719373
Fuck. I knew there wouldn't be any easy way out. Thanks anyway for the response

>>17719390
Trust me. Went through this shit, many times.

I'd recommend having a type of job or research area in mind instead of just a field of study.

>>17719389
I was told that people very rarely get the exact job that they were planning for going into college, so that's why I have fields instead of specific jobs

>>17719337
Let me explain this as someone who sees fuckers like you all the time
>1
Get your head ot of your ass, you and every other kid who breezed through the simple highschool shit thinks they are going to be a physicist or bio/premed->doctor

You do not need to choose a major for your freshman year, even if you got every AP or dual credit possible, you still have atleast a semester or two worth of freshman school-wide generic classes.

Take those classes, figure out what you actually enjoy doing, otherwise you'll be in an office like mine complaining about how much you hate yourself and are so stressed because you have to study so much for something you hate/just can't do.

She's going through some shit that doesn't really have to do with you, and she doesn't have room to add you to the equation. Nothing personal and nothing you can do.

>>17719330

because its one message. she broke up with you, it is over, but she doesnt see teh point in blocking you cuz you're not bugging her, yet.

>>17719342
>>17719336
Why keep someone on deck if you're never gonna talk to them again?

We stayed in touch for a year and she was sharing her problems with me and she said it helped then all of sudden it's like I don't even exist.

She saw someone new and then split and we still talked as friends.

I'm doing my best to respect her space and time but I think I fucked up.

I don't want to ice her out either, I mean is this something women really do? A few weeks ago we were talking about plans to see each other but then nothing.Do women who seem like friends really sever ties like that? Do they go radio silent for weeks and then resurface?

Is it worth waiting on her? I don't want to abandon a friend just because she asked to be left alone for a while but at the same time it's painful not knowing. She was the only person I could talk to about real shit.

Well, if she's a catch then she'll be fine with you catching a ride until you get back on your feet. Stop overthinking things.

>>17719340

>stop over thinking this

this.

>>17719328

she either likes you or she doesn't. you cannot ptu on an act for your whole life.

if you have a friend or family member who is willing to drop you off at the meeitng place, great. you can also maybe uber or public transit, but uber will cost money which is something that is tight. but assuming you can in fact pay for the date just tell her the truth. your mom totalled the car. don't say 'dont wory she sfine' until the girl asks, cuz having her be a little worried like 'omg is she okay?' will make her a bit more sympathetic and invested and see you as a nice guy. she automatically assumes you're taking good care of your mother since the accident whereas if you just say 'dont worry shes fine' she will imagine nothing bad happened at all.

>>17719340
I really wish i didn't worry so much. I just don't want to give off the perception that everythings a mess or something :/

I thought about it and I might join the army.

>>17719326

You sound depressed. Seek professional help.

>>17719482
I am depressed but I am a very closed person and struggle to open up to anyone, be it friends or family and struggle trust people so therapy wouldn't be too useful as I wouldn't be able to open up.

Install a lock on your door.

Next time think before moving in with people you don't know.

>>17719289
I agree full heartedly with that, but I acted like a dumbass and now I'm here.

The problem isn't just him stealing shit though, I don't want to get evicted when these dumbasses inevitably get caught.

So can you try helping me find a course of action that doesn't completely fuck me but gets them the fuck out?


Do you think if I approached the leasing office about it that they would listen and tell me what to do about roommates smoking in the apartment?

Or do you think they would just send the cops?

Would it help if I just went ahead and called the cops so they know I don't want to live with this shit?

>>17719281
You might not want to risk calling the cops because now you don't know if your roommates placed some weed or paraphernalia hidden in your room somewhere. If you allow cops to start searching the place then there's nothing yo you can do if you don't want them to search your room or make them leave. Sorry but, I don't really have any advice on what you should do, but I wanted to say calling cops might not be the greatest idea. Hopefully someone will give some good advice though.

>>17719258
ask one of your friends you will need them for the group pictures anyway.
If you don't have enough friends then start by making more friends.

>>17719271
I have friends but the question is how do I convince them to take all these weird pictures

>>17719286
pictures of you having good time isn't weird.
If the pictures are weird then that's part of the problem.

Just use a regular dating site and find someone that has anime/gaming as an interest. Any site dedicated to anime dating is bound to be filled with unwashed weebs and shit taste. If not go to a convention and chat people up

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Bumping out of interest, literally the only girls I would ever be able to naturally click with would be anime/gamer/etc types

All others and its an uphill climb and I'm starting to wonder if I could ever even make the climb or not

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>>17719202

sorry man, but you're not entitled to something easy.

the only real geek dating site is 'geek2geek' and it seemed pretty empty when i checked it out. it might be /okay/ in a major city. i think its even been renamed and kinda expanded on since it failed.

unfortunately you aren't entitled to a gf let alone a geeky one, and here is the real kicker: geek girls don't need / want to date geeks.

not across the board, not as a general rule, just as a small truth. they can and often do date geeky guys, but you dont see girls looking for geeky boyfriends. because they don't need to. they can score hot guys, and they'll still put up with their geeky interests.

the only ones who have to truly truly settle for geeky guys tend to be ugly girls.

unless you are legitimately handsome and/or fit, attractive geeky girls dont want you. they still want conventional guys.

you know how geeky guys tend to get mad at other geeky guys for swooning over and chasing after 'wannabe geeky girls' ? geeky girls do the same with wannabe geeky guys.

I cannot tell you the number of times I thought i found a great hot guy who finally likes the power rangers and then - nope. they havent seen the show isnce they were a kid, they just wear the shirt to be trendy.

pic related is a true issue. and while you probably dont look like the guy on the left, you are probably nothing like the guy on the right either.

>>17719195

>Drop of a hate

Hat*

Freudian slip

a. Last longer by thinking about other things, like video games or something.

b. You'll spend a lot less energy once you get a bit more experienced. You're right in that it's all in the way you stroke.

Whenever I get close, I start muscle memory-ing through Age of Empires macros. Nothing like HCCCCC or BB BE BQ to make me last longer in bed :D

You can't control her behavior

So just accept it

>>17719162
Is there something I can do to at least get her to leave me, personally, alone? I obviously can't get her to stop talking about it--but I just am really tired by her trying to harass me online.

This is called justice OP.

Think about it, your actions have damaged any chance she will have in the future of a stable and normal relationship. Most people never regain 100% trust in future partners after being cheated on.

Basically fuck yourself. She can tell whomever she wants.