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How do I gently convince my boyfriend to start dressing more adult without hurting his feelings?

He's like 5'7 and thin as a rail and looks roughly 15 and people look at me like I'm some goddamn child molester whenever I'm out with him. Considering that we can't really be mistaken for family and he's determined to turn PDA into a PSA, this happens often.

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My boyfriend is a single dad and we've been dating for about 2 years. Recently he introduced me to his daughter, she's 12.

She seems to hate me immensely. She had a very dismissive and negative attitude towards me immediately and doesn't want anything to do with me.

What can I do to get on more friendly terms with her or is it hopeless?

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>Bad social anxiety, makes it hard to meet women irl
>When I do, almost always likes whatever friends I'm with more than me
>Try Tinder
>Get very few matches
>Matches I do get seldom even talk to me
>Been on 2 dates in the past year.
>both times they just wanted to be friends after.

Is it simply time to accept I'm just not destined to be successful with women

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I am incredibly uncomfortable with being black. I just feel like RNG has to be on my side for like anything that has to do with dating.

I feel fine when it comes to like things like college grades and work and stuff. My issues are strictly with dating.

Any time I talk to a woman the first thought that I think she is thinking is "what the fuck is this ape talking to me for?"

I lose all nerve to talk to women I want to date. What can I do to build self esteem I guess?

I am just so concerned that my blackness is losing me options on who I have a chance of dating. For example, there is a Mexican girl I like in this art class. I have not said a word to her but I get this feeling she would hate me.

How do I stop those thoughts?

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A girl that I've been talking to for a couple days just texted me this. What do I say???

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I am in my early 30s now

All my friends are settling down. Steady jobs for past decade or more, mortgages, wives/fiances, kids will be next. They all seem so happy. They have always been "box tickers" if you know what I mean and I have always wanted more from life but never knew what exactly and so I find myself drifting aimlessly, single and broke.

I look at my friends and feel so jealous and left behind. Yet deep down, I don't want what they want. Part of me wants the security of a wife and house. Another part of me wants to run into the sunset all guns blazing and just living life as a happy, unattached nomad.

Everyone around me is patronising me without meaning to. Everyone insists I should lower my standards and get a girlfriend by any means necessary, that I should get a job even if I despise it, that I should start saving money for my future etc. Its driving me mad.

Am I really missing out on life by being alone and not on the property ladder. I tell myself that a few years from now all my friends will be miserable in dead marriages etc as thats the commonly accepted stereotype. But I don't see that happening. Its not that I don't want them to be happy, far from it. I just don't know whether I should aspire to be like them, whether my take on life is immature etc.

tl;dr - Is not having a wife, kid, house, career tin your 30s really the end of the world?

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This is my first year living by myself. Is it a good idea to crank up the thermostat above the desired temperature if it's just so damn cold outside or is that dangerous?

I have it at 25c right now but I think most of the heat is escaping through the big window. I'm only getting 18C.

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hey guys i need some help comparing and contrasting these two fields

as far as i can tell nursing requires
-decent science skills
-giving a shit about people
-dealing with bitchy women
-lots of memorization
-better working conditions

while electrician work is
-much more physically demanding
-good math and spatial skills
-good mechanical background
-dealing with sexist guys who think grills can't figure this shit out
-good unions
-better coworkers
-shitty working conditions

i'm a 6' tomboy with math ability but shitty memory and no mechanical background. i want a good indemand middle class job. which do i choose?

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Here's my greentext story please advise

>Be me
>Great friends with somebody. Easily top 5 friend in my life.
>Get along with them well and have known them for years
>One day I can't afford to pay for my medication anymore. I have schizotypal personality disorder.
>Get off the antipsychotics feels bad man
>Mental health gets worse, personality starts changing and getting worse
>One day after being off meds for a few months
>Have completely out of character schizo psycho bitch melt down over some really mild drama and say the meanest shit you could ever imagine to my friend and cut contact with them
>Years later
>Get back on medication
>I'm back to normal, wouldn't hurt a fly. Can't stress enough that I don't have a mean bone in my body and the melt down was because I was off meds

Now I want to contact my friend again. I feel like if I explain what happened they'll be able to forgive me and want to be my friend again. I have their facebook. Should I contact them and explain things? I miss them very much.

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>Had a fuckbuddy for most of last year
>She caught feelings, I didn't feel feel the same, so I didn't want to make her my girlfriend
>Eventually we drifted apart and she got a boyfriend, I didn't really care, had pretty much lost interest in the sex anyway
>Was emotional support for her through chat as he dumped her five times over the period of three months, he's basically abusive as fuck
>Things apparently cleared up, they're together and it's fine, we still talk as friends every now and then
>She admits she had feelings for me because she was in a bad place emotionally and needed someone, and basically anyone would do. Told her this months ago and at the time she was really offended by it
>Last time we talked was August, everything was fine, just casual chat
>Wrote "Hi" to her today, she basically told me to go to hell and never talk to her again, since she only talks to people worthy of her friendship, and blocked me
>I assumed it was her bf writing since he's been known to read her logs and be on her facebook account from time to time, so I call her to ask wtf is going on
>A few seconds of silence, then she gives the phone to him and he basically tells me to fuck off because she doesn't want to talk to me

So, this is really not a big deal, we don't talk often and I have no intention of getting back together with her, I was just bored and chatting with random people on my fb friends list. Still, this hit me really hard for some reason. Human beings really can be shit, huh?

I'm also kind of pissed at myself for reacting strongly to this. Logically, she is nothing to me these days and never really was. It still hurt for some reason. Not a fan of feeling like this.

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My dad plays Hearthstone and 99% of the time when he plays this game, he sits and cuss, swear and use every word that offends God. It's very frustrating, because when you try to talk to him he literally bites your head off. He says the game makes him relax but he just sits and gets more and more angry. My mom and I often just avoid making contact or tell him to calm down because it'll just anger him more. What I fear is that some day he'll just snap and throw something. This is just not acceptable, but discussing it with him is futile. He yells at the dog, at the cat, at us and the screen. He's turning 50. Sometimes I just want to disconnect the internet but that makes him fly through the roof. Since he started playing, he's just become extremely vile towards us... How do I deal with this?

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i wanna buy a book for my girlfriend for christmas. she isn't super into reading but she reads more than average. she has moderately pleb tastes (i think her favorite author is hemingway) i'm thinking i could get her a really pretty copy of slaughterhouse five (i know vonnegut is a shit but it's comfy and nice shit) thoughts? suggestions? i feel like it might come off as me thinking it's a way to like guilt her into reading more or something idk.

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I bulged three disc in my back I got a mri and doctor said it's minimal disc bulges. Does it take a long time for them to heal.

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Dating thus far has proven a waste of my time.

So I'm a 22-year old male. Fairly attractive, intelligent, charismatic, funny, confident, and well-rounded. I can't get just any girl I want but I don't have trouble with finding someone who's interested. As a boyfriend I'm told I'm sweet, caring, thought-provoking, unpredictable, and passionate. I'm the boyfriend your friends and parents love. I'm not perfect but I'm told I'm a catch.

But I've never had a relationship last longer than a month. Ever. I've been with five girls thus far. I figured I was just seeing the wrong people but in November I started dating this cute, sweet, funny girl who absolutely adored me, brought me around her friends, and said that she was lucky to have me and wanted to be with me for a long time. Three days before our one-month she broke up with me over the phone because of anxiety over the future of our relationship that she had never brought up to me before. It was understandable why she was upset but I was devastated because she never talked to me about it and turned so cold to me when she did it.

A couple days after, I restarted my Tinder and got a lot of initial attention. I'm actually talking to a cool girl right now who messaged me first. But I just feel like there's no point. If a dynamic as good as my last relationship can't make it a month, why even bother? Is it even worth it to try again? It seems like a waste of my time and it's to the point that I hate dating.

What do