so I've been hanging out with this girl I met a month ago. She has a boyfriend but she seems really into me. We text every day and she comes over like once a week. We watch silly shit and laugh maybe drink or smoke if I have anything. She teases me putting her nose to mine and letting our lips touch. we cuddle sometimes. She also likes to take some of my personal items like a figurine. I made her bring it back but she didn't leave it hear. She made me cuddle her on the bed while she convinced me to let her keep it indefinitely. She likes to wear my flannel shirts, etc. Kindergarten shit.
She won't full on kiss me though. Our faces are always touching but an actual kiss is too far for some reason.
She seems REALLY into me and despite making regular progress with physical intimacy I feel like I'm never going to get anywhere. I need to know where I stand with this girl.
>>17683757
Second sentence, first 4 words. That's how you identify it.
>>17683763
then why keep me around? why tease me? why take my stuff?
>>17683790
She likes free weed and booze?
Maybe you are her side hoe.
I'm about to give a letter to a girl I really love, with all my feelings in it.
Last night, I asked her lots of things.
I mentioned her boyfriend, we ended up talking about him, that she doesn't love him anymore, but that she's not sure.
He cheated on her, and lied about it.
And that she still cares. About him, and feels when he's feeling bad, somehow.
I'm not expecting her to love me in return. but...
Will this be a bad idea, to give her this letter, will it ruin our "relationship "?
Beta detected
>>17683745
Holy shit are you 14? This shit is stupid and won't work, it will just make you look like an idiot and probably teased relentlessly. You clearly have no idea how relationships work and that's something that will come with age, but seriously, put this silly idea aside.
>>17683756
Kek
>18
>drink almost very day
>3/10 and thats being nice to myself
>not a single friend
>attending community college, cant even pass standard math class
>socially autistic
So /adv/, 2) whats stopping me from finally killing myself?
Nothing. But if you were doing to do it, you would have done it, not come to 4chan to ask if you should.
The hope that you might someday be a better you. Also fear problaby
>>17683618
>whats stopping me
youre a pussy and you wont do it
faggot
I've known this friend of mine (I'll refer to him as "M") for about a full year now, when I started college. We bonded over a shared passion for English and similar bands back then, as well as TV shows, books, and movies. He introduced me to all his friends and I felt so accepted, so welcome -- like I meant something to him. In the weeks that followed, M and I got a lot closer: I went to see his band's gigs, which really surprised but really touched him a lot, too (he told me so himself - that it meant a lot to him, especially since he didn't ever expect anyone from college to turn up), he invited me to parties, we caught the tram home together, we sat next to each other in lectures, etc.
But then there's periods of time (like, around three-four weeks or so - started being a thing this year) where I may as well not even exist to him. He won't sit with me in class, he doesn't initiate conversations with me unless he absolutely has to, he ignores my presence, he doesn't smile at me, when I try talking with him he'll give short, disinterested answers...
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And then, two weeks later, on the 19th of whatever month, he'll be back to "normal", smiling at me all the time, sitting next to me, messaging me, liking my FB posts, we have conversations that make me feel like it's not our ears that are doing all the listening, but our souls instead. He'll tell me out of the blue that he likes my T-shirt, or the essay I wrote that day, he'll walk with me to the tram... I love these days.
And then right when I feel like it's all okay again, it'll cycle back into that period where he'll start avoiding me again, taking the train when he sees that I'm off to get the tram... :(
The weirdest part is that he only goes back to normal on the 19th, and on that day, I'm suddenly like gold to him. The only reason I've noticed is because I keep a journal and record every day; only as I looked through today did I realise there's a bizarre trend going on.
Is there something metaphysically special/sacred/vital about the number 19? Like a cycle or something?
I'm so weirded out by the fact that he seems only to go back to normal on the 19th of every month.
What does it mean??
>>17683578
which months are we talking about? is it the 19th of April?
>>17683578
Cycles of depression? Maybe he gets tired of you for a while, gets that feeling out of his system, then hes refreshed and resdy to come back? Are you smothering him?
>Be KHV
>Just started uni
>First day, I meet a qt azn grill who's starting school as well
>We walk around and talk together, she seems super nice
>Over the next few days, we talk pretty often. I'm starting to really like her, and she seems to like me as well
>We spend some time hanging out over the next 3 weeks or so, and I start having serious oneitis for this girl
>I notice some beta orbiters talking to her
>One in particular, let's call him Ben, is always sidling up to her at every chance
>I figure I'd better get a move on before he does
>Never asked a grill out before, but I finally work up my courage
>Ask her out to go eat dinner on the weekend
>She replies with a super-enthusiastic "Yeah!", seems really happy
>Go to her room and help her move some furniture, she's beaming
>Working with her on some homework, goodday.mp3
>Suddenly, Ben walks in and just sits down at our table
>She leaves to get dinner at the cafeteria, and he immediately follows
>I finish the problem and leave a few minutes later
>Catch up to them, and we all sit down at one table
>During the conversation, this grill suddenly says to Ben, "Oh hey! You said you liked [restaurant] too, right? You should come with us on Sunday!"
>I'm speechless
>Finish eating in silence
>I go back to my room, and Ben and the grill leave
>Feel like crying and raging at the same time
What the fuck am I supposed to do? Do I drop this girl immediately? Do I cancel the date and let her and Ben go instead? Or do I go and have an extremely awkward time? Are all girls like this?
>>17683533
Looks like to her, you were the real orbiter all this time
>Girl invited orbiter on date
You mean
>Girl made plans to go out to dinner with two of her orbiters
Clearly she likes having Ben around, so you're not really in a better position than he is.
Yeah don't fucking go to that dinner
Should I yolo and quit my job?
I'm working as an "analyst" at a consulting firm making 55k, I started two months ago, and I fucking hate it and the area I live in and am homesick (3000 miles away)
My dream job is to be an applied creative like an industrial designer or an architect, but I fucked up in college and I'm still surprised this company decided to hire me in the first place. But everyday I'm stressed, bored as fuck and sour.
When should I quit? Now? I'm a year? How do people have energy to come home from work everyday and take night classes to career switch?? Is this just what real life is like?
>>17683489
You never quit without having a guaranteed job or back up income.
get a good woman
For your resumes sake, stay for at least 6 months, a year ideally if you can numb yourself to it.
Also, keep hope alive and look for a new job in the meantime, if you find something that looks worthwhile go for it.
Can anyone give advice about moving to Canada from United States? I will hopefully move due to health reasons. Besides that im a common white male. Any advice will be very helpful
Choose which province you want to move to and just Google immigration with the province name. I think every province has a website
>>17683422
bumping for selfish reasons, I wanna know too
>Have fwb who is basically my gf but without the name (though she called me her bf at one point)
>We're both perfect for each other, almost to the point that it's scary
>We're usually all over each other when we see each other and are usually always smiling
>Except we just had a Skype call in which I could barely hear her, so she took only 2 minutes to try to fix it before stopping and hanging up
>I responded with a "Really?" and she calls me back
>She seems really uninterested and not really contributing to the convo
>I make the offhand comment about pulling an all-nighter, and she suggests we talk another time
>I suggest that I really want to skype with her while studying, but that I'm not gonna hold her hostage
>She decides to hang up
Honestly, she was probably just tired or something, but it still gets underneath my skin and makes me want to talk to another girl on the side (which I am) just to sort of "show her" in my mind that I'm not something to be taken granted of, or else another girl could get this.
I know we're going to get more serious in the future and I don't want my insecurities to get in the way. How do I get over this petty mentality and not equate laziness/apathy to waning interest?
wtf man?! give her a break. I mean put yourself in her shoes- would you like somebody to act all needy towards you? its all fun and games until you get bored of it. just give her a break, have a rest too. go have fun, have beers with mates, go do things on your own, give her few days off and you'll see she will go back to normal. you act like a psycho and his comes form a guy in hes 30's.
>>17683421
By realizing that you're being an entitled brat, that's how.
>I make the offhand comment
>I suggest that I really want to... but that I'm not gonna hold her hostage
Holy fucking shit, man.
>>17683421
You sound like an exaggerator.
That's your first mistake.
2.5 year relationship, turned to Committed semi-LDR as of last school year during Fall and Spring semester. We see each other at least one day each week, don't go more than two weeks without spending the weekend with each other.
As of lately, she's been taking the feminism pill and believing some of the false rhetoric. How can I fix this?
The pork sword.
>>17683377
It's been four weeks since she's gotten kebab'd. This generally always helps with spontaneous bitch syndrome.
This goes beyond that. Like, ignorance to information she doesn't like, drawing unrelated anecdotal evidence parallel to real world issues regarding gender, and refusal to divorce emotions from evidence and refutation of facts.
It's not that bad yet, but I see a seed has been planted.
why do you want to fix it? tell her you cant be together with somebody who thinks you're inferior to her. just leave calmly with no drama and with no in depth explanation and watch her world crumble. within 3-5 weeks she will magically cure herself and she will beg you to come back and pound her inferior pussy and show who's her daddy.
Asked out a girl who's friends with me friend and she pretty much said she doesn't see me like that. So question for the Femanons, have you ever started to fall for a guy you turned down at first? What did he do to change your opinion. (I got a date with another girl later in the week I just like hypotheticals and keeping connections open for future possibilities)
No.
Date another girl, see if she gets jealous.
>>17683351
desu yes I have started liking a guy after I had turned him down. I guess it was because before that I just hadn't seen him in that light (?) Actually in that kind of predicament now lol
>Failing college
>26
>feel like absolute crap, should I drop the subject? Have already paid for it but will get a fail mark
>fkd a job interview up today aswell
>counciler said I'm pretty depressed due to hard ship
>worked at some dead end retail job for 3 years
Should I just end it?
>>17683160
Just keep going to school honestly regardless of anything. Look towards the future.
>>17683222
But if I keep falling what is the point
What is the reason for your failure OP?
I'm fairly certain if I went back to school now, I'd fail because I'm depressed as fuck. Maybe not though, but seriously. I had a dream, and I injured myself and can no longer achieve that dream. I'm broken.
What's your problem m8?
1) Would you clone yourself?
2) Would you clone someone else? Maybe your partner?
3) Would you be upset if you found out you were a clone?
No
God no
Fuck yeah I would be upset
The idea of cloning is kinda frightening to me. Like what if someone makes a clone of you and uses it as like a fucking sex toy?
1) Nah, one me is more than enough.
2) Well, I guess there would be a benefit in cloning very smart people, although in a limited number because diversification is fucking important.
3) Not really, couldn't care less but it'd make me doubt the intelligence of the person who thought it was a good idea.
>>17683144
Aren't you curious to know if you were raised better, how you would have fared? If you hate math now, what if you were taught differently? Parents make so many mistakes, what if you could be your parent, wouldn't it be awesome?
my life is fucked i up, i dont even want to type this, just feel bad for it
>papa is 75, stays home all day and asks everything whenever i leave home
>literally gave up on leaving the house because of that and been neeting since completed high school (its almost 2 years locked in my room already)
>family found out i fap to traps
>been forced to a psychiatrist for slapping mom and saying i'd kill everybody, the shrink """"diagnosed""" (big quotes) me with depression and psychosis, and now half the family is suspicious of everything i say, when i say something they ask it again like it was nonsense or hallucination,,, and overall talk to me with pity and condescension
>i actually developed depression because of being treated like that, and because of hikking up
>oldest brother (i have 4 siblings) is a drug addict and some months ago i was literally about to freak out for being locked to my room while hell was happening at the house. happily he will be 9 months out for rehab, again
>every room is locked because of him
>now feeling physical pain of depression 24/7 nonstop since some months
>mental condition is getting real bad lately, losing mental capacity
Sometimes i think of completely quitting imageboards and computer abuse and study real hard to get a gov job. But then my brother comes to give the shrink meds and i remember how fucked i am because of that. And also cause i would get the job, come home and be forced to stay on my room for the rest of the day like a rat, like it was during school.
I also fear women and am not sure of my sexuality and wouldnt be able to get a normal relationship. Thats also one of the reasons i decided to give up on society and neet up forever after i done high school
Damn i'm just fucked up.
I guess studying to get a job and be a rat forever is better than keep staying on my room, worsening mental condition, shrink tightening up because of that and become a complete vegetable on meds like my schizophrenic sister
im also dumb and my thoughts are undeveloped
today i just live waiting for schizophrenia to kick in or for them to start forcing to take the meds in front of them
So are you just blogging or what?
What do you want advice on?
>>17682987
i guess so
anything
Mental Health.
Today i was diagnosed with depression and the doctor recipe me Sertraline 50m.
So anybody has taken this med, you can tell some experiences, a piece of advice, etc. I'm a little afraid to take this kind of drug, but i really want to feel no more depressed. thanks in advance.
>>17682902
Hi there. I went through the same dose with Zoloft a year and a half ago.
The first two weeks I had insomnia, lethargy, and weird night terrors due to trembling and other extrapyramidal effects. Also a fucked up sleeping schedule that had me taking naps throughout the day. In order to help with the insomnia I also took 2 drops of Haloperidol at night. No dreams of any kind during the first month. I was also unable to drive because I didn't felt focused enough to drive safely (this is on the meds' instruction sheet too)
After a while it slowly began to stabilize and I noticed the positive effects of the meds, namely the ability of focusing more on certain things and being able to detach oneself from traumatic or violent situations. Basically being able to not take everything to heart all the time. Suicidal thoughts were kept at bay thanks to this. I still had situational panic attacks during the months after I started treatment, but the randomized attacks that came out of nowhere also stopped.
It's normal to be afraid to take meds like this because western society has a heavy stigma against it. But it's no different than a person with diabetes taking insulin. We need the medicine to function adequately day to day.
When you begin, you really can feel the way the pills affect your brain, it's a totally different sensation than an aspirine.
But it's absolutely worth it at the end. Just remember to take note of any side effects and keep your doctor updated with your progress. If after 6 months you don't notice any positive changes it's okay to ask for a different type of meds (most docs like to increase the dose but idk)
I do hope you get better soon anon, I'm rooting for you.
>>17683311
OP here, thanks a lot bro, i really appreciate your help and time to write to me, I'm gonna do my best. Thanks again.
>>17683354
literally same thing as the first Anon said, I had the same dose and it was hard until maybe 2-3 weeks in. I had insomnia, switching to taking it in the morning or evening didn't help, sleep paralysis, weird dreams, makes you so fucking tired but I had a solid week of no depression and didn't even realize at first I had no suicidal thoughts, no sadness, just the ability to do this and feel ok. this feeling wore off though, and I was left with the side affects and went off this drug eventually. took 2+ months to get my sleep back to normal.
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Girls,
When should I approach you?
I'm 21 yo and there is no way girls at my age don't know I want a relationship/sex when I approach them.
>>17682933
Whenever you want. (Barring extreme cases like them obviously being in a hurry, or buried deep in study books.) Just be polite about it.
In my opinion guys often make the mistake of approaching too little (because it's terrifying to put yourself out there to maybe even a stranger), so when they do they get really hung up on that specific girl, even if she gives off clear signs of disinterest. Kind of sunk cost fallacy.
An example I gave before is when a girl is reading - you can ask her what she's reading/whether it's good, people definitely do that even in my country where small talk with strangers is fairly rare. If she holds up the book for you to read, mumbles the name, says it without moving her eyes from the page etc; she doesn't feel like talking. Maybe she thinks you're ugly/weird. Maybe she's about to shit herself and is trying to play it cool... and everything in between. You don't know why she isn't receptive and there's no point in trying to analyze it, she just isn't.
Now if she smiles, turns to you, starts telling about it, asking what you like to read/if you know the author... feel free to continue. People don't like to openly reject others. Unless you've stumbled upon someone exceptionally curt/mean, an explicit "fuck off" typically means you already crossed some implied boundaries.
Also gives you more experience for a healthy perspective for those times that you feel like you made a fool out of yourself. Good luck!
>>17682950
>Also gives you more experience for a healthy perspective for those times that you feel like you made a fool out of yourself. Good luck!
Thank you for the answer.
But then I remembered I live in a really small town and always see the same people and when I take a trip to the bigger one's I feel confused, lost and less worthy.