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nobody actually cares about you, so do whatever

>>17521869
cont'd.

I haven't talked to therapist in almost a year, and I haven't taken any medication since then.

I used to take antidepressants and anti-anxiety meds. My therapist thought they were good, she said they made me "less exigent with myself".
It may be true, but because I am not smart I need to be more exigent with myself than others, because otherwise I won't be able to do anything, not even make a my mind about something, like now.

I suppose I could go to the psychiatrist and ask for Xanax again. I used to take it and I could go to lectures Xanax'd. That may make me less anxious about being there, and maybe more willing to be there even if I don't want to.

I now I sound like a madman, I am aware of that...
Please help.

>implying people notice you and care that much

Relax, nobody cares. They're too busy with their own issues. Do you notice and keep track of other people like that or something?

>>17521850
Imagine spending a year living with someone like this and make your conclusions.

>>17521850

You've already done her... don't demote yourself to Orbiter status... just look for the next piece to slay.

>>17521876
i want a relationship though, not just sex. we almost cut off once before because she was all like "meh, i dont know if you're the one" but i gave her time ti think and she wanted to still be involved with me. dont know why she would try talking to me again if it was to just mess me about. dont really care too much if i do end it but it was still a piss take

>>17521842
Bitch you have eggs, milk, bell peppers, artichoke hearts, etc. Make yourself an omelette.

>>17521846
if i liked eating eggs for 20 yrs it wouldnt be in the fridge still

>>17521854
Then you ain't dying, you just being a bitch nigga

Smoke weed. Pain killers will fuck you up. You'll be constipated too.

>>17521836

>Smoke weed

I'd rather not. I'm asthmatic and smoking would fuck me up, especially because my doctor just took me off my inhaler to see if I can live without it. Like I said I wouldn't take them often, maybe every once in awhile.

>>17521835

Xanax, Valium, Clonidine

>>17521817
Record it for the witness statement. Otherwise there isn't much unless you want to take the law into your own hands. For all you know she secretly like the abuse, it happens more often than you think.

>>17521817
Tell her to keep it down.

I'd jerk off to it.

You have move countries now

>>17521719
I don't know how Germany handles stuff, but most of the time governments go for the distributors rather than the people who download it. You are probably safe, unless if you have any other suspicious activities. Like I said, though, I don't know how Germany handles things. The surefire way to tell if you screwed up is to wait.

Also, do yourself a favor and don't go on /b/, especially for porn. If you are going to look for porn go on the actual porn boards.

Chill out.


Nothing bad's going to happen.
Germany only screws you over with illegal torrent downloading, etc.

Don't think they'll even track you visiting 4chan.

And welcome to 4chan faggot.

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>>17521711
I not only tried. I succeeded.

When I was bullied in high school I used to fantasize about it a lot. I grew out of it after finding a close knit group of friends, improving my physique and generally loving life in my college years and beyond.

I understand why people do it. Sometimes it's definitely an overreaction and due to a lack of overall perspective (like people killing themselves when their partner leaves them or something). However, for people with physical or mental issues that make every second of existence pure suffering, I definitely get why they choose the easy way out.

The way I see it, we have such a short lifespan, and death is guaranteed no matter what, so suicide is pretty pointless unless you're really really suffering with no way out of it and not just being a melodramatic angsty teen like I was back in HS

>>17521698

Wanting to fuck doesn't imply commitment or exclusivity. It's really not your place to tell who she can see and who she can't. However, if it bothers you, talk to her about it. It's not an unreasonable request to make and maybe she'll agree.

>>17521698

You catching feelings, OP?

>>17521698
She looks like a terrible fuck.

The type of bitch that just is... there.

>>17521681
>I have a job that i love, but the environement is getting worse by the day

In porn industry ?

>>17521687
What i meant to say is that i love the work i do but the interpersonal climate in the team is getting really bad. I work in education.

>>17521689

Could you bring this up with your boss? If this issues is affecting you, it's possible it's affecting your co-workers as well. This is not an uncommon problem and different work places deal with this regularly.

However, if it seems like too much and your bf is on board with you staying at home, then there's nothing really wrong with it either. You might want to stay until you get pregnant and maybe until you start to get symptoms so that money won't be quite so tight, but it might be good for you and your baby if you take time off work. Keep in mind though that returning to work world after having a baby might not be exactly easy. Potential employers will ask why you didn't work and might get worried that you could quit and have another baby in similar manner.

>>17521661

Low charisma means you need to choose between Wizard Mode or Barbarian Mode. I recommend putting ranks in Intimidate and dipping into the Blackguard PC for a couple of levels.

>>17521661
Can you only do one personally at one time? So you're either the fun dumb joker, or the serious bore? Neither a mixture where you can crack jokes and still be serious?

>>17521666
I don't understand these terms (probably some satanic shit you devil worshiping prick), but I don't think it's charisma; I'm surprisingly quite liked and social, which makes my post sound a little bit of an exaggeration. The point is that I seem to only expose the fun part of myself which deems me a retard, but no one discusses serious shit at the university; we're like tall midget kids here.

>>17521668
I can do this when one-on-one, not with groups. For example, I was talking about democracy and illusion of choice in the US and post-democracy (edgy, I know, but a serious topic) while actually smiling and making jokes. It deems me a retard.

One thing I should probably stop is acting ironically stupid because I actually have to explain that I'm joking afterwards. It makes me wonder if it's they're retarded or because they're used to everyone being retarded or something else.

>>17521604
Sorry if this all sounds confusing. I'm on my phone and typing sucks

unless you're actually dying from something, yes, you have plenty of time. it's good that you have ambitions. you're learning early on what a lot of older people know - that your resources are limited and you can't do everything you want, or you have to do them more slowly.

what I would be doing is trying to find a way to focus on being healthy while doing one other thing well - in your case, school right now. then pursue friendships and relationships as you can fit them into your schedule, both time-wise and energy-wise. it sounds like that's all you can keep on your plate right now, and that's ok.

the thing about having multiple health problems is that if you neglect your health at any point, you could just send everything down the shitter and end up completely disabled just from the sheer combination of worsened health problems. so that's going to have to come first. hopefully in time some of them may solve themselves by going away, or become easier to manage. this has a better chance of happening if you focus on your health.

however, it may not get better. make sure you are seeing your doctor enough for your medical records to accurately reflect your condition. keep any records of incidents where your work or school was impaired by your condition. just keep tabs on it. then once you've finished school and spent a year or two trying to work - if you really find that it's just not feasible with your health, then apply for disability. you'd still be able to work part-time and earn a certain amount of income, but you'd have that additional income so that you don't have to constantly run yourself past your limits in order to have a half-decent life. I would consider that a last resort though.

do what it takes to stay healthy. look for more efficient ways to stay healthy, or more fun ways to stay healthy, so you don't feel like it's sucking away quite so much of your life. and go to school. you have 60 years to worry about the rest of it. gl OP

>>17521806
Thanks bro, seriously.

I feel a lot of pressure from my parents and my brother to start making myself independent and pursue my career. It's tough though, since I can never really do long sessions of physical work im sure most job options are limited.

It's just frustrating since I do want to start being more independent, yet as I keep living it seems that more and more complications seem to arise and I can never get where I want to be.

It's almost as if I'm behind where I "should" be at my age.

>>17521603
Well OP, I'm not you but she sounds fucking wretched. Cranky or not. When she maxed the ex comment I would've just said and that's why he's your ex. You either talk to her about her shit attitude or me personally I'd probably just a walk away. I don't ttake shit like that from anyone. Let alone unprovoked bull shit.
Also canadabro here also.

>>17521603

it ate at me enough at work that i text her saying "im really not cool with it, cant you look for another accounting job here?". that and shes considered applying for the police force. i also said ive hung around the guy that said he can get her the job and he bullshits alot and i guarantee nothing will happen of it. she said she still wants it even though i dont want a LDR. i said "i hate to say it but if you take it, its stones to me. i cant do a LDR, you'll be on your own". she said she has no choice, i said why not get a retail job for 6 months here. she said that would look bad on her resume. i said "just let me know what you value, a job/money or family. a job wont take care of you when youre sick and care for you like family"

i then just said "im disappointed you value a job and money more than me" she said even though its a slim chance, she would leave me for the job because "the job will help 10 years down the line, you just worry about tomorrow hence why youre working in a warehouse overnight". i almost cried at work, the other guys asked what was wrong and agreed im in the right

i told her the truth which was my mom is ready to put $30k-$40k in renovations in the house and our vacation home. i asked my mom for advice, and she said im in the right for not wanting a LDR and shes very disappointed she would leave me over a job. i know my mom is ready to retire and move out and leave us this home worth nearly $1,000,000 and the vacation home to start a family. i have an inkling that my girlfriend knows my mom is willing to give us the house and im flabbergasted she will give that up. my mom said she will sell the house and move into a smaller house if we break up, and shes only keeping this big house because she thought we are close to getting married and starting a family

-cont

>>17521603
Sorry, man. That sucks. Won't say it'll get better, but if you don't want her to leave, make sure she knows what that means for you, personally. If she doesn't care, then it'll be a hard call. I personally made one a few weeks ago. Terrible.

Also hello, fellow Albertan.

You're not wrong in the sense that the vast majority of people will. It's a total personality thing. Some men that's their complete goal, some it's not. You may be attracting men who think that way. But in this day yeah, I'd say 75% of men are definitely looking to hook up on the first date. Just keep going, eventually someone will not push it and will look to get to know you better, without being a beta fag and what not, knowing that it's normal to wait a couple dates for sex.

>>17521588
You're attracting that kind of men somehow. But don't let me stop you from generalizing and being taken over by stereotypes. Hey, let me do the same here. All women are whores. How is that OP?

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>>17521588
>outgoing
>been around
then how do you meet guys ? at bars, clubs ?
l m a o

I'm a pretty traditional guy, I do research in harmonic analysis at a big university, but when I go to those places with my friends it is to look for hookups only

>>17521564
have you had sex yet ? if not she probably doesn't know you are dating.

>>17521573
Nope, no sex yet because she's a bit prudish. I do plan to get her to my place next week and maybe it'll come down to sex.

But she really is prudish, maybe a little shy about sex. How do I talk to her about it? In many ways she acts like a shy kid I swear, and she's 23.

>>17521582
Why the fuck are you dating her if you don't like anything about her?

>>17521560

No girl wants to fuck a sensitive little self defeatist.

Either stop being such a bitch or flop your dick and balls on some train tracks and wait for the end to come.

>>17521594
There is no actual advice here. I got a date and she cancelled last second. Not sure what I did to be a bitch there, but okay.

>>17521612

>not sure what I did to be a little bitch

How about you're entire OP you whiney fuck.

Dating is a numbers game dipshit. 9/10 girls may say no, but a yes is still a yes.