Bi guy here, how do I come out to a bi girl?
>>17721570
I'd strongly recommend not doing it, assuming you are interested in this girl.
>>17721579
Well I mean I was but I'm really not anymore, she's dating one of my friends at the moment and she's mostly into girls.
As a bi guy, never admit it.
Go after what you want and let them assume. Once you're with them you can let the sex get weird and bendy with the "hetero" or "gay" rules but never, ever admit to being bi.
We are universally loathed by everything.
Being a "bi guy" to any woman, no matter what, is basically saying "I'm gay but dont wanna admit it" and to any gay man is like saying "I think I might be gay but I'm gunna leave you for a woman"
Just don't admit it. Ever.
Trying to decide risk/reward to not using condoms with my long-term girlfriend.
Does anybody know and have a source on the odds of getting a girl pregnant if I pull out way before I'm gonna cum?
There are sites that say stupid shit like 4% of couples per year will get pregnant using the pull out method, but that doesn't make sense. At how many times per year? What's the margin of error? etc.
Would really like help. My penis is average length but somewhat thick, making most condoms really uncomfortable.
>>17721536
use a condom, please god, anyone posting that pic should NOT reproduce under any circumstance
Try planned parenthood, precum can contain sperm, and most of the time dudes will fuck up eventually and cum too soon. Get her on the fucking pill or something goddamn.
Or be prepared to be a daddy.
>>17721553
not an argument
I confessed my love to a woman who I then found out was dating another man, who I find out later to be one of my friends. Weeks have passed but my feelings have not subsided. I am thinking of waiting this one out, but I'm unsure what to do.
Threesome.
>>17721528
How should we know? If you're super insane crazy in love with this hoe, and you're older than 25, then you keep trying in some creative way.
If you're under 25 then stfu and apologize to your friend.
some people are good at weasling their way into sex. Honestly, why the fuck do you idiots keep dragging your relationship problems to this board? We don't know any of you, you'd have to type ten pages just to get us anywhere near informed enough to help.
think for yourself and narrow it down to a better question.
also i'm very drunk and am probably just being an asshole for no reason right now.
>>17721531
Sorry, I'm more of a ring first, fuck later kinda guy.
>try my hardest to just be myself without overthinking it and just be a good boyfriend
>girl loses interests and leaves six months in
>this has happened three times now on the dot
What do? I'm having trouble keeping my self confidence up if I've lost this many girls I cared for.
You probably still have a ways to go, based off of the way you talk about it as if you were trying to convince them that you were a good guy that they would want.
I mean what makes you think that you "lost" them as opposed to them just leaving you? I realize that it probably looks like the same thing, but there's a subtle difference - the former implies that it's your fault, whereas the latter is what you'd say if you thought that there must have been some kind of compatibility issue.
I'm not saying that you should just kick back and not put any effort at all into your relationships, but my guess is that you're still behaving as if you're not good enough to keep the girl. You gotta really believe that you guys are actually a good couple and that SHE is lucky to have YOU in her life as well.
Otherwise it's just going to be a self-fulfilling prophecy and your true thoughts and beliefs will come through in your speech/actions (like just now).
>>17721496
If 3 girls have all bailed on you in such a relatively short time, it sounds to me like you're picking some shitty girls.
I'm sure you play a role in it as well. No one here is going to be able to tell you what you're doing wrong, because none of us have been present for every single one of your relationships.
The only thing you can do is closely examine all 3 girls and all 3 relationships, identify where things were bad, when they started to get worse, and pinpoint why that was happening. That will start to give you an idea as to what all of you did wrong.
Hell, maybe you need to give the relationships a break and just work on yourself until you're more confident about what your own values are.
I was thinking about trying mushrooms to experience it. I've seen studies of the brain and I've become very interested in experiencing color and such.
How different is the high compared to cannabis? I smoke cannabis so I know what that is like. Also how much does it sell for? I know everywhere's different but I'm just looking for a general price range.
>>17721479
Price is around $10/g where I live.
The high is NOTHING like pot and the high can vary depending on what type of mushroom you consume/how much you consume.
I highly recommend any psychedelics but be warned that they aren't for everybody. Take a small dose (like 2 - 3 grams) for your first time and feel it out. Smoke a bunch of weed with it too. Make sure you're comfortable and in a safe place where nothing weird or bad could happen.
>>17721623
Solid advice.
How long does the high usually last? I want to try a little like you suggested but want to make sure I can still fynction the next day.
>>17721479
shrooms are great. eighth an ounce is a light trip, quarter is a heavy trip. I think, I dunno I've done em so much I just eyeball it now.
first time I recommend goin out in the woods, with a trip sitter if you have someone you're super comfortable with, and watching the trees blur and the clouds turn to kaleidoscopes. it's great way to spend time.
Long story short, I am doing bad a college again.
Mom is pressuring me out. ''I wont live long enough to see you graduate'' - ''Please for the love of god do well this semester'', are some of the things she says.
As of today, situation is that I will have to repeat 2 courses next semester and the rest are in danger at the bring of collapse.
Although there's a dilemma. There's one course in which I can pass but ONLY if I ask for help.
Here's the thing, I never really cared for it, found the subject to be incredibly boring, missed some classes and, on top of that, forgot we have to deliver a final project due to this Tuesday.
Since the course is merely about theory involved in manufacture processes of materials in engineering, I have to deliver a paper, even if its a single page, of me proposing a ''new'' process to apply.
Thing is I don't know anything... but I could ask a friend of mine who already took the course to, perhaps, share his idea with me or help me do the paper.
However, keep in mind that I am aware of how much of a leech I am and how much I deserve to fail the course. Hey I know, I am completely aware of everything going on right now, of the entire situation, I know dude.
But should I do such a thing? Even tho there's no guarantee that he will agree, or even share his stuff with me.
If you ask, the most you can get is a no.
That said, it really doesn't sound like you're cut out for college.
>>17721474
Been 6 semesters like this. I am too far into the rabbit hole to back out, I dislike my major and, coupled with the way I am, its hard to go through it.
I do study a lot tho, for many things... that are not related to the courses I take at college... which is kind of shitty.
>>17721486
You don't understand the material. You probably wouldn't say you've learnt anything. Do you really think that college has anything to offer you? Stop wasting time and money
What do you do if your girlfriend, who is someone you really love, says she wants to us to become serious, but for reasons you're not ready?
The reason I feel so conflicted is because of my past. For years and years I convinced myself I would never get a girlfriend and never get married. It was thoughts I had by choice. Well, starting a relationship with her happened on accident, it was random. But I'm glad it happened because she's wonderful. just I feel so conflicted with this "serious" thing. What does that even mean? What does going serious entail? I just don't know what to do..
>>17721425
Why don't you ask her to define serious? Just put it under the guise that you wanna be on the same ground since serious can have different meanings for everyone.
>>17721643
She wants me to give up my three nsa sex friends and go monogamous.
>>17721425
If you really love her what are you worried about? And like the other person said just ask her what she means by getting serious. She could mean moving in together or even something as small as spending more time together or meeting each others families etc.
>>17721818
I'm going to assume that isn't you because you already stated you didn't know what she meant when she said to get serious.
So /adv/ I think my parents are fucked
>be 18
>me and my parents paid for the same phone company
>After third payment, parents say they won't pay for this month because its pretty fucking expensive (Sprint)
>The phones that we got, were all LG G5's
>The deal was buy 2 get another free, and so they went with that
>We ended up keeping the phones since they stopped paying for the lines and phones
>I end up losing the phone 3 weeks after they stopped paying
>Father asks me if could give him the phone because Sprint wants them back
>Tell him I lost it, he loses his shit
>Now he has to come up with $1,800 dollars to pay for the phones, because apparently you have to return all three phones and not just two or less
I really don't want to cause any problems but I need some advice on how to handle this kind of situation. I can't get a job since I'm still in High School and an illegal immigrant. Please help!
>get phones on a deal
>think you can stop paying with no repercussions
You and your family are all dumbasses
youre the reason why we're building the wall.
i hope you get deported
>buy something you can't afford
>stop paying on it
>lose it
>think it just works itself out and everything is fine
lolololol they probably still make payments on their cars, too.
So I have a pretty huge issue to work through, /adv/, lend me your eyes for just a moment if you would.
I've been living with my gf and her parents for over two years now (they took my homeless ass off the street when I got kicked out of a foster home on my 18th bday, both of my parents are deceased) and we've had a great time. When the relationship started she was a little over 15 and I was a little over 17, about 2 and a half years difference.
As you might expect with a girl so young, I was her first everything. Her first (male) kill, her first boyfriend, her first sexual partner, all of that and the typical shit that goes with it.
>cont
>>17721397
>her first (male) kill
OP confirmed for spooky ghost
move along everyone, just another halloween prankster
>>17721423
connection issues im sorry aah dont shoot
>cony
Anyway, now that we're here, two years later, we both want to experience more of life. And part of experiencing life and growing up is dating other people, and developing emotional/physical bonds with them. Im gonna be living on campus, and I told her straight up I plan to fuck around with as many girls as I possibly can, she's never cared about that so it wasnt a problem- However. She also intends to seek out new interests. We have both ascertained that we want to end up together in the end. A longer term hiatus without either of us ever leaving if you will
>cont
Sorry, its gonna be a doosie
I'm 18, senior in highschool. I get with girls usually every weekend at a party but i've never gotten w a girl from my school
Anyway there is this app for my school and these thirsty girls were talking about wanting to hu with a senior so i commented my kik and told them to hmu
A few did but they were igly then there was one with a nice ass body
We were talking and she asked for a pic and i sent her the cringiest picture ever and shes lile sorry not interested. Anyway, lately when i finish my workout i look buff af and took some shirtless pics (i'll post) and want to send them to her and ask "are u sure" but idk if thats cringey or makes me sound really desperate and clingy.
Plus she's in a lower grade so not only did a senior get rejected by a lower grade, hut if i message her back and still get rejected that would be even worse. Thoughts?
Dude, you're a guy. You're not gonna be able to pull women with pics the same way women can with men. That only works on guys because we are attracted to females on a very visual level. Its different for girls. You're literally using bitch tactics.
>>17721395
i read nothing you typed but you seem like an insecure faggot lmao
Jesus Christ i need help guys fast, not too long ago some chick asked me for my number, now I am a kissless virgin so naturally i panic but gave it to her, she texted me here and there saying she wants to get to know me better, now recently I flat out let her know I was shy as fuck and a virgin, thinking she would lose interest after that but nope she kept texting me, now she even sent me a selfie and like I said I don't know how to respond to all this or act, I am in no way planning on just getting some and letting it go, I am a virgin by choice and advice giving to me by my senpai to be patient and wait. But now I can see the effects of it having no fucking experience, how do I move along and don't fuck this up, I am definitely overthinking all this, how do I cope with this fear? she really does seem like a nice girl from what she texted me
>>17721380
Calm your tits its not math man after all that shit and you even telling her your a virgin she definitely likes you, just keep it cool compliment her on pics and take your time.
>>17721380
You might as well take this opportunity, later on you'll feel happy that you talked to a girl.
>>17721434
This
How do I take my mind away from this pain? Even if only for a moment?
Get help.
>>17721359
From who? I've been getting help from professionals for years.
I feel like the only people that could truly help with loneliness would be family and friends
I don't have family anymore. I lost all of my close friends years ago.
>>17721352
Talk to someone.
I started antidepressants today. Apparently this shit takes like 4 weeks to kick in.
What can I expect? Will I be happy or just numb to the shitty feelings?
>>17721313
It varies. It turned out I had bipolar disorder so I felt like my brain was being turned inside out.
Different people react differently
For me, after upping my dose to 100mg / day, I started to see the ground warp in front of my eyes and I walked around with a stupid grin on my face most of the time because I was high enough not to be sad. It's not happiness, it's more like being too drugged to know better.
It will probably either end up numbing your emotions or exacerbating them
It varies.
I didn't know I had bipolar disorder so I had worsened anxiety on one, switched to another and had a manic episode.
Not saying this to scare you. I'm on a mood stabilizer now and it just makes me feel more level and like it's easier to function. Like even if I am depressed that day it's easier to get out of bed. So I imagine if your med is working right for you that's how it would feel.
Just be cautious, call your doctor if it makes you feel worse emotionally or you feel like your emotions don't match what's going on around you. Don't try to tough it out. Good luck.
I think I have aspergers. Every sign points to it. I'm terrified of getting formally diagnosed to find out for sure
Should I get diagnosed just to see, I'm so scared the answer will be yes. I don't know if knowing will ruin my life. Should I just go with "ignorance is bliss" and accept who I am?
>>17721295
if you made it this far in life without ebing diagnosed than you dont have it. there is no cure and while they do offer therapies, they do box you in.
if you think you need counseling to get through life, get some without bringing up aspergers.
but dont go and get diagnosed, because then you'll use that as an excuse.
>>17721304
I just have so many questions
Is there somebody underneath me, deep down inside, being sculpted by aspergers, or are people only ever their resultant sculpture? Is there a pure internal self, independent from one's neuroticisms?
>>17721295
How will it help or harm your life to have a label for who you are?
On the other hand, knowing one way or the other can open doors to treatment/counseling/life choices that will be best for you.
(P1) I've gone from fat shut in near neet to guy who looks pretty good, does clubs, hangs out with people, been to parties as recently as friday night and a kick back last night, etc etc, the works
Done it all in the hopes of getting laid and not being a virgin anymore, ideal way would be to get a girlfriend but I would accept something else
One time I got a half assed blow job from a semi drunk girl, could barely feel a thing, absolute let down, and I don't buy the whole too drunk for good technique thing, even when I was in control could barely feel a thing absolute let down, only didnt go the jackpot because was naively paranoid of cops, haven't had a real chance since
Hypothetically, if I actually got sex and it was a similar let down, what would I even do with my life
Sex has been my everything for years now, its been like the number one foundational thing of my life for so long and it's driven me to do everything that I do, I don't see any kind of future where either I've never had it, or I have and somehow it was a let down
I feel terrified of being a virgin when the year ends, scared of getting a hooker and it being a let down, and terrified of getting a hooker and it being god tier and then running out of money
I'm failing all my classes because of this, I've made a pretty good life but I took everything I've got and in the process I neglected my classes, unless I can pull some kind of amazing stunt and really butter my professors up I'll have to withdraw to avoid my gpa being nuked
My mom wants me to go on anti depressants, and skip classes next semester she knows about whats going on
I view anti depressants as being the equivalent of getting drunk all the time to numb sadness
I wanna tell my friends what's going on (but a way more mild version so I dont freak them out) and try to get them to help set me up, two of them have said they are gonna at some point and this happened relatively spontaneously, I dunno if they are gonna pull through though
Normally I just lie to people and make them think I like them and in turn get them to like me, but I've actually met a few people I actually kind of like and especially this one guy who I really click with, I feel like he is one of the extremely rare people that is almost like a kindred spirit type deal, and he is majorly depressed, alcoholic and vape and pot addict
I can't tell if he has gotten laid or not, one time he said he was waiting till he got married but I cant tell if he was joking or not, the other night on fridday he said he wanted to find a hook up and I've heard him say before that "pussy is pussy"
How can he be so depressed and be as cool and well connected as he is, and he either has gotten laid or he could easily if he wanted
Im basically rambling at this point
... Do you masturbate?
If you do, dont. Ever. And dont look at porn.
Then give it a week or two and your dick will literally pull you out of your comfort zone to find some vagina. Seriously, you'd be amazed.
Also I forgot to say that I don't really feel any better after any of this getting a life stuff
Yeah parties are pretty cool, hanging out is nice and the addict friend is fun and funny and so is the other guy we are friends with
So I guess instead of constant misery and apathy its like mostly the above mixed in with a few hours of "pretty nice" here and there
Also some people have told me you cant get a girlfriend and be miserable at the same time, i've made a lot of "how to get a girlfriend" threads recently, and if so that's a big problem for obvious reasons