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>>17867714
It is incredibly immature to end a friendship because a friend is busy with life. As hurtful as it is that he isn't as active in the frienship as he once was, he wasn't put on this Earth just to be your friend.
This also falls into your lap on solely depending on one friend to always be there for you- it's a tough reality, but you shouldn't lean on friends like that, because once they're not around you're miserable.
Part of being a good friend is being understanding and supportive. He hasn't done a single thing that could be considered malicious, mean or nasty... Just been MIA and inconsiderate which can be explained by his new relationship and new job. He's busy, give him a break for God's sake.
Aren't you happy for him? He's succeeding in his pursuit of work and has got himself a girlfriend. Or is it a little bit of envy over him doing well, little jealous that it's all happening without you being included?
You should consider telling him how you feel before you explode, be patient and let him know how much you miss him without being angry and starting a huge argument over something that can be solved with a conversation.
Don't be so willing to throw relationships away that you obviously invest too much into. Also get some more friends so you're not as dependant on your best friend.

>>17867792

Thanks for the advice, but like I said in the OP what is really bothering me is that he can't return a fucking text. I understand if he doesn't always have time to hang out but I can't believe he simply doesn't have time to text me back. I mean most of the time its not very important stuff that he has ignored but there was one time when I specifically said it was important and asked him to get back to me as soon as possible and he simply never did. I waited more then a week thinking surely he would respond eventually.

>>17867698
No one can judge what you do with your free time, what your passions are. It's perfectly normal and accettable to be boring.

However it doesn't sound like you are happy with yourself, so you should continue to focus on things to try out until you feel comfortable with something.

>>17867734
I don't even think anyone does judge me, I just perceive myself as a worse person because I don't "do" things. I'm not sure how to explain it though.

I feel like compared to all those people who make great images, or all those people who make great music, or all those people who perform and entertain thousands of people, or even just youtuber "content creators" - they all "do" something, you know? They make other peoples' day better, while I just... I just am?

Right now I just want someone to tell me that it's okay to only sleep, eat, work and relax, no pressure. I'm not sure if it is or not. I don't know what most other people around me do.
I think my current worries actually started a few days ago when I learned that this guy at my workplace actually makes literal millions every day, and he just works at my place as a hobby (he's an assistant for kids with CP and such). I admire him both for having the energy to just help people with a smile, but also that he makes money I'll never dream of seeing. Meanwhile, I just... am. I don't know if it's okay.

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>>17867635
> grinding practice problems / taking notes

sigh.....the practices of you lesser minds continue to amuse and delight me

>>17867635
whiteboards are nice but they're a pain in the ass

I just bulk buy printer paper when there's a sale and use that

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Get you one of these anon. They work great for scratch paper.

>>17867566

It is not too old to change your mind. Tons of older students are doing just that. What's another 2-4 years of School when u have at least 27+ more to go?

I'm a 27 graphic designer and it rocks. Sorry OP.

>>17867566
Why do you think it's too late? Colonel Sanders only found success when he started KFC, and he was at retirement age.

>>17867507
i think thats normal bro. like i can remember very popular quotes from movies, but if you ask me to tell you exactly what people said in a show i just watched i can only tell you the general idea they conveyed

>>17867507
reduce frequency of pot smoking

>>17867540
I did that months ago lol.

Your friend was kind of a dick but I'm sure he had good intentions.
You should mention to him that jt annoyed you and you'd like not to feel so embarassed in the future. If he apologizes then it's all good. If not then he's a prideful bitch and deserves whatever shit you want to throw at him for being a prick.

>>17867482
I honestly wouldnt roll with people like this. They bring you down because theyre so concerned with growing their own ego. Your friends should make you feel stronger. You shouldnt have to go on 4chan to complain about your friends

>>17867488
We allready sort of talked it over, could see i wasnt in the best of moods leaving and asked me what up later.
Didnt help that cockblocker was getting all comfy with the girl too

I know it wasn't deliberate but more than anything I cant deal with compliments, I immidetly think people are being backhanded, does anybody else get this?

>>17867471
First off, she needs another hobby. Also, if she doesn't actually do anything in bed either, you could try approaching it from a "we both need to get the passion into our sex life" kinda deal, so it seems like you're not just blaming her.

tbqh though she sounds like the kind of person where drama is inevitable; people with empty lives tend to thrive off of it.

She should respect when you don't feel like it, and you should definitely make that abundantly clear. A relationship with no sexual respect is a doomed one imo.

Does she get mad / upset when you ask her to do things (anything at all) or ask her to change in any way?

>>17867471
Try BDSM or maybe hire a black guy to pleasure your gf while she's blindfolded. Never let her knew it's another dude. You can focus on your business.

>>17867395

stay away from student loans right now. do not get sunk in debt, even for a community college.

get a regular job for a while and get some savings up in your corner for a few months while you emotionally patch yourself back together.

avoid relationships deeper than casual dating, you don't need to fuck something up right now either with too much comittment or a unexpected kid or something stupid that you knew better.

Why didn't you withdraw from your classes if you weren't coping? That's the first thing they're going to ask you when you present them with your sob story

>>17867401
I actually had already applied and was accepted for loans that would cover the university I'm trying to attend. Problem is that I live with my parents and they will not support me if I'm not in school. I've had a job long before college and its stable and pays well, but is only part time.

>>17867390
Well, I think we have all seen it like this when entering a new relationship. The fear of breaking up just shows that you're afraid of being hurt, and perhaps you don't feel this relationship is worth it.

I have a feeling is something more than "we might break up in the future". What do you think, OP?

You are 20. Almost EVERYONE in your age range is in relationships that don't last.

Don't over think things too hard. As long as you both know what's up coming in, just go with the flow.

Like.. if they're already talking about how they have a 5 year plan and want to get married in 2 years, have a house in 4 and kids in 5... Then yeah, probably be respectful and bounce.

Otherwise though, no one knows what the future holds, and holding yourself back because you're afraid something MIGHT change or MIGHT not last, is just overthinking things to the extreme.

Live life to be happy, not to be afraid. Even if this ends, the memories and experiences will last and go to become a part of who you are.

Good experiences can almost never be erased by bad ones, and they're always something you can treasure.

>>17867418
Yeah, I think you're right about many people feeling the fear of being hurt when they begin a new relationship. In my case I think I'm more concerned about hurting the other person since I'm currently not interested in starting a relationship with the intention of making it last "forever".

>>17867423
You're right, I do have a tendency to overthink things. Thank you very much, anon, this was very helpful.

>>17867381
Don't just duck the calls. If they're already fucked up, it could make them worse. Don't hang out with them if you're afraid they'll help you relapse either though. Explain the situation to them, be courteous and reply a couple times, and find a good place to stop contact without looking like you forced the stop.

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>>17867393
>Don't just duck the calls. If they're already fucked up, it could make them worse. Don't hang out with them if you're afraid they'll help you relapse either though. Explain the situation to them, be courteous and reply a couple times, and find a good place to stop contact without looking like you forced the stop.

You're right. I know that would make me feel worse if the rolls were flipped.

-How do I explain 2 months of not calling back?

-What should I say to them? I'm not a pushover but think my sympathy gets the best of me. (that's why I gave them my number in the first place)

>>17867407
>How do I explain 2 months of not calling back?
It depends. How long were you in the hospital?

>What should I say to them?
I'd need to know more to get a general gameplan going. Just talk to them like you normally would, I guess.

>>17867348
>In-between jobs, so to speak.
What do you mean 'so to speak'?

>>17867348

Pretty much anything.

I mean, anything specific I list you will likely claim you're not interested in, so why bother? Your question is too broad.

>>17867348
Rubik's cube solving

See if you can find the game anywhere else first. Around you, maybe a friend, other sites and such. It's probably not the wisest decision, but if you're really wanting it, you could just go for it. Just be careful and make sure it's the last resort.

>>17867388
It's definitely the last resort; this game is insanely rare, and it's the cheapest I've ever seen it.

>>17867307
eBay has really good buyer protection. I'd say it's fairly safe in that you have a high chance of getting your money back if you do get fucked over.

>>17867270

Speaking as a collegiate aged male, stuck on the shitter after consuming chicken nuggets drenched in honey mustard, having his insides rupturing; test ur pussy with ur fingers.

Some chicks react more to clitoral stimulation, others insertion.

I fear I may never leave this toilet.

>>17867270

OP order from online. That way you can look up product reviews and find something appealing to you

>>17867270
Buy from Amazon. You get a lot more to choose from and customer reviews.

She can't hold you hostage. Anyone who says shit like I will kill myself if you leave you simply must fucking leave. It's blackmail. People don't blackmail people they love, people blackmail people they need something from. She probably needs your attention. She doesn't deserve it.

Go have a good life anon.

>>17867313
I've been told this already but I appreciate it, thank you

>>17867343
Hope you take it to heart. Maybe in the future she will change but sadly by staying and 'giving into' her, it can only possibility makes things worse as it reassures her that those kind of threats work

>>17867236

Ask /sci/, that's really not an advice question.

>>17867378
I did, they won't respond.

They're more into math and dumb physics questions than biology.

Fuck nobody on this entire website cares about biology and it's the most interesting science.

Not really a biology student (I'm aiming for medicine) but I have to agree that biology is one of the interesting branches

Could you elaborate on that "directly travel"? Like, the suppository gets dissolved, enters liver then towards the SI or some of the dissolved suppository enters the small intestine?