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It's just really stressful to go the whole 'actively looking' route, since you see a girl and get disappointed every time if it's not one you really like. And then you wonder what's wrong with you/people, and go down that whole misery route.

Just tone it down, do it on the side for fun while you have fun with your friends. I did that and have met a lot more chill people that way--still not anyone I'd seriously date, but miles better than the crap I found on tinder.

Well said, man. By actively searching, you're going to end up stressed out because you're not focusing on your own happiness and girls will disappoint you. Gotta find happiness in the single life and your lifestyle in general and let come what may.

>>17866684
Well i did this, and when i got to a girl that's cool and likes me, i start to sperg out and trying to force things, maybe i should focus on myself first

>>17866504
>Logical
There are no logical reasons either way. Only emotional/ethical reasoning either way.

>>17866511
Ethics in the Greek sense are generally at least found by reasoned argument though. That's why it was so hard to actually decide on anything.

>>17866504
Depends how you feel about having a living growing little person in your uterus. Some women, understandably feel freaked out or whatever. To the cold girls who can do abortion, i hope they dont change their mind once i cum inside them. Huge trust and respect there

Naw, you're good. Just be kind to people. It's what you take that makes it right.

>>17866320
How does it feel not being able to grow a beard?

>>17866320
You'se a hoe ass, punk ass, randy ass, mark ass, bitch ass, wannabe ass, jack ass, punk ass trick my niggs. Please feel bad

Ignore the links above pls

Have you tried telling her what country you are from? If you make her guess and dont correct her how is she supposed to know? Also shes not wrong about jamaican men. Most stereotypes have a basis in truth even if they are exaggerated

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Shut the fuck up you dumb nigger, and learn to space your fucking paragraphs.

Goddamn it, more RPing.

If you break my heart again, I'll break your fucking face.

I got a new job, my everything hurts, I work 40 hours even though I'm listed as only a part-time employee, I fucking hate life right now, but I need the money because where else can I get it?

The other methods I get money from are either too risky or too slow to be beneficial. While this is my only path, I don't fucking like it and I'm so done, physically and soulfully. How everyone else does it is beyond me, because physically working 40 hours in a week, especially spanning into the late-night, is brutal. Especially when you barely have transportation.

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(I know posted this before but I see these fuckers everyday coming home from work)

Watching the cock sucking hipsters and yuppies come and go to their christmas parties, while I come home from my wageslave job where they've cut back hours cos they want double the work done in half the hours.

Yuppie and hipster fuckers live such carefree lives.

What is a sure fire career path for a 27yo dude with a 5 year old 2.2 maths degree? I know I don't have the looks or personality for a city type career.

30 y/o virgin with 100k in the bank living at my parents

shit could be worse

*pomf* What are we gonna do in this thread, Anon?

Nothing probably

>>17868007
Learn to be good with your tongue and fingers. I had a boyfriend who wasnt so great at sex but he knew how to get me off in other ways. But i'm greedy so I like a good pounding also. A small dick doesnt mean you cant be good at sex.

>>17868007
You're going to have to learn to stand closer to the urinal.

what would happen? you would meet more women.
if you want them to suck your dick you need to pay them first

Unless you're a really good talker, you'll become the creeper who chase every random girl in the campus

Male friendships instead, pick a few girls (five or so would do) and focus in talking to them. Don't have to build a life long friendship to any of them, just do small talk with each of them, and use what you learn with one on the other four

You're better practicing in dept talking than just approaching, which will leave you in the dark about the next steps

Yea but you have to do it everyday and not beat yourself up if some girl is like "get the fuck away from me creep"
It's like a video game, you can't lose exp points

I don't know if I'd call anime a hobby. It's just passive media consumption, it's like saying Netflix is a hobby.

You get knowledgable/good at something because you have fun with it, not the other way around.

>>17867916
Those all involve sitting indoors staring at a screen. Don't get me wrong, I do a lot of that too, but you need to find some activities that takes you outside and ideally involves talking to people.

Rock climbing?
Flying drones at the park? (You can get some very fun quadcopters for very little money now)
Archery?
Find a hackspace and learn some electronics? Indoors again, but you're learning something and talking to people.

Of course, activities like these are more practical if you have your own transport. If you don't drive yet, maybe focus on that?

>>17867930
There can be a lot that goes into anime watching that can make it a hobby
Like checking up on the latest news, finding the best subtitles, best quality vids, talking about it on /a/.
Op probably doesn't do that but just because an activity is mostly passive doesn't mean you can make it into a hobby

I would consider people that collect old films to watch hobbyist

>>17867892
no

Oh....

That's a pretty dumb idea, you're not supposed to concentrate on learning more than one language at a time.

Out of curiousity, why do do you want to take those tests? I don't know shot about the HSK but I know the JLPT is only really useful if you've passed level 1, mayyybe level 2

>>17867876

As a note, this is highly embarrassing. I know I'm gay but this is god damn gay.

yes
>unrequited
it's better this way long term

>>17867876

Yes, it's normal. When you feel bad, you feel bad all over. And I'm talking from the perspective of a heterosexual male, so I'm sure it's even tougher for you.

The important thing is to not let a bad experience drive you to loneliness. Keep moving, keep meeting people and keep hanging out with your friends. Move on.

same senpai
also what counts as 'real friends'?

>>17867836
People with whom you can relate emotionally, share anything without the fear of being neglected and just overall enjoy their presence

>>17867851
>share anything without the fear of being neglected

This may be idealizing quite a bit. But more to the point: You make friends by putting yourself out there. By talking, by inviting people to hang out, by doing shit.

>>17867814
You are a personal trainer so you must have some more options than this if you want another woman, especially if you work in a gym.

>17867818

>>17867818
True, but I feel like not being able to have her makes me want her more. I would marry her and DIE for her, and we have only eye flirted...

Underneath this rugged 365 pound bench pressing exterior lies another basement dweller, gentleman.

>>17867831
>this rugged 365 pound bench pressing exterior
Dude what the fuck? How tall are you?
That's like fucking powerlifter or strong man bodyweight.

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>>17867790
i mean more autistic than you? I don't know if those poor kids are up to the challenge op.

>>17867790
What do you mean by crybabies?

I know that most of my fellow undergraduate """"scholars"""" tend to bitch and complain all the time, and blame the professor if they get a low grade in a course.

>>17867790
You got brainwashed by /pol/ my mans

> What are some rebuttals to her stupid statements?

None....

Feminism is shit, but her issue is more with her belief system. As a 23yr old white guy living in Washington D.C whose had black friends from particularly East Africa (Kenya, Somalia), they have pretty rigid 'old fashioned' beliefs on gender identity and norms. Men reject femininity, are emotionally strong, work for their family, Women raise kids, be docile (not try to take a man's role) etc.

Just out of question OP, is it just her who believes this or your entire family.

>>17867715
>She believes that 'gays' are wrong and choose to be gay
There is enough scientific data to shut her up. If she can't accept it, attempting any further arguments is pointless.

>She also critisizes anyone who steps out of gender boundaries as 'wrong'.
This will be more complicated given how gender roles are a complex subject, I guess the most simple way would be examples from history where things that was considered masculine/feminine was completely opposed to our understanding of it. Something like high heels being men wear for example.

Besides it's inconsistent with her other beliefs.

>she will always say that males have more privilege than females.
That's simply a fact. Work towards a middle ground and make her acknowledge that females have some advantages too like custody. (Which is related to gender roles, so gotta play on two sides)

>dating issues
Just don't fucking go this way. It's ridiculous.

>I would prefer to go down the civilized route and have logical arguments with her.
You can always try, if she proves to be too dense, there is always sarcasm.

She's from a savage place where its is true. Just pity her and patronize her for being from such an uncivilized place on earth and move on. Not worth trying to teach her something when she'll be back to jungle in a month