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Start by telling us what you know about them and why you want to talk to them.

>hey hows it going

>Done any of that thing that I'm guessing you do sometimes?
>How do I also do it
>Ok cool
>So what else you up to? How about this new thing that exists? We should go sometime

>>17727133
Did you explain yourself or REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

Nah fuck that bitch.
If your friends don't get the time, then neither does a girl that doesn't put out.

>>17727139
I explained myself. I'm totally cool if she wants to be just friends. I didn't feel like there was any problem until she this week.
I didn't say anything like "schoolwork needs to take precedence over you because that is kind of insensitive. I told her I wouldn't be this busy forever (like I said to all my friends this semester), but for now I'm too swamped.

Why do you wanna let her down tho

>>17727144
Just don't feel like we matched on a personal level. She has this very intense personality that didn't gel with my more laid back nature. Makes her come off as potentially clingy. We do have somewhat similar music taste but idk.

>>17727153
Just tell her like Im really sorry I just dont want to be in a relationship or anything. Trust me no mature people are going to say you're an asshole.

most guys don't fap to people they know irl, for all you know when this guy gets home he's looking at furry cock vore

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>>17727096
What are you fucking Gay I jerk off to people I know all the God damn time, always have. I smoke weed too lololololol

>>17727036
U ever think shes not the most talkative person either?

She's traditional. You the man, she the woman. You do the inviting and talking. She's used to this and expects it from you. Or you can ignore her and she if she responds. Or she's talking to other men.

OR, you could ask if she wants to come up with any plans with you both.
Who knows. Make some big moves and see how she reacts. Have sex with her.

>>17727041
Yeah... That's a possibility. I was just thinking of me.
>>17727044
Fuck, I guess you're right. Whenever I ignore her she just looks at me more, like the past two couple days because I've been über busy and too much of a wimp to approach her.

>>17727027
Yes definitely. Get more game. Keep treating her as if you're still trying to win her over

Ask her about her kinks, buy new toys, get drunk and have sex, get high and have sex.
Or, if she having any issues? Any anxiety? Work stress? Depression? Something eating away at her? Bills to pay? et cetera.

>>17727034
op here,
I suppose it's worth mentioning that our sex life used to be great. Well, she thinks it is, I like it as well, but it's definitely not the best sex I've ever had

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Happened to me last month, I ended up telling her when I was drunk. The next day I woke up I just wanted to kill myself remembering everything I said. I told her I want some space because it just felt very awkward being around her and she wasn't acting normal so I think she wanted it too, it's been a few weeks now and we haven't talked at all.

I feel incredibly lonely and miss her terribly, I'm not really sure what will happen now, I never wanted to get feelings for her either.

Same thing happened to me except with a guy actually things are going pretty well. He doesn't care and we're still in a solid friendship.

I've been there as well, It sucks. I'd wake up and go to sleep thinking about her. I got so close to telling her on multiple occasions. Luckly I always chickened out. I say luckly, because if I did tell her I know it would kill our friendship completely. Things got even worse when she started dating my other best friend. For the first time ever I started having jealous feelings towards him. Which made things super tense.

Things got better when I started dating another girl. My feelings for best friend soon died, and things carried on like normal between us. Sometimes I still look back and cringe at just how badly I'd fallen for her. I'm glad I buried my feelings though, because in the end things worked out very nicely with the girl I started dating, who I got introduced to via my best friend. My current relationship probably would never had happened if I told my friend about my feelings for her.

Maybe?

>>17727021
Yeah it seems pretty obvious shes into you to me. as far as the moving away goes, from the sounds of things you two are quite young, its possible shes just nervous.

In my opinion, if she wasn't into you, and knew you were into her, she would straight up tell you she wasn't interested. but then again, who knows.

"she eventually finds a reason to move further away"

Don't give her time to "eventually" move away. Just go for it.

That nigga has a dying wish and you can't let go of your ego for that? God damn, you're a terrible human being

>>17727020
First of all I'm sorry for the bad news. I can't help but ask, how did he discover the brain tumor? I'm a hypochondriac and thinks like this worry me to not end.

I am so sorry to hear that, that is incredible, have sex with him, then deal with the aftermath of his death immediately after? Incredible.
I can't even wrap my mind around the process of you going through those emotions.

>>17727011
>How do I be happy?

you can be happy right here, right now with me

all the things that bother you, just let it be
know that you can influence the things around your visions

for example, whenever I see people I can generate good feelings by just being nice

when I go back home, when I think about how comfy my bed is, how strong my computer is for staying with me this long

it's about those things

>>17727018
I'm not saying this lasts forever too

There's no human that can stay happy for extended amounts

like right now, I have some bad feelings
my hair seems to be thinning, and my desk is messy

but I fix the things I can and accept what I did have and appreciated it then

so now I clean my desk

it's absurd to think the worst I can be sad about is not having the 'right' job

things don't suddenly turn right and everything stays that way and you fulfilled your quota of happiness

it comes and goes, just be accepting of it

right now I'm waiting for some good feels, which I just had actually

gave a friend a cold compress and some food for his cold
talked to friend about sports, learned a bit more about it
checking things off my to do list ever so slowly
no pressing deadlines - there's time

the little things

you can't run away from the bad feels by drugs, or by distractions. You must feel them, accept them, get through them
we're in this together

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lPXWt2ESxVY

>>17727011
what college

>>17727009
Lol. This is the weirdest situation. Idk, I guess you have to tell her. It kind f sucks, and she is going to be really really pissed at you. but she might just listen. Definetly make sure u tell her about the pedofile thing.

>Caring what people think
>"almost no age gap" when you're not even a year apart
You are truly 18.
Stop giving a shit, none of those strangers fucking matter.

>>17727009
Really I don't think you have to tell here that last part. I'd say definitely tell her that people are looking at both of you that way and it's making you uncomfortable but don't suggest that she has to change how she looks. She'll probably think you feel that she's at fault and will most likely either feel guilty or offended that you'd feel so. In the end, both of you don't have a problem with actual age so who cares what other people think. You're having a great normal relationship, don't let passive hate and unfounded disgust ruin it for you.

Any advice, anons? She read my offer of friendship, but didn't respond. That was at 3 PM today. I know sometimes she will take a few days to respond, but my gut is telling me she won't and that I have to move on and accept it. Leave the ball in her court and if she wants to talk, she'll talk.

Any advice whatsoever will be appreciated. I feel very depleted.

Mostly sounds like you friendzoned her.

Re-read your post with that in mind, then respond with more clear questions. But be quick about it, im having a bedside wine, then im off to do sleep

>>17726993

I don't even know man. I'm drinking wine too and fighting off the growing urge to blow up her phone just to get a response out of her.

I basically did friend zone her in a weird way, but I made it clear that I know I made mistakes and wanted to work things out.

I said it'd be nice to be friends and no response. My intuition is telling me my only course of action is to give her time and focus on my needs in the meantime. If she never gets back to me, I have to be prepared for that.

But it sucks, man. We fucking did DMT and LSD together. MDMA. Experiencing that together with a lover makes the attachment so much stronger.

I really don't know what to fucking do, but I know what my only option is: nothing. Taking any more course of action will only worsen my chances of getting her back. Which sucks, because as a man I have that ingrained feeling to act if things aren't going my way.

I miss her bro. I've had two short term girlfriends and hooked up with a lot of girls since we broke up, but I'm still burning inside for her.

I really hope she wants to stay in touch. That to me basically means she places value on our relationship, and has hopes for it to come back in the right way some day. But the fact that she read my message and didn't respond, even though it was only seven hours ago, still hurts like crazy.

I think you're looking at your situation through a very negative lens.

>I am not smart enough to teach myself to program or draw or something like that, so freelance stuff online isn't an option for me.

Sorry but you have all the resources you need to learn how to do these things and you can do it. There's nothing 'inherent' in an artist or a coder that makes them any better than you. Drawing is just putting lines on paper, coding is just writing piece by piece of code.

Honestly, before you try and change anything externally, I think you need to look at yourself and evaluate how you feel about yourself. You've given us a massive list of things you can't do, what does that say about how you view yourself? I mean seriously, how can anyone help you here?

I get you have your own shit but you have to frame it more positively and look where there are options. I don't mean be all flowery and shit, but simply just find a few ways to improve your situation and take it one step at a time. Learn coding for 1 hour a day and you'll have significant progress in a year.

Value yourself more man, you can do a lot of shit.

>>17726968
That's just it, there are no positives.

I am a disfigured, crippled, person. So I am already a displeasure to look at from the get go.

I have lackluster communication skills because I spent the last 15 years of my life excluded from everything by my peers, apart from occasionally being bullied.

I can type? I can speak English? I can read and write well? That is about the extent of my qualifications and all are irrelevant. Not that it matters as my empty resume probably goes straight to the trash when I apply for anything and it gets sorted by their application software.

I am not looking to make it big in life, I just want to subsist.

>>17726956
What did you get a degree with? You have student loans so you spent that money on something.

You are smart enough to teach yourself.
Right now, you're probably inundated with your parents' point of view.
"Oh poor baby, we need to take care of you"

Fuck that.
You're a god damned adult. Do you think that successful people show up to interviews and go "Look my legs work, gib job".
No.
The biggest obstacle you have is your outlook.

Life is total bullshit but your biggest handicap isn't your nonfunctioning legs, it's that you think it matters.

google klenefelters

>>17726925
Try dieting. Stop drinking soda, tea, or any sugary liquids. That will take you far.

>>17727017
I had suspected Klinefelters syndrome however this was eliminated when I got a normal XY result rather than XXY.

My doctor suggested supplementing testosterone so I have a solution in mind. I'm wondering how my hormones got so out of whack. Thanks for the info tho on improving diet, I currently starting to exercise and eat less and healthier.

I may end up taking Testosterone but I'm not sure I want to commit to that yet. I have wondered about my gender identity. I realize I'm no Macho man but I'm not sure I'm transgender either. I cross dressed when I was 5 and started to recognize various symptoms throughout the year. Im not sure where I'm going to land at this point.

Bring it up to the courts, I'm pretty sure that would count as endangerment to the child.

>>17726904
take her to court for being an unfit parent

>>17726904
You already know the answer. Contact your attorney, adjust the custody agreement stating that there will be no contact with convicted sex offenders, push for supervised visitations if she resists.