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>>17868872
Get a hobby

Get some aspirations or a hobby that you are able to indulge yourself into like playing an instrument, drawing or even writing

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>>17868875
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>>17868846
A hard dick poking your ass during the massage.

Expect it to be an old ugly asian woman instead of pic related

>>17868891
I dont mind, i just want her funger up my ass while she gently strokes my oiled dick

Go to /fit/ read the sticky gain 40 lbs 140 at 6' is like a twig man

>>17868805
Stop jacking off.

>>17868805
>How the fuck do I become more dominant/aggressive/alpha/manly?

If a single girl can destroy your self esteem like this, then being dominant will be a long process for you.

If you think cliches make you manly, then you lack the confidence to actually conduct yourself with power.

And if you keep using words like "alpha"... you know...

Google is your friend here. There are loads of pages of information on how to deal with this. Don't wait here hoping for a few strangers to give you half assed ideas that after waiting 20 minutes when you could get this answer on google in like 10 seconds.

Some advice is just better left asking google instead of people

>>17868798
That is because you are getting less sun light during the winter and sun light gives you important vitimans.

Watch the Albert Camus school of Life vid on YouTube and read his books all their vids are good just that one and the Lao Tzu one helped me the most to live a more happy and fulfilling life :)

Nah not gay

It's the same as a woman just a man
No good story
Very hush hush

>>17868802
I've seen straight dudes who primarily date women, have a gay romance or two.

>>17868771
If it's resolved there's no need for hesitation the faster you get back to normal friendship the better

>>17868782
I just feel like if I do it then itll seem like im forcing him to be on better terms with me. I'm only sending him a gift as way of thanks for helping me through some rough time if that makes sense.

>>17868791
If he sees it that way then he no goo friend or you did some crazy manipulative shit in your past to make him think you're that type of person

U are overreacting I have a bust of Plato in my living room

>>17868765
>am i overreacting
yes

You're overreacting m8. My roommate's got a poster of shirtless Bruce Lee, but it doesn't mean he's gay for him. It's just a quirky poster

Yes, no use in delaying the inevitable

>>17868744
you should start living life and giving a fuck. you have this one life, even if you are unsure of where you are going now, at least get going somewhere so you can get signs to the right way.

everyone has the ability to be happy but it depends on you. find what you like and once you find it, recognize it and nurture it.

>>17868744
At least wait till he kicks the bucket, you inconsiderate fuck.

>>17868716
hmmmmmmm how long should i last eh????

The idea is to cum as quickly as possible (AFTER entry)

if you have pe the science is simple.

you have a weak penis , what you need as a strong one.

You need to figure out that one your own since all out body science is unique.

but like run and shit for more stamina

>>17869820
do kegels works?
should I try to fap and stop when I'm at the brink of cumming?

>>17868716

>Premature ejaculation

I fucking hate this, it's a problem manufactured by modern society. If you were trying to make a baby (what sex is for) this problem wouldn't be one... hell, it'd be a positive boon.

The problem isn't that you cum too soon, the problem is that the woman doesn't cum, right? She's not getting pleasure, so she'll want to leave you and you won't get the sex anymore.

This problem should be called "Unresponsive Vagina" instead of "Premature Ejaculation". It's a man's characteristic framed from an outside perspective and recast as a problem.

My home remedy? A fair amount of booze. A few drinks before sex to numb the hair-trigger.

Women hate it when men cum too soon during sex, but they also hate it when they take too long, especially during other activities (like handjobs and blowjobs). Find a girl who likes to do those things. You'll blow your load in the back of her throat in 30 seconds flat and she'll think she's a fucking cocksucking goddess.

I can empathize with you, I have the opposite problem. My sensitivity is very low, I often need 20+ minutes of stimulation to get off. Women hate this too, I've been dumped by every woman because I didn't get off every time, because they orgasmed and couldn't continue. The problem is, as a man having sex, you're a fucking slave to the bitch's clock. If you don't do it right, you get thrown to the curb, after all the effort it took you to get there.

Anyway, good luck anon.

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i stayed over her house a few times and we had sex. it was underwhelming but it was fine (i had never been with a girl before). obviously, i had become used to things being a certain way, sexually, from my previous relationship. it would take some getting used to, i told myself. another important point is that i have never connected well with girls, and any friendships i've had with girls have invariably failed. let's say i have a difficult time trusting them and relating to them for some reason.
Mimi told me a couple of weeks (or so) later that she had never felt so strongly and so quickly about anyone before, and that even she was taken by surprise at how much she had fallen for me. i was bolstered by this; flattered to say the least. but I could not honestly say the same thing. i certainly was surprised at how quickly i'd fallen for her in may, but that was it really. nevertheless it made me feel much warmer toward her and that month was excellent. we were a very affectionate couple and spent a great deal of time together- and the sex was getting better.
around november i began to notice things. i hated how Mimi wasn't herself in public, and that she tried really hard to be "cute and quirky". for example, she would draw dots under her eyes with makeup and dress sort of strangely on purpose. personally i love to use makeup and express myself but i got the vibe that she wasn't being true to herself and trying to be someone she wasn't. it really bothered me. i talked to her about it and she said that she tries to be likeable. i told her she doesn't have to because i like her enough already. (cont)

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i noticed a change within myself in mid-november. i was often very moody (or had surprising and exhausting mood swings) and hated looking at Mimi and speaking to her. i purposely tried to hurt her feelings sometimes. there was a part of me that didn't really believe it when she told me she loved me. she was so passive in comparison to my loud and slightly posessive ex. i told myself to stop comparing Mimi and my ex but i couldn't help it.
i wasn't moody all the time, but this month i have noticed that i've been like this a lot more than i've been happy. on monday i ignored her, and on tuesday (13th) i told her (quite spitefully) that we shouldn't see each other. seeing her get upset was satisfying, and it actually surprised me to see she cared so much. later on, i regretted what i had said, and took it back over a long call. we saw each other this thursday and i couldn’t bring myself to smile at her. she asked to hold my hand and hug me but i didn't want it. i don't understand what's gotten into me!
last night, i was looking at her snapchat story because it was her birthday. she went out with some of her friends. i didn't go because i had to catch a flight… and also to upset her. i understand that what i'm about to say might sound horrible, but on her pictures she looked so slutty and i was furious. it made me so angry. who is she trying to seduce? i was disgusted with her.
so… /adv/… i can give more info if you need, but what i want to know is:
should i break up? can i work through my feelings? are they irrational? am i still hung up on my ex?
sorry it was so long. thanks everyone

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>>17868704
You really seem to hate her, do you actually still like her?
I mean, if you completely disagree with and are kind of offended by those two phrases then maybe you should just stop and think through everything, and make a rational decision out of it.
If however, you have come to hate her ( which it sure seems like you do, looking at the third part post ) then you should just break up.

>>17868632

you probably dont have autism.

a lot of online tests are like this
>do you think you have autism
>WOW YOU GOT A HIGH AUTISM SCORE.

most tests are not subtle at all. the questions are leading. you can look at most questions and know which one is the autistic answer.

your parents didnt hide it from you, especially if they made you aware of your ADHD. the fact that oyu got a REAL diagnosis for ADHD and not autism kinda proves you DONT have autism, cuz the doctor would have spotted it easy.

you dont ahve autism. you're just not a complete normie stereotype.

and you made it through life so far without any inkling of it, so its clearly not something hindering your life to any real degree.

>>17868632
How old are you? It's extremely rare for someone older than about 16 to have been diagnosed, because autism wasn't as solidified back when ADD/HD was. Even if you really are autistic (see: self-diagnosing and online tests are bullshit for every single thing), yu're probably not too high up on the scale. Nobody likes to stop what they're doing to go to work, be hit up by someone while doing something else, and everyone like chars in shit (that's the reason why anyone even watched a show).

>>17868665
I'm 25, I'm not sure what the test were like in the 90's they asked me questions while I played with toys or something like that. My physically and emotionally abusive mom was concerned why I wet the bed and had problems in school, so she got me tested for adhd. It may be just some bullshit my friend got put in my head that I'm just stewing over right now. I'm just kind of afraid because I have a lot of the same traits and quirks as autism.

What was the content of the messages? Be specific or we can't help

>>17868604
extremely unfortunately, the first message he has read was him telling me "i love you". context here is that i have known him before i met my bf and since we are very close and care about each other deeply, we used to say that to each other. i told him to not say it anymore after i was in a relationship but he just said it out of the blue...
the rest of the messages wasn't much better either.
it was just some random "what are we up to" stuff but i also asked him for advice for something concerning my relationship , i also told him about an argument i have had with my bf.
he has sent me an update on a girl he is seeing lately, which included pretty detailed infos about the sex they had.
the worst part, however, was that we talked about how it would be nive to once meet irl and i said yes, i would want to know if we could talk like we do face to face too.
i actually haven't had any intentions to meet up, but i said that nonetheless and he has read it.
i'm so stupid i want to slap myself...

>>17868630
when i asked him, my bf said the prt that hurt him the most was me talking about stuff concerning him with my friend instead of him... which i can totally understand. god damnit

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>>17868562

do what you want. you're miserable now. so how much more miserable can you REALLY be by just doing what you want.

start by exploring it in private, and then if that goes well, and you do like it, admit to your friends and family that you're dating trans.

honest to god i dont know how anyone can understand logic beyond 'do what makes you happy'. i understand how someone high in power might do something for the greater good as oppose dto personal happiness, but you arent in power. you do not have people depending on you to be a certain way.

even your parents will just continue to live hteir own lives as is regardless of what you do.

so why not just do somethign that makes you happy. who cares if its 'decadent'?

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>>17868580
thank you for the response,

the reason it hurts me is that growing up, my father would threaten to leave our family if I acted out of line. so I grew up with this sense of abandonment that fucked with my head all the way up to today. even today, he makes me feel guilty if I start doing out there thing, by saying "I gave up my life back in Miami (old city we grew up in) for you kids, you can't do this" and he goes nuts. my mom then cries and begs me to listen.

I know if I explore that side and they find out, it will turn into the same thing. it got to the point my father used to threaten to commit suicide because he kept feeling like he made a mistake changing his career once he had myself and my sister.

this leads me to today, also on top of that I worry God will say when I die something to the extent "you wasted your life over appetites instead of living how you were supposed to" so I sit in misery trying to just be the best man I can.

>>17868601

>family issues.

I feel you. your parents have issues. but its their issues. its like they say, you don't program your kids. they are people, just like anyone else. and you got to let them do what they want. its their lives. a paretns happiness shouldn't be dependent on the little details of their kids lives.

either your parents love you, or they want you to obey them. if they loe you, then they love YOU, not the act. and if they only want you to obey them, wh y would you want to?

there is that middle ground where they love you and want what is best for you. but if they are in that middle ground they will look past the 'what is best' and not disown you or leave or continue to hate you once the initial shock wears off.

my mother also tried to commit suicide twice this year and i know how exhausting it can be. she keeps saying im her only reason for living. she has a very bates motel mindset towards me despite me moving out six years ago and flying across the country, but shes convinced its only because my career can only be maintained from this particular town and that if not for that id be living iwth her still.

but its something im deconstructing with her and showing that i am my own person, i have my own life and even if i didnt have THIS life id still be somehwere else doing my own thing.


>god will punish me for being happy

its pretty sad if god says 'who cares if you were happy, you were supposed to be a modern concept of 'macho' and not have sex with someone you're attracted to.

if god loves you, he'll love you for you and not punish you for doing something that literally doesn't harm others. and if he doesn't love you why do you want to please him?

honestly if god does exist hes probably way more upset with all the child slaves suffering to maintain your already cushy life than he is about you dating a trans person, just sayian.

>>17868527
Mine crypto currencies

>>17868594
Shit advice.

>>17868527
Did you finish your degree? Are you in school?

If no to those go get a full time job. Practice other things on the side like what you mentioned. Keep in mind a degree is the filter for most good jobs. If you're good enough it can be done without, but when HR automatically filters you out it will be tough.

>>17868713
BA in a liberal arts field (and ~40k gov't loan debt)
I still enjoy my field of study as a hobby/passion, for what it's worth, but I don't want to work in the industry.

What sorts of full-time jobs exist for somebody like me?
I don't have many skills, but I'd like to learn.
I just don't know where to begin.

>>17868524
The fuck are you on about?

>>17868536
I was called a stalker and a psycho when I initially asked how I could find a friend of mine from elementary school when I lost their contact information a long time ago.

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>>17868524

>be me
>want to get more attention
>post on /adv/ about my edgy problems
>no one responds
>make a new thread
>just say vague cryptic shit
>someone responds

>>17868552

lol tho