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one sentence advice thread
tell me your problem in one sentence (two if you really need it) and i will tell you what to do as bluntly as possible
i think it'll help. being direct is good
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I'm 29 just started college and I'm a virgin except for only one time I had drunk sex and I think about killing myself multiple times a day for years now.
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I've been having a lot of nausea, how can I treat the symptom?
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concise spirit bear reporting in
>>17732337
go into nature, scream your innermost desires at the sky, act like the person you want to be
>>17732341
drink water, go see a doctor if it's been more than a few days
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Angry Letter Critique 2016-11-03 20:45:34 Post No.17732292
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I'm a filmmaker that does freelance videography. I'm working with a group of my friends who are in a band on a music video. But the problem is that they're disorganized as fuck. One of the dudes that I'm working with in the band is the "de-facto director". He's been super busy as of late with stuff in his personal life (moving into a house thats in the process of being renovated, teaching, band rehearsals, and also renovating said house).
We start shooting one of the videos in a week because its one of the band members birthday. The music video takes place during a party so it's the only day to shoot for it. But there's so much that needs to be done and I haven't been getting a response from him. I've been trying to get reach out regarding critical things for this project, like camera rentals, test shoots, aesthetic questions, etc.. Considering he's the sorta director, I need his opinion on all of it.
We've been planning this for about a month and we've had to push dates back. They have the tendency to do things behind my back considering they hire me for help. He and everyone else keeps telling me to contact them with any questions and to keep them posted. But I can't help but feel like an asshole because I'm not never getting a response. It just looks like I'm annoying.
I was wondering if I could get some constructive criticism for the letter I wrote. Should I send it to him, or am I just being a bit of an asshole?
TL;DR : I'm on the fence about an angry letter that I want to send. What do?
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PART 1:
Look man, I know you've been jam packed wall-to-wall these days. Moving, teaching, and renovations is bitch all at once. I also understand that I’m also not in the thick of it like you are. That's why I’ve been patient for some time now and I try to give you a fair amount of space to handle things.
But I need correspondence. I’ve been pretty nice about trying not to inundate you with tiny project details on a daily basis, but it’s building up to a massive point now. We start shooting in a week. Apparently you’re the de-facto director for this project, which means I actually need your thoughts before we move forward on anything. The habit of you replying back to me in a 72-hour window is getting PRETTY OLD.
I sent you a video three weeks back for the ML on a 5D MKIII. Your opinion was KIND of damn important.It showed what our project could look like if we move forward with ML on a camera with a good sensor. Call me lucky, I found the exact model on Borrow Lenses with ML already built-in, at a rental steal! (it also comes with a super fast CF card in the bundle) Isn’t that awesome? Oh… no response from you. I guess I should go fuck myself, right? We also haven’t even nailed down the movements or test shots. Rose throwing ideas at us that night at the studio is not sufficient. we need a concrete guideline of what's going to happen (how’s that story board looking BTW?). I refused to have this be a fly-by-the-pants operation. We aren’t at Emerson anymore, we can’t just bullshit something in 48 hours and all will be dandy. This isn’t the project that “shoots itself”, there is TOO MUCH that needs to be done if this is going to be good.
It’s getting harder to sleep on the fact that I’m made to feel like an asshole only for trying to do the job I was brought on for. I don’t want to write letters like this just to force you to respond to something.
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Welcome to the world of relying on other people to create shit. I have a lot of experience in situations like yours and ultimately I have just changed my vision to be totally DIY, self-sufficient. But that's just me and my project is niche.
1. Are they paying you?
2. It sounds like you care about the quality of the video more than they do. Yeah?
3. What exactly are you doing? Cameraman? Editing? Audio?
You should never send an angry letter or message, you should send a firm and succinct one.
My best guess is that they are going to just keep fucking around until the day is coming in hot and scramble to get everything arranged at the last minute.
Sorry m8, so many fucking musicians are just amateurs who hide behind the rockstar mentality even though they're never gonna make it if they can't even put out a decent product.
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PART 2:
Everyone keeps saying “Let’s meet back with Andrew for this…”, I have to interfere into your personal time/life to get questions answered, and I’m suddenly the bad guy. I’m fucking over it. Need I remind you once again, We start shooting in a WEEK. All I’m asking now is, are we doing this or not? If you and the band want this to be GOOD, we need to communicate. Marcus can't answer most of my questions, and neither can Rose. Because apparently they're waiting on you. But from where I stand, I'm not sure if you're good for either of us right now.
>be virgin
>meet girl
>tell her the idea of sex is very important to me
>tell her Im a virgin
>she tells me she only had sex with 2 guys before
acceptable...
>be happy for a little over a year
>meet her family
>they say theyre happy she settled down and not wild anymore
suspicious
>tell gf that her family said she used to be promiscuous (lie)
>she says they had no right to say anything
>I ask her if its true
>she says its the past and I should let it go
>I ask why she lied
>says she never Id over react
>tell her shes probably right but that doesnt change anything
I havent responded to her in 4 days. Shes sending me a mixture of angry and sad text and I dont know how to respond. I see a lot of guys here have problems like this, but I think Im angry at the fact that she lied.
Am I being reasonable or just using the fact that she lied as an excuse. I know I cant ignore her forever.
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Just ask "what else did you lie to me about" and she'll understand why you're anxious.
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You aren't being unreasonable but being reasonable isn't the solution to everything. Do you think that this lie is a part of greater pattern? or a one time thing? I don't think it's that horrible to want to cover up parts of your past that you aren't proud of but it's really up to you.
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>>17732275
I'd make it clear that you won't tolerate lies in your relationship.
Then leave the past in the past. We do that when we are +30
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How do you make people understand speech? 2016-11-03 20:04:39 Post No.17732177
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How do you make people understand speech?
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I almost gave someone a concussion today. I'd had shit piling up little drop by drop like chinese water torture all day, three hours of sleep, had my lunch stolen and every single tiny fucking shitty thing that can possibly happen to a person just deciding to fucking happen all at once.
And then this fucking darwin award contestant decides to come banter at me.
I calmly, explicitly told him in simple words and plain english that I was not in the fucking mood for any of his funny guy shit and politely asked him to fuck off.
For some whatever fucking reason, what he heard was "why don't you try tickling under my chin I'm sure we'll both find that hilarious", so I threw a wrench at him. I missed, and he luckily came to his senses and fucked off to go be an annoying cunt somewhere else. But I could have hit him, I could have put an eye out and regardless, I probably came inches from losing my job.
Sure, he would probably have learned his lesson but that would have been too late for both me and him, and I'm pretty fucking sure I'd have to straight up kill a guy in jail to make the others reconsider stepping on me, and end up doing it anyway.
That has a tendency to be the way things go. What it takes to get people to get through their idiot fucking skulls that you're not playing, the shit will already have had to hit. How so many people survive to adulthood in the first place will never cease to fucking baffle me.
So how do you make people listen to you BEFORE you give them a reason to?
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>So how do you make people listen to you BEFORE you give them a reason to?
It depends on some basis decency from them but since it's something you work with, you'd could've establish some respect already.
Sounds like you have control issues, bruv and it's always funny to push people like that. You acting out, is like them pushing a button and getting a free show. So learn self control, it's a skill everybody in the adulthood needs too.
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Try acting like an adult instead of a spoiled little brat.
Instead of laughing the friendly coworker banter off, you decided to assault the guy with a wrench. This is literally what toddlers do
Fuck off OP, grow up. 10$ that you grew up without a father figure
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>>17732185
So they actually WANT to get their asses beat? Weren't they hit enough as kids?
>>17732190
I calmly. Nicely. POLITELY told this guy to please not talk to me today, today is not a good day for talking to me. Didn't hear, didn't listen, ne comprende l'anglais. He wanted the wrench.
I did have a dad.
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Hey fellow alcoholic piece of shit reaching out and wanting to chat
Day 2 of my detox and I'm doing ok, very tired , shakes, felt like I was going to have a heart attack all night, haven't eaten much of anything the past few days and many other things
Depressed and anxious over a few things in life (a women, my life, etc.) And just tired
Just wanting to reach out to people going through the same thing or have been through this... Please come in and talk because I would love the conversation to keep my mind off things, sitting alone in my apartment can be pretty miserable especially at this time
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hey man, stay hydrated. drink lots of water. try and eat substantial balanced meals. you can do it. i believe in you.
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>>17731516
you're already making so much progress anon and we're always here for you
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>>17731516
I'm not going through the same thing, but my stepdad tried quitting a few times and I can tell you what got him past the withdrawals.
You should do something with your hands to keep your mind focused (movies are too idle). Try videogames. Also I'm pretty sure you are supposed to drink lots of water.
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ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything 2016-11-03 13:40:54 Post No.17731446
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ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything
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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.
FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.
>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.
>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.
>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off
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First
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>>17731454
Well done, anon
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Do women get turned on by the idea of big ejaculations. Like, huge spurting ropes of semen that come without end.
Do they fantasize about taking an underage boy's virginity. Do women find boys who just hit puberty enticing the way men find underage girls enticing (not the pedo sort of eleven or younger, just the loli ages). Like, wouldn't you like to wrap your lips around the hard hairless rod of a fourteen year old and watch him squeal in pleasure as he shot his load down your throat.
My fuck buddy is pregnant and I'm in love with her.
We established a strict no-personal-business -policy when we started, two years ago, but her hormones are making me stupid. All I know about her for sure are her name, her address, the fact that she's got money and that she also gets dick somewhere else. I'm infertile, me being the father of the baby would be MORE of a medical miracle than her managing it all by herself.
I didn't mean to get my feelings involved in any of this any more than she has, I just like pleasuring women the same way that a sled dog likes pulling on the leash. But I find myself thinking about it every time I forget myself and let my guard down, I keep having DREAMS about being a father, and let me tell you I've had some nasty things done to me before but I'd still rather have my nose broken again than sit somewhere holding a baby just to wake up in a cold dark bed knowing that I'll never know if tha kid's real father matters jack shit more to her than I do.
I know I should quit visiting her but she always pulls me back, and I don't know what to do. I want to be free of this mess but I keep coming back.
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>>17731424
cutting yourself off is the only way. been there
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Talk to her about it. If you don't bring it up you'll never know if it could have worked. Even if it's a slim chance it is a chance for happiness
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>>17731431
How do you do it?
>>17731435
How? She doesn't even like me. The only reason I'm in her life is getting eaten out exactly the way she likes it.
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I want to date a 16 year old. I am 22.
Am I an idiot?
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>>17731222
Yes. Date an 18 year old
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>>17731224
Its legal. So thats not a concern.
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>>17731226
Then you're not an idiot
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>be in MD/PhD-program in my country's top university
>finishing up my PhD next year
>up to my eyeballs in stress
>constantly
>can't stomach glomerulonephritis and heart failure for another minute
>want to quit and do completely different things
>every night I fantasize about doing game concept art, A* pathfinding algorithms and polygon triangulation
I want to quit my current dual degree and start doing a master's in applied/theoretical physics, so that I can hopefully get a job in making vidya. I could also settle for a degree in comp sci. I know it's a ridiculously saturated market.
Please talk me out of it.
>tl;dr: talk an MD/PhD-student out of quitting medical school and getting an engineering degree to (maybe) get some job in vidya dev
>pic obviously related
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Universities usually have therapists for students, visit him. It helped me. I was a medstudent with similar problems.
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>>17731106
Hadn't really considered a therapist. Worth a shot. Thanks, anon.
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bamp
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Polys are ruining the world 2016-11-03 06:59:47 Post No.17730963
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Polys are ruining the world
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What the fuck is this story?
>She states she's looking for a bdsm play partner
>Inquire for a play session, and possibly to get to know her interests... to see if we're on the same page
>She tells me she needs to be *into* someone to be able to have a play session with them.
Okay, that's another way to say she doesn't like me. But it really sounds like these people first put a façade of sluttiness and kinkyness... and then fall back into the whole "you have to seduce me first" scheme.
So why post ads at all?
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Did you want advice or just to whine?
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>>17730963
The fuck does this have to with Polynesians?
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>>17730963
Kinky people need love too. There is no contradiction in wanting to find someone she's sympatico with and wanting to play BDSM games with that person.
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How much weight should I lose?
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>I'm insecure, tell me I'm perfect just the way I am to validate me!
>>>/soc/
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>>17730178
>new
it's b8
>>17730176
stop posting this fucking thread
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till this
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NEET/shut-in improvement thread! 2016-11-02 21:40:25 Post No.17729607
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NEET/shut-in improvement thread!
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Welcome to the NEET/shut-in improvement thread!
>old thread
>>17726540
>Discord
https://discord.gg/AAhJ6eR
Join us for help on improving your life, becoming more social or just helping people with these things! All are welcome, as long as you follow the rules.
>What do I do in the threads?
Ask people for advice on your NEET-related/social problems, or join our discord group to do the same.
>Wait, is this some super-secret cool kids' club where you can only be some sort of shut-in freak to participate in?
No, anybody is free to enter and help our group. Feel free to participate, just don't be a dick.
NEET IMPROVEMENT RULES
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1. Preventing your suicide is not our responsibility. If you need someone to talk you out of hurting yourself and/or others, please call a suicide hotline.
2. No doxxing or spamming. If you post any personal information of another user without their consent, you will be banned. Spamming will result in temporary loss of text privileges.
3. Please try to genuinely improve your lot in life. We're not here to circlejerk about how horrible our lives are. We'll all slip up or need to vent sometimes, but overall you should try to be positive and move upwards.
4.The #support channel is for advice only. Check #rules for a description of all other channels and rules.
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Self-help resources: http://pastebin.com/BSZDiAKd
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bumpan
someday i may join the discord
as soon as my anxiety stops being a huge bitch
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>>17731067
We're working on making a guide to overcoming anxiety, depression, and a few other things that'll be added to the Pastebin soon.
So far the guide is intended to only really deal with the affects of anxiety in real life though. How does your anxiety affect you online? It might help us write a better guide if you could give us some insight into that.
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I dunno, I'm a lot happier since I stopped fighting against the fact that I'm just not social or outgoing. I think the vast majority of humans crave strong social interaction, but some of us just don't and we make ourselves miserable trying to be something we're not.
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My younger brother is in 10th grade he says he's fucking around with some 8th grader I think he's fucking retarded because he told me he broke it off with her because he realized how wrong it was only to go back "for the allure of nudes". I told him he should break it off soon and he told me I don't know what I'm talking about. I don't really know much about relationships because I'm fucking beta as hell to the point its autistic. Could you guys help me out with this little fuck? I have nobody else to go to. pic unrelated
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>imposing yourself on your brother when you don't know dick about relationships
Let him do his own shit, focus on yours.
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>>17733647
am I just being retarded in thinking there's something wrong with him trying to get nudes from a middle-aged girl while he's in high school? I just dont want him to turn into an asshole
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>>17733657
Controlling people so they can't figure things out for themselves is what turns people into assholes, not sexual misdemeanours when you're in high school. It's none of your business desu
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Weird question I'm asking, but I'm wanting to make a mold of my vagina and make a flesh light for my boyfriend as a sort of weird personal gift for christmas this year. I have a mold of his penis which is why I think itd be cute in a strange way for him to have mine. I have no idea how to start to make this, its probably more trouble then its worth and itll end up janked but I still want to have a crack at it. From what Ive researched I can make a plaster cast of my vag then fill it with some sort of silicone but I dont want it to degrade over time.
I dont want to clone the cannal, just the outside of my vagina, then somehow make a fleshlight to attach it to, or mold it in one go. Not sure what I can use though to make a reusable fleshlight.
Any advice on this/ how to do this would be helpful
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>>17733443
what the fuck
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>>17733446
What? ): Its not that weird surely.
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>>17733443
I feel like there would be business out there that do this kind of stuff, I don't think making one yourself would work out how you want it to.
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I'm a burden to my parents 2016-11-04 04:20:32 Post No.17733358
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I'm a burden to my parents
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Hey /adv / I'm a 20 year old male twin who lives alone at home with my older sister and parents, my brother goes to college south of me meanwhile I go to community college roughly 20 miles from home. I've been taking alot of math recently, which has been stressing me out a bit because I keep getting shit grades in it, but I feel I am learning the material. My parents are loving, but I feel they can see my pain, and they are always constantly worrying about me behind my back, they fear that I'm "suicidal " even though the opposite could not be more true, I love my life. long story short they want me out of the house to go away to a college roughly within 200 miles of my home. I think this is bullshit, I want to be able to choose the college I want to go to, they want me to transfer by the end of 2017 they think I can't be an engineer or a Nasa scientist, but I honestly think they couldn't be more wrong, I will work for Nasa one day regardless of what they think. Let me cut it simple TLDR
TLDR parents want me out of the house, think I'm a burden to them and they think I can be heavily emotional at times, and they think that becoming me becoming a rocket scientist is ludicrous, what can I do to prove them wrong, and prove that Im not a crazy suicidal college student?
I don't really have any friends, but Im not an autist,where can I go to get normal friends as well?
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>>17733358
Bump here, op
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>>17733358
Anyone?
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>>17733358
Is this board even alive?