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Weird question but I need help, I know.

>>17729893
I'm the same OP. I relate so much to this

>I feel like I'm going out of my way to be sad at this point. I don't know what it's like to like myself. I take away from the things I like doing and things that go my way by saying "I'm still a fucking [X]" . How do I force myself to be happy?

I just hate myself. Whenever something isn't working perfectly I fall into a depressed funk and blame myself and tell myself I'm useless.

My answer? Keep going, keep acting, keep going about your work with a smile. Nobody smiles back.

It sucks. I don't know if one can get used to it. So far I'm still going but I dont know how long I can keep it up. Sorry I cant give you a better answer

>see beautiful, 10/10 on the street
>feel depressed all day

SORRY FOR THE LONG POST BUT PLEASE HELP

Keep your job but move into your parents house. Stack your paper and plan your next move.

The world runs on money and you are lucky that your parents are willing to let you move in at that age. You will save a lot of money living with them and I think you'll find it's just the right context for you to decide what you want to do next.

>>17729901
By "plan your next move", I mean picking where you want to live, applying for jobs, etc.

Meet as many people as you can

If you don't already know what you want to study, don't just pick a random major. Spend your freshman year figuring it out while taking general electives and such

Learn to bow to professor's demands if you want to get good grades

Don't skip class

Live in the dorm freshman year if you can

...but don't stay in your dorm all the time

You'll be fine, you should be excited, pretty cool and big moment in life

>>17729867

>Shitty english major, education minor

I'd tell myself to never, never apply to the college that I'm at right now.

>Random tips

Live in the dorm your freshman year like >>17729891 says

If you don't know how to cook, DON'T get a mealplan. Don't get a mealplan anyway, except for (maybe) one to save you when you're out of groceries and can't get to the store. Fuck mealplans, they're a waste of money.

Internships and volunteer work look better on your resume than club leadership positions, and are better for networking. Club memberships = Networking with other students, Internships/Volunteering = Networking with professionals = Letters of recommendation.

>>17729918
What is wrong with meal plans? Not OP, but I'm going on exchange to an American university and was wondering what the best option for a meal plan is.

>>17729810
Sorry to hear it m8, but this stuff happens. Don't dwell on it or beat yourself up too much, just start looking for another job.

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>>17729810
You started fucking around with having personal relationships with women at work. This created drama that led you to getting shitcanned.

What have we learned?

>>17729843
True facts of life, sorry that you lost your job OP.

Here's to the next one, may it be better

I want to start hitting the gym too, what exercises/routines did you follow?

Why dont you fap? I'm starting today actaully, how did you manage over 2 months?

Don't fall for the nofap meme. It's feminist propaganda

>>17729730

Did you make what?

Someone values having you around. That's really not that unremarkable.

>>17729750
It's new to me :^(

>>17729704
>because I don't really have much to offer and I couldn't handle a girlfriend.

How about friends? Not all interactions will girls end in sex, mate.

But, to answer your question: If you really can only think to possibly talk to girls to fuck them, then you are already fucked up. So no risk in the long run, I guess.

>>17729721
Yeah you're right, friends are always good, I forgot about that. I guess I'm just being shallow.

As for the other thing. I don't think *that*, it's just that I feel like I'm missing out if I don't do anything. Like missing out on any other opportunity, you know? Issue is that I don't know what to do.

>>17729774
>Issue is that I don't know what to do.

Welcome to the club. You are 18, that's what all eighteen year-olds think. You'll figure it out.

You invested your time, and seem realtively unselfish. Accept it and try to dig yourself out of depression.

>>17729689
The rules were clear - you get entries for doing work. You did a lot of work and had a lot of entries. You did not cheat at all. (Imagine a similar raffle in which each ticket cost a dollar. A lot of people bought one or two tickets, and you paid for 100 tickets. Wouldn't you deserve to win for your generosity?)

If it still bothers you, donate some of the prizes back to the charity to be used in the next raffle.

i think you deserve it OP.

Try talking through social media (with strangers), and work it irl using the same "templates" that you use on social media. It has worked for me.

>>17729582
>28 and retired
Teach us your ways anon. Also, invest in some real dolls if you really just need a place do dump a load.

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Take your pillow off of your bed, tuck it underneath your arm and walk out of your house. Keep walking until you reach the nearest train tracks. Plop that pillow right down in the center of those tracks, lie down, get comfy, and have yourself a little nap. When you wake up you'll feel refreshed, energized, and ready to approach the world with a whole new state of mine.

Improve yourself to get on his level. It's the only thing you can do.

Have more of a life outside your office, that doesn't involve him. And get laid, honestly. If you had good shit going on in your life, you wouldn't care as much about what he's got in his life

Have you tried touching, hugging, crushing, and/or hooking up with him? You might be missing out on something good.

Making smalltalk with coworkers would probably be better. Online "socializing" is too safe to be of any value towards developing actual social skills.

I've had great luck with discords for things I'm interested in. Like science or finance. The gaming ones are kinda toxic tho

I learned to socialize in this page.
Use facebook, reddit, irc, discord, tumblr, twiter, etc.

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>mother leaves when I'm 9 and father gets twice as fearsome and terrible towards me
>one time dad is kneeling on my chest and strangling me while screaming at me
>manage to get my hand free and jab him in the eye, run to the telephone and dial 911
>dad slams the phone down and throws me across the room, then kicks me in the ribs and when I try to stand up he slaps me so hard my head slams into the floor and I lose my sense of balance, can't get back up
>dad tells cop we were playing cops and robbers when they call back, they don't even bother coming around
>try to jump off the roof to kill myself weeks later, only sprain my wrists because I weigh like 40 pounds
>social services called by neighbors who realize I'm home alone almost 100% of the time
>dad somehow weasels out of it again
>if i came home from school before my dad was home during winter, I had to wait on the porch for several hours in the cold, had to go outside and warm my hands from the heating vent at my house or neighbors to prevent frostbite
>victim of racial violence at school, muslims + black kids would gang up on me (mexican kids were the only chill ones, white people thought I was weird and asians wouldn't look at me), dad just beat the shit out of me when I got home for not being able to stand up for myself and "being a shitty son"
>fuck you dad
>not allowed to have any friends or do any after-school activities, must always come straight home if I want even a scrap of the tiniest morsel of food
>dad is controlling, hateful and constantly blackmails me

2/3

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>when I'm 14 he loses his license as a nurse because he stole morphine, makes me get a job and takes 100% of my paychecks to pay the bills, doesn't even try to get his own job
>ask my manager to receive 25% of my paychecks in cash, save it in a lockbox at the store
>at 19 manage to run away and live in a garage through the winter, try contacting my mother but she's obviously as crazy and broken as my father, and an awful alcoholic
>mother tells me she should've killed herself while pregnant with me to prevent both of us from suffering
>eventually get a new job and an actual bank account, coworker at new job lets me live in his spare room for a year while I get back on my feet
>completely broken and don't know how to interact with the world, people think I'm retarded because I had a shitty childhood and never was taught how to do things by my parents
>pretty sure I have PTSD, might have bipolar disorder or developing schizophrenia (think I hear people talking about me behind my back - can't tell if its real or not - and I have 2 cousins on my mother's side with schizophrenia)
>21 now, finally have my own apartment, all of my neighbors are afraid of me, can barely function as an adult

my dad turned 60 recently and doesn't have a job still, and lives off of his 80 year old mother's savings. he doesn't have any of his own money but his father saved up 2 million before he died of Alzheimers.

could I sue my dad somehow? or get some sort of compensation for being a broken trash excuse for a human being?

>tfw he stopped trying to call me to abuse me after I stole "The Brothers Karamazov" from him and returned it with a knife through it

recently some mail of mine was accidentally sent to his house and he returned it. the thought of him knowing my address makes me really uncomfortable.

pls respond

I'm about to go to work and i don't think the thread will be here 8 hours from now

>>17729438
Your value doesn't determine your happiness. A good family, social function and community does. You're an animal designed to receive rewards for fulfilling your biological imperatives.

>>17729456
Pretty much this

Your brain will make you feel happy in response to doing certain things. Just do those things

No defines what your purpose is but yourself. If you believe in a higher power than perhaps your purpose/fate is already decided and that at least to that power you have value.

Ultimately you define your own value, no one can just straight up tell you what your value or purpose is.

>>17729378

Either troll or so far up his own ass there's no point talking to him. Either way I'm out.

saying no homo doesn't make you any less homo, I hope you realize that

>>17729399
It's simply curiosity.
I see other males really out of shape.

>>17729401
No homo is just a meme.

>>17729341

Don't go that way. You'll dry yourself mad.

There's no way to know, and it shouldn't matter. Enjoy what you have with her instead of looking for way to fuck it up.

Yeah watch them fuck her and figure it out.

>>17729341
Every girl I've been with has told me this - and I don't consider myself particularly extraordinary in bed (with average length, perhaps above average girth)

I don't even ask them... They tell me. But I really don't like it because it's completely unnecessary to mention, and it's probably for flattery... And it's a pretty shit form of flattery in my opinion (ie. if I'm that good, flatter me by regular sex)