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Plz guys i really need some help i feel like i'm stuck and i don't know what to do =(

Why can't you do anything? Go to the police

I can't cuz i got my proofs not by legal way

shes on a rag or she is religious.


Or maybe your terrible with women or ugly

>>17679310
ask her?

>>17679310
what went wrong is irrelevant
she is either prude, sexually broken, or both
either way, its time to get a new one

>>17679250

heres the thing, being a chef kinda sucks. we all imagine it as a nice relaxing job where you're just cooking stuff, but to be honest its a high speed high stress job where you cook the same shit every fucking day and always work horrible fucking hours.

and you dont need to be a chef in order to cook well.

i make things like chicken alfredo from scratch and my friends adore me for it. im not a chef but i know my way around the kitchen. our generation thinks that meatloaf or home made burgers are too complex.

just take some cooking classes, look for some recipes, dont cheat by cutting out stuff and you'll be fine.

dont get a job based on whether or not people will want you to also do it for free. its not like on friends where monica just sits there talking to her co worker while slowly stirring some sauce, and then comes home with enough energy to cook for 5 more assholes.

do you want to come home from work and be expected to cook something just as decadent but without the help of your employees doing the grunt work?

>>17679258
Thank you anon this post really helped. I think that I just want to do cooking classes now more, I already did some research but wanted just to read someones take on it.

Yeah getting about 10 years experience and 4 years culinary school seems really terrible for the work. Its like becoming a doctor but with less prestige and salary.

>>17679250
>Fighting management to make decent quality dishes
>Management say "you can only charge X amount but we want to maximise profits"
>Making orders on time is stressful, you can be working on 4 dishes at once
>Special orders from the fucking idiots who say "I like this dish but I want it made without X and replacing with Y" then complain that they didn't enjoy the dish after I took the cream/meat out of it
>Idiots calling during rush hour in to ask if you can make them a vegan dish before they arrive, if you could buy things so they can have a vegan dish, or if you can wash fucking everything just so their food avoids all animal products
>Unsociable hours
>Can't be arsed to eat when you get home
>No time to see your wife and kids
>Wife and kids expect restaurant quality food on your days off every meal of the day
>Booking time off is a ball ache because you have to trust whoever is holding the forst
>Management think their tastes reflect their customers' tastes, trying to change the menu to food they exclusively enjoy
>Cleaning/stock check is a bitch
>Incredibly little recognition for your work
>"Can you make this dish" but they don't know what it was or what was in it
>"Can I swap the vegetables for more steak?"
>Waiters and waitresses bring all kinds of drama into the work place
>Working early/late so you can prepare food
Ask yourself if you could handle putting up with that sort of thing on a daily basis.

Very, very few chefs actually make it "big", many chefs end up working in a mid range restaurant putting food in the microwave or boiling it, or they start up their own restaurant and realise they can't manage a restaurant and cook in it, or that they can't find a decent manager who will give them free reign, meaning you just end up bank rolling a business someone else dictates.

>>17679239

define 'adult' ?

if you can maintain a job and pay your own bills, thats all it takes really.

>>17679243
>maintain a job and pay your own bills
Yeah, no, that's an impossible task for me. I still have a lot of things I want to do in this world other than work to death. A four hours job enough to pay a flat while doing 7 hobbies a day doesn't look like being an adult to me.

>>17679171
Boyfriend here willing to answer any questions too.

Boyfriend can fuck off and sell his own underwear to the gay community if he's that inclined. Sure it's easy money but only if you do not have issues with it. If it is already causing you stress now, I don't see how some bucks (and don't make the mistake of thinking you'll somehow get rich doing this) are worth it.

Boyfriend should take your feelings about your own body more seriously. It's easy for him to say that it's quick money when he doesn't have to do jack shit. Let him be someone else's pimp.

>>17679171
It is easy money but so is whoring yourself out.

I wouldn't ask anyone I cared about to do it unless I was dirt poor and had absolutely nothing to lose and no real aspirations.

>>17679142
still there?

maybe point the age difference to her?

>gently

looks she would be utterly destroyed if you let her down, whatever you do

>>17679451
yes, and i know it sounds cliche

but i was hoping it could work. so i gave it a chance. but we really want different things. shes even grossed out by some sexy time things we do, shes just never done any of it

i dont want to stick around just for physical, becase that just wouldnt be right. even though when i let her go she is naive enough to let another guy abuse her or something

anyway, thanks

>>17679142
>she's a FOB
You're dating a Forward Operating Base?

>he never stops calling her
>she cries, I talk to her, tell her it's a good choice for her and she have to be strong
>worry as fuck for her
>don't see him again the next 3 days
>today
>see him
>they "got back together"
>tell her I don't want more problems and that's insane, I'm leaving the appartment one day or another
>she feels bad
>apparently the day after the argument I left to work and he was there waiting for her in the morning
>she feels bad because I'm leaving and she says she should left because she's being the problem, I see tears in her eyes
>tell her it's okay and that she's not the problem, it's the situation
>she says she just can't leave him because she would need to go far far away and she don't have any money
>the guy's married and I just kept the harem of a polygam sociopath like /int/ just predicted when I describe the couple and their origins
So do I get her in touch with a charity program that helps woman that are trapped like this or do I just leave her without getting into trouble ? They guy is a fuckin psycho, he's nice to me but he don't understand justice and has friend that murdered their ex-wifes with a knife and are in prison, he's dangerous.
A lot of people are telling me it's not my problem, but I feel guilty, she might just kill herself one day.
Help me /adv/

Please help me I feel lonely and helpless, I have bad thoughts

>>17679129
BUMP
BUMP
BUMP

All they do for eyebrows is remove strays from the sides, a proper barber should be able to do this. Also if you dont have naturally arching eyebrows (pretty boy eyebrows), then dont get your hopes up that its going to do anything much for you.

>natural eyebrow arch here; always get compliments about them

>"oh anon i love your eyebrows were do you get them done?"
>"how do you get your eyebrows like that? i need to go with you to get them done"
>"do you get your eyebrows done? they are on point"

NO YOU FUCKING ROASTIES I DONT GET THEM DONE FUCK YOU AND STOP TALKING ABOUT MY EYEBROWS AND MY EYELASHES OH GOD PLEASE STOP TALKING ABOUT IT REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

>>17679112

its photoshop. its nto going to look like that.

they look fine naturally. you're a guy, stop worrying about your eyebrows. they are way too much of a hassle to groom regularly and if you mess it up it looks pants on head retarded. and then you have to explain it, as opposed to just a bad haircut.

unless you have a unibrow, dont wory. and if you do, just shave the part above your nose.

source: i LOOK like i get my eyebrows done and get shit for it

Are there guys that really care this much? Without actually clicking on the image, I can't make out any difference whatsoever. Waste of time and money in my opinion.

pineapple.

dont take vitamins.. that makes it taste horrible.

When you're going to cum, do it deep in her throat, and she wont taste a drop.

>>17679135
Does pineapple juice work?

>>17679080

if you guys work together, as in talk at least once a day out of necessity, don't do it. not cuz it could lead to rejection, thats easy to deal with. but because if you do date the nbreak up, its hell

>>17679131
I mean i'm the delivery guy so I'm rarely actually in the shop. Besides, the place is open 19 hours a day, I could change shifts.

Shameless self bump.

>>17679058

Where's the need for advice here? This seems like a post for /b/

>>17679064
i don't want to get 200 retarded replies. i know it's a bit off topic for /adv/ but i don't really know where else i could ask

>>17679058

>i know it sounds degenerate

so there you go. its inherently degenerate even to you.

the problem with incest is that you guarantee all the recessive bad traits/diseases/deformities get paired up.

to say that someone with a genetic disease cant have a child is to say that even that incest couple couldnt have children with soemone else. they all / we all carry these genes. all of us have bad recessive hidden genes.

incest brings them to the surface in an almost guaranteed way.

but the world is set up in such a way that if it is true fucking love, bro and sis can run off and pretend to eb married elsewhere.

>>17679027
Figure out why you're depressed.

For me, it was my wife. Now I'm happy.

>>17679027

dont refer to it as 'coming clean'. its not a shameful secret, you're just feeling sad as of late.

know what you want out of it. cuz if you don't, it sounds like you just want a pity party. if you have been experiencing this long enough that you need therapy, make sure thats the focus.

Jesus.
Sitting on the bus.
T minus 15 minutes.

I'm fucking dizzy and my gut is wrenching.

Tribe Called Quest.
Electric Relaxation, shit.. actually.. all their albums. one of them shits even called we got the Jazz or something like that.

>>17679095
THIS is what I was looking for. Thanks anon!

Any more out there?

I think you're looking for jazz-funk, OP.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-TyBwsLU_N4

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=skZPzx-XlD0

>>17679015

Recognize that she is a person, and as such, made up her mind.

If you really are best friends, she knows you, the real you. And she is not into him. Tough luck, wish you the best next time.

Why do you think it's impossible to start a relationship?

>>17679015

yes. it takes three steps
>become the kind of person she is attracted to
>find the vague almost magical way to make her reconsider her options with you
>create the chemistry that leads to romantic feelings.

none of these are things you can force. but thats how you'd do it if it was possible. not to say its impossible but these three things need to happen

>>17678962
Don't procreate.

>>17678962
>Our kids will probably look like Elliot Roger.
>potentially be manlets
>We both want children when we're more set in our careers thought
kek
all i can really say to this, is do you really see yourself having a kid with this woman? or are you just going to live with her? both of you are careere driven, so if she wants one, and im guessing, she'll only want one, say that you want to be more established, but you sir are exaggerating....

>>17678973
Naw she actually wants at least 2 kids. And I could potentially see it happening. I've always wanted sons but it seems like interracial girls would do better because they're way more accepted by society. Still, I would want a boy that could carry on the family name - if he wasn't a pathetic beta.