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So I'm in my last year of school (yeah I'm 18 before you ask), and I take media studies. Part of my coursework is to make a music video, however I'm 2 months into the course, and where others have finished filming and editing, I don't even know where to begin.

Guys I really need your help with song choice, and an idea for a narrative video. This is my last hope. Preferably something easy. I was thinking about using my grandad because no ones ever done that before and have him walk around looking sad.

What do you guys think? What song? And what ideas for a video.

It would help me out so much.

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Hi, first time posting on /adv/.

My boyfriend and I have completely different political views and because the elections are coming up soon, its a topic often brought up if not by ourselves, by friends/family. We try to remain respectful of each other's beliefs/etc but yesterday we hit a new one and got into our biggest fight yet. His family and I are pro Hilary while he is pro Trump and he felt like we were ganging up on him.

He loves going on /pol/ and reading me stuff about how Hilary is a war criminal, etc while I don't go around shit talking Trump.

We've been discussing/bickering about it for awhile now but we've never gotten upset like this (we did have a lot to drink beforehand.... to be fair.
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Should we ban all political discussion to avoid fighting altogether? Do you guys have experience with dating someone with a different political mindset? I, personally, do not. Help? Advice? Much Appreciated.

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What are some fun hobbies that I can pick up where I can meet new people?

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Need some help, and I've no idea who else to ask. For some time now, I've been having fantasies of bdsm and such, but I am feeling very frustrated because it seems to me as if no guy I'd meet irl would be into that. I recently found a community revolving around slutting regarding to games and such, with D/s dynamics, but I don't want a ''relationship'' over the net (I'm really paranoid about the safety..).

Is there a point waiting for a guy that isn't vanilla, should I join said community (they're on reddit & discord) or do you have any advice on how to weed out the guys with similar tastes? Also, if it isn't clear, I am female.
Hope it's ok to ask here, not sure if there's an advice board dedicated to sex.

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>be me
>have vagina
>grandma is incredibly sexist
>i'm not talking "wah wah muh feelings" kinda sexist
>she believes that girls on their periods are "unpure" and shouldn't be let in the house
>that kinda sexist
>when i was 9 i got my first period
>mom told grandma
>grandma came over and held an elaborate speech
"NOW is the time for you to prove your faith to our sheperd! Temptations will come your way young lady, but I know you are strong, like your mother and I. She is a beautiful young woman and so will you be."
>mom is crying
>fast forward ten years
>grandpa passes away
>grandma invites us to visit all the time
>once a week to begin with
>then every third day or so
>i often pretend to have my period so she won't invite me
>after a while i stop because i feel bad
>i'm at her house so often it's basically my second home
>one visit grandma sits me down
>puts a hand on my shoulder
"I know this is difficult. It's difficult for us too."
>she has tears in her eyes
>i think she's talking about grandpa being dead
"But don't worry. Your sisters will carry your burden from now on. I know our sheperd has some other purpose for you in mind, but what that is only the lord knows. Be strong."
>wtf
>car ride back home
>mom is clearly uncomfortable
>after a long silence i'm about to ask what that was about
>she spills the beans
>she told my grandma that i'm barren because she was haunted my her message about "Impurity" when she was young and didn't want me to be hounded in the same way
>grandma cries every time she sees me
>texts me all the time telling me she lights candles for me
>begging god to give my womb back

what the fuck do i do? do i keep up the lie? i'm 20 now and I have a long-term boyfriend. What if we want to get married? do I have to wait until my grandma dies to have kids? she's only like 70, she could live for another twenty years easily.
Please help.

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Hi /adv/

Anyone here has ever applied for a job despite having no experience nor the formation for it ?

I have quite some work experience (in Communications) but I'd like to change my career path. Unfortunately, I can't afford any school, university or training at the moment (recently unemployed).

Do you think it's doable by just applying for a junior position ? (I'm looking at Data Analyst or Database Administrator) I'm definitively looking forward learning by myself if possible.

If you have any tips or any story to share, that'd be most welcome ! Thanks

tl;dr : How to reach a job without having the formation, the requirement and/or the experience ?

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I'd like honest insight from you guys about a situation.
I'm still naive and a helpless romantic.
So I went to a Halloween party with my friend a few nights ago. There was this guy there who I didn't realize was "into me" until my friends and the other girls said it was "obvious". He was very handsome, but I didn't care at first. He began talking to me more. Mind you we were all a little coked out (I know, what degenerates... I usually don't do this. I felt guilty.)
Well he was talking to me a lot through out the night, asking about me, telling me his career, asking me to go to dinner next week. He asked for my snapchat.
The girls who didn't know him were egging me to "get with the hot guy". I was surprised they thought he was "clearly very" into me. He seemed sweet, then later he kissed me.
Time went on and he said he wanted to "get out of there" and go to his friends' place across the street. I kept saying I don't know if that's a good idea, and that I have work in the morning. He kept trying to push it, eventually walking me out toward his house. At one point he tried to "talk" to me in the bathroom. I declined and said I'm sorry let's just go back to the party.
Eventually he and his friend were talking and when I walked by they got quiet.
I went into a room with my friend for 10 minutes to cool down and see what she was doing and what the plan is.
I went back out and he had left, one of his friends said "hey he's back at the house if you want to go there", but I thought that would seem desperate and just ended up going home.

Now, I was kind of on drugs and stuff but I feel like I'm 99% certain he just wanted a hook up, and was one of those guys who are so handsome he "knows" he's handsome and goes with it. Or it was the coke. Or both.

It makes me sad, I felt... happy. I don't know many people here either..

should I bother messaging him though snapchat sometime to join me and my friend out sometime or let it go?

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I just started a job at a warehouse that pays very well considering it requires no experience ($13/hr not including overtime). The benefits are also fantastic. There is really no reason to dislike this job.

However, it's taken less than a week for this job to make me want to kill myself. Now, I was already in a pretty fragile mental state, so I don't entirely blame the job or anything. But I simply cannot perform this job; the physical toll is far too high, and obviously my mental state was not in the right place to endure the physical hardship while I got used to it.

My question is: What the fuck do I do? I can't possibly continue doing this; I had to leave almost right away today because I literally couldn't stand up. I don't know what I can do with my life beyond this. I'm ready to kill myself, but I'm too scared. Should I volunteer overseas for a while or something? Should I move to some shithole town that still gets internet and work for pennies but be able to afford a place? I can't get a minimum wage job not because I'm above it, but because I simply can't afford to be alive if I do.

I'm completely lost, at the end of my rope. No one in my life knows how to help me, and I don't see why they should, either. What can I do, /adv/? I think I'm at a crossroads and I can't make the decision for myself anymore.

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So I fucked up /adv/

I broke the /no contact/ rule after our breakup and wrote to her a month later if things are okay as they are now. Surprisingly, I got a response back: "I missed you". She missed me after she said she couldn't feel our relationship anymore, and even though she cared for me, she didn't feel like continuing it. It was all through messages, and we didn't talk after that, there was no closure.

So yeah, I'm sitting here, thinking whether she just misses having me around, or is she missing what we had. I will provide details if needed

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I have a pretty convoluted story. I have feelings for my friend L, had them for about 3 years now. They've become really strong recently, in fact I've confessed a couple months ago. He didn't say anything because we got interrupted. I'm hanging out with a guy named C and he's really nice and cool but I don't have any feelings for him, I told him and he said we could be fwb. At my job, a dennys, there's a guy named N and he served me and my friend L. L said that he liked N and afterwards when I was working with N, he told me he liked L. So I said to L that N liked him and I could hook them up. L said he would think about it. Just now L said that he wants me to hook them up. I said sure and I'm perfectly fine with hooking them up, but I just told someone about this and they said that they would do it differently. They would tell L again and not tell him about N. I feel like I made the right decision but did i? I want him to be happy but I also want to be happy. I don't know what to do.

Tl;Dr I like my friend L and I'm hooking him up with another guy named N. Am I making the right decision?

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>she keeps tucking her hair behind her ear
She's not normally nervous
>can't really make eye contact
>acts a little defensive towards me
>she notices when I look over at other chicks
>keeps saying I'm funny
>good convo though
Wat do?

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I punched something

knuckle is swollen like pic related but on pinky.
how do i know if its broken?

when i first punched it got swollen fast, but it didnt hurt, now it hurts like fuck (its been a couple hrs)

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I'm sick and tired of it being a giant pain in the ass to first fine, and then if your lucky get into parties

I'm sick of how much dominance hyper selective and exclusionary frat faggots have over them, and I'm sick of white knight fuck faces interfering once you are actually there


What if I get my own place, with my own money, and host my own parties every friday and saturday night, absolute ragers?

I can do it for around 500-700 dollars per month, can get it in the middle of college, and I could dictate how they happen, and who I let in

And if any little shit wants to try to get in the way of picking up girls, I can promptly order him to fuck off because I own the place


Does this sound feasible? How long would it take to develop a reputation for being the party place?

Imagine being able to cuck the frat faggots by out doing them in terms of frequency and intensity of throw downs


Anyone got any stories? A long time ago some anon talked about getting an insane amount of social rep and having girls literally walk up to him and hug him and shit

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What do you do when just being yourself is hurtful to others?

I've been informed today, in not-very-polite terms, the effect my demeanor has on other people. I'm quiet, reserved, don't smile a lot, and try to stay out of other people's business. This makes me seem cold, distant, hateful, and unfriendly to other people, including people I am close to. This isn't the first time I've been told off for my behavior, but it's the first time in awhile, and I'm starting to feel some things that I haven't felt for months. Namely, worthlessness and the feeling that my continuing existence is a burden on other people.

First, how do I cope with the fact that I've been inadvertently hurting people my entire life? Second, how do I stop hurting people in this way?

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Hey I just got fucked over trying to download something that I knew was sketch.. Now I have a virus, tried rkill and malwarebites but malware won't run. Tried to factory reset but it cancles the process. Can someone please help..