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>>17718471
Try google or your embassy

Get out of my country

KAS JAUNS

>>17718480

Latvians are beautiful people and are more than welcome in the United Kingdom. Fuck is it your country, brother. Also they are pretty hot, so you probably want more not less.

OP look for London Latvian centre and drop them an email, they should be helpful for you, they're like the only Latvian charity. They can be found quite easily by through google and they normally help people out, they should be able to give you an idea of what you need to do.

Latvians are great, have a lovely day.

>>17718461
ive had two friends that lived in their cars , one had a van and it wasn't so bad .

I lived in my car for most of 2015. I had some camping gear and warm clothes, cooked my food on a primus and washed myself in rivers. It was very nice. As long as you have a warm sleeping bag and good clothing during cold weather and winter, you will do fine. One thing that was an issue for me was that the car was a bit small compared to my lenght so I slept a bit cramped, but if you have a van you won't have that problem. I lived rurally, so I could park in the woods and wake up to beautiful scenery every day. In urban areas it's a lot more difficult and shitty. I saved tons of money doing it, and had no issues besides cramped quarters and some cold periods. A big plus was that I didn't have a lot of technological distractions so I read a lot of books and went on long hikes. Since I only had candles and flashlights in the evening I had no excuse not to sleep my full 8 hours (except when I had really interesting books) and my body adapted to natural sleep patterns, meaning I went to sleep went it got dark, and woke up at sunrise. That meant I saw every sunset and every sunrise, and it was definitely worth it. I can answer questions if you have any.

>>17718494
Thanks anon that sounds awesome.

Unfortunately ill be having to do this in the city with an 7-4pm job. I am told I can sleep at wallmarts but what intimidates me is the winter. How can I fully survive this without wasting a lot of gas?

What about restrooms? I can shower at my gym but going to the bathroom in a city isnt as easy as going in the woods.

they're trying to ditch you mang

they did not have the same opinion on your 'friendship' as you

just to clarify, friend in question is female, im male. shes straight

>>17718446
the funny thing i told them straight up that its fine if you dont want to stay friends. just tell me the truth no bs

Sell.

>>17718425
I think I do want to, but fuck my brain right.

It's telling me that I'll be bored even if just that little more often than I already am.
I mean, I still "feel" like playing those games I like. I look at professionals playing them on youtube often to get ideas for playstyles and stuff. And my brain is like "That looks like fun, I should try that out too", but then a couple of days have gone by and I still haven't mustered the energy to start the game up yet. But I still "want" to.

>>17718421
It sounds like you know what you ((should)) do, yet you want someone to convince you otherwise. If you feel your time is worth more elsewhere, then act on it.

try using a sleep timer so you end your sleep when youre in your light sleep phase

Smoke some if you wanna sleep real good

>>17718419
There are several methods that haven shown varying degrees of effectiveness for me, I'd recommend them to try them in whatever order until you find which one works for you. Also I think is important to mention that sometimes A works and sometimes it just keeps me awake while sometimes B works and so on.

>Grinding pokemon endlessly.
I have an emulator on my cellphone with firered version, endlessly grinding a patch of grass makes me fall asleep sometimes as soon as the second battle.

>Calm music
Without lyrics if possible.

>Weed
a small ammount makes me sleepy... sometimes, most of the time the trip actually keeps me from sleeping.

>alcohol
In minimum quantities (one to two beers) it just makes me sleep.

>slow-paced sports
Football is the obvious choice here, the green is calming and since nothing ever happens it makes me sleepy.

Those are the ones I remember right now, alternatively you might try to stay awake as long as possible until you drop out of tireness, I'd recommend to try that one on your off day.

Viagra?

>>17718393
but I'm so young. do I just start using chemicals already?

I don't know man, but you should really see a therapist for this kind of stuff. No amount of friends is going to help you, as it is up to you, anon. My girlfriend had an eating disorder and had to be hospitalized.

Find someone you could have fun with. There gotta be that one guy around who's not trying to look like some hot stuff or have the biggest presence and that's just enjoying himself.

>>17718319
Fitting in is the act of destroying your identity in the name of "society"

>>17718319
You sound perfectly normal to me. There is nothing wrong with finding some people and their behavior unattractive, and the logical response is to have nothing to do with them and seek out people you are happy being with.

And 5 good friends is more than a lot of people have.

>>17718289
male

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>>17718289
Yo Yo Ma

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>>17718289
Yo sushi

>>17718213
cont.

After that my bro put on tv watching youtube, and i standed near the kitchen doorway. My grandfathr said in spanish to sit down next to him on the couch, and i felt iffy about it but did it out of respect. Like how could i say no? We didnt really talk and he asked me in spanish a question about the vid, i said a quick response. And as time grew i felt worse and my grandfather would just stare at me for a bit. I tried ignoring it but i felt even worse, like what do i do when he does that? I looked back at him once and he asked me something else about the video if it was a violin (we were watching some orchestra) and i said yes and i tried mentioning the bass and cello just to add to it, to make it feel conversational.

I looked at my phone to do look preoccupied, which probably made me feel worse since i tried to look like im doing something infront him, and he would look at me which multiplied my feeling. He said to grandmother at his right in spanish something like "its hard for them to communicate because they cant speak our language", i cant recall exactly but i understood that i was not looking good infront of him. My aunt wanted me to take the compost downstairs and i waited there for a bit. When i walked back up my grandfather was coming out of the kitchen and he looked at me, I was feeling it and I looked at him and yeah, or yes. i sat on a rocking chair and my father came into the room, i didnt worry since he took the attention and eventually my grandparents went to bed.

This is alot longer than i thought i would type it, so alot of you might not read it but
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TLDR; possible inferiority complex or social phobia, how do i fix this?

I fail to see how your (extremely tiresome) story relates to your tldr.

>>17718268
join clubs. go to church. get a job. do (team) sports. go backpacking. force yourself to talk to people.

That's nice but check out these dubs

>>17718222
Holy schemolies witnessed

>>17718211
Legally, no, so you are probably lying.
t. lawyer

>>17718206
4chan has become an alt right cesspool over the last few years. you have every right to be annoyed, but the pragmatic thing, on this site, is to just not volunteer that you're black

The more personal info you divulge the more people will use it against you on imageboards, because anonymity is the preferred mode. If I blurted out I have Italian heritage people would probably spam me with >white or some shit for instance.

If you don't want to be faceless, you're legitimately probably better off with a more standard forum.

>>17718232
Yelling at black people on the internet is one of 4chans longest interests, the fuck are you talking about?

>>17718232
>>17718253
This actually normally doesn't happen to me on 4chan.

>>17718183
lol

Your bf is a cretin

I want to believe this isn't bait

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Grew up in something similar. There's no easy way to get over it except talking about it. Guess what, I don't judge ya, been through the same shit. Unfortuantely, there isn't much you can do as a kid in those situations. No influence, nad size and age makes it so you can easily be disproven, but what I realized is that once you get your own place and are on your own, you are outta there.

My sister was smart and was able to stay out of our "home" majority of the time since she was pretty social in school. Even if you don't think you ave friends, think of them as an escape from where you're at.

Also don't hurt yourself, it only maims you in the end, lost my lung learning that lesson.

If you already have a therapist, you're on the right track. It's not that uncommon that people may have had a bad home life. Not the best way to connect with someone, but hey it's a start.

How young are your siblings? If it's to the point where you don't feel safe within your own home, you should have someone that can take you away from there, eg. a friends house to take shelter for a couple hours, or a police station if it gets real bad. It's alwasy fucky with abusive family since you love em and don't want to hurt em, and don't want be to be hurt by em. Shitty relationships like that are why divorce exists. If they don't want to divorce, then do your best to protect your siblings, I was smart enough to stay hidden once the yelling started, but it would've been better spent with a friend.

What are your interests? Do you have any hobbies? What do you do for fun?

Also getting judged isn't that bad, watch, I'll do it to myself.

I am damaged goods.

...so? That doesn't change the fact that anyone can be friends with you. People will always judge, but whether or not they like you is determined by who you are, not what has happened to you.

In the end I realized that our lives are within your full control, emotions can change by your will, but the strength to it usually found deep within your subconscious. Talking brings it out.

I hope my rambling helps

In general, all you have in life is what you work for. Learn to enjoy being ambitious, and work.

Partying, drugs, and metal, are all great. But they aren't what life is about.

>>17718067
"It's too late" -Carole King

Nothing wrong with metal, stop thinking /mu/-core shit is good.

What happened

>>17718434
Full story or the break up portion of it?

>>17718060
Sorry to hear. I don't know how the relationship was, but just know you're not responsible for your ex's mental illness.