I got this email after applying for a job.
Is it just a generic rejection email, or do they actually want me to apply for other roles?
The position I applied for was finance related while my background is in statistics, so I am curious if they actually like me, just not for this role.
>>17524136
It's a generic email. You can still apply later if you see something else to your liking. I would suggest getting your resume looked at though and asking for advice on how to make it better and focus on jobs that you can at least get call backs from
>>17524136
>2 regards
>poor grammer
Why would you even want to work at a company with such a weak grasp of the English language?
>>17524183
Libby is not good at copy pasting
How do I talk with my gf about sex? How do I not drop spaghetti?
Yesterday I asked her to leave her hair unbound because she has awesome black, curly hair. As I ran my hand through her hair, I grabbed it and kissed her and kept doing that for a while.
She said it hurts but it a playful manner, and I said something like "I know you like this" and she kept asking me what/how do I know. I said I just know she likes me to grab her by the hair, she laughed and said she never allowed anyone to play with her hair.
At this point I freaked out internally and though I kept kissing her and playing with her hair, I could not bring myself to talk to her about sexier stuff.
I do like her a lot and I want to make thus relationship true and honest, and I believe a healthy relationship also includes sex.
How do I bring sex into discussion during one of our intimate make out times?
We're both inexperienced.
>>17524117
Show her your hairy cock
>>17524117
Well your already coming across creepy as possible so I say just rape her at this point. Why don't you actually get some input into her feelings, she obviously doesn't mind you playing with her hair if she lets you do it but if you just have this take what you want attitude then your not going to get very far. Don't tell her what she likes, ask her what she likes. Be playful, not creepy, she'll play along if she wants to.
>>17524117
It's not that hard. Feel up her breasts when you are making up, then start rubbing her crotch, ask if she's getting wet, etc. Tell her you're getting hard. Get her hand on your crotch. Start taking out her pants. Both get naked. Then fuck. It should come natural.
How do you make friends when you have no friends?
>>17524095
How do you get to 1 when you have 0
>>17524095
Befriend people.
>>17524098
>>17524101
Wouldn't it seem weird to hang out with someone when there's no one else?
It's been so long since I've had a friend. I don't know what even any more.
I'm a 20 year old woman whose going to fly out to meet the man I've been in a LDR for the past 6 months with. I've been on 4chan since I was b&, I'd have known within a week of talking to him if I was getting catfished. My family has been aware of our relationship since the start and have never approved, but now that I've told them I booked my flight they've all gone absolutely batshit, threatening to report me to social services for being a "vulberable adult who cannot be trusted to make decisions like this for myself" and that I need to be "mentally asessed before being allowed to leave the country". They have no grounds to stand on because all I am is on the autistic spectrum (aspergers) but I'm still scared of waking up to the police on my doorstep. What should I do about these threats? Is there anything I can say or do that will make them see reason? If I had the money I would change my flight to leave sooner, but as it stands my flight leaves in a week.
Assure them you will meet him in a safe place, such as a police station.
honestly it's a dumb idea, LDRs are a dumb idea
>>17524067
I've already told them I'm meeting him at the airport, it doesn't change anything since in their view "this is going to be exactly like Taken". I've never hated a movie more.
So for starters, I'm a euphoric fedora tipping atheist of the very worst kind. I think religion is a form of mental illness that should immediately disqualify you from holding public office. I make no distinction between different kinds of Christians, I refuse to capitalize the word god, I don't celebrate Christmas or Easter, I idolize Penn Gillette and George Carlin. I'm just the worst. And that was fine, I mostly just sat in my room and wrote hateful things on the internet... which is pretty much what it's for. It's kind of like pissing into a toilet and then feeling smug about it.
But then I fell in love. With a Christian.
He's pretty much the chillest, most unobjectionable Christian you could hope to meet. He doesn't proselytize, he doesn't pray out loud, he doesn't enforce batshit crazy rules, and he doesn't even go to church. No, I'M the problem. Once in a while... we're talking every other month, tops... I'll overhear him in a conversation with someone else that is objectively none of my fucking business mentioning that he'll pray for someone, or discussing a bible story and I just fucking lose it. I start in on the whole "how can you worship an entity that <$biblical atrocity>?" and "if you believe that, why don't you <$levitic law>?" and "if god loves us, why are there <$natural disaster>?".
(continued)
I know intellectually that my actions are wrong. I know that even if what I'm saying is true, it's hurtful and counter productive. He's 44 years old and he went to seminary, then discovered he was gay, and all that did was make him "angry at god" whatever the fuck that means. I'm the one in the wrong here but I CAN'T STOP. It just pours out of me like diarrhea, only less pleasant. Even if I do manage to hold it in, I just wind up fuming over it for hours. And he's just a perfect polite angel and turns the other cheek and that just makes me madder. I'm pissed off at the thought that he might be praying for me even though I don't believe prayer actually does anything. I'm pissed off that he believes this shit at all, even though it just straight up does not effect me in any way.
What can I do? I love this man. I would want to marry him if marriage wasn't archaic medieval bullshit with no place in an enlightened society. I want to be worthy of him. But I can't seem to force myself to respect him and his need for his retarded imaginary friend.
To;dr: I'm an atheist in love with a Christian and it's tearing me up inside. I can't fix him so how do I learn to accept him?
>>17524077
realize that he believes these things for a reason, and that they're part of who he is. Prayer does do something. It's keeping someone in your thoughts, mindfully, and looking for ways to help them. But that's it. It is nice to be cared about though.
Basically, you just need to grow up. You're so convinced you're right about everything you don't even stop to consider his feelings or thoughts. Make an effort to talk to him in earnest about his faith, and together you guys can reach some understanding. Maybe you'll learn why he holds on to it. Maybe he'll start to let go.
either way get off your high horse you fedora tipping literal faggot
I always compare girls to her. No
Matter how many women I ejaculate to/on/inside I CAN NOT get over her.
I've given up and I'll live my life in eternal regret.
What else is there t live for, if not the woman of your dreams?
Threesomes
>>17524029
You do know that the real fun is making THEM cum, right?
>>17524029
I have the same thing and keep hoping the girl will come back to me... It's a long shot but possible.
She is NOT interested. But I still I am... How do I get over this bitch?
Here's what I've been doing: Looking at pictures of her to try and find her imperfections (this did NOT work). Then I tried the opposite and just tried not to think of her. I can't get her out of my head.
I don't want advice to get her to be interested in me. It's over. So how do I just move on?
Talk to a new girl. Delete the old one's number.
>>17524034
This
>>17524026
I'm literally going through the same fucking hell OP. This is the biggest inner struggle I've ever gone through.
I'm so fucking lost it's not even funny.
I realize the only way I can get over her is to get stronger. Not just physically but mentally and socially too.
I've been posting to /adv/ as a way to vent because I'm trying not to be a whiny faggot. But fucking hell it's hard. In case you're curious, here are my previous post. >>17517920
I did a bunch of stuff today. Gym, worked on my car. Shit, I even went to comedy club by myself. (Something I never thought I'd do. I'm always surrounded by friends and shit.)
But I at the show, it made me realize I'm not making any progress. I couldn't wait to leave and go to my spot and smoke.
I'm falling behind in my school work and my job.
I understand that's it my responsibility and blah blah blah. But fucking, when it attacks your core, you just want to sleep.
Luckily I've stayed away from alcohol. Which, fortunately for me, I've never been had a problem with, but the thought crosses my mind.
So here is my advice for you, take it or leave it. Realize that what you feel, won't go away, and it will ways be there. You have to accept it and learn to build around it.
You need to proceed through the misery and numb yourself to it.
That's what I've been trying. It was working for the past 4 days. But it feels as if I might have relapse.
Not sure if I'm the best person to take advice from, but maybe it can help you find the answer you're looking for.
Good luck bud. Just take small steps.
Recently I started dating a girl, and when we started doing sexual stuff, she insisted she was submissive, which works great because I'm a sadist. However, in our last sexting exchange, she said that she got a kick out of watching me suffer and she was giving a lot of orders. Is she trying to usurp me?
In modern America, girls have a lot of pressure to be submissive, so sometimes they'll lie and say they are until they're comfortable showing what they actually are.
TLDR; she lied to you and the truths coming out
>>17524008
She's testing you. Women, inmates, and dogs constantly try to see what they can get away with and determine if you have what it takes to keep them in line.
If you fail, she isn't going to domme you (not long-term anyway), she is going to drop you.
>>17524733
How do you keep your girlfriend in line?
There's a girl who likes me, and I don't feel the same way about her. How do I deal?
It's a really awkward situation, since I only started hanging out with her because I had a huge crush on her dead friend. She doesn't know this.
Donald Trump is an idiot. Vote for Gary Johnson instead.
>>17523993
I came to this thread to agree with you about Gary Johnson. He's the only one sane enough to vote for.
shit dude, just ask her where the tombstone's at and get that worm-infested booty.
Alternatively, you could not be an insufferable asshole and befriend people for awful reasons.
Let's say you have a very severe psychiatric illness which is bound to get worse with time. It affects every aspect of your life (even speech), and turned you from a sociable person with many friends into a cripple.
Most of the time, you don't even realize you have it. And when you do realize how shitty the situation is, you want to kill yourself.
Do you think that killing yourself is the best option in this case? The only reason I haven't done this is because I know that my parents would feel devastated, as I'm their only child.
I guess life was beautiful while it lasted.
>>17523983
What illness do you have OP?
>>17523983
As a schizophrenic, I'd have to say no. Neuroscience is advancing pretty fast. We might see a cure within our lifetimes. It's not so bad if it's medicated, as-is, so I'm just suffering through it.
Bear in mind, though, that one of my paranoid delusions is the certainty that my life is a prison sentence, and if I kill myself I'm just trying to get out of serving my time/break out of jail, because I did something to deserve all this and my pain must be justice
>>17523995
>As a schizophrenic, I'd have to say no. Neuroscience is advancing pretty fast. We might see a cure within our lifetimes.
No. Stop deluding yourself. There won't be any cure in our lifetime. Not to mention, there isn't even any treatment which alleviates the core symptoms - it only manages acute psychotic symptoms.
The decline in social functioning and intellect isn't treatable.
Hello,
I am the type to be VERY careful about washing my clothes (ie. putting delicates and favourite clothes into nets, hand-washing the important stuff...).
Usually, I wash my clothes at 30°C (fast-washing programme) to be on the safe side.
But when faced with very (dirt) stained clothes, I go for 40°C hygiene programme.
>What happens to clothes which are supposed to be washed at 30°C, when washed at 40°C?
>Does it deteriorate them in any way? Colours? Shape?
>Does 40°C get rid of stains better than 30°C?
>This is not about the money-saving aspect of washing at lower temperatures, only the preservation of clothing and hygiene.
>Using front-loader.
Thanks.
>>17523972
Washing at 30 will be easier on the clothes obviously.
For a while I used a laundry which had a regular program only at 40, and I don't think it's been that big of a deal. Of course, if you really want to preserve something you shouldn't compromise like that.
>>17524170
Thanks.
In an ideal world, I could separate my clothes into 5+ categories of temperature and colour, but that is simply not possible in a one person household.
But I hardly found any information concerning the 30 vs 40 debate on the internet. Most people don't seem to care.
>>17523972
Whut. Why do you even need heated water to wash clothes? My clothes are fine with the tap temp of under 25C
We've been together for a little bit (1.5 years) and I'm having cognitive dissonance about whether I love her or not.
On one hand I think she is amazing and on another some things about her are turns offs.
Personality wise she is ideal. Very caring and passive, while being someone I can trust.
The main problem is that she is fat and I really prefer thin girls. I know it's shallow, but I like what I like.
Most days I can see past it, but some days I will see a hot girl walk by me and I can't help but to wonder if I'm making a mistake.
To make things worse she is super emotionally dependent on me, and I am fairly dependent on her in terms of transportation.
In a perfect world, she would just lose weight. But she's been eating better than me and she's not made any progress. She won't exercise.
I also want to mention that I am not a ladies man, so it's not like it can go get a gf that easily if I break up with her. I'd prefer to stay with her.
>>17523962
>I'd prefer to stay with her
Sounds like you have your answer.
If you really care about your partner's weight then that's valid. Let her know how you're feeling because it's something she can change if she puts in the effort. If it were "I like blondes" then there'd be a moral dilemma, but being in-shape is generally a positive.
If it's legit her body structure then you might just want to break up with her when you can, and not bring up the issue if it's too difficult.
How's the sex?
>>17524058
>How's the sex?
All I've gotten is blowjobs so far.
I'm a college guy in my early 20's. I used to have this lab partner that I took five semester's worth of classes with. We'd study for 15-25 hours a week alone together, and I fell for her pretty hard. I never made any kind of move because she had a boyfriend. Eventually she left to study abroad for a year and recently came back.
My question is, how do I do something about this? I saw and spoke to her for the first time in a year today and I treated it pretty much like she'd never left and didn't show much emotion or anything. I have no idea why, considering I was super hyped to see her despite not expressing it outwardly.
It's like I forget how to function around her. I try to avoid texting her as much as possible, I didn't contact her the entire time she was gone, and I went full autist when I saw her.
What the hell am I supposed to do?
I like her a lot and I would like to be in a relationship with her, but I feel like at this point there's no way to accomplish that.
I mean, she seemed happy to see me and our conversations were fine. We're also taking a class and a lab together, so I'll see her a lot over the next semester, but I completely lose my mind when I'm around her.
These things seem so simple when I'm looking from the outside in, but now that I'm in a situation such as this myself, I literally cannot think clearly.
Also, it might be worth noting that I've never had a girlfriend of any kind, so I don't have any experience to go off of.
>>17523954
A little more detail. In the year she's been gone I've put on a significant amount more muscle and I'm pretty sure (although not positive, I should really confirm this) that she's not seeing anyone right now.
Another big problem is that we don't really share any interests other than our major and what careers we want to work toward.
I'm going to bump it once before I go to sleep. Hopefully there'll be something in the morningg
We only regret the things we didn't do....
Im taking a rather hard engineering science class at my uni and we're striaght up not allowed to ask questions. Period.
We sit in lecture, take notes, and we are given homework assignments. No practice questions, no anything. The homework is graded for full accuracy, and we arent allowed to ask for help on the homework. At all. Ive tried to ask my professor if he could just help me with the concepts of one of my problems, not even giving me the answer straight up, and he refused.
My question is this: can i go to the school board about this? Ive talked with some other students in the class and besides the braniacs/asians, we all agree that this is utter shit. Theres no one else that can teach the class so we're screwed for now.
>>17523904
Sounds awful. You couldn't take a different professor?
Also did you go to his office hours when you asked for help?
You may as well dood, that sounds pretty shitty, especially if you're paying tuition.
do you not have tutorials/labs?
but yes if it's an issue either get a tutor who has done the class before or even one of the nerds or raise it with the uni.
hey /adv/
I was wondering if anyone here feels like they fake life, I'd like to talk about it with someone
I've been feeling like my life is a total lie.
not in the sense of I've been lied to by someone.
but I feel as though most of the time when I'm going through college and I interact with people I just feel like i'm constantly faking everything
I'm constantly faking
>being happy
>being sociable
>being confident
>being smart
>being responsible
I just want to talk about this.
does anyone else have these feelings?
I don't have any advice, but I can identify with what you're describing.
>>17523865
do you mind if I ask you what you do for a living?
>>17523877
I'm 20, I just started my first year of college. I'm living in residence.