Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 3986. page

>>17524899
Yes it's enough, but be aware that making a fresh start in a new city without any support network or a job lined up is very difficult. Obviously people do it, but just know what you're getting into. Unlike most large cities la is very difficult to get around in without a car, it may be hard to land a job without one. Your 10k should last you around 6 months if you're frugal, but plan for less. Make sure you have a place to stay lined up beforehand.

But does it have to be la? You'd have an easier time in a large city like Seattle or Miami rather than a massive one like la.

Life in socal sucks unless you're making at least 70k/yr.

Same except one tenth of the money.
What kind of job do you think you'd look for?

I might move when I have more money but I don't think I could get anything except what I'm doing now (paperboy) anyway.

Break up with him.

He isn't going to change whether you talk to him or not. He isn't interesting in the least and he goes with whatever you do.

Besides if you break up with this boring sack of crap he might actually remember how to do things for himself.

>>17524888
He needs to start doing things on his own and really want to change.
What happened to him was gradual and he needs to change suddenly now so it is fucking hard for him but he needs to do it for his own sake.
Give yourself an ultimatum e.g. set an objective, in your mind, for him (without his knowledge) and if he doesn't accomplish it break up.

>>17524895
Thanks for your post. I'd be lying if I said the thought had never crossed my mind but he's a great person so I partly feel like I owe it to him to try make this work. He wasn't always this way so I'm still hopeful that it's just a rut/phase, but if it goes on for much longer I'll just have to accept that the relationship clearly isn't working for either of us.

ex is talking to other girls.** Sorry I'm drunk

Text her that she should forget him and have a drink with a stranger. If she refuses say it is her lost and that she can continue to sulk by herself.

From there get her drunk and maker her laugh. Let her talk and pour out her soul while you just listen and occasionally give the "ah huh" response. Invite her over to your place and go from there.

If she doesn't drink or doesn't want to drink, then invite her to eat and do the same thing. Let her pig out and talk while you are the crying shoulder.

>>17524847
I'll try that thanks.

You try lying? I am dead serious btw. Lie about your background and get a friend to be your reference letter.

I had the same problem with you, couldn't get any job for months and was sick of it. So I fibbed my experience and my brother be my reference. Within a month I got a job with full benefits and I have now been working here for 4 years.

>>17524856
I've not outright lied before but I have embellished some of my experience a bit

Which admittedly I feel bad about doing

I might get into your position with a PhD in chemistry; so far nothing has come of ~10 applications. You might have to change your field.

Depends on what the interests you are in.

We need some actual background info before we can give out info.

You think real passions exist?

>>17524818
Sports, Academics..

Drunken mistake and nothing else. People say stupid shit all the time when they are drunk.

Btw making out with your friend in the school's bathroom is just weird.

>>17524783
Why is it weird?

>>17524788

What do you mean why is it weird? You are asking why two heterosexual girls making out in secret in the school's bathroom is weird?

What world do you live in that this is normal behaviors for pre-teen girls? You think guys do this with their friends? Why shouldn't the same standard be held up for girls?

>>17524719

I always did my best studying in restaurants actually.

Local library
Starbucks

>>17524719
>small apartment with 4 roommates
>university is 90 mins away by public transport
damn that's rough. Can you just tell your friends directly to get out of the room so that you can study ?

I'm living in a single room with private toilet 10 minutes walk from math department where my classes are.

>>17524689
Don't give them a source of food. Get rid of all the trash, exposed food/fruit and any crumbs that they can access. After a week or so they will all die off.
My brother used to use the sugar water in a bowl method but unless it's done correctly they'll just figure out how to use it for food without drowning in the water.
I say just rid your house and kitchen of food that isn't packaged and let them die off, clean up after yourself every day for that week like you're a fucking Merry Maid. Keep it spotless and use harsh chemicals to clean, take out your trash daily and make sure your guests do not bring any food that isn't going directly in their mouths or in the fridge.

Kill them with a vacuum cleaner. Works like a charm. Just shake anything they're sitting on lightly and suck them up as they start flying.

Leave a glass of wine out. It must be glass for it to work.

>>17524683
You can get scarring in your throat from smoking and coughing often. It just builds up over time and since you're taking a break, the coughing problem will most likely disappear after a short break.
Just make sure to give yourself a break everytine this happens, there's been studies that show that people get throat and lung cancer more easily if they let themselves cough all the time, whether it's from smoking or not.

Sounds like what happens to me sometimes. It seems like crap builds up in your lungs. You need to take a break from smoking anything for a week or so. Switch to edibles or something. If you can, try to get some fresh air and exercise.

And if I were you, I'd stick with green after this. The more shit you pull into your lungs, the sooner you'll need to do this again.

>>17524723
It really puts my mind at ease knowing this is pretty normal

>>17524636

What are you doing right now?

>>17524636

What subject are you studying? Do you want help or not?

>>17524693
I'm going in undeclared, first year courses could all count for any degree so I'm not pressured to do anything specific

>>17524626
So she's dtf with your false identity, but not with you?

>>17524635
yes.

Give her a time and a date and rob her house while she's getting stood up.

>She knows im not the kind of guy to flip out.

You NEVER know this until you tell a guy no. That doesn't excuse her being rude to you, but it's reality.

Either way, I wouldn't say anything. I don't see what you achieve and given that she already showed to be avoidant with awkward situations, she will probably just deflect it to herself and not take it to heart.

>>17524632
>You NEVER know this until you tell a guy no

it already ended with us once because she was like "meh, i dont know if you're the one". she started speaking to me again because she wanted to be involved. when it ended the first time i was just like "k, good luck with life".

you're right though, it probably wont make any difference but i was just gonig to say something like "if you dont want to be involved with me, i would prefer if it you where honest rather than ignoring me".

also, even if a guy can potentially flip out, the girl should say still say something. girls already have it easy as fuck when it comes to dating, they should at least have the decency to be honest.

>>17524618
A lot of people don't know what their intent is. You also have to keep in mind that you're always going to be one option out of many and you may be on the back burner while she's checking out someone else. A lot of people get upset about this, but there's really no reason for that I think.

If I were you I wouldn't invest much time or energy into her, and I wouldn't take her too seriously if she starts trying to talk to you again, but no real point in closing that door is there?

You also apparently don't understand what "passive aggressive" means.

>>17524613
Post webm

don't know how to do that

another thing i researched upon was sleep apnea and how that makes tongues shrink as well.

Humanity is still shooting out a lot of great entertainment. Books, video games, movies, shows, ect. Cooking is fun too, sports is fun.

It all feels great.

Just get a simple part time job and spend your life enjoying the fruits of humanity, like a spectator.

>>17524548
I have a full-time job and I'm about to start part-time school. Once my contract expires I'll just have vocational school in the evenings and be on call for the job.

I chew through a book series after another, and I am bored with life.

You should devote your life to watching anime and reading manga.

>>17524511
Grow up. There are many sexual toys out there, if sex is a major factor then move on.

So in conclusion

Toys or on to the next one.

>>17524511

Move beyond vaginal penetration, possibly, or supplement it.

>>17524511
Are either/both of you overweight? 5 inches isnt that small.