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>2 months
You're delusional. 6 months minimum, a year to be safe.

>inb4 I hate my job
Beggars can't be choosers, sweetie. Would YOU want to hire someone who couldn't work somewhere for more than 2 months?

>>17530799
>Would YOU want to hire someone who couldn't work somewhere for more than 2 months?
someone looking for a change in career, yes (which is what it sounds like)

sweetie :)

>>17530799
> Would YOU want to hire someone who couldn't work somewhere for more than 2 months?

I've fallen into this trap as a student where I only looked for work during the holiday periods, so over the past 5 years, I've just ended up with a resume full of 12+ employers with only a few months work experience, because I was only taken on as extra help on the holiday period. Doesn't mean I don't have potential, but it doesn't look good either, I guess :( .

>>17530761

Never ask her this. And never worry about it.

How would you feel if she told you the same information and you have already slept with 20 girls?

>>17530764
Meh, I don't care about it because I legitimately do like this girl and so does she back ( it's incredibly obvious and she admits it ) but I can't really stop thinking about it. I can't get the imagine of another guy being inside her and stuff out of my head. I understand girls love sex just as much as I do and if I had the opportunity I would have probably been with 10 different girls by now. But shouldn't girls protect themselves more? Especially that young? I'm 19 almost 20 btw. 3 of those guys were flings/hookups. The other two were boyfriends including me.

It's literally physically impossible for something to be done about it which is why I don't really care but I just can't get those uncomfortable images out of my head that other guys have fooled around with someone so precious to me.

>>17530689
Your friends and dog won't suck your dick. Also they can't offer female companionship. What you have to ask yourself is what do you want? Fuck what we think her on /adv. If you've never had a girlfriend it can be very good or very bad depending on the girl haha.

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>>17530689
Huh thats weird I wanted this picture
With goofy

>>17530693
Bruh what in the fuck are you talking about?

At least you recognize there is a need for change, don't expect it all to come at once though.

Stop imagining your future and start determining it from now on. Life is about being proactive, there are literally heaps of philosophies to follow, but the 80:20 rule is great.

Focus on the most important and most enjoyable things in your life, the top 20%, get that done and then do the other shit - look for meaning in life and the rest will sort itself out.

Save money for a year by living off as less money as possible.
Use saved money and invest in some sort of way that generates profit, like rentals for example, while keeping your job.
Expand your operation with your profits, slow and steady, until you made back 100% of your invested capital.
Invest in a new business, repeat, repeat, repeat.
If done properly you will have multiple businesses generating profit without having to stop working your regular job.

Or you could save money, go to college, get a degree, get a higher paying job, live a normal life with steady income, put the maximum ammount of money into your 401K (or similar), retire and don't have to worry about income for the rest of your life.

Or combine both plans for maximum efficiency, I guess...

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>>17530666
>Satan Trips

You make $12.50/hr? How many hours do you work per week?

If you're full time, presumably hitting 40 hours a week that's $500 before taxes you're making everyweek. Close to $2000/month.

I know living costs differ across country (assuming you're from US since you used $). That's enough money to afford an apartment, at least around here. Most 1 bedrooms are like $600-$800, then an extra $200 in utilities.

That's $1000, which is half of your monthly income, which is kind of shit, but hey, at least you can move out on your own.

I'm only making $9.13/hr @ 40 hours a week so there's no chance in hell of myself moving out so I'm envious of your pay.

Just ask her out. You're being unrealistic if you think she doesn't have ONE free afternoon/evening in the next three weeks.If she's interested in any way she'll say yes. Is it really the end of the world if she rejects you? How many other "gems" have you done the same with?

>>17530727
if she rejects me
>depressed before exams
which is not good, not the end of the world by any sense of the term

>"How many other "gems" have you done the same with"
don't really know what you're trying to say here, i haven't been interested in many girls during high school and i met a girl who i felt is compatible kinda with me, shes nice, smart and a little shy. I'm also a bit lonely

>>17530738

Just go ask her out. Stop making excuses.

Choose: either being "depressed" but knowing

or feeling like a little bitch, afraid of rejection, not knowing, feeling like a pussy, etc.

Sounds like you got Dyscalculia, the difficulty of adding or substracting algebraic formulas. Its like dyslexia but with numbers.

You need to seek up its treatment methods and try them out, they might help you quite a lot.

>>17530670
Yeah, I've heard about that and you're not the first guy to tell me they suspect I've got it. My brother actually has dyslexia and dropped out as well, due to the same reasons as me. Teachers can be real douchecanoes.

I'll try my best, but I kind of feel like a lost cause. But maybe that's the part of me that got made of speaking. Thanks for respondin'! Appreciated, pal.

>>17530660
First of all, in today's calculator/computer-rich world, you don't have much practical need for math in real life, so the only concern is getting through the exams.

Basic problems, like math or reading, often come from a simple mistake teachers always make. Let's say you don't understand arithmetic in the 3rd grade. So your 4th grade teacher tries to teach it to you again IN THE SAME WAY YOU DIDN'T GET THE FIRST TIME. So, naturally, you don't get it this time. By the third or fourth time someone tries to teach you the same thing in the same way, your brain runs away and hides.

What you need is someone to teach it to you in an entirely different way, that your brain hasn't put up barriers to. Look around online for tutorials that look different from what you've seen before and try them.

Do you have a church or something you could go to? Even if it's just a social thing for you, it might help.

>>17530650
Have you considered finding a hobby? Like painting, music, a sport maybe?
Does your Gf know about your suicidal thoughts? Maybe you should talk to her about it.
Watch a comedy or two, life doesn't have to be depressing, especially when you're 60!
Go on a trip perhaps? Buy an RV or a cruise ticket, take your gf around, tour the country.
There is so much to life, it's not worth giving all of it up just because you're depressed. Keep on living, and never give up.

>>17530650

If you want to kill yourself, you can. It's your life. Realizing this usually helps, because it reminds you about choices.

Exercise, hobbies, caring about new people - these can all help.

At the end of the day, the only person you live with, sleep with, dream with, is you.

People go thru life fearing death - but it's easy to die well. It only takes a moment of courage.

Living well, that takes courage moment to moment, all the time. It's living well that's difficult.

Still, despite everything that hurts, and in 60 years you can rack up quite a few holes (you can get hurt quite a bit over far less time, too)...

... well, the point is, is that humans can get "swiss-cheesed" and keep on going. You don't get that instant cure.

You may never get "100% better" - but you can keep going.

Up to you mate. Only you can do it. But you can do it.

I'm rooting for you. Good luck.

It's very possible she has another guy or atleast one in mind. Women are branch swingers and don't like being single and don't like to let go of the old branch until she's sure she can grab the new one. Nothing will help. Sleeping with a new girl won't. Alcohol won't. Delete all the photos. As hard as it is say fuck her she left you. Smoking helped me a little. Time will help. A new girl will lessen the amount of time it takes if you're the kind of guy that doesn't like being alone. Good fucking luck man. Don't don't do stupid shit like text her or stalk her social media.

>>17530686
Also I meant cigarettes not marijuana. Nicotine and the actual act of smoking helped me get through my last break up. Terrible trade off though, lost money and health.

>>17530686
We've been pretty honest in the conversation and she tells me at least she has no guy and just wants to take time for herself, while that may not be true she hasn't ever lied to me and I don't think it's true, in any case it doesn't matter.

How I might react when I see the guy in person is a different story, but that's a what if of a what if.


I feel like somone cut half my body out, today I checked for a good morning message and there was nothing - I just can't comprehend that there wont be anything, ever again...Wanted to marry this girl my man...fuck this gay earth.

>>17530629
No

>>17530629
No. And the longer you wait the more you'll keep thinking about it. Just do it now and get it over with.

>>17530629
Building design is a very specific and targeted academic program most places. As long as you want to do the math then go for it

ahahah.. oh you, do you really think being good with computers has anything to do with programming? Its all about algorithms, making sure each field has been set parametric and keeping up with the bugs. If anything you are good at, that is watching porn and looking through useless information that is on the internet while playing games. Pathetic.

If that idea is that good, you might as well sell it, programming is something that takes time.
Start with C+ tutorials, and then learn other languages.
There is a C+ tutorial about making your own text based rpg, might be a good way to start off...

>>17530665
why would he ever bother learning C+ if he's making an app?

op, which one of these ideas is it?
>tinder for cats
>tinder for old people
>tinder for refugees
>tinder for potheads

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If it were me, I'd hold off. I wouldn't feel too great with getting together with a girl in her early 20s especially if my mid 20s were squandered.

If it was someone a little older, I'd be much more at ease with it.

I think job or not, it doesn't really matter. There is nothing that stops her from breaking up with you or you her. A date and frankly, a relationship doesn't have to be a serious commitment. Have fun and congratulations, you've made it.

Doesn't hurt to try?

What are you currently in school for? How much longer til you're done? How much will you be making once you complete your degree or what have you?

These are questions I know I'd want to know from someone who hasn't done much with their life but I know they're in school working towards something.

Although, you are having a lot of younger college chicks coming onto you. They're usually not looking for anything serious so they likely won't care if you're poor ayy eff.

>Doesn't hurt to try

How do you even live?
I am 20 now and around a year ago a feeling that I miss out on life and girls and fun started haunting me, so I go out almost every day right now and looking forward to be very social at college. I dont even care about the degree as much as I care about the college experience.
And you say you are "not in the position to pursue girls"? What do you mean?

uh yeah.

>>17530568
Sounds like a slut if that is the case, do you want a slut who wants your semen for procreation purposes and already has 3 kids from other men?
That is the question you must ask yourself.

It could be a million things, from a panic attack to a heart attack. Making a thread of 4chan isn't going to do anything, you need to get to the emergency room. Would you rather be alive and poor or dead?

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Are your lower legs swollen?

>>17530565

Fuck I know, I need to go to the hospital.

>>17530567
No.

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It's commonplace.

Your attitude will probably change as you get older

>>17530540
How long does that usually take. My girl said that we'll give our relationship 3 years and we'll talk again.

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>>17530522
>I'm autistic, if that helps.
It does the opposite and is probably your biggest problem

>"don't force it brah just B urself it'll come to you"
But this is how the majority of people find their partners. You can't get mad at the for speaking the truth.

post a pic pls