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Today I got my first success approaching a girl in public and getting her number. I've got the looks and confidence. However I can be a little bit socially retarded, some of you might say autistic and this has cockblocked me far too hard. Basically what happened was
>me: hey, im anon, you're cute
>girl: hey, im femanon, what do you study
>me: i study this and that etc etc, you busy on the weekend?
>girl: nah
>me: give me you're number
>girl: *types her number and full name in my contacts list"
>me: ok see you around :3
Basically I we had eye contact earlier on, smiled at each other and I decided to approach her when she left the library
I want to take this girl out on a date on the weekend. But I have no idea what would make a fun date since I'm very easily entertained (I'm happy to literally just walk around the city with the girl, have some food and get to know her).
I just called the girl and caught her at work, so she asked me to call her back in an hour. Any tips on what I should suggest we do for a date?
Also, do you folks think she's interested or did it out of politeness or whatever? I'm a bit surprised at how easy it was to get a qt's number. Only about my 6th time trying to pick up a chick.
Keep in mind that she's in highschool but I'm in college, she's of legal consensual age in our country.
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Well nice job bro I'm happy for you! Personally I think a good first date is going for a cup of coffee. I don't think she did all of this out of politeness. Most girls will brush you off politely if they're not interested. Good luck mah man!
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>>17521570
Oh yeah, fuck I got too worked up. A coffee was my initial idea too, thanks for saving me a lot of stress bro, have a Luma.
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Bump, want some more advice.
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Fuck this.
>work hard at job
>laughed out of raise
>boss lets others fuck off and do what they want
>harps on me
>ex-gf on-again/off-again "i don't know if i love you"
>get wrongfully fired
>no money to fight in court
>ex-gf calls me failure and dumps me
>most friends stop talking to me
>close friends shoo me off when I suggest we do something together
>can't go back to family, my mother got extremely violent before christmas
>closest friend who brought me to city to try life has basically shut me out
>my therapist told me to give up on my dream because it's unrealistic
>my friends tell me to stop being depressed because it's causing all this
>don't talk to me or try to understand me, merely tell me that what I *was* doing was wrong
>everybody says I do things wrong
>nobody tells me how
>if i don't talk to anybody, they will never talk to me
>my mixed ethnicity makes my physical appearance threatening, get stopped by security and shop owners all the time
>people already don't trust me because there's apparently some negative stigma against men here too
I'm a failure. Wasn't even born on time. I have zero reasons to give a fuck. I can't no matter how much I realize this is a bad path.
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>>17521527
Are you even listening to your friends? Sounds like you're leaving too many details out from your summary.
Tell us the truth faggot
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You are only a failure if you believe it. Not the same with depression and those friends are morons. The world doesn't owe you anything and vice versa; if you think you have a bad path, tread it anyway as its yours alone just try your best to make it a good path.
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>>17521533
My ex removed all sense of self worth and then my friends kicked me while I'm down. They straight up ignored me when my ex dumped me which is weird because my ex wasn't too involved with my other friends or coworkers at all. I get even more depressed and then my friends tell me that me being depressed is why they're ignoring me. Which caused the depression to begin with. Nobody to reach out to.
bullshit that some people can just float by without a care in the world while i manage to have the things that gave me happiness and a sense of belonging violently ripped away by careless fucklords masquerading as dependable upstanding companions.
It's just fucking horseshit. Years of my friends and family and associates treating me like dogshit and now I just don't give a fuck. There's no point. It's not getting better.
I am a psychopath, and I want to know a few things,
>would you consider me a functioning member of society (I hate societies rules, I want to hurt every one, I don't care for anyone, and I feel next to no emotion. I however have never hurt anyone and don't plan to.)?
>Is there a way to cope with sadism?
> I follow laws for my own gain, not because it is "right", is that acceptable?
>should I get help (psychologists can't do jack to help me)
> I have fantasies, awful, dark fantasies, does this make me a bad person?
>would it be okay (morally) to indulge my sadism by hurting people emotionally instead of physically?
>would it be best for society if I just liked my self? (I won't do it because I don't care about society, but I am curious)
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Sorry pal, a psychopath is someone that absolutly doesn't care, you're just another 15 years old that tries to be different by telling others he's different
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>>17521518
This. Fail harder, normie.
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>>17521521
You're a "psychopath" yet you are talking about what's morally right and wrong
"I hate societies rules, I want to hurt every one, I don't care for anyone,"
Do you realize how pathethic it sounds to say that? and asking for "what's good and bad"?
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Girl I know that has given me a blowjob, hand jobs etc.. she's also very open with me on her sexual desires and all that jazz which is a really high plus for me in a woman.
>cute and sweet but also has seen some shit on the internet so you can actually talk with her, also plays games
>we study in the same city
>go out on a 12hr date
>catch up have a good time
>after that she snaps me how she would suck my dick right now and how she cant wait to fuck me or ride my dick
>im fucking diamonds.jpg cant handle this
>never waited for the weekend so hard
and then I, being a COMPLETE FUCKING RETARD started messaging shit like I dont want you to see other boys or fuck em, we arent even close to dating and i started being clingy and annoying.. I know it and realize it now, but something was with me last night.
>in 5 hour span, went from I want to ride your dick and cant wait to suck you off
>to "because I dont want to talk with you right now"
>tfw
Its next day now and I messaged her how the University opening ceremony went and she replied with 1 word without any fucking effort, when she's not like that normally
>messaged "I miss youuuu" every hour before that
I literally want to kill myself, does anybody have any ADVICE how can I FIX THIS??
I THINKKK and Im positive that she still likes me, but my behavior totally turned her off and made her hate me as it seems in that regard.
She wanted to fuck and see where it goes.
I started applying rules to her and restrictions without dating or anything like that.
Now I get blue balls and cant fucking sleep.
Anyone knows how can I GET STARTED FIXING THIS SHIT?
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Make it seem like you aren't interested anymore. Don't message her until she messages you and just keep busy till then. She's not going to find you desirable after that if you continue being clingy
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>>17521472
>I literally want to kill myself, does anybody have any ADVICE how can I FIX THIS??
LMAO, how could you not have foresight into how pathetic and out of line you sound like telling her what she can and can't do when you haven't even hooked up ONCE yet?
You start making those rules once you've been dating for a couple months and are both feeling the same things (use intuition).
Check yourself for autism, anon. leave this chick alone, for your own sake, please. It's over, no more responding to her, no more messaging her
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>>17521472
You spilled every last noodle of spaghetti you had on this one, anon. Run from your shame and never talk to this woman again.
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Im in a happy relationship, and i love my significant other. We almost live together and things are great, its been more than a year and i dont think weve ever fought. If i dont fuck up, im 90% sure that we'll be together for the rest of my natural life.
But heres the thing, im still super attracted to other girls. Im only 21 and i want to explore other people. Not just in a physical way, but in an emotional way. I meet women and i want to form connections with them, yet i dont want to lose my current gf, and i dont want to cheat. What do??
The way i see things my only options are:
Asking to make our relationship an open one.
And if she says no. Do i stay with her since girls like her are so rare?? I know she wouldnt take it the best way if i asked to see other women.
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You don't seem happy or in love then.
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Also if she is so great then why the fuck are you taking her for granted pos
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>>17521414
If you think you can recreate or create something better than the relationship you are already in then you're not in love.
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How do I avoid my feelings coming back for a girl who rejected me? 2016-09-01 08:54:29 Post No.17521382
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She's started to message me again, which surprises the fuck out of me since I haven't even messaged her once this entire summer. She rejected me at the beginning of the summer, and we stayed friends for like a week, but I just stopped messaging her since I kinda felt like shit after the entire rejection.
She's messaging me first now after an entire summer of no contact, and I'm afraid I could be misreading it. I have no clue why the fuck she's messaging me, she has attention from other guys, so I doubt that's it. Only other reason I can think of is she kinda likes me and wants to see how it might go or something.
Thing is, I don't wanna go through all that trouble again. The semester is starting, and we're going to see each other again and I really want to avoid getting the crush back. I know the simple answer is just ignore her again, but I can't - she's already taken one of the courses I'm going to take and she can easily help me with the course and desu I'd rather get help from her since she's pretty smart. So I don't wanna sour the friendship we have cause I'm an emotional fuckboy who can't control his feelings.
What do I do? I'm really not sure - does she like me all of a sudden? Is there some other motivation to her messaging me first in the entirety that I've known her?
I don't want to fall back into this pattern I had previously with her, but I can tell I already am since I'm already asking for advice based off of a few texts.
So really, how do I avoid having super strong feelings for her again? Any help?
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>>17521382
You can't think about it. Just love every day. There's a lot more to life than a girl. I'm sure you'll be fine. Don't be a fuckboy.
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>>17521403
So just ignore it whenever I start to think of her as anything more than a friend?
Actually not a bad idea, thanks anon.
Side note, any reason you think she's messaging me again? Can't figure it out for the life of me.
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>>17521382
No, she doesn't like you all of a sudden, she is trying to keep you as a backup.
She will use you as a token for trading in a relationship, she will say you are friends or that she can leave whoever for you.
Your best case scenario is being someone that her future partner resents because she wants to make out there is a lot more to you both than there is, she will in exchange stop talking to you so she can get something out of a future partner.
Also you can't have super strong feelings for her (like love) as you don't really know anything about her, you are filling in the blanks with ideals.
Stop being a bitch, keep discussions casual or relevant to your class, failing that just cut contact if you are going to be a bitch.
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My wife will have sex with me once a month.
I'm so blue balled all the time but I don't want to jack off. Should I look elsewhere?
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Haven't you actually, you know, talked to her about this?
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Or uhm let's see....
Figure out the root of the problem so you don't become the majority population of cheating scum you dumb fuck.
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FUCKING COMMUNICATE!!
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Hey I'm black but I don't want to be anymore, can plastic surgery and skin whitening fix my condition? Has anyone done this before?
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>>17521342
yea michael jackson you nigger lover
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You put this on /fit/.
Be a proud black man. You are no better than a filthy mentally ill tranny right now. Take what life gave you and own it.
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>>17521342
Same question except im an asian with a black dick
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What if it's in my genes to not be happy? I want to be optimistic, positive and happy out of nothing, but it seems like my brain isn't producing the needed substance at all.
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Get drugs, either the legal or the illegal kind, that's up to you.
Whatever keeps you going mate.
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>>17521329
It's entirely possible. Go see a mental health care professional and they can recommend treatment for you. That's why they exist, so that people don't have to live in misery.
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OP I've thought the same thing many times
>mom depressed
>dad depressed
>brothers depressed
>im depressed
>try antidepressants
>no difference
>try CBT
>not doing anything
>work out and meditate
>helps a little but im still sad most of the time
>smoking weed and drinking are the only things that make me genuinely happy
Welp
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I want to study psychology. Quickly, /adv/, talk me out of it!
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Do it if you want to, it's a versatile degree.
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>>17521303
are you ok with being poor?
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You have to get a master's to have a job that will pay decently. Until then it's just a meme degree.
Are you mentally and financially ready to go to school for 8 years? My old psychology teacher lectured us for an entire day that a BA in psychology will only make you some beta assistant in a clinic where you make 30-40k a year.
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I feel a cold sore coming on. Is there anything I can do in advance to fix it?
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>>17521301
warm up ur sore
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>>17521301
get abreva and apply it liberally and frequently
ice can reduce swelling, but you want to use that sparingly as you want to keep the area as dry as possible
avoid fucking with it when youre not applying some form of treatment
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>>17521301
>cheating blonde fucks everyone at party
Lol
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Tl;dr | I've been diagnosed with minor depression and going about with it unmedicated for the better half of a decade now, and recently have had the offer to totally pack up and abandon my current life. Could that help, or would I just collapse entirely?
Okay, so I know 4chan isn't the place to blogpost, and I know that -- if my previous few threads on /adv/ are anything -- this thread will die without replies after I finish posting. Still, I'd rather post it here than tie my name to anything.
I've been depressed. Since ~middle school. I won't make some huge segment out of that, though. Essentially, I was a little faggot and faculty and students alike gave me a bunch of shit I probably deserved. In any case, it sort of stunted me socially, and I've never really recovered from it.
I've fucked off to the internet and developed my own interests of varying popularity, but ever since middle school, my fuel to do things has slowly dwindled to the point that now, I can only force myself to do things in baby steps. Oddly enough, this doesn't necessarily include things like work or school (more on school below). Even now, I can bust ass through a 40, 50, 60 hour work week and do a better job than coworkers. It's just a sort of mental autopilot, I guess.
As for school, it's been frustrating. I never really managed to make very close friends. From elementary school onward, I've always gotten rejected by crushes and the like, and certainly never had anyone interested in me. Admittedly, for all the general stupidity young romances seem to involve, I hate I was never invited to that party.
I graduated in the middle of my class GPA-wise, but I had the highest college entrance exam scores in the school. A few classmates of mine went off to the Ivy League despite lower exam scores due to the higher GPAs and a far more involved extracurricular portfolio. I don't wish them anything less than the best, but I wish I'd managed to suck it up and be more passionate about school.
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I've been unable to stay in school for nearly three years now. I caved my first year, but still finished it. Family drama has left me unable to register for two years, and I finally returned this semester, only to both not afford housing and get squeezed off campus by the police because being a homeless student apparently made me a safety risk to other students. So I'm back home.
My ability to progress independently has hit 0 after a steady decline. I'm 20 years old, and all of my friends are either out of trade school, finishing up college in a year or so, or generally moving along in life well enough. I've tried to find a passion about anything, but it just isn't happening. I've managed to make a fair amount of acquaintances, even friends, online, but I can never seem to find the same sort of people IRL in my areas. Having interests that aren't particularly popular here makes it hard to find friends in the area; I've made one or two good acquaintances. When I do find people with some mutual interests, I don't really manage to fit their bill as an acceptable tagalong, so I'm never quite worthy to hang out with them, anyway.
Now when I do try to force myself to develop a skill, I always feel so old -- too old to be literally just starting. I know the alternative is to never be good at a thing, but its always demotivating to know I'll be in my thirties at best -- and probably at an age at which nobody would care/I'd still be a general nobody -- before I have any decent level of skill at anything. I feel like part of it is where I am, a middle of nowhere place that most anybody I know that's done anything with their lives has run away from and never come back.
And now, I've had an offer to get out, too. Not school again, but something else. I just don't know if the "me" independent of this place is man enough to deal with it. I don't honestly think I can change. I dunno broke in my brain, but I feel like somewhere along the line I fucked up and can't get back up.
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Anon, it seems you may be having detachment issues. I'm a little concerned that this has all been filed under minor depression.
I'll be able to reply in full to you when I leave office today. You can chat to me anytime at [email protected]
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>>17521306
I'll be here.
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I am a bartender at pic related and I am drinking and here to take questions on alcohol, social interaction, Vegas life, etc. Hit me with your best shot /adv/
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>>17521254
Did you start as a barback?
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>>17521340
I did, even though I was more than qualified. In order to bartend on the strip, we have to complete the union craft exam/class...which (almost) always requires you to be a barback to enroll in the class
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>>17521254
My mother is retiring in 4 years or so and will be moving to the Las Vegas area, around where one of my cousins lives.
She's offered to have me move with her.
I currently live in Anchorage, Alaska. I love the state but there really isn't much going for me up here.
Should I do it? How is the job market down there? Is the area depressing at all?
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Marijuana in Saskatoon 2016-09-01 07:16:04 Post No.17521242
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How is the weed in Saskatoon
Quality, quantity etc.
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>>17521242
Holy fuck, someone actually mentioned my tiny little shithole of a city.
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>>17521242
So you're from saskatchetoon, eh?
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Just arrived Sunday and I'm looking for some dank goods, anyone know how good it is?
Hey guys,
I'm currently in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend and we rarely see each other. No physical contact at all essentially.
Should I break up?
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Need more context, is she hotter than you, does she have a good personality or other traits?>>17521240
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>>17521240
Her personality is pretty well rounded, she's kind.
She isn't great with looks but she is fine
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>>17521250
don't listen to this faggot
Break up. If she's gonna be gone any longer than a couple months, then it's not healthy and it's not a real relationship and one of you is gonna hook up with someone else because that one night feels a lot more real than any of the time you've spent "together" so far.
She could be a 10/10 incredible super model but it doesn't matter because you'll never see her. Might as well date someone from china and talk over email, it's about as meaningful.