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>>17868491
>any tips for creating a profile?
Yes

• Be interesting.
• Your main picture should be a "natural" photo of you, you should also have a picture of yourself doing something interesting (like a hobby/sport) and some of you with friends, avoid selfies if possible, remember that photos are the first thing they will look at.
• Your profile should be kinda funny and to the point.
• Don't start conversations with women by going "hi, how are you?" as they are getting that every other minute, stand out, be funny.

If all of this is difficult, then you are probably socially stunted and make up a lot of the inbox fodder that women receive.

Why don't you just research the question on google there are a bunch of places explaining how to have a kick ass profile on dating sites

You rely on 4chan too much for advice just use google its way more helpful usually

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>>17868518

>this faggot is so fucking into it that he used fucking bullet points on 4chan

>>17868462
Run out of weed and don't buy more

>>17868462

>dont buy
>buddy system
>smoke only at night to relax
>limit yourself to three nights a week
>find something to do and SCHEDULE it on nights hwere you dont want to smoke

>>17868462
https://www.drugabuse.gov/publications/research-reports/marijuana/how-does-marijuana-use-affect-your-brain-body

>A large longitudinal study in New Zealand found that persistent marijuana use disorder with frequent use starting in adolescence was associated with a loss of an average of 6 or up to 8 IQ points measured in mid-adulthood.

I'm shit at giving advice at things like this since most of time the shit I'd do would probably be way too extreme and impractical, my plan to get off any drug really is just rent a room somewhere far away and isolate myself for a week or two, just eating, shitting, bathing. no entertainment, no social interaction, no nothing.

but >>17868467
works fine

>>17868410

'weird' has nothing to do with not wanting people to be around you. contrary to popular belief, the world is not divided between two completely homogenous groups of 'normies who are super popular that everyone likes' and 'weirdos that no one will ever talk to'.

im pretty fucking weird/different/special snowflake or whatever the hell you want to call it.

for the most part i hang out with other odd people. but even 'normies' find me interesting.

if you really are someone no one wants to be around / communicate with, its like a personal flaw. not that you're weird, but that you are bad in some way. i dont know you, what you look like, how you act, or how you eat your cereal so i cannot in good conscious say thats the reason.

a much more likely reason is that you associate relationships with permanence, so when they don't all last forever you assume it means you are horrible, even though all the normies are in temporary relationships too. this may also be coupled with you being more introverted and assuming everyone else is like you but somehow makes friends when they just go outside and socialize more than you do.

you also may like self victimization where convincing yourself that no one in the world could like you makmes you feel special. it makes you that tragic anime character who is actually REALLY NICE but hes just 'weird' and weird is not bad, its just misunderstood, so really hes just tragically unique and no one can understand them and its not fair :^)

but again, we dont know you.

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>>17868410
I just dont get lonely from being alone, contrary to generalisations made by anime girls might have made you think

>>17868410
>just a person no one wants to be around or communicate with?

Why is that? "Weird" is not specific enough. Why do you think people avoid you?

Just make sure she does not have any crazy relatives that will murder both you and her.

>>17868400

pretty much. when a girl says this its 99% of the time code for 'im not looking for a relationship... with you'.

men are funny creatures. they hear 'im not looking for a relationship' or 'im just so busy' or 'i just need sometime by myself'.

and they interpret it as 'we'd totally be dating right now if it wasn't for this small personal problem'.

think of it this way OP. you are a dude. you like a girl. like legit get tingles. then the girl asks you out. do you say
A) you're too busy
B) you need sometime to yourself
C) you aren't looking for a relationship right now OR,
D) yes, im free friday.

you always choose D. why? because you like her. girls arent running around avoiding men they legitimately like. if they liked someone that would actually outweigh the whole 'oh i need some time to myself' meme. and this is coming form a guy who legitimately likes being single and having time to myself. i turn people down all the time saying im just not looking for a relationship. and its true. im not LOOKING.

btu if the right girl comes along and shes totally my type, i will be tripping over myself to win her affections, because thats just the way it works.

so when a girl says shes not 'looking for a relationship' it legitimately means she doesn't want to date you.

if shes still willing to hang out its either because she is one of those girls that likes having lots of male friends, or she knows she can get you to pay for her outings without having to put out.

>>17868416
>so when a girl says shes not 'looking for a relationship' it legitimately means she doesn't want to date you

That's really dumb on her part, though. I've changed a lot as a person both physically and personally. I'm tall and handsome. We haven't seen each other for at least 5 years.

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>>17868450

Just fucking do it you fucking faggot. Let's do productive shit together for the next 2.5 hrs.

Get yourself a life coach. Someone here telling you to get up and moving or whatever isn't going to be enough if you're constantly not feeling like doing anything. You need someone that can motivate you to actually make a change, anything less and you'll just go back to the same shit in a day or two.

>>17868484
We should have a skype support group

Just grab it, walk into a police station, hand it to them and say "my father did this to me". You seriously wont have to say more without them and other professionals helping you bring him to justice.

Start with counseling and see if they have some sort of method of prying exactly what happened out of your memories. Blocked memories are not erased memories, if any of this really happened then they are still there somewhere in some form.

Having a councilor tell the police that they perceive definite signs of abuse is a lot better than your personal accusation based on, by your own admission, nothing.

However even if the police believe you or your therapist, there's still literally nothing they have to write down on file if you can't think of definite dates of abuse, where they happened, who was around at the time, what did the place look like, exactly in what manner he abused you, for how long each occurrence, and so on.

Basically you would NEED to be able to provide information you could only have if either a)it's true, or b) you're an amazing liar. They need to know precisely what it is they're investigating.

Also, if you haven't already, do not talk about this whatsoever with any family member. Don't think about doing any sort of 'investigating' on your own. Word would spread back to your father and his already very good defense only gets better. Leave dismantling that to the authorities.

>>17868391
I think OP is implying that this is all an assumption and that he wants SWAT to bust down the door and start confiscating everything that could possibly be relevant.

Not how it works.

>>17868343
fuck more women

>>17868343
Be gay, it's ok

if you're gay and they know there is nothing to do. they already know. you can't convince them otherwise cuz even if you date a girl they'll just assume you're wearing a beard.

>>17868272
You need to break up
Y'all toxic as fuck

You need to find a better match for yourself. If she hasn't cheated, it's just a matter of time. Why are they clubbing with you at home? Be proactive and DTB.

She didn't cheat on you but she probably will now. You went by that shit all wrong.

>>17868237
> 21 years old kissless "virgin" (got fucked in the ass by older guy)

Not really bad really, a lot of people haven't figured out yet how to carry out a "regular" life in their early 20s. If you ever feel like you're about to break, always consider going to a psychologist, it is amazing how they can help you.

>No friends, no gf, i got invited to a bar once this whole year

Again, if you feel like the loneliness is overwhelming you, you adn indeed ask a psychologist. They will recommend the regular shit like get some hobbies that involve interaction with people etc, yet the mere conversation with a professional can be releiveing.

>How do i get a gf?

Doesn't work the same way for everyone, sorry, I don't know how to ask that question. I guess it depends on what you are looking in a relationship. Just try not to overthink about it so it doesn't affect you too much.

>What if i really blew up any chance with a girl i really like way too much? Is there any way to recover?

For the good or the worst, experience has taught me nothing is really impossible when it comes down to human behaviour. You might, however, want to consider if that loss was for the best or not.

Best regards, you are not alone

>>17868237

depends on your definition of 'bad'. if you mean in terms of how girls will view you, its not GREAT i mean no girl knowingly gets with a virgin who's been fuckedi n the ass (was it rape? was it when you were young? give details so i can help you frame this for reference) who doesn't go out and has blown every chance with a girl.

however, no girl has to know you're a virgin until its too late. girls dont sit aroudn thinking 'is that guy a virgin?'. they honestly assume that (unless you're a fatttttttttttttt guy) that you've lost your virginity to someone just not someone hot.

as for getting fucked by an older guy, rape or consensual doesn't matter if you just keep it to yourself.

>no friends

the fact that you want a gf but dont have friends is pretty depressing. its like wanting dessert but no vegetables.

friends are what keep you healthy. someone great explained it as a pyramid.

the top of the pyramid (the final step) is girls. having a good relationship with a girl is nice.

the next level down is friends. if things go bad with the girl. its great to have friends because you have them to fall back on, to help you, to take care of you.

the next level down is the base of the pyramid: self. a good relationship with self means you don't need anyone.

a lot of sad virigns like to look at people in couples and literally say 'why do they get to be so happy'.

but the truth was they were already happy before they met girls. they were happy before they even had friends. they could move and start over and still be the happiest guy you know because their self relationship is great.

and when you love yourself you make sure you only have the best: friends you actually like and a girl you didn't settle for just cuz she was the first one to say 'yes' since the last one.

>>17868237
>>17868303

So, in other words, you got tired of slutting around?

>>17868200
>Look good
Be in shape. Take care of your skin and wear very light/no make up. Take care of your hair. Shave. Dress well. Smile.
>Find a sweet spot between being traditionally feminine and tomboy-ish
I think this is the one thing that made the guys stay. I am very domestic, I bake and cook all the time, I love taking care of their practical needs. But I have a lot of male-dominated interests, can have a decent conversation about the state of the world, and can handle banter. I can both be their best friend and their cute wifey.
>Learn how to communicate
Do not cry all the time, don't get too emotional, don't get bitchy, don't be passive aggressive. Be upfront. Don't play games.
>Be independent, but ask for their help
>Be caring, loving and supportive
>Don't fuck them too soon, but make them think you'll fuck them all the time once you start (and try to do it)

>>17868200

by being yourself, looking for someone who is your type, and hoping you're their type (and in most cases you will be).

if you don't tell us anything about you, we can't really say whats wrong.

Well, I think a girl deserves someone who will not stress about her looks so it's always a good answer to leave when such threads are posted.

Also what about hair? She's losing hair? How old is she? Probably should see a doctor.

>>17868251
>>17868192
Yeah, honestly, she deserves better than you. I hope to hear from you on some of the hopeless virgins threads about how you had a great girl but decided to throw it away. From personal experience, while there are a lot of challenges, you can love someone with no physical attraction. Trust me, when your in the hospital and wish someone was there to comfort you, youll be glad you stayed

>>17868441
Attraction is a huge component for the vast, vast majority of people on this planet. Sorry this triggers you so much you feel the need to viciously insult anyone who brings it up.

This is, as far as I remember, the first time that I really saw her in a sexual light. I spent all night just thinking of possibilities that may come to pass when we get together.

Just us laying in her bed after our date, with her covered in cum.

This was strange as fuck.

At work, I saw a woman that looked EXACTLY like the girl I am into. Same fucking hair, body type, nose, skin tone, eyes. Everything was the same. Except she was Around 40 or so, compared to the 20 year old that I am Into.

So weird

I want to have sex with Data from Star Trek. Like I used to have fantasies about kissing him a lot and raising cats together.

>>17868078
Alright now yea but that doesn't mean that it's false

More research needs to be done before we can come to any substantial conclusion

No, it's been known for thousands of years that semen conservation is essential of maintaining healthy body, mind, energy, and creativity.

Limit ejaculating to once every 4-5 days if you're in your 20s. If older, you have to cum even less often.

>>17868219
so, you don't need years and months of abstinence to cure PE?

Run a lap

Be careful, you're probably one of many girls he has done this too. He's deep in your head psychologically, that's why the sex is so great. These kind of guys are mostly likely narcissists and they will drop you with little to no warning once they get all they can out of you. Healthy relationships do not start with a "meet to fuck".

You would be wise to protect yourself in this situation. If it's too good to be true it usually is.

>>17868115
I don't run but I can see how that might help.

I hope you get well soon.

>>17868043
Thanks. Me too

I live with a surgeon that works mostly removing tumors and see how dedicated she is and how seriously she takes her job, knowing people like her exist I can only be optimistic about these things.