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>>17864601
You have fallen for the "you are what you majored in" meme.

There are jobs for history experts, but chances are that you won't get a job because of what you know about the 18th century, but what skills you picked up in studying the 18th century.

You can do the following things better than 90% of the population: read and understand large amounts of material, select from masses of data the most significant, analyze the data to make sense of it, use your research to formulate and support original conclusions, write coherently and grammatically, work well both in small groups and independently, etc. etc.

Those are all saleable skills you picked up along the way. They can be transferred - to market research, or paralegal, or corporate planning, or advertising, or any number of other fields.

And if you add in some fluency in Chinese and familiarity with Chinese culture, almost any multinational doing business in the East will want you.

I have a bachelors in History and Political Science and I'm going to teach English in China soon. I don't think it'd be that bad, you can go to another country that interests you if you're tired of China and make a comfortable salary most places you go. Possibly a place with Chinese speakers too like Singapore or another Asian country. There's a website where you do this online too so consider that

Conversely you can become an interpreter and make good money. I learned a lot of Arabic previously and I remember once seeing an add for a Arabic court room interpreter that paid $40 an hour. There should be something like that with Chinese. Although you'd need to learn different vocabulary.

I'm in Taipei and teaching English isn't that bad at all. If you find the right school, which is a little difficult. I can't afford to study alone so I decided to work and study in my spare time. Teaching isn't bad at all, although I'm rather lucky with the school I landed.

Anyway I should say that, I'm not doing it for forever, just for the time being. Other plans are in motion, and I'd much rather the lifestyle I have here compared to that of my home country, I've time to paint, study, exercise, etc.

What I'm probably trying to say is think long-term.

You think you're in power, but you're really not. If you were the more powerful one in this relationship, she wouldn't be cheating on you

Fuck her mom

Men, its easy, talk to her and ask about she's still in love with u. If she says no, leave her and search another one.
If says yes, try to forgive.

>>17864599
Just get her drunk and do it

She decides when want to be mother, you must respect her

There are other contraceptive methods besides the pill...

>>17864596

There is no amount of time that will be "misspent" studying any of those languages to any degree you choose. I encourage you to start looking for opportunities to make things you can actually use, right away. They don't have to be programs you could sell, but you want to go through all the steps of having a problem, thinking of a way to solve it with code, plan out how it will work, then start building individual steps, testing as you go.

Each person develops their own workflow, their own tricks for speeding up the designing, buulding and testing process. To develop yours, you need to build things. So start.

>>17864596
C is a fairly low level programming language about 1 step above assembly

C# is more popular in the job ads

C is used for those algo classes because it is very simple to learn quickly easy to understand and shows the concepts well enough

>>17864596
C is an excellent language to learn, you can never go "too deep" with it. Don't think "Oh I'm wasting time on C and I should be spending time on other languages"

C is THE LANGUAGE of the world. Pretty much all other languages are implemented in C, either through their compiler being written in C or their interpreter being written in C

Do you want to be a mechanic who can diagnose any deep complicated engine problem, or one who has to follow the manual and only change headlights here and there?

Learn C as in-depth as you possibly can, I would highly suggest taking an embedded systems class during your degree even if it's not required (it probably won't be) because it's SO helpful.

Please learn C OP, only idiots prefer Java and Python and shit over C.

That being said, learn C++ too. But learn C first.

My motto is, if there's a program you can't figure out how to write in C, you don't REALLY know how to write that program.

>>17864594
Take an art appreciate class or something. Or you could just appreciate them because somebody you love made them and is proud of them

>>17864594
This is probably too much for you but could you post something that they've made?

I feel like it would make answering this a lot better for both of us, but I understand if you would rather not

Tell her you don't know shit about art but know she worked hard and you can see her hard work and passion in that gallery tonight. Also/ maybe jokingly state that you're biased since you love her and she can't trust anything you would say.
Tell her she is obviously talented since she is having her own show and not many people are as lucky as her to have this amazing opportunity.
These aren't lies, they are just complimentary truths that don't state your opinion on her work.
She may be the type that will be extremely upset or pissed that you don't like her work. Is it worth it to tell her the truth? You can just say you are not a fan of the art because it doesn't speak to you but you are a huge fucking fan if the artist.
Good luck and congrats to her too.

>plans changed, I'm not moving there anymore

>>17864571
just stop being in contact with them. As shitty as it sounds, its a lot easier on the psyche than trying to have a rational dialogue about why you can't fulfill their dreams. People like to say that they'd prefer to be told about that kind of stuff, but in reality very few are equipped to absorb that information without lashing out. You can't save them from hurting, but you can save them from hurting you.

>>17864585
Yes, this one.

I know I'm being a little bit pretentious with all this. But, like, I looked forward to going to college for a long time and it feels like kind of a let down at this point, and also I chose to major in physics with a lot of idealism about becoming a scientist, getting a job in industry after all that just feels like failure somehow.

So yeah, what do? My girlfriend told me she thinks I'm never really going to be happy. But what would really make me happy, I think, is serious achievement in something I'm passionate about.

You're not being realistic with your goals. For most people, a PhD at all is unattainable, let alone at an ivy league school. You need to start thinking realistically before you beet yourself up over this

I wrote a book on battered woman syndrome.
Was damn proud of myself for conquering this age-old problem.
First week, book signing tour, 1200 MEN stood in line to thank me. Not one woman read the damn thing.
My self-help for women book, was being used against vulnerable women around the world.
I swore then and there that I'd never write another best-seller, but the checks came pouring in, and I just kept thinking of more ways that men could exploit women, and before I knew it I'd written a half dozen of the most damaging books of all time, and it was so liberating.
telling a woman what's best for her is a total waste of time, she won't listen.

>>17864575
That's not my question however.
I'm asking what compels us females to disregard advice, and common sense? Is it hope that things will go back to the "honeymoon phase," when the partner was on their best behavior? Is it because of not thinking they are worthy of healthy love? Understanding this will help me pinpoint my problem, and hopefully leave the cycle of abuse behind.

>get treated like shit
>conclude dude is thus a shitty person himself
>part ways with dude
>realize you weren't even good enough for a shitty person to approve of
>consequently wonder how a decent person could ever accept you
>desire a return to the shitty dude because already previously accepted you and only chance you'll possibly have to either get to be with someone OR to gain his approval and revalidate your potential as a desirable partner for someone not-shitty

it's subconscious af but that's how the line of thinking goes. You snap yourself out of it the second you figure out that it's not his approval you need it's your own. People don't treat you like shit because *you* aren't good enough - they do so because they aren't.

>>17864547
A lot of men get this kind of cummers remorse after busting their nut
It's probably some ancient genetic thing

Solution is to be with someone you love. Like actually love and is your best friend in the whole world type shit

Or just roll over with your ass out and say goodnight

>>17864550
>just roll over with your ass out and say goodnight

I do this to my gf and she still stays with me
Makes me wonder what else I could get away with...

>>17864550
I definitely love her. Its just I have the urge to be away from her after we fuck. Im wondering if that is normal or something to be worried about.

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>>17864515
hi, there
The answer is no.
Could you do this?

>>17864518
No

>>17864515
I as a guy think extensions look kind of dumb. If you can notice them, that is. If you're fashionable enough to be able to truly hide them I think they're fine. It's kind of like wearing a wig though. Natural is always better when it comes to length. Surprise him with it and don't tell him you're wearing them and see if he notices, if not tell him.

You
Are
A
Bitch

>>17864473

You sound like a crazy person

>>17864473
You
Are
A
Little
Bitch

she doesnt want you but shes insecure and doesnt want other pretty girls giving you attention either because then your attention would be away from her. but she doesnt want you, so fuck her possessiveness.

>>17864475
not op.
wat do?

She just wants your attention, not you. That's why she is threatened by other girls because she is scared you will "leave" her and give them the attention.

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Get a man. Not a boy.

>>17864454
I never said I was going for 'boys'. Besides, most males who talk about being 'a real man' want a housewife, not an equal partner (which is what I want)

>>17864445
Most of them are probably already in relationships or focused on their lives

The best way to go about this is to make yourself into the type of partner that you think your ideal guy would approach then you let the universe take care of the rest

>>17864421
Okay, so first off - it's good that you're acknowledging that you're being too thirsty, because it's part of the solution here.

Long story short, you need to try and change the way you're thinking about this. You're worrying about something you can't possibly control, instead of focusing on what you can do now.

Have you considered going to see a shrink, anon? It may just create a good environment for you to work through whatever is causing this unsureness of yours.

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>However, I doubt that I'm actually contributing to his net positive.

Men have given up entire continents for pussy. Just sort your own shit out one issue at a time and you'll be better than any of those other bitches.

>>17864421
Give him his space or else he's going to be tired of you. He gets tired because it obviously is work for him to interact with you, but he still chooses to do it so there's your validation. Now get a fucking hobby or something

the hatchet is a good novel to read when you're suffering from independent crises

>>17864369
What do you actually want though? monetary success, romantic success?

>>17864422

I just haven't been happy for a long time. I moved to a new city two years ago and haven't managed to make any friends, the friends I have back home are too busy to talk or have just moved on with their lives, the only meaningful contact I get is when I call my mom once a week.

I tried online dating in the hopes I could meet a girl and maybe network through her and make some friends, but that hasn't worked out so well.

Money is okay, not too good, not too bad, but everything seems hopeless, it doesn't seem like anything better is in store for me.

I just feel tired a the time, I can't remember the last time I felt happy, I just feel numb, a shell of a person. I just want it all to end.