Hello peeps,
I have been avoiding trying to talk about this but I think it's time. I have a friend I've known for about a year and a half and we see eachother on and off.
For the past month we have been seeing eachother and talking a lot after months of not even talking. We had sex together for the first time and have just been talking a lot, I sometimes go see her at the place she works as it is on my way home and because she asks me to go see her.
Well I last saw her on Tuesday when I picked her up off work and took her home, she said I should go again on Friday so she could spend the night at my place so we called it a deal. Just texted her good night and that was it.
The next morning it was a completely different thing, short answers, no interest so I got the memo and didn't text her anymore until Thursday when I asked her if we were still doing something on Friday to which she said not anymore as she had some stuff to do on Saturday morning but she was still down to go out Sunday, so that was it.
We were just talking now, I haven't said anything about going out later for dinner, but her way of talking is just completely different now, usually she was the one texting me first thing in the morning and she would get involved in the conversation of the moment, or try to get a hold of me if I had not texted her all day.
So with that backstory, I don't know if I should just stop talking to her, no questions asked and see if she decides to look for me, or take the opportunity to ask her what is going on if she still wants to go out for dinner later.
In any case, what are things to avoid if we do get to talk? Any specific keywords, sentences I should not say? Is there a specific I should ask to not make her feel obligated to answer and have her explain herself?
I don't want to come off too strong, but I am genuinely confused as to what is going on and I would prefer to find out the good way and just let it fade before things take a turn for the worst.
Thanks!
Come on too strong? You've already had sex!
>>17530517
Sorry. By coming off too strong i meant when asking her what is going on.
Talking is always the correct answer.
Just got a new tattoo! What do you guys think about the lines? I think it looks really good, but I also think it will look a lot better once it's filled in. Thinking about just filling it in solid black, but maybe a pattern would look really cool? Any ideas? This is my first tattoo, lol
Does it mean you are a Christian?
>>17530514
Yes, with the added bonus that I have always thought this version of the cross looked badass
>>17530520
Tillman was an atheist.
This is some girl i've been talking to for a while.
She didn't respond to this and I kind of have an idea why but I wanted to see what you guys say. How do I know when to stop being flirty and move into direct invitations like that? I honestly thought she would have said "im down" or whatever.... I dont know, is it just worth being flirty/jokey all the time with women and waiting until they literally bring up wanting to fuck you....
FUCK this is so frustrating ;-(
Did you really think she'd be responsive to what is essentially a "will you fuck me?" in the middle of a conversation? Could you get more retarded?
>>17530464
Not very constructive but ill respond
Honestly from what she had said to me it seemed like she was flirting and had that in mind... what do you get from what she had said?
>>17530474
From that snipper of conversation, all that was happening was that there was some banter and then you decided that was a good time to ask her to fuck you. No indications that she's even remotely interested. Complete autism on your part from what I can see.
Tfw when you talk, jacked, handsome, educated and employed but you're too beta to talk to girls so you hate the world
>>17530440
Being afraid does not make you beta. All men are afraid. Even Chad is afraid.
What makes you beta is letting that fear paralyze you: this is what Chad refuses to do. And it makes all the difference. You fear rejection, and yes, rejection stings. But here's Chad's biggest secret: he knows that pining hurts worse than rejection does. She could slap you and call you a creep and kick you inna nerts, and you would still feel better than you do right now. You cannot lose: you can win suboptimally, because you don't get everything you wanted, but your pain is still less, and so you have still won in a sense.
Rejection is not worth your fear. This doesn't prevent you from feeling it, of course. But it does mean you can scorn your fear.
Try walking backwards.
>>17530503
You underestimate that fear man
Parent here looking for some advice.
I have a 14 year old son with Asperger's syndrome. He also deals with quite a bit of anger issues and has had a number of violent outbursts in the past (most recently him beating the shit out of his 11 year old nephew for teasing our dog). He just started high school this year and he is begging me to let him join the school boxing club (functions year round) and the wrestling team (only winter). I'm just wondering if this may help channel his anger a little bit into something more positive or is this just an accident waiting to happen?
>>17530424
>11 year old nephew
You fucked up by having a kid so late in life. The older you get, the greater the chances of having a kid with Aspergers, so this is essentially your fault.
Why don't you try looking for a specialist like a doctor, a psychiatrist or something instead of a bunch of random horny strangers on an anonymous imageboard?
>>17530428
No. We had our oldest son when I was 21 and wife was 18. My 14 year old we had in my 30's. His older brother on the other hand was 16 and a dad
My friends going away party is coming up because he's moving out of state. I haven't seen my friend in over a year but used to work with him and chill with him regularly. The party is going to be at a sports bar that we used to work at. I'm pretty sure its just gonna be all bros with a handful of their girlfriends
But I just found out that this crazy show is coming through town that same day. Theres probly gonna be tons of hot chicks there and heavy bass music. I need to stay off drugs for awhile but I think I can go and have a couple drinks or be sober and have a blast.
I want to go to this show but I also don't want to disappoint my friend for not coming. Lots of people are coming to his party so I'm sure I won't be missed that much but it'd be nice to send him off.
What do?
I would go to friends party without hesitation.
>>17530418
You havent seen him in over a year, and he's been in the same town since then. You're already not a good friend, so why pretend to be now?
>>17530422
Meh. but hot chicks and heavy bass. I might stop by to have a drink with him before i go. at the same time i feel like if i dont stick around for that party I'm going to regret it later
>Be me 18 and stupid
>class clown, distract the teacher to avoid quizzes/tests type dude
>go to university because it seemed like the thing to do, some friends and a brother went there
>average grades in HS, no subject I really stood out in
>not sure what the fuck to do here
>declare liberal arts because I don't know what I'm doing
>go to first few classes, bored so I add drop, still bored with second classes
>end up passing 2/4 with relatively good grades, but ignore other two and drop/fail
>Work at campus food court whole time I'm at the school, enjoying interacting with people more than getting lectured at
>the pittance of money to spend on stupid shit was nice too, for a time
>anyway drop out next semester
>wageslave ever since
>Be me, coming up on 23
>been working at a walgreens making company minimum 9/h almost a year
>starting to throw pennies at the crushing student debt (upwards of 14k)
>considering going back to school, community this time to save the ducats
>community advisors advise just going and paying out of pocket
>pic MFW I still don't even know what to go to school for when I even have the money
What should I major in, /adv?
Math has never been for me, when I try to explain why, people have speculated I have math dyslexia
Never been much of an artist
I'm told I'm a decent writer, but the idea of manufacturing essays more than a couple of pages gives me sadbrains
I enjoy travel and talking to new and different people
Not an outdoorsy type, but that's to be expected. We're on 4chan, after all.
History is p cool. It's all garbage after the industrial revolution ended, though. Ancient battles and strategy was where it's at
Science is interesting, but something like biology is just too darn complicated. Space is kickin' rad though
I guess this turned into an effort post, sorry everyone. Let's discuss
>>17530410
If you don't know what you want to major in, don't go. You'll just end up wasting your money again. And definitely don't ask us for advice about what you should study, having someone else make major decision for you is the easiest way to be miserable
Study Hunan resource management or General management. It's a simple career for simple people
>>17530410
Do you want to be in debt forever to get another shitty job? I'd recommend you learn a skilled trade instead, you can make good money from the beginning
Hey /adv/
Im looking for job ideas that dont require much attention so that I can read books while working.
Any comments appreciated
>pic related
>>17530403
Bookstore or other quiet retailer
>>17530403
Be a security guard. I remember my mom telling me about the time she worked as one, she's often fall asleep and read books and stuff like that, since things were pretty slow.
>>17530403
Front desk at a gym during off-peak hours.
That is my favorite movie and we have literally the exact same body physique, and personality. HOW HAS NOBODY COMPARED ME YET???
Is this a copypasta?
Maybe no one who has seen the movie thinks so.
That, or it's a conspiracy!
Are you a furry
Need your adv, /adv/
Was dating a girl in January. I was bereaved, and met her at a bar. Turns out she was a goodie-2-shoes and had only slept with one guy. We hooked up and started seeing each other. About 3 weeks in, we started saying "I love you." She asked me for a relationship, I told her I needed time, seeing as how I was bereaved...I didn't want to make any decisions just yet (But I did tell her I'd be exclusive.)
We continue on. I have to move to a different state for work. We go long distance and things get shitty. She "breaks up" with me, but we still talk everyday and say I love you and what not--I felt there was a strong implication that we were getting back together.
Last month, she asked me to come visit her. I texted her back, not answering yes or no (Wanted to feel things out first.) She didn't reply.
A few weeks later, I contact her and she's acting strange. She tells me she met someone and that she can't talk to me anymore. We get into a big fight, as I felt she was just "keeping me on" until she met someone--and considering the fact that I was grieving, I felt it was a bit insensitive.
Am I right to feel angry? Did I get fucked over or am I being a big baby?
She wanted commitment, you didn't commit, and so she found someone else. She doesn't have to wait around for you if she doesn't want to. And an LDR wasn't going to work out anyway. You're butthurt about something you shouldn't be butthurt about.
>>17530359
I guess that makes sense, objectively. The "I love you's" threw me off I suppose.
>>17530369
Like I said, she wanted commitment and you couldn't give it to her so she moved on to someone who could. There's nothing wrong with that, you'd probably do the same if you were in her position.
So I've been with this girl for like four months now and I found the perfect one, no bullshit, she's head to toe(looks and personality) the girl of my dreams, we did rush the relationship very quickly but didn't think that was gonna be a very big problem. So she just started college and before that she broke up with me and told me that she needs to find herself because she's at that point were she doesn't know where she's at in life, but two weeks with out talking to her she texted me and then we ended up getting dinner, we talked about the whole situation and said we were gonna take it very slow. Until I noticed she was texting me very dry and couldn't keep a conversation with me, but then I got upset and told her why is she like this after leaving me on read and she told me that she thinks it's better for us not to talk for a while and then try to be friends before trying a relationship because that's something she doesn't need rn. I just wanna know what you guys think about it and what should I do.
You're barely literate mate, i wouldn't text you either
I'm high af so if I didn't write with perfect literature then my bad
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Hey anons i am freaking out at the moment. So i cheated on my wife about a month ago and today my dick's been hurting, hurt to piss and everything
took a closer look at my dick has been leaking puss. so after a quick google i'm certain i have Chlamydia and the bitch i fucked gave it to me.
now i've had sex with the wife as well already so she is probably infected too now.
I know it can be cured with simple anti-biotics but how can i go about getting the wife tested and get her taken care of as well?
I saw a quick treatment of zithromax takes care of it and that's like 5 pills, 1 a day or something.
My first thought is to come forwards and tell her that i'm sure i got it from sharing a drink with said girl. that is very believable.
there is no way i am coming out to her that i cheated. i cannot lose her
>>17530319
considered sneaking her zithromax but i'm certain that i will not be able to get a second dosage
>>17530319
Why do you post this here
You're just going to get shit on for being a cheater
>>17530319
That's what you get for cheating faggot. Better come out and tell your wife so she can get tested as well.
Where is the line between sexy & alluring sexting and just gross sexting? Female sexting male.
I'm pretty sure that if you're female you can get away with a lot more than a guy would be able to.
I would say that it has to do with the build up, basically don't skip foreplay, gradually build up from something simple and depending on the response either keep going or tone it down a notch.
>>17530340
That might be what I'm messing up. I ted to go from 0 to 60 in one hop. Maybe I just need to figure out how to escalate slower.
>>17530357
That's probably it.
Maybe reading some erotic novels might work that out?
Some usually get their passing very well, maybe you could learn from it.
Girl I'm seeing is super guarded and prone to be a bit insecure. I've been honest with her for the most part but I recently told a white lie in order to avoid a fight. I went on my inactive Facebook and was just looking to see what's been up with everyone. She found out I was on it through a comment and flipped out. She thinks I'm hiding something and that was why I didn't tell her, but I didn't tell her because every little comment I make is seen as flirting even if it's with very close friends. I'm totally faithful and i don't keep anything from her. I made a mistake I should've just reassured her and told her I was using it. What do? She asked for time apart.
>gets mad at you making a comment on Facebook
>a bit insecure
That's a whopping understatement. Getting mad about you lying about having deactivated Facebook is one thing (though I don't see why you should have to deactivate your Facebook page), getting mad that you commented on something is a completely different thing.
I personally don't see why people put up with people who put them through such bullshit, but whatever.
>>17530315
She had a hard time trusting people. Def for some abandonment issues. Idk. I like her a lot, Instead of avoiding a fight I made it worse. It was a mistake.
>>17530335
You can't make things right with someone this irrational without becoming miserable in the process
So, you may remember me from a few weeks back as the fucking idiot who gave a girl I was talking to an ultimatum because she was hesitant to see me due to the fact her and her friend had feelings for me. Well, I apologized,and she accepted the apology, and all seemed like it was headed in the right direction until a few days later the girl I was talking to said she couldn't talk to me because she didn't want to lose her friend. This was about five days ago.
I tried to fix the situation again today by suggesting the three of us talk about it together and she said that would just make things more complicated. She expects her stupid fucking friend and I to stay connected, and I want nothing to do with her because she fucked my chances of happiness up. Ideally, I want to keep both in my life (the friend mainly because it's a necessary evil) and I'd love to have a chance with her because she'd make me happy, and I know she still cares. What the fuck do I do?
Lol do you actually think she's going to get with you? She's picked her friend over you, you fuckwit. She understands the concept of loyalty to friends, unlike you.
>>17530300
thing is, her friend wouldn't do the same if she was in her position.
>>17530305
So? We're not talking about her friend, we're talking about her.