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>be me
>have gf
>go out for nearly a year and a half
>she broke up with me a few weeks ago
>pretty torn about it
>about 20 minutes ago
>find jar full of little pieces of paper
>'reasons why I love anon'
>read the first note
>'The stars shine brighter when you're around'

fuck
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>>17684743
Well, that's life for you, mate.
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i've been there

sucks

but you'll get over it/her with time
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>>17684743
Women aren't capable of love, sorry to tell you this, buddy.

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Hey guys
I have three friends who are possibly gay (they show characteristics of a stereotypical gay guy) and whenever I'm with any one of them they keep doing gayish stuff to me eg. Hugging me and not letting go/sit on my lap/squeeze my arms, hands or slap my butt/try to kiss me on the lips/cheeks/shoulder etc.
I don't have anything against gay people but how do I get them to stop doing all that stuff without coming off as aloof or homophobic? (not an sjw but don't want to ruin relationships either)
I'm a quiet guy and whenever they do those stuff to me i don't resist. I only dodge when they try to kiss me because that seems like they're crossing the line
Thanks in /adv/ance
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Self bump
Halp me :(
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Has it really gotten so bad out there that this can't be solved using the time honored traditional method of calling them faggots?
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>>17684728
There's nothing homophobic about having personal boundaries. There's a difference between having a problems with this type of behavior in general, and having a problem with them doing it specifically to you. Don't be a doormat, OP. You're entitled to have your personal space respected if you respect everyone else's.

You need to tell them that you're not comfortable with their behavior towards YOU. You are not gay. You are not interested in the advances of men. That's what these behaviors seem like. Whether or not they are indeed advances, is irrelevant. You're not comfortable, period. If they respect you, they should back off, whether or not they are gay. If they don't, then they'll react badly to it and accuse you of homophobia. Don't fall for that shit. This is harassment.

You are NOT homophobic for wanting your own personal space respected. That's a basic human right, regardless of your sexual orientation.

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Fatty here, obviously

Why do i always have so much trouble committing to losing weight despite really wanting to at the same time?
I cut down on my eating for a few weeks, start trying to get active a bit more but after a while I go back to my old ways.

How do I actually stick to losing weight?
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Because we like food. And because there is a thing were you rebound on carbs because the body was being '''''''''''''starved'''''''''''' during a low calorie diet.

Also you need discipline.
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Not OP, but how do I lose more weight? I've been stuck at 205 for about a month now. I've been cutting down my eating as well. No sugary shit or anything

Also OP, discipline yourself. A large portion of weight loss is mental
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you are probably not enjoying it, while you do it. if you do sports with real goals and see yourself getting closer to those goals, you find sports to make you happy.

If I run 5km i get a runners high at some point from there on, I dont feel a lot of pain anymore. before that, I often got knee pain way earlier.

Same with weight training, at some point, your muscles dont ache anymore and you are happy about bursting through your workout

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how can i not be so insecure?

i went out to the club today with my two friends. both of them are attractive, white, and very tall chads. I'm nothing like them. And it sucks because I fee like the ugly duckling. I'm average height and olive toned and don't have the Chad look.

A girl wanted to dance with me and was dancing next to me all night. Even my friends kept telling me to grab her and just dance and I couldn't work up the courage to dance with her or talk to her. I didn't know what to say and I became incredibly self conscious and scared. I became super insecure about my body height and looks and went deep into my head and all this while having more courage than usual because I was drunk.

I'm not an autist and have had 3 long term girlfriends but dancing in the club and approaching girls while they look amazing in clubs still intimidates me greatly.

I'm really downtrodden that I didn't talk to her because I found her incredibly attractive. My insecurity is crippling.

Now I'm back home half drunk, very lonely, and sad from the come down and disappointment of not talking to her. If I could go back in time I'd still do the same thing because I have zero game at clubs. I hav no trouble talking to women in other situations but clubs are intimidating and there's not much to say with loud blaring music.
I just
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this should be a bad thing to tell someone but just keep in mind that no one fucking cares, you might think that girl will analyze you grabbing her by the hips or whatever, but really in her own mind she's got her own fucking problems and is thinking about how her mum has cancer or whatever drama is in her own life
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Then don't go to clubs

I don't enjoy clubbing and have the same problem as you. Some people are very animalistic and have no problem grabbing a girl and grinding up against her. Good for them. I'm not like that, so clubs aren't my scene. Sounds like its the same for you.
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>>17684778
>>17684778

I enjoy dancing with friends and getting drunk. It's fun to let loose.

Granted it took me a long time to work up to it. The second I enter it can be overwhelming and intimidating because it feels like everyone is looking at you and judging you. It's really difficult if you're a guy that is insecure or thinks too much

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Good morning, /adv/.
I need some advice on how not to be a coward. I am afraid of many silly things. I cannot sleep without some sort of light on. I'm afraid of being robbed. I am not afraid to fight, i have done a lot of that in the past. But I am afraid of a potential war breaking out between the major powers of this world. I'm afraid of being haunted. Deathly afraid of meeting a woman's parents, although I have no luck with women. Criminals scare me, no matter their charge.
How do I obtain courage?
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Diff between courage and cowardice isn't marked by the presence of fear or not. Brave people are as afraid of shit as scared people. Only difference is whether you let it stop you or make the decision to swallow that shit and forge ahead.

Preparedness helps too.
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>>17684700

this, you cant be brave if you're not scared, if you weren't scared then it wouldn't be a big deal to do it

if you're scared of crime and warfare get a gun my niggy
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>>17684700
I don't believe that at all. There are people who have no fear even in the face of imminent danger. I've seen it. I
>get a gun
I cannot, for I cannot afford it. If I could, I would purchase a firearm.
Pic related. Me when I found my tv turned on in the night when I know I've turned it off.

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How do i stop fapping anons?

has anyone else achieved this?
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There is no reason to stop fapping. If anything, fapping is good for you.

I mean you could easily stop by just not doing it, but there really is no benefit. Unless, that is, you wank 18 times a day.
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Practice sports and go out with Friends. U basicly need distractions.
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>>17684623
No fapping HAS benefits. It makes u feel a lot better.

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This question is particularly for people over 22.

Do any of you have experience dealing with peers who are more intelligent than you, like going from a low-tier high school to an ivy league college, for instance? Maybe I'm exaggerating the threat, but these people seem to be really adaptive and good at manipulation. Sometimes the cliché things they say are stupid, but it's probably just social chameleon crap they spout when they're not feeling normie enough. I'm definitely an empathetic, fairly well-behaved person, but I also don't want to walk around with my tail between my legs.

TL;DR: how do you deal with being outsmarted by peers?
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Work out and get big, they'll be intimidated by you in another way.

Fuck their gfs if possible
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Ehm... Get smarter?
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>>17684608
Oh! I should have specified that I'm threatened by females, not males.

>>17684613
I'll try my best.

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Can someone PLEASE explain a complete sperg how to approach a guy without fucking it up?

We've been working in the same place and kinda talking for like 2-3 months, I just dared to add him as a friend on facebook this week, and I don't know how to go on from here.

If you're too direct, a guy is going to think you're easy and either take advantage of that or ignore you, but if you're not direct enough he won't notice at all and ignores you.

wat do.
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Flirt
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>>17684507
THAT'S THE THING, I DON'T KNOW HOW.
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pls help

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Hi i have a prob
Dima is my best friend
lina is my best friend
we are friends since 3 grade
Dima is cheating

should i tell her?
i dont wanna hurt them
but she has to know about that
help
-Michigan dogman OP
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Both girls?
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>>17684490
Dima is a bro
bro
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>>17684526
He was a bro. Until he decided to cheat and fuck up the whole friendship triangle. She deserves to know, and you all need to move past this.

Any tips on how to sing better?
I think my voice is alright but I have very big trouble hitting the higher notes so it sounds like a dying dog
example: @1:10
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u84f2wdl6f4
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Try anticipating the higher note before it comes. So you don't havr to be super quick and you are already there. It helps if you know the song.
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Have you tried singing fucking loudly! Also more guitars! FUCKING LOUD, EVERYTHING!!!
It works for me, I can't sing, but we make fine hard rock/metal covers
You can also sing blues, nobody gives a crap about blues voices as long as it is passionate and meant.

Also, you sound decent, kek tune!
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>>17684808
>Also, you sound decent, kek tune!
anon...

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I am a 19 year old university student and I can conclusively say that I am losing my cognitive abilities. I noticed a distinct inability to motivate myself late in the summer of this year. I'm taking half the load of courses at uni than I did last semester, with reasonably easy content, yet I still find it twice as hard.

I'm in a constant state of brainfog. I can no longer produce the intricate thoughts I once could or stay engaged in complex tasks for prolonged periods of time. I can't find interest in anything anymore. It seemed like this was going to be the point in my life where things changed for the better, yet I can't get myself to do anything.

I have no history of anxiety. These days I am usually emotionally neutral, much more than I've ever been before. I did visit a doctor for these symptoms and she didn't say they pointed to anything specific, instead directing me to psychological services. All I know is that this problem is probably more mechanical than emotional. It's like parts of my brain have been -- stolen while I wasn't looking.

What are the odds that it's an early-stage brain tumor? The only real inconsistency that has with my research is the fact that I haven't been having headaches, never have had them.
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Diagnosis : Depression
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>>17684474

But does that explain the loss of cognitive function? Because I know that's happening. It's not just that I don't feel like doing anything, my brain is going nonresponsive no matter how hard I push it.

Also I have a great life with people who love me.
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>>17684489
Because that is a symptom of depression.

>Or, at least, saying phrases like, "brain fog" is a classic symptom of depression.

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I can't say "I love you" to my mom. It's like my brain totally rejects the notion of doing it. Her and I have an extremely tumultuous relationship, but I unequivocally do love her, but I just can't express it. What makes it really difficult is that I then can't say it to anyone else because it feels wrong to tell someone that when I won't to someone I care for even way more.

I'm not so much looking for advice on how to tell my mom that so much as just general outlook.
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It's just a word nigger just say it.
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>>17684392
Spend time with her, then it will come naturally.
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>>17684392
I feel you...same thing over here, but for whole family...even sibling...

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https://www.amazon.es/gp/product/B00FCW8P5I/ref=dm_ws_sp_ps_dp

how do i buy this shit if it's only available on spanish amazon for some retarded reason. im not in spain. literally can't find the mp3s or cd anywhere else.
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wait is this board exclusively for life advice? or helping in general. sorry im pretty high
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>>17684417
No, it's for all advice, but the problem is that it's occupied with women who as you know are completely useless when it comes to anything that isn't talking about their fee fees and whatnot.
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You can use google translate to navigate around, see:
https://translate.google.com/translate?hl=sv&sl=es&tl=sv&u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.es%2Fgp%2Fproduct%2FB00FCW8P5I%2Fref%3Ddm_ws_sp_ps_dp

but since Amazon ships all around the world I don't see how it matters which language it is in. Try ordering.

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What's some good general advice for getting one's shit together?
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Motives & Goals in my opinion :/
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Literally do everything in spite of yourself and channel all your negative energy/self hatred into hard work until you break through to the otherside. Even once that happens, that feeling of self loathing and hatred might still persist, so be careful.

You just have to hate yourself until your shit gets together and then finally be able to "come to" and realize what's going on that you're situation actually has improved then start to chill out
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Work at it every single day, expect many setbacks and relapses, do not waffle around waiting for a breakthrough/epiphany/fresh start

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I want to have sex with a female friend

How do I go about this?
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ask her if she wants to fuck
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Are you a girl?
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1. ask her if she wants to fuck
2. she says yes
3. remove clothes
4. place penis in vagina
5. ???
6. maybe profit

word of caution: if you get stuck on step 2, you will probably lose her as a friend. even if you do bang her, you might lose her as a friend anyway unless you end up dating. just sayin.

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