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depends on many things

You don't seem to have a lot of money otherwise you wouldn't mention price.
Does your government pay you to go to college? then maybe go to college.
If it doesn't maybe go and get multiple certificates.

Now you think you are good with internets but certificates are not as easy as you think. You can pass them I don't doubt but you will have to put effort in.

Can you describe now by heart all the steps of the tcp handshake, or how the file permissions ons windows and unix systems are devided between root, sticky bits, user and others? This is learned easily but you still have to do it.

also a lot of certificates work with WRITTEN exams, yes I'm not kidding. and sometimes they only take place two times a year in a 200mile radius. So if you think you can blaze through all of them you will hit some bottlenecks

A college degree is worth more.
certificets you can get while still working so you don't go bankrupt ... Its a hard choice

>>17682943

Yea, I'm kind of low income so the certifications appeal to me from a money standpoint.

Effort isn't really the problem for me, it's time and expense. I just feel like I'm constantly held back by the class. I'm reading way ahead of the class and I feel like I could get a semesters worth of class done in like half a semester, if that makes any sense. I'm not trying to sound conceited, I think I just learn quicker on my own. I get frustrated, but I can deal with it if I have too...

I didn't know that a lot of the exams were written, however. I assumed they were primarily multiple choice because when I skimmed over some CompTIA practice test, there were all in multiple choice format. That does give me some pause, since writing questions generally require a much better grasp/memorization of the subject matter, aka I wouldn't be able to reason my way out as easily. The timing issue is also concerning.

Man, I'm just not sure. Certs seem like a slightly better choice for me, but I dont want to go through all the work only to be turned away everywhere because I dont have a degree. If I do go with certs, I just want it to be worth it...

>>17682988
Certificates from cisco and LPI for example you can do at your own pace and you can do them in group.

The theoretical part is multiple questions but if you get above 50% you get a 'pass' but you don't get a certificate. The algorithms on the back end calculating are mostly unknown but I guess you have to get 70-80% to get the certificate

You also have to do practical exams. For windows and linux set up in a virtual machine or set up a network with the cisco courses with cisco labs. This is virtual but not multiple choice.

Fortunately there is some demand so getting a job is not out of the ordinary but I know multiple people who get certified and don't get a job and in 3 years your certificate expires ...

I'm out of here and I wish you luck

I'm thinking about softening the blow by sending another text about seeing if anybody else in pit is interested in coming. That way it's not a 1 on 1 thing and there's less commitment involved.

Something like, "We can see if anybody else is interested in coming too. I'll ask Anons if they wanna come.

>>17682852
>What should I do to make things not weird or awkward when I come in for rehearsal tonight?

Act as you always have with her. That's it. You're a confident guy, don't worry about it.

Bumping for a musical anon. I'm in a concert band and there's a cute guy who plays trumpet like me. Hope it isn't awkward when you go back

I get if she would be mad that you called her a cunt but it sounds like she went full out responding to that. Something's not right there

>>17682844
What do you mean?

>>17682834
>Me calling her a cunt and that message I guess just wrecked her. It made her have the worst night of her life in years. She cried for hours, drove around aimlessly for an hour, had to take a pill to sleep, and apparently cut herself for the first time in years. She only just revealed all that to me yesterday when we got into yet another discussion about this.
She's probably exaggerating to make you feel bad, because that sounds like a massive overreaction. I get that it's offensive, but it's still just a word.

It's normal to have fights in a relationship. You shouldn't have called her a cunt, obviously, but the rest of the stuff about her communication issues and whatnot - that's the standard shit that couples fight about.

If she's REALLY so fragile that she'd just fall apart like that over a simple confrontation, then she might not be mature enough to handle a relationship. I'd personally consider it a red flag

>>17682775
I dunno. Is she usually cheesy as hell? If yes, then you might have a shot. If no, that was probably a rejection.

>>17682779
She is always saying cheesy things. Often times she would throw playful insults (like stinky, meanie, butt, silly (they're always followed by a winkie-face during text)).
She sometimes makes sexual jokes, and she has asked me to volunteer with her at a shelter over the summer (had to decline though). She also wanted me to be her gym buddy (had to say no to that too). I'm not sure if these indicate anything though.

>>17682840
Well then ask her out. Sounds like you think she likes you.

>>17682769
from my perspective it sounds like she is interested in you but you're not a priority of hers. she dropped plans with you to hang out with a friend. i dont know if its worth pursuing this girl. she doesent really sound like relationship material. I also think she is stupid and doesn't realize how she is coming across. my ex was kinda like this and was oblivious to it when i brought it up.

Yeah just forget it, do your own thing and forget about her completely. Focus on your own interests and goals instead of wondering what she's thinking about you. Stop giving her chances and tell her right from the get go that you dont have all day for her and you have your own things to worry about.

And if she comes back interested in you well, really as the previous anon said she doesnt seem like relationship material so your better off moving forward abd leaving her behind.

Sounds Crazy

>You will immediately cease and not continue to access the site if you are under the age of 18.

>>17682764
>Catfishing someone
Why would we help you? You're a piece of shit

>>17682764
Why catfish a woman? What do you get out of it?

bump for sanity

Sounds like he just isn't very thoughtful of his words or isn't very sensitive. Those things he said were borderline arrogant but I think there's a pretty high chance they weren't meant as putdowns.

>>17682763

It just sounds like he talks loads of shit out of habit, probably joking, while you are a bit oversensitive. Nothing wrong with it, your personalities just don't match that well.

Just keep reporting it to the university.

I would get some friends and throw water balloons at them. Does the smell go through closed windows?

>>17682706
1. Close your window while they're smoking.
2. Stop being such a faggot. This is part of living in close quarters with other people, sometimes they're going to do things you don't like. You don't have the right to control their behavior just because you don't like it.

>>17682700
> reference to myself to a minimum
What do you mean?

Also, isn't it too early to make a New Years resolution?

>>17682713
It's never too early. Most people start on New Years and most people fail.

Examples of a person using self-reference
"I like apples"
"I have apples"
"I am an owner of several apples"

>>17682725
Why are you trying to do it?
The amount of self references I use makes me worry I'm a narcissist.

>>17682679
Pregnant women go crazy in the first 3 months after conceiving (depression and/irritability) and for 3 to 5 months after delivery (post natal depression) deal with Anon and be nice and oh yea Congratulations!!!

What's she saying?

>>17682693
thanks!!

>>17682678
btw im about to turn 20 and it's my second year in college.

I can play guitar, let's start a band harmonica bro

>>17682689
Let's play some blues and express our troubles.

I've never met anyone I've truly connected with.

meetup.com

met my gf through it

>>17682631
Thanks, I'll check it out later

Anyone else have any ideas?

>>17682628
bruh.. i hate to say it.. But, you've gotta kill your child accidently of course.

But at the same time, you can't look like a neglecting parent. Something tragic. Maybe push him into the gorilla exhibit at the zoo.

>>17682628
well, that sucks, but you just have to man up basically. You don't want to fuck over your relationship, your childs development and your own life (your wife/then ex whill make your life hell, your kid will despise you and you will slave away for them for the rest of your life). Don't leave them. Do it for them and for you.
As for missing out: yes you do and yes you will, i think it still is worth it, for the sake of your family.
If you still have close friends, have regular guys nights, search meaningful hobbies and carry on.
There are many people today who are in their late 30s and still not ready to settle in fear of missing out.
A few decades ago it was normal for 20 somethings to settle down and make families as soon as possible. Only with todays infantilism and the distorted lifes we see on facebook we have the constant fear of growing out and missing out.
You are the man in the house. Akt like it

>>17682650
It's not really a fear of missing out. I'm not the going out type. I just want to live without obligations to anyone. I always have to put them before myself in almost anything. I just want to be able to live my life and man decisions that don't revolve around anyone but myself.

Post your a pic of your tinder profile and we will try to help

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This is an old one. I've changed what the profile says but the images are the same

Try to smile more in pics, maybe shave the beard. Also get rid of #4. People looking for a relationship don't want to see a pic of you with another girl.

It happens to all relationships. Boring is good and strong. When it's fucking dreadful is when you don't want it.

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>>17682613
>How do you deal with coming out of the super in love, infatuation period and moving into that slightly more settled feeling?
no problem if you really love the other person. Even in infatuation is gone, love stays. Many people mistake the two and think if the infatuation is gone, love has no chance and they break up even if the relationship could survive. Relationships are work. People tend to forget.

>How do you deal with the times you fuck decreasing and sex becoming more predictable?
Your sex drive naturally fades. Just make the times you do have sex always special. Truly show your love. You may be surprised to notice that even your sex drive will get stronger again that way

>How long into a relationship does this normally happen?
the so called honeymoon phase lasts about two years.

>Is there anyway to avoid it or keep things fresh for longer, or is it an inevitable change in a relationship? Likewise, does it indicate anything about the quality of a relationship?
you can prolong the honeymoonphase by constantly showing your affection and not taking the relationship for granted, talking about your relationship/feelings with your partner. Again, you need to work on your relationship. Be aware and prepared that relationships constantly change and accept it. The most important thing is: Do you love the other person?

great podcast on that matter: http://www.artofmanliness.com/2015/02/26/podcast-103-love-factually-with-dr-duana-welch/

The prev. guy gave you good advice. I've written this here before, but it's also important to bear in mind that love is almost always cyclical; it starts with the extreme high of the infatuation phase and fades to a baseline where you're attracted to them and enjoy spending time with them and care about their wellbeing but you don't get butterflies in your stomach around them or daydream about them when they're not there. If you stick it out, and I really do mean you stick it out, I'm talking at least eight months but possibly several years, you'll get back to that high point in the cycle where you're absolutely crazy about them. It's not enough to base a whole relationship off of, you need to learn to appreciate the comfortable-but-less-exciting baseline too, but it's something to bear in mind: sticking with somebody long-term doesn't mean that you never get to feel those super fucking intense pangs of infatuation ever again.

The usual advice for keeping things exciting (in both parts of the cycle) applies: stay in shape, don't let yourself become totally lazy w/r/t your appearance, go on dates, do fun shit together, if you ever feel yourself becoming genuinely bored and discontented then shake things up -- go on a trip or do something stupid together, you get the idea.

As for your sex life, it's normal for it to drop off somewhat, but you don't have to resign yourself to a couple times a month like some married couples do. I mean, that can happen, but you're not obligated to be okay with it -- you're not in the wrong if you see it as a problem and expect to work together to fix it.