Hey /adv/
This is my first time being madly in love with a girl. The girl and I talk a quite a bit in school and outside (online) ive even been out with her but she had friends and I did too. The problem is all her friends know me and all mine know her and were all kinda close on top of this theres one other guy she talks to as much as me and I feel very uneasy about that since hes also my friend. I cant tell her how I really feel because of all that.
Im moving away from the school soon but I plan on going to some weekly program with her so I can still talk with her and meet. The program ends near the summer so I still get to meet her for one more year. Theres a party at the end of the program and I plan on telling her that I love her after it just so I could get it out of my system. If she says yes, we`ll still meet if she says no, I wont have to deal with being around her and will try getting over it.
How about you guys, did any of you do anything like this? If so how did it go?
Also is my plan retarded?
FUCK IT IS ISNT IT
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I'm just going through this, and let me tell you man. I learned to never go 0-100 that fast. My situation is a little different, but the basis is similar.
I know what it feels like. It's gnawing at you. You feel it inside, and you can't sleep because of it. You can't eat. You try to occupy your time with other things but you always manage to connect something to her, or remember something about that situation that reminds you of her. You just cannot get her out of your head. And the worst part is these feelings are so new to you, you have no idea how to control them.
I am never not going to advocate telling someone how you feel. But just, be careful anon. Not everyone has the same heart as you do.
I wish you the best, and if it does work out; be good to her.
What do when in bed with a girl and cant get dick into vagina?
Sounds like the most retarded question in the world but its genuine. You know when sometimes girls just cant quite get it open enough for penetration to work
Whats the strat there?
More foreplay?
Resort to grinding and handjobs and shit?
Is it possible to get things working if you arouse her enough?
Or is it just one of those "if it aint workin, it aint gonna work, just come back later" deals?
>>17680342
Stop dating 400 pound girls, it's weird.
if its not working the most common problem is that she isnt relaxed enough so make sure she is comfortable and go slow. you will get there anon
Foreplay. This is assuming she's been able to have sex in the past, so it's not a vaginismus issue.
You should also try putting a pillow under her hips in missionary. There's a certain angle you have to enter to get it in, and that makes it easier.
would you marry a woman if she had an adopted kid or would you feel like you cant relate for petty reasons
>petty reasons
fuck off. Maybe someone doesn't want children in the first place, and wouldn't consider getting into a relationship with a woman who has any. Did that ever occur to you?
Posterity is not petty, it's the furthest therefrom.
>>17680318
sorry this question is directed to people who want kids in their future
Any tips for coping with baldness? I have great hair but balding and IDK what do I do or how do I deal with it.
>>17680294
Go to a dermatologist. Ask if you can be put on finasteride or some other hair loss treatment
Aren't there a ton of hair recovery products at this point? I see these threads at least once a day.
Conquer rome
Are video games a total waste of time?
Lately I feel like even starting a game is a chore. I can rarely make it past the opening hours of anything. I'm seriously considering selling my entire collection. I feel like my free time is better spent doing exercise, practicing an instrument, reading, or simply hanging out with people. Video games seem like a pointless activity.
I don't mean to insult gamers, I was one for years. I'm trying to ask if anyone has been through this funk and gotten out of it, or if I should just move on.
What if you took a break /without/ selling the games?
It is, if you're not enjoying it. If you don't find any joy in it then yeah, you should obviously look for something else.
>>17680282
Technically anything is a waste of time since we're all going to die anyway.
Just do what you want to do.
We've been going out for 2.5 years and are both 20 - she's 2 hrs away at uni but we visit weekly.
Back in feb we fell out because she kissed another dude and sorta fancied him, shortly after she decided she wanted independence and didn't want me moving in with her - it brought me to tears but nothing changes, we did however discuss an open relationship but decided against it.
Cut to present: the same dude puts his hand up her dress, she stops him but confesses she secretly enjoyed it. Day before my birthday she tells me all this while bawling her eyes out, I tell her not to worry because it's normal to like others and at the end of the day she didn't return his gesture.
Not long after she starts asking me why I can't just allow an open relationship, I tell her it would make me uncomfortable but she claims this is only because of what society says, and there's no reason she can't have her cake and eat it too, plus I get the same.
Thing is, she's my first real girlfriend but she had 3 boyfriends (1+ yr each) before and wants a go at being really 'free' to have sex with whomever she wants, as she would get another boyfriend like a week after the breakup. Plus, she says that she wants the full university lifestyle, being wild and free.
I don't really have an eye for other girls, and to my knowledge there is nothing wrong with our sex life, but she wants a bit more even if just for a year or two while at uni.
I think she's wonderful but she breaks down over nothing and always beats herself up, and an open relationship to me won't fix anything - plus I'm not 100% for it.
I told her I'd make a compromise cause she's worth it, but we're not doing anything yet till we talk about it proper in a couple weeks.
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Cucked.
[cont, also pic slightly related as she has admitted to cuckold fantasies about me]
On paper I should just leave her right? But I'm sort of attached because she is kinda my everything, it's a bit hard to explain
ANYWAY, I want to know if I should just let her do her thing for a bit so I get to keep her full-time at the end of all this, or refuse her and run the risk of making her more crazy because everyone is having a wicked time banging everyone and she's stuck in a sort-of-LDR.
Sorry for the blog post!
She's a whore. Don't even waste your time with such a person.
Due to certain circumstances, I'm in a position where I need to learn how to cook dinners for myself. I'm on a 1300 calorie diet and I don't know where to get started as far as healthy recipes go
>get food
>cook it
>cook book
>ur a FAG
http://lmgtfy.com/?q=healthy+recipes
also read the /fit/ sticky
Start by eating a lot of fruit and vegetables. Learn to make friends with salads, fish, and fowl. Go for the fresh stuff in a supermarket instead of canned stuff. This is your chance - charred red meats have been linked to colon cancer - now is the perfect time to save yourself from cancer.
Does "Logan" sound like a more mature/adult name than Connor?
Well what's the name for?
Both of them make me think of children, tee bee aich
>>17680234
First, thank you for having a white kid. Please have as many as you can, we need more. Go for Logan.
Alright guys. I messaged this girl, we know each other and have expressed interest in each other before. We have kind of a complicated history. Bottom line is I'm trying to get her interested in me again.
What do I respond to this? I am aware she might not message back, or that she just isn't interested.
It's pretty likely she won't message back, but if I don't then I'll always be mad at myself for not at least trying.
So what do I say that's witty/smart ass?
Pls
>>17680210
>but if I don't then I'll always be mad at myself for not at least trying.
You'll be also mad at taking advice from a random Anon here. Do whatever you want and accept your responsibility over the outcome.
Say "ok" and be done with it. Anything else will come off as needy.
Why can't you change yourself? No matter what happens to you you're still the same person. You could lose a parent or a job or anything and you're just still the same person. The only difference is you don't have that thing, or you aren't in that situation anymore.
So i guess a lot of finding out about who you are is finding about who you arent.
I don't like this very much
>>17680190
speak for yourself.
The "true self" is bullshit. There is nothing essential and unchanging about a person; people are molded by their environment and stimulus. Even if you were to discover who you "really are," that person is inevitably going to change a year, five years, ten years from now.
Knowing who you are is a day-to-day process of defining and re-defining what's important to you. It does not come as an epiphany.
>>17680232
Not OP but I agree.
I think we're constantly changing. It's just that so much of that change happens "under the hood" that it's imperceptible until X months/years have passed.
With that said, OP's point is that we're never not our self. We can't be anyone else because we're each one person. I think he's working an existential/metaphysical angle in his post.
I want to learn computer hacking. Where do I start? what do I need to learn to become a hacker.
help /adv/
Ask /g/
install gentoo
>>17680206
he said hacking, not desktop ricing
Skeleton here, what are some easy ways to get a lot of calories per day without a ton of shit like sodium or sugar?
high fat, low carb foods
proteins
>>17680168
steak.
1227 calories
264 mg of sodium
per pound
daily recommended amount of sodium perday is 1500 miligram so you could eat three pounds of steak a day, morning, noon and night, and still not hit that.
>>17680175
But that would be a ton of cholesterol?
Hey /adv/
So I don’t know if this belongs on here or on /trv/ but I guess here would be better. So basically I’m 18 and live in a small town in Ohio, and I want to visit my Gf in a small town in Alabama. So the dilemma is that I own a kind of shitty car so I’m sure if I should drive it, or take a Greyhound bus. So I own a 2003 PT Cruiser with 135k miles. It’s roughly 550 miles between the two. Nothing is really wrong with the car, except the right front tire squeaks.
I don’t know if it’s worth the risk taking the car all that way, with the potential of it breaking down. Mainly a /o/ question too, but I’m wondering if that car or the bus would be the best way. The bus would cost about $200 or less roundtrip, but it would be a 20 hr. bus ride, comparted to an 8 hr. drive. Also if I take the bus I’d need to take a taxi to go anywhere around the town, but if I took my car I could drive wherever. Thank you in advance.
tldr: I need to know if driving a bad car or riding a bus would be the best way to visit my Gf
Just stay home. She's probably already fuckin' someone else.
>>17680137
But she's a NEET anon.
>>17680133
Make sure your car gets an oil change and inspection, then just take that. Will be cheaper too. 135k miles is not that much, but sorry you drive such an ugly, shitty car. I drive a 2003 Toyota Corolla with 190k miles and I'm driving it 900 miles this Thanksgiving to Maine
Hey /adv/,
I feel like my life is becoming increasingly empty and meaningless, and I long to love and be loved by someone. Thing is, I'm in a pretty tough school and I'm trying to get into a good law school, so academics is pretty much my life; I can barely afford any time to work out / date.
What should I do? Should I just give school a temporary middle finger and go find love?
"quests" for love never end well.
Don't give school the middle finger, but don't let it consume all your time either. It's not supposed to. Find a balance. And in your spare time find a hobby, something you can get pleasure from. I recommend a team sport.
>>17680036
>implying you'd find it
i wouldn't. if you really can't afford to go out at all like not a waking moment of free time (which is believable considering law school) and that bugs you, reconsider what you're doing.
but even if you found a girl you'd lose her as soon as you start school again.
while i dont think you should dedicate your life to law if you find it meaningless, i also dont think you should ditch it just cuz ur tired of being single.
having a relationship wont give your life meaning.
>>17680036
>Should I just give school a temporary middle finger and go find love?
No. You might not even find it and even if you do it might not even be as fulfilling and pleasant as you think. Using relationships to fix life rarely works long term. If you meet someone worth while, they will fit into your life, no matter how hectic it is. Busy people manage dating all the time, when it means something.
How does one set boundries for a relationship?
What would you even say?
People have told me that I'm an asshole for expecting a relationship to be a give-and-take experience and that I should man up and provide both the love and finances if I want it to work.
It feels like if I did that I'd be better off just jerking off onstead of paying for what is essentially a live-in whore.
it seems like there's a lot more to this story, but if you refer to your girlfriend as a live-in whore I'd say it's already over.
>>17679983
What do you mean by boundaries here?
What do you think is fair and reasonable? What would you be willing to give, and what would you expect your partner to give up?