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>>17528985
Holy shit what a retarded post. Get over yourself, faggot.

There's no way you can change what happened so you can either accept it or end it.

As you said, this is an emotional and not a logical response, so it's up to you to figure out if this is something you can live with.

Tbh, the feeling is truly awful in the beginning, but fades away with time. But, it boils down to crying over spilt milk.

OP, you're not marrying her right?

If you're not getting married, who gives a fuck

>>17528964
If you're meeting them for the first time, ask them out/set something up at the end of the first conversation.

No reason to lead her down one way by being friendly first. Make your intentions known.

Every person is unique, and each relationship is unique by extension. But generally you can start dating as soon as there is a mutual attraction. As long as you have that, whatever you say or ask doesn't really matter. Depending on the girl or guy you could probably just kiss them without having to say anything if the mood is right.

So basically it's mutual attraction. If you wanna know how to tell, study body language, it says more than words ever will

>>17528972
Usually though, mutual attraction is something that happens instantly. If it doesn't happen, it's probably best just to move on

When we left, we said goodbye and on the way to the cars she manage to walk next to me, and when the group broke, she said towards me "good night?"... mmmfff that wasn't necessary unless you really wanted me to think about you tonight! Aaaaaaarghhhhh!!

Since then (about a week), I've thought a lot about her, about flirting with her, touching her and so on.

The thing is this : I am very very happy with my partner, she gives me everything I need, we love each other deeply and we want to always be together. But still I am attracted by other women, a lot of other women, and it's always when you are in couple that women begin coming at you like you would just have to choose. I think they know or sense that since you're in a seemingly stable couple, you're worth something, adding to that that you don't give a fuck anymore and so are very confident, they generally love that.

Frankly, I believe everyone should have the right to get every woman or man who wants them. It proves their genes are valuable to some and deserve the descendance they could have if there was no religion and other rotten mind controlling shit.

On the other hand, I don't want to loose my partner. If I'd begin to see that woman in secret and it was discovered, it would be a familial cataclysm among my partner's family... her own cousin with who she gets along very well, with me the love of her life, and the husband who would probably want to kill me slowly with a broad diversity of tools, while being encouraged by the rest of the family. I'd loose my partner, for sure, and some of the family would be broken. Not to mention her heart. I couldn't do something like that to her, never...

... But you know what, really, after hours thinking about this? I would be ashamed of those consequences, but I would not be of fucking her. I know I woudln't feel any remorse for that specific action, only for the rest.

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I've already thought before that I could do those kinds of things only if far from home and just 1 time for example. And she would never know, and I would know if I really need that or if it's a bad idea.

I know it's going to happen soonner or later, it's becoming too much to handle, always could resist before, but it's culminating (and/or I'm getting old). So many women and occasions ignored to stay "loyal"... I can't handle the possibility of fucking only one woman till the rest of my life. It's against my very nature, I can't do that! I can't anymore! I want to experience this attraction, this tension between 2 poeple attracted to each other without knowing why but indubitabely attracted. It's always new and powerful, it makes you feel so alive, and even more when you finally make love. I don't want those things to be over. That is not an option.

I probably won't do it this time because of the family matter, although if the conditions were right one time for us not to be discovered... I don't know, What do you think about all this?

Thank you very much for reading all this

>>17528885
Tell your girl how you feel about sex and desiring other women. A good way to do this is to ask her if she's attracted to other women, and if so, how. This can lead to what you want. Really enforce that this is purely sexual and not at all about emotional connection or relationship. Just a physical desire.

Tell her that being around her cousin making you feel a little uncomfortable sexually, detailing what you've said here. Imply that her rocky marriage might be spurting these things. Confirm though that you would never in a million years do that to your gf or her family.

Don't _ever_ fuck your gf's family, unless you're single, then who cares lul. You can find other women, much more attractive than her cousin to fuck. No point.

Dont have much to lose here, OP. If she's not compatible, then break up, citing differences in long-term relationship desires, and (maybe) fuck her cousin (i imagine you won't be so keen once you see other women besides the taboo one). If she is, then bingo --you get everything you want.

>>17528855
Why are you still friends with that fucker? Shit, if someone threatens to hit you out of sex, you should just cut him off.

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>>17528861
I'm friends with him cause he was really the only person i've met with my sense of humor and actually understood a lot of my problems. He used to be the most caring and understanding person on the planet. He would call me crying cause he got worried, and he would tell me how much i meant to him often.
I always believed him until kinda recently when he kept talking behind my back to my friends and asked them if they thought I was like "an ex wife".
I don't know where the fuck that came from, but that's what he kept asking all of them, and they all responded with a "yeah, kinda, but..." And I know he's bad, but almost everyone i surrounded myself with was worse, so I don't really know where to go.

You guys are in high school, yeah? Maybe a bit older?

I'm guessing you're a female, by the way you write and the general tone of the post?

Yeah, he's got a crush on you.

Even if you're a dude, it sounds like he's crushing on you.

He probably goes home and talks about how much the friendzone sucks on the internet.

>>17528831
>haven't bought clothes in a year
>frugal

What's the expected income for your major, and how much would loans cost? Numbers would help.

If you treat it as an investment and just look at expected returns in like a decade, the decision will be easier to make.

>>17528845
Not in the US, college system is different and a lot cheaper. $300 a month (plus an annual 1k fee) and student loans are not a thing.

I was being paid 1,1k a month and still have 5k saved. Average rent is $700 and they ask for 3 months in advance, i could make it for about 4 months without a job.
Still 3 years until i get my degree, btw

>>17528899
How much money are you expected to make after school? Can you still take loans?

How are you sharing the house chores? It sounds like she could be stressed with the new life at home together. Maybe you could do more stuff like cleaning, cooking or hwlping in general so she gets a little more free time to relax and be more open to your advances :)

>>17528890

This is your thread. Anon nails it.

You married her, try to make it work. Accept that your sex life will likely never be your dream scenario, and that your goal is to make an improvement from the current situation.

If you're lucky, a few serious discussions can make her realize that you need sex more frequently than you're having it now. If you're both on board with making a change, you can work together to figure out what works for both of you. Some couples for example find a set day of the week very practical and helpful; for others it kills all spontaneity and romance. So try some different things and encourage your wife to explore her sexuality and think about what turns her on (or off).
A tip I can give you, is that if you compare female sexuality to male sexuality, men are often kind of rigid in terms of how they view sex. In the sense that it's not sex without an orgasm, or not without penis in vagina, or that a steamy make out session is by definition foreplay. These are often things that turn women off. Find new ways to enjoy each other sexually. If she doesn't want to fuck you, does she feel like sucking you off or giving you a handjob? If not, what about letting you masturbate while she gives you a little show and/or talks dirty to you? You get the idea.

As for her tits, obviously you can keep bringing it up and looking for ways in which she likes them touched (sometimes soft touching is bothersome, but firm touching not or the other way around), but you have to make peace with this not being a favorite area of hers to be touched. You must have known this before you decided to ask her to become your wife.

>>17528808
>I'm sorry, but you're just not my type

>>17528808

Are you the boy, or the girl?

I don't mean in the situation, that clear. I mean you OP, which one are you?

>>17528808
I would invite both of them to dinner at a private location, house or apartment, to discuss the matter. Make sure they arrive at least fifteen minutes earlier than you. That way they'll sit together simmering with tension.

You will release the tension by walking in, dressed in classy attire like the pictured woman, accompanied by Chad Thundercock. You will cackle as they stare at you distraught, as their small penises retreat into their groins with the realization that their feelings are of no consequence when compared to the magnificence of his thundercock. They will cry and scream as he tears off your underwear and proceeds to copulate with you in the center of the room. Jetpacks and moonsuits will leap out of the couch where your boyfriend and bestfriend are sitting, engulf them and rocket to the ceiling to orbit as you reach the first of many climaxes.

They will spin around the room, much like you spin around his cock, in Beta orbit while Chad shows all three of you the true power of the thundercock.

>>17528804
Sounds like a different country because I have no idea what most of that means so I'll give vague general shit.

I wasn't that good in my past either, but things that help are just ignoring people who look down on you, keep thinking about the achievements you have now, and comparing yourself to the ones who are disappointed in you or consider you a joke. When you start getting more and more successful with your life, people who generally are poor, unsuccessful, or unambitious will start trying to talk you down.

I mean, has your brother or parents done anything? Fuck them. You got an A in HNC, what does your brother have? You're 20 and in college, look at the fuckers who can't even dream of doing that.

It makes me happy when I can walk down a street and look at people who are what I was, and think of how much better off I am now.

>>17528822
Sorry, I should have mentioned that I'm from Scotland. Here's a link to help you & the readers about HND levels and shit:

http://www.sqa.org.uk/sqa/3089.html

My brother literally has no qualifications, he's 23 years old and works in ASDA. My dad's a bin lorry driver, and my mum actually has a decent job. Although I'm not precisely sure what her job actually is.

>>17528846
>don't know what she does
I have one friend who tells me this. His mom works as a scientist for government projects she isn't allowed to talk about. That's a valid excuse. How do you not know what she does?

What type of affection? Like hugs and kisses and holding hands in public? Opening yourself up emotionally when convos turn to feelings? Are you worried about being perceived as less manly?

>>17528792
Physical and emotional I guess. She's sort of been the one to initiate things like she talked to me first, asked for my number, kissed me first, opened up to me first, etc. I think it's just a combination of me having no experience with girls (she's literally my second kiss) and especially no experience with girls who are interested in me as more than a friend.

I just feel like when it comes to people, I either don't get attached at all or get way too attached, and I really don't wanna ruin this before it really starts. Which is weird because I know I shouldn't be nervous about fucking things up since I've already done some pretty cringy shit around her and she still likes me. Like I already feel like I'm too attached to her, I kinda feel like a creep for thinking about her as much as I do and I don't want that creepiness to seep out.

bumparino

Either be friends cause you like her personality, or just let things die off if you aren't interested romantically.

>>17528760
you dating Bruce Willis's ugly daughter ?

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>>17528910
God damn nigga you made me laugh

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>>17528754
>she says she likes me but she's not ready to date yet

>another guy that she knows likes her

It appears you and this guy are in the same position and she's waiting for some better candidate.

>>17528754
Get out while you can

>>17528754

She sounds dumb ( or at least a person who wants both her cakes)

The whole point of dating is to make a choice. You tell her you want a date or you're moving on. You gotta make the choice for her.

>>17528737
>works at bar
>workaholic
lol

>>17528742
Lel, yeah I know...
It's a Portuguese bar. It opens at 9:00, and closes at 01:00...

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>literally works all the time

nope fuck off

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>>17528716
it's strange how this stereotype/perception has been built up.

a person who takes interest in their body and health and exerts the effort and self-discipline to achieve a body of note is, for whatever reason, regarded as being vain, self-obsessed, and a person of little worth outside of their body.

these generalizations are heard from a wide variety of people. it's not just females drawing parallels to "jocks" and "meatheads" but other males also assume you must be intellectually inferior to them because you lift weights or be deficient in the penis department or what have you.

i'm convinced it's just insecurity and jealousy. it has to be. there is no logical reason for such negative stereotyping to exist about an individual's want for a healthy and capable body.

it's sad that these people that ridicule others for being physically active will never understand the joys of the human body and what it's capable of.

>>17528716
>this thread again

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>>17528650

Really? I mean, she told you what to do, don't send her more stuff to work. Not that hard.

>>17528650
Maybe she wants to keep her profesional and private life seperate. Women are weird man.

>>17528650
How the hell are we supposed to know? That's a weird situation. She's a weird chick. She could have a million weird reasons why she wasn't down with that.

Just say

>I'm sorry, I didn't know it was a problem. May I ask why you don't want things sent to work?

DO NOT text this. Ask her face to face. It will come off as bitchy if you text it.

>>17528649

The number is to call and set up a date, not to slave by the phone. Good job and good luck, though!

>>17528658
Yeah she asked for MY number. And we have only technically talked over other media because, like a dumbass, I misstyped ONE digit and she couldnt call me.

So I tracked her down, apologized, she said it was cool, and like after a 10-15m convo hasn't said anything in almost 24-30 hrs or so.

And I can't text / call her to set up a date because she has MY cell number and hasnt actually texted me (I gave her my correct number like 20+ hours ago during our short convo. She even replied with "I'll text ya later tonight" and didnt.)

So, *shrug*. Maybe I'm over thinking it. Lol

>>17528663

Oh, when you said "talked", I assumed on the phone.

But you have her on social media, right?

I'd try to set up a date, she was at least slightly interested before, right?

But don't sweat it if she says no. After all, you two barely know each other, right?