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go watch thai life insurance commercials until you appreciate her

My entire family is dead, internally and externally.
I live with strangers.
Even though I make decent dough, I'll never have the same experience I had ever coming back home again. All I live for is to generate money to satisfy myself and save it for the future. This sucks and I want them back, but I know I'll never see them again. My roommate is a sack of shit who deserves everything coming to him, and I hope someday, after saving enough, I'll finally be rid of this tumor on my ass.

Every day I live is an agonizing fight to the finish.

Mine all died when they shot up meth, shot up their own skulls, or got shot up on chemo. I mourn their deaths in secrecy every day, and I have so much regret built within me...I can't even cry. It's as if I cried so hard, I lost the ability to do so.


My advice to you...is to call her once in a while. You might as well get it over with, as there's a chance you'll never see her again. It happened to me, and it certainly will happen to you. I just hope it happens to you much later than it did to me (I mean, if you're 80 and she's 100). No one deserves this burden, not even a spoiled brat such as yourself.

It's a chore, yes...but you'll never deal with the pain of not contacting them until it was too late.

>>17867181
I know the feeling. Even if you love your family it is tough to keep up with them; contacting people and making time for them regularly is kind of a chore when you think about it. It's necessary maintenance for keeping up any relationship. Fortunately it's not really that hard, it just seems like work when you have to initiate it.

I put an alarm on my phone that tells me to call my parents every Sunday evening and that works out really well. Do you cook? I call my mom and ask for recipe ideas, but really it's just a casual and convenient way to find out what's going on in her life and say hi.

Idk dude. Netflix will probably still be around after your mom's dead.

Nah you already fucked up.

You should have just asked her out after you met her since you liked her already.

She would have either said yes/no

if she said yes then you go on a date with her if she says no then you go meet some different girl.

Now that you're this far in you might as well go for it, just if she says no don't try again just find some different girl.

Telling you her love her in her native tongue sounds pretty lame unless that's like some thing you guys have or something, I don't know, you know her better than me.

>>17867184
She didn't hit me right away, she just rubbed on me in time, we went out two times and even drank wine at her place once, she just grew on me untill this moment.

Bumpity bump

Are you a male or female?

>>17867159
Female, forgot to make that clear

>>17867163
How old are you? The way I see it, it's more like he's probably as old as your dad. In a few years time even if you find only emotional support from him, it will be hard starting a family and enjoying his later stages in life. He will pass sooner than you and it would leave you lonely. I'm just thinking in terms of your future and how you would like to live it with him I'm sure he wouldn't like feeling like a weight to you or keep you from living life normaly with a family.

your time already ran out

move to a boom town where anyone can get a job.

Setting out on your own will be a beautiful character building experience

>>17867079
>I have aspergers and social anxiety.
Are you good at hiding it? Even if it's stressful, can you put on a show convincing enough that people just assume you're a bit introverted?

If not, you need to focus on that. With luck, you may find that these convincing fake interactions become less stressful and more real.

Do you have any particular skill set? If you're good with computers, maybe look at getting an IT qualification? People expect tech workers to be a bit weird/nerdy.

>>17867028
you were just too nervous. it's perfectly natural.
try losing it to a girlfriend so you can actually be comfortable with the person.

>>17867028
Don't worry OP, this happened with my first girlfriend and she shamed me and threatened to cheat on me all night long for making her feel "not sexy". That's when I knew she wasn't the one

It's completely 100% normal don't worry

Do you watch porn? Do you masturbate more often than once every 4-5 days?

If so, there is your problem. Porn leads to erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation, ejaculating too frequently during masturbation leads to low libido and can lead to premature ejaculation if you aren't edging for 10-15 minutes before cumming.


Next time you have a chance to lose your virginity, do this:

Don't ejaculate for 3-4 days. On the day of the meetup with the girl, you should have A LOT of sexual energy built up. You don't want to go in with a loaded gun, so bust a nut 1-2 hours before you are in bed with the girl. You will have no problems getting up, and lasting long shouldn't be much of a problem. If you finish fast, just keep focusing on her until you are hard again, then fuck her again.

Just relax, bro. If you can't laugh off sexual mishaps, you're doomed to self fulfilling prophecies. Remember: Porn is your enemy. Limit your ejaculations to once every 4-5 days. Edge in the meantime, do kegel exercises daily, eat well, don't smoke cigarettes or vape nicotine, avoid adderall and anti-depressants, and you should have no problems getting erections.

Drinking green tea daily also increases libido.

Bump because of same situation lolololol

Join the army.

>>17867027
Lobotomy

>>17866986
where's the question
also press enter in-between greentexts

>>17866990
i just wanna know if im validated for being angry and how to deal with autistic people

>>17866997
take a bunch of unflattering pics of your brother without him knowing
talk to him about why it's wrong and gross
then show him pics you took of him and try to get across that the feeling of violation is how those girls feel
maybe even threaten to tell the girls if that doesn't work.

google shaved porn pics, point at the ones you like and give her a thumbs up. then take her to a salon that does waxing, and let them torture her for a few hours.

>>17866958
there is no way to guarantee her feelings won't get hurt.
you just have to be nice about it and hope for the best.

honestly I have no fucking clue how you'd propose it
"Anon, I think you're very beautiful and you know I care about you.
"Lately I've been wondering if you'd like to try trimming down there.
"I think it'd look very sexy on you."

Wait, are you dating a native Chinese woman and don't speak the language?

>>17866931
>Should I just not bring it up and move on like nothing happened?
jfc don't do this. my boyfriend does this and it pisses me off.
it's so dismissive, solves nothing.

>Should I bring it up and apologize at the things that she felt hurt her?
YES, DO THIS.
do NOT give half-assed apologies like
>"I'm sorry you're upset"
>"I'm sorry your feelings are hurt"
that's dismissive too and takes 0 responsibility.
say *I* am sorry that *I* did _____

and a gift isn't corny.

you're a clueless nigger

>>17866943
Don't listen to this stupid cunt. She probably has borderline personality disorder herself.

>>17866927
"should i choose this good heterosexual man or this underachieving faggot". if you put it on there it will seem like your using it for leverage, and it wont help. Do community service or some shit, be better.
-gay college graduate

>>17866953
I'm not underachieving, I participate in a lot of different clubs, won school awards, community service

>>17867064
Then don't worry about it

>>17866893
>unflattering pic of Gigi on the left where she isn't posing
>flattering pic of rando girl on the right with a pose and filter
yeah ok, compare rando chick with no filter next to a professional shot of Gigi

>>17866975
now unfiltered, less potato quality pic of girl on right

>>17866879
4chan

>>17866879
If you figure it out let me know.

>>17866879
youve found it
enjoy

It's done me a world of good, but some people don't like it very much. Depends on your neurobiology and what you want out of it, but don't be an attention seeking pussy. You either want to get better, in which case you'll follow a professional's advice, or you don't, in which case you'll do what you want regardless of what anyone tells you.

better give it a chance and see if it's doing any good

>>17866850
Maybe take microdoses to start? Find out the threshold on these (the minimum it takes to get an effect) and take it slow. Check in with your Dr (probably could just call him) weekly/biweekly about how you feel on them.

>>17866849
>>17866849
Your medication has revealed you are actually a fag.

>>17866849
I JUST got prescribed SSRI's but haven;t been taking them because the side effects is that it destroys your sex drive and can actually make you impotent/not able to cum. I don't know if i should take them or if they'll fuck me up worse than I am.

>>17866849
I've been taking SSRIs for a while now and it's done literally nothing. I don't even feel happier.

>>17866844
do you expect wine from olives and milk from a frog? It's tinder

Most girls either

Are only there for validation
Are being messaged by tons of guys so they couldnt give 2 fucks about most dudes
Are vapid and shit at conversation, hence their reason to being on tinder
And are usually looking for super hot dudes in particular, so if youre not built you are fucked.

>>17866861

Got two menages with a couple profile, your argument is invalid