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Is it normal to grow out of having friends?
When I was much younger I had a big group of friends I did everything with. Over time I stopped talking to them because things were busy.
When I see people my age failing to get things done because they're worried about a friendship or something they seem childish.
Do you think this is true?
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I think it is true that it is hard to keep friends a priority later in life, and many people absolutely do lose their friends.
But growing out of them in the sense that you don't appreciate or need friendship anymore, no. Especially in this day and age when people are already pretty socially isolated most of the time.
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As you get older, your time becomes more valuable, you understand yourself better, and learn who/what is worth your time - so it's absolutely normal to build on the relationships that are most worthy of that time.
That's from personal experience and developmental psych 101.
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>>17531478
this. i only have a small group of friends because i simply dont have the time to do stuff with other people. im go around with a small group in university and i could of became good friends with them but i simply didnt have the time to go out with them, do my own thing, see my own friends and do uni work. when i was a kid, i was always hanging around with random people because i didnt care about anything.
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Am I able to successfully diagnose myself with depression/ anxiety without seeking medical help if my symptoms are bad enough?
Because I think I might have both and I want to treat it, but I'm not sure if a shrink is necessary to ovecome it.
Can I also treat myself without the use of medication?
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>>17531414
>Is it possible to feel better without drugs?
That's a real toughie
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>>17531424
what should I be taking and can I get it without a perscription?
I'm still hoping this will go away somehow, magically
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>>17531455
Get professional help.
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>Antisocial
>Now in high School
>don't have a lot of friends
>don't have a girlfriend
>don't really talk to people
>scared of talking to a girl
>shy
Help me
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>>17531383
You must be 18 years old to post on this website. I would suggest reddit instead kid. I see you're already familiar with tumblr so maybe go there. Wherever you are, just leave this place, because trust me, this is not a healthy place for children.
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You'r a funny guy, kids watch porn at 11 Y.O and you'r saying me this...
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>>17531383
>"now in highschool"
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Would it be safe to put pics of me at work on Tinder? I know as a dude you need pics of yourself being social to prove you're not creepy but I don't really have much time to do things outside of work. So alot of pictures of me not being a quiet beta are of me fucking around at work with my friends
The reason I ask is because I'm a new doctor at a hospital, so I'm worried that one, it would come off as pretentious, and two, it would be dangerous for my career if some crazy chick decided to screw me over.
What do? I'm lonely as fuck and sites like match.com freak me out
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>>17531376
Use a picture of you in your coat, prepare for gold diggers, if you're not looking for love don't use your real name.
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>>17532148
Well I don't really have a choice as the only recent pics of me are me doing shit wearing a white coat. I'm worried that it might come across as douchey, like when guys pose in front of their Ferrari and use it as their profile pic
I dont wanna touch gold diggers bro. I'm repulsed by em, in all ways including sexual
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>>17532199
Then you're kinda fucked, aren't you? Or not, as the case may be.
We live in a society where everyone down to refugees has a high quality camera in their pocket and access to suites of photo editing tools. This thread is a waste of time.
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>27
>Depressed
>Somehow got to have (mostly drunken) sex with friends,FWBs and ex girlfriends
>Done everything, reverse cowgirl, anal, 69, filming
>Never thought anything of it
>Suddenly find the perfect girl
>25
>Virgin
>Great chemistry
>Complete Marriage material
>Wants to have sex with me because she has loved me for a long time and it will be special to her
>Inquires about my past
>Nervous.jpg
>Be upfront about some things, but not all
>She gets insecure and unsure about whether she wants to have sex with me, says she needs time
>Says she wants to know everything about my history before she decides
I totally want to commit to her and be honest with her, but I feel like a used fucking rag compared to her. I never saw sex as that big a deal before, but now I hate how flippant I have been. I'm really scared she will be horrified by my body count and leave me. Any advice?
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>>17531370
Silly boy, don't you know you can only love one girl?
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>>17531370
>Be upfront about some things, but not all
>Says she wants to know everything about my history before she decides
OP, what were you thinking.
Her entitlement to know the entirety of your past can only be justified if she is scared of contracting an STD.
If you are clean, and well, there is no need for her to know about everything you have done, especially not so she can wave it over your head or delude herself into an abyss of insecurities.
That was before her time, and it should stay as such.
You are enabling her behaviour by not snapping her out of it.
Also, you realize that her being 25 and a virgin, there will only be two plausible outcomes after you take her virginity.
First is that you go on to marry and have kids.
Second being that you have a good sex life, until she decides that she:
'Hasn't experimented enough'
and that she wants to
'Explore other people'
because after all
'She's not in her early 20s anymore.'
Snap the bitch out of it and creampie her ass.
Have fun, OP.
PS.
Stop being a little bitch.
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>>17531370
If she's 25 and a virgin and it's not because of religious reasons, then she probably has a very low sex drive. I hate to say this, but for me, that's a deal breaker in a relationship. If a girl never wants to have sex yet expects me to remain faithful to her, then I know it's not going to work out. Just something to watch out for.
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>be living deep out in the sticks
>no car or anything
>only one living with me is my mom
>be living in a pretty shitty run-down house, with spiders and cockroaches all over the place
>too poor to move out
>one day drinks start disappearing from the fridge that neither me or my mom took
>this halloween basket someday just appears in the living room, and neither me or my mom have seen it before
>sometimes hear bumping coming from the bottom of the house
>one time i heard what sounded like a muffled broken radio around where the couch is, but i never actually found it. the noise stopped when i got closer to it
>lately sheriff cars have been coming to patrol the area
>this morning when i went for a walk i smelled rubbing alcohol and suddenly got this really bad feeling
Should I be worried, /adv/? Or am I just being too paranoid? The bumps I hear coming from underneath the house sometimes could just be a deer or something, but the drinks disappearing and that weird ass halloween basket just suddenly materializing in the living room gives me the creeps.
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>>17531359
In most states if an intruder enters your home and you feel threatened for any reason you have a legal right to k i l l him
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>>17531359
You got someone living under or near your house bro. Contact the sheriff and have them search. Clearly they are looking for someone in your area.
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>>17531406
this, and try to find someone to crash with til the cops catch him
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Bdsm in a current relationship
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I have a problem and I begin to feel it's weird as hell.
I'm really into bdsm, my boyfriend of 9 years isn't. We decided a while ago to "swap fetishes" he tried the whole bondage thing and I tried anal. Everything was all good (anal hurted but it was worth it) and he said he really liked bdsm and he fit really natural into a dom role. Now everytime i ask him to "play" i het this rant about bdsm being impersonal and him not feeling a connection to me and he can't get hard without a connection and so on. He always wants the following: i suck his cock (in his eyes this is foreplay for me, which I don't want or need) and he fucks me. His idea of variation is putting a plug in my ass. Thing is in order for me to kind of enjoy anal i need to be really aroused and this just doesn't do it for me. I love him and all and the sex is not bad, but as anyone with a fetish/preference can tell you, you keep longing for it. I am only temporarily statisfied by vanilla sex and he complains I want too much sex (once a day to 3 times a week). Again, I really love him and want to grow old with him, but I long to be used like a fuckdoll and to be at his bidding. And I know it's in him and he likes it even. So why is he acting like this all of a sudden? He makes me feel like I propose him to do really repulsive things. Like I want something extremely wierd or something.
His main complaints are:
>takes too long
>there's no connection while having this kind of sex
>it takes too much effort
>he's bad at tying me up
>he's afraid he'll hurt me
Which mostly is total horseshit, safewords and communication is an answer to all of those.
What to do?
TL;DR: I wish to be tied up and used like a fleshlight and a little obedient slut and he wants candles and dinner but usually turns it into a basic suck and fuck. How to bring out the dom or what to do to fix my desires? I don't want to lose him.
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>>17531332
>boyfriend of 9 years
>not married
>no kids
When was the last time you cheated on him? No one is faithful for this long.
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>>17531338
I am. I honestly think sometimes it'd be easier if I was less faithful. I couldn't live with myself if I cheated on him. If I'm unhappy enough to seek another man I'll be honest and break up with him. I've been cheated on and know the damage
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>>17531332
even bdsm would get old for you if that was all you did. Make another deal with him. Your way twice a month or once a week whatever. He can make love and you can too some and get your and his freak on some. I guess it bothers him where his mind goes when he degrades and commands you when in the real world he respects and adores you. Think about it, if you crave subjugation perhaps you are in the wrong kind of relationship
I'm a 21 y/o clueless dumb-ass. Never so much as held hands with a girl.
>Talking with crush, she is completely out of my league
I'm like a 7/10 on a good day, 5/10 probably most of the time. She's a 10/10 on a bad day, and an 11/10 on every other day.
>she tells me I'm her soulmate
>shes got some issues she wants to sort out before entering a relationship
Did I win? Is it worth waiting for her to figure things out?
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She's figuring out how many dicks she can fit in her vagina at once.
If she really thought you were her soulmate she'd be trying to get as close to you as possible
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>>17531336
well we have gotten really, really close in the past month
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>>17531336
this
She may actually believe what she's telling you, but it's coming from the mind of a child. Like any child, she will get bored of her new toy eventually.
I've been thinking about leaving my boyfriend for a month for many reasons. I guess for the past few weeks I might have come off to him as pulling away.. I guess cuz I don't care if we don't hang out/I'm not needy/clingy anymore, I take longer to text back/call back, I don't really get deep into things/personal unless he makes an effort to.
so he seems like he started treating me better, being nice to me, wanting to see me more, calling me more all the sudden. I think maybe he notices me pulling away? and now it feels like I'm getting back sucked into liking him.. but I have reasons that made me wanna break up with him that I don't want to let go of and be blind by his Romance again..
input ?
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> be blind by his Romance again..
Seems like he has a history of luring you in then being a dick?.
Can you elaborate if that's the case?. I want to know HOW big a dick he is to determine if you are warranted in breaking up or if you're ruining a good thing.
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>>17531306
A.) Break up with him.
B.) Stick with him because he's obviously a good catch and gives a shit about you.
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>>17531310
>being a dick
in no place did OP say he was a dick. maybe if you didnt have one up your ass it wouldnt be the first thing you think of
So my parents and I, us citizens, are vacationing in Hong Kong right now, flying back tmrw, and it's been almost 2 hrs and I can't reach them, when is the right time to freak out and call embassy?
They said they were going to eat at some restaurant right across the hotel. We all had a really shitty day earlier. They should be done right now. My dad left his phone here and mom hasn't responded. I am 21 yrs old, female. I don't know if it's a good idea to go out look for them myself? I don't speak Cantonese or chinese. My parents are both Chinese so they should be ok but if they did get kidnapped them I'm in a shithole as dad is carrying the passports and everything plus I have no money.
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Worry much? They're probably fucking
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>>17531273
Where the hell would they be fucking? I'm in the hotel room.
They usually don't take this long and should have come back at least 30 min earlier, plus my parents were pretty upset when they left earlier(my mom almost got crushed by train doors earlier) so I'm kind of starting to get worried.
But maybe I am jumping the gun a bit.
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>>17531282
Don't go out. They are ok.
Wait 6 hours more and if they don't come back ask the police number and the embassy number (or look at them on the internet) and call
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I've made out with my girlfriend twice now but I cant tell if she wants sex or not. If a girl is making out with you does that mean she does want to fuck?
And how do you progress from making out to sex?
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How do you define "progress"?
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if youre macking out in the bed, just start feeling her up while kissing. undo her bra, feel her clit etc. this will usually lead to sex, just take the pussy anon and fuck the shit out of it
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>>17531268
As a verb, to progress
>>17531269
Yeah i just don't want to do that incase she doesn't want it, i can't just touch her parts without permission. Thats what i mean, does making out basically mean lets fuck
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How do you acquire "game" when talkin to girls?
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git gud
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>ask them if they like vidya
>if they are gamer girls ask if they can borrow some
>acquire the game
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Depends which girls first off. If you want a hood nigger girl, then get a grill, carry a gun get loaded up full of tats, walk with a gangsta lean limp and say "fuck tha police". That's a start, that alone might get you some respect in the hood.
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I'm 18 and I want to bring my girlfriend round to fuck but my mum, dad and 20 year old brother are always in. What do I do? Plus my walls are paper thin. I've been round her house tons, and I want to take her to mine. Irs frustrating as hell, what do I do?
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>>17531192
Get over the embarrassment and just do it. Or don't, your call. My mom walked in on me a few times and we just act like nothing ever happened.
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>>17531259
I get shy and embarrassed real easy. It's a stupid fucking drawback.
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>>17531192
Send the family out to dinner or the movies. Or plan to go with them and then back out at the last minute.
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My best friend told me he doesn't like a specific aspect of my behaviour, and he told me that if i won't change that aspect than we should stop being friends.
I know this is very vague, but what i am also interested is a general overview of facts like these.
What i mean is, he has a problem with me, but i don't have any problem with him, should i change? or should he accept me as i am? im not proud nor touchy but i percieved what he said as an ultimatum or blackmail and it got me a bit angry..
Also if he were to decide to stop being my friend, i would be sad, but not angry, because if he thinks that aspect is enough to stop being friends than that should be his decision.
So TL;DR should i change my behaviour? is it wrong if i don't want to? is he right?
ty in advance
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>not telling us what the behavior is
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>>17531156
We can't properly contribute if we don't know what your behavior is. Are you stealing panties?
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If you rape and murder people then yes
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So /Adv
Did life get better after high school for you? I'm 18 and I'm in my last year before I graduate. Ireland reporting in!
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>>17531146
Dont be stupid and ask such a vague question.
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Much better.
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>>17531146
>Did life get better after high school for you?
Better in what way?