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>>17728268
Flowers anon, flowers at least!

>>17728276
What kind? Are red roses too cliche?

Go somewhere! Take her to the park and have a frisbee date.

>>17728260
Be a man and cut all contact with her. You're not responsible for her actions.

>>17728297
Seems a bit extreme.
>>17728260
Just explain to her you why you want to break up, honesty hurts sometimes but it'll be better for her in the long run.

>>17728260
Do it now, before the holidays. I promise you that before Thanksgiving she'll find another crutch.

Nothing unusual about it.

Seen the episode of South Park when everything coming out of everyone's mouth's sounds like shit to Stan? That's how my sister equates it any time she sees me and thinks making a point of said negativity is going to help anything.

Fact is: a lot of life is bullshit. Letting it affect you is the problem, apparently. No one ever actually wants to hear about your, or anyone's, problems. They're very simple, only want to smile and laugh and be happy, all the time, as if that's feasible. Should you do anything ever to counter this impossible mindset, be ready to be made fun of, picked on, or just overall excluded from anything social.

You want to talk about problems? Go be a doctor. Otherwise, the general consensus is "shut the fuck up, no one cares".

Go make money. Once you have enough of that, everyone will listen to what you have to say, hoping some of it will fall to them if they do so.

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No, I don't get what you mean, because your post is literal fucking word salad. Learn to write coherently.

>>17728269
>>17728255
this anon is correct. we all have 1000 problems. no one gives a shit about yours

You know that residence/work permits are not handed out like candy, right? Maybe a student visa would be the easiest. Or marry a Swede.

>>17728252
Yeah I know they arent. That's why im trying to get as much info and advice as I can, I wanna do everything to help my chances.

How would I go about getting a student visa? And I really dont wanna marry someone just to get into the country, too risky. If the student visa fails, am I pretty much fucked?

99% of people can speak English here so there's no need to stress over that.

Stockholm is pretty expensive so if you wanna study or work there you might want to live in the outskirts and take a train/bus to get downtown.

Sweden can be very depressing, the winters are dark, cold and socializing can be tricky. People work hard without realizing, it's kind of ingrained in the Swedish mentality.
You have a circle of friends and you generally stick to that circle, however people here are really kind so when you've managed to really break the ice with someone you've probably got a friend for life.

Maybe save up some more, practice some Swedish and look into work/education. Good luck man.

>>17728233
Maybe take a look at that employee and find out what she sees in him, then take a look at yourself and try to change things up.

No sex in six months? I think it's time to break up man.

>>17728233
I don't think you understand what ground zero means

>>17728213

Start small. Learn to make friends with women. Practice talking with them and lose the nervousness.

>>17728246
I heard that a lot...
The thing is, there were some moments, when I tought they were hitting on me, but it never went to the point were things were getting serious.

When I get to know someone, the first few days it's going well, but I am never sure whether or when to make the next move.

>>17728263
>When I get to know someone, the first few days it's going well, but I am never sure whether or when to make the next move.

Two things at play here:

One, the more girls you know, the less obsessed with any one of them you'll be. That way, you can think more clearly when assessing whether or not the like you.

Two, don't make friends ONLY with girls you wanna fuck. Just make friends. That way you'll learn about women in general, and it will help you with point one.

>never had a job
>no education beyond HS
>talks bad about friend/exes
>virgin
>weird noises come out of his cellar

... you could start by giving more info about him than being a guy.

>>17728153
But the only way you learn is by going in nips first

>>17728182
This, but first look out if you don't have any red flags guys might hate.

>wears make-up
>paints her nails
>dyed hair (this is a big one)
>lots of male friends (get rid of them)
>slept with more than 3 partners

kys

>>17728017
I'm a habitual marijuana user. I dabble in powder cocaine, crack cocaine, methamphetamine, MDMA, psychedelics, benzos, and prescription painkillers. I have yet to come across heroin here in southeast Texas.

>>17728019
>I have yet to come across heroin here in southeast Texas.
We sure as hell get it here in the western part of the state

>>17728004
Continued

We didn't get back together straight away this time. Her friend told me she wants to be with me but she's scared it will just keep happening. So what does she do? Gets with someone else, writes me a letter of how sorry she is and to just be happy, just really pushing me away. That lasted 4 days before she begged for me back, writing me a 3 page letter of how stupid she is, how all I did was love her and she realises that now, etc etc.

So I seen her, she's coming up with all these dumb excuses of why we can't be together, I just hugged her and told she's the most important thing to me and the only girl in the world I want, and how I'll never give up on her, she was crying a bit and we got back together.

Fast forward 2 months, it all happens again. Just out the blue she gets mad and breaks up. Nothing major happened. Saying she has to move on. How there is no chance for us. I try for 2 days to fix it but it didn't work. A week later of not talking I seen her, we spoke a bit I told her I still have feelings but she's saying she don't, she's completely over me apparently. During that week and the next it just felt like she was pushing me out her mind. She was talking to some guy, then it was another guy, then she got with a third guy (all in 2 weeks after break up).

At this point I'm just pissed and we argue. She is acting so mean as if I cheated on her. I'm telling her how can she just throw it all away and move on so easily. She just told me to move on, we can't get back together, it just got worse to the point she was telling me to piss off. Saying she don't know why she got with me in the first place (that hurt).
So now her rebound relationship ended yesterday (lasted 2 days) and her sister tells me she's acting really devastated and crying etc. I haven't spoke to her because its gotten to the point where all we do is argue. But how can she be so sad over it? Or is it because all the feelings from me have come back?

>>17728006
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I know she sounds crazy but honestly I love her and miss her so much. I want nothing more than to continue making memories with her. I just don't know what to do. I guess my questions are;

1. You think she still has feelings for me?
2. How do I get her back?

Bro. I know you love this chick and have great memories with her, but it sounds like she's mental and would only cause you more pain. Idk if she would take you back, but with the way she acts, she could be calling you up a week later begging for you back. I just think you should move on for your own sake.

:( i cant help u but im on meds too and i wish you all the best luck anon

Is the brain damage documented/proved?

>>17728005
Yes. He's aware I'm completely unable to sleep (other things obviously, but this is the only symptom that matters), but he's also an old school family doctor who, I figure, must be sick of my shit by now.

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>>17727983

>I came across some information that proves there is no such thing as women who deserves to be treated with respect...

Not tonight, man. We're all redpilled out for the day.

Joke's on you OP I love and care about a woman because I think she's an incredible person and I can't get enough of her smile. She's also had other cocks than mine too, oh no!

Your "information" is some retarded red pill opinion.

>>17727983
/r9k/ pls go

>>17727953
First of all, congratulations on your first child! Must be very exciting.

I was raised bilingual and I speak fluent Korean and English. Korean was my first language and the language spoken at home.

I moved to America when I was 7/8 and instead of enrolling me into second grade, my dad put me in first grade so I will not be so behind. The key was that I spoke (or at least tried to) speak English outside the home, and ONLY Korean at home.

I was not allowed to speak English with my family members. Worked out well because I didn't ever forget my native tongue. Once your child begins school, will they be learning in German? i suggest you take the opposite approach and only speak English at home, German outside.

If he learns it under 13 then he will gain fluency. You don't necessarily have to start at a very young age, just do it before 13 and he'll speak with no accent or defects whatsoever.

Now, to learn, buy rosetta stone for a few hundred euros and make him use it every day. Do very short sessions, like 15 minutes, and praise and reward him after each one so he'll be excited to come back.

Keep in mind that there are people out there who hate rosetta stone and speak ill of it. This is because they are poor failures, who can't afford it and they are jealous. I have used rosetta stone in my life with tremendous success and can now speak three languages with near-fluency. Rosetta stone was extremely well funded and researched for decades, it burrows to the core of how language is learned naturally. Good luck to you and heil hitler.

Start watching all tv since the beginning in English
I work teaching Spanish to kids (in a non Spanish speaking country, so they have a different mother tongue) and it's rather difficult
They're most likely not going to want to watch tv (or whatever) in a foreign language once they speak another language well enough, so do it since the beginning

Kids who are raised bilingually may mix the languages and even be a bit behind when ti comes to oral expression but it's not something you should be worried about, in the end it's a 'present' to be taught an extra language at that age.

>>17727877
I am sorry to hear it. I lost a grandparent a couple of weeks ago, so that sting is fresh in my mind.

The answer is to your question is, to some extent, different for everyone. Especially in the immediate aftermath, the important thing is to let yourself grieve: get the feelings out where you can process them. If you need help, there are grief counselors who specialize in this sort of thing.

She lived a long life, shared many experiences, and helped make you.

Don't be sad,in a way she'll live forever as long as you spread her genes

>>17727902
yeah same lost mine last april a month after my G'pa. it sucks but life goes on and they were very old i would hope. that's all you can do. grief won't bring them back or make you feel better it just makes you "FEEL" and that why we do it(cry) its a STRONG feeling but will it ever enrich your life or prepare you for the next even worse bout of extreme loss? (i.e partent/sibling) probably not. so i don't think about it.

>>17727842
If this is you, it's your personality that's a turn off.

>>17727842
nah dude you ain't. prolly just unlucky.
what do you do? what do you like? what do you like to do? what do you want to do?. how are your interactions with girls so far been? do you read? don't be ashamed that whole "get laid in high school" bullshit is why there is a population/education problem in the fucking first place. plus your "first time" story isn't gonna be about how you waited till your parents were gone for a day then invited your teenage gf over for hot hot minutes of sex lol

girls are more or less insane. they pick ridiculous things at times to decide wheather or not your worth sleeping with especially if they are young. Also depends if you just want to try to get laid....or try to find someone you like and "see" them on the regular. both have different approaches. if you don't give a shit about seeing the girl again there are loads of way to manipulate them/people in general. you still gotta feel good about yourself at the end of the day though....

Nice mustach, Mario

>>17727840
"all is flux" to quote heraclitus. the present is fixed. past and future are just spaces occupied in spacetime if, time is relative it hardly matters when these things happen. if gravity compresses space then it compresses time as well your past could just as easily be squished together in the same spaces that your present and future exist. quantum physics really are a trip dude....

The only reason we have time is to measure distance.