How do I reject a girl who asked me out without being an asshole?
You just say no. You're not an asshole if you don't want to date someone. You don't *have* to date her. Just be direct.
>>17731587
I don't want to make her feel bad but at the same time I want her to stop insisting.
>>17731590
Lie and say you're gay would be my first idea, but that never works out well on television.
Six years ago, my best friend of eight years suddenly ghosted me for no clear reason (no fights and I was never mean to her) and ignored all my attempts to contact her until I gave up after a year. Now she wants to be friends again as though nothing ever happened. Should I forgive her? I kind of don't want to.
Its your decision. People go through things and sometimes they need to be alone/not talk to other people.
I would ask for a reason why she did it and judge from there. Perhaps something happened.
>>17731461
"Hey. Yeah I'm kind of busy right now."
"Thanks for the invite but I'm pretty tired."
If she asks why so distant:
"To be honest, we haven't talked in such a long time, I tried contacting you and you never responded. So I figured that was your way of telling me to move on with my life, so I did."
No. That was extremely rude of her. And if you're a male, she probably wants you as an orbiter too (did she recently get divorced and is looking for a provider?)
Ignore her like she ignored you.
Where do learn the technique to it? I know there's stuff online to learn how to eat girls out, but what about everything else? Like kissing, actually fucking and all that?
Watch amature videos
have sex
I know, sounds really hard, right?
>>17731480
yeah mate, and i guess you can learn to box by just fighting people?
I've been with my girlfriend for sometime now and we'd known eachother for several years, she was in an extremely abusive relationship with her ex-husband of whom she had two children with, oldest is the boy 8yr whom takes much after his father, youngest is a girl 3yr whom was concieved after her father forced himself on her mother, however this girl takes after her mother and is a joy to the world; so about three weeks ago the girl was complaining for some sort of pain in her private area and her mom took a look and her private area had a simple rash so we thought it may have just been from the sandbox at her daycare; fast forward, she was complaining of pain again now three weeks later, her mom checked her and she was intense red going around her vagina area and some blood!
So my mother was over and both her and I insisted on taking her to the hospital since this to me seemed like a red-flag (The only two places she ever is without her mother present are her daycare during the week and her biological father's on the weekends), well the doc checked and it was a rash from urine sitting there too long, apparently the daycare staff had not been letting her use the potty as needed and that's an issue.
The Big issue is this: the doc asked very nicely if anyone has touched her private area and the girl said her brother's name, in doubt we asked again and without hesitation the girl said his name, we get home and his mother asked him, he said yes and then she asks how many times and he says sometimes. There's the problem, we had a talk with him but are unsure what to do, calling the police would ruin his life entirely, but we're not sure what to do.
This kid bullies smaller ones, mean to animals, lies to us about simple things and always tries manipulates us through crying over nothing and wines about everything and cowers at everything(Just like his father).
I've tried teaching this kid how to use a swing for example but he was terrified and then once we got him onto it he let go in mid flight landing him plopping on the ground...
He also repeats crap his father says and tries to bully everyone who he precipices weaker like his father does (his father is afraid of me)
He gives his mother constant issues and we're not sure what to do; every time the kids come back from visiting their father on the weekend they act like pains in our rears an it resets like that every week.
>>17731308
get the kid some professional help OP
>>17731308
Hold a pillow over his face
Or flood his room with helium while he sleeps
Is it possible to completely avoid romantic relationships for a female after one failed relationship even if you are attracted to someone? They appear serious.
>>17731267
They don't fear commitment. If yes, why/what would be the reasons?
>>17731267
pmuB.
>>17731267
Possible or not, you cannot start a relationship if both of you aren't into it. She clearly doesn't want to date you.
You shouldn't try to convince someone to date you or win someone over.
Move on.
Over the last three years - though mostly in the first year - I lost a lot of weight. Like, 30 kilograms. I am still a little bit flabby here and there, but about to lose that also.
Since then I have been approached by girls from time to time, I seem to be more interesting for them, too. Of course, because I am not a fat fucking shit anymore.
But still, besides the ocassional ONS and getting dates with grilles I seem to still have a hard time getting them. I almost get no tinder matches, I aint getting lucky with most grilles I find interesting, so I started to think about lifting and shit.
So I wanted to know of you, /adv/ if that shit works, or is it just a meme from /fit/, and even when I lift I wont get more pussy?
>>17731164
It's all about the confidence it brings, and yeah you will obviously look better which is going to help with attraction. So yeah you can start lifting, hop on a routine like starting strength and milk your newbie gains as much as possible.
>>17731170
Got nothing to lose I guess.
>>17731190
Exactly, and you get a new hobby out of it, with tonnes of health benefits.
I asked my 20yo little brother why he doesn't ever make the first move, and he said "if you run after a girl once, chances are she'll expect you to run after her for the rest of your life."
His literally revolves around college. He doesn't talk to any girls and has never had a girlfriend despite being smart and good looking. I think there's no way he doesn't feel lonely. How do I encourage him to live up to his potential and get out there?
Ask him out. Make the first move. I know its incest but fuck it! You'll be helping out your brother in the long run.
>>17731163
no.
Quit being an asshole and blow him.
After about 2 or 3 threads sad posting about my abruptly ending relationship, I believe I'm officially over it. I would like to help others here and offer advice for those seeking it. I'm by no means a professional, but you guys have helped me & it seems like this is a common topic here.
The doctor is in bitches. Drop them stories.
>>17730970
>b me
>"My waifu is Nyaruko chan"
>Someone else claims Nyaruko chan is their waifu
I feel cucked. She was probably cheating on me this entire time. I dropped her faster than a owling ball. Now I'm so lonely. My life is empty ;-;
>>17730996
I figured someone would do this, but not that soon.
>>17730970
Welcome aboard, and may God have mercy on your soul.
Hi /adv/, I'm looking for advice.
Back in high school friends of mine came over to my house. While I was busy catering to them, a group of them locked themselves in my room, looked through my computer and found my porn. What made it worse was that it was lolicon porn.
It was quite a traumatic experience for me at that age and it's something that has resulted in a persistent sense of shame, social anxiety, and general distrust of people even now into my adult years.
This experience has had a negative impact on every aspect of my life. I have no desire to make or maintain acquaintances, and did poorly academically which resulted in my current lack of job prospects or aspirations. I continue to relive the past in my head instead of living in the present. Social settings exhaust me mentally.
I've learned to feign relative normalcy, but the overbearing shame, guilt and depression still occasionally manifests itself strongly, especially after masturbation.
I've taken some steps in my life to try to take back control, I'm maintaining a diet to plan to exercise to help reshape my neglected, skinnyfat body. I'm considering giving up masturbation, since it brings about such negative thoughts. I've thought about therapy but I don't think this is something I can really share face to face with a person. How do I move on with my life?
>How do I move on with my life?
You have to stop punishing yourself for what you like.
I do not recommend you stop masturbating, even if you feel guilt afterwards I because it is still healthier to continue doing so than to stop masturbating, feeling depressed plus pent up sexual frustration wont help you. Do you have an active sexual partner? Because for some people, they can get over these guilty feelings quickly when they meet someone who loves sex and loves having sex with the person, which boost self esteem and helps a person love themselves more and rationalizing themselves out of their guilt. If you dont have a sexual partner your plan for diet and exercises is good because it's a step towards trying to better yourself and help you learn to love yourself more, but dont think you need to succeed in your plan to love yourself, you should already try to love who you are and know that by looking healthier its just another version of you to love. I used to feel guilty over my (what I deemed as) "weird" sexual interests but now I just think "so what"? its just what i like, doesnt matter what other people think, we're all sexual creatures anyways, we're the few that actually mate without the purpose of making offspring. I enjoy lollicon too, and so? it just turns me on, nothing I can do to change it. I'm not making or participating in live action lolicon porn so who cares? and as long as its not illegal, who cares? You just have to learn to adjust your attitude about, seriously people need to have a more open and careful attitude about fetishes while of course being appropriate to the setting.
>>17730946
I-is lolicon porn bad, desu?
I accidentallu destroyed my neighbor's mailbox with my pickup. How much cash should i give them?
>>17730886
rebuild it
If you rebuild it they will come.
>About tree fiddy.
Should I forgive my sister? She has lied to me so many times for longer than I first thought, over 18 years. She does things behind my back. She manipulated me when I was at my lowest and needed a friend. I had no real friends, I do not to this day. I just have people I like. I accept that. I have always been a loner, rebel, free thinker. I'm getting older now and I do want friends. I was thinking about swallowing my pride and allow her back into my life. A few nights ago I remembered in 4th grade after lunch I was talking to her and she said she could not be seen talking to me because people would not like her anymore. Thats a long story but to sum it up there were two families in a feud. One family you could not be friend with the other family. The other family didn't care if you were friends with them or anyone else. I chose the second family. I do not regret that choice. I regret allowing my sisters' manipulations. A lot of times I did not see it until months or years later after other things came to light. I am about forgiving. Hate eats at your heart and soul. I do not want to be bitter. I can't see any way to validate reaching out to her and start a new relationship with her. She is who she is and I can not change that. I haven't spoke to her since July. This is my first time on this website. I am actually looking for advice. If this is the wrong place to post, my apologies...
Honestly, forgiveness is not something you can just decide to give or not give. But you can decide to let her back into your life, however.
My my mom cheated on my dad and tried to take me away from him and make me hate him, forced me to live with the man she cheated with while giving him a different name and pretending he was someone else. Now, she pretty much has a new life and family with this other person, and I am very much removed from it. I maybe talk to her a few times a year even though we live close.
I resented her for well over a decade. But as I got older, I just one day realized that I forgave her. I don't hate her for trying to make the decisions that she thought would make her happy. I think they were poor decisions, but she was just living life the best she knew how, just like all of us.
Maybe one day you will let it go and forgive your sister, and maybe you will hold on to petty resentment. If you WANT to forgive her though, letting her back into your life is a step you have control over.
Yes, you should. Holding a grudge won't make anything better, and she will be alienated and lie more to appeal to people. Be honest with her, tell her that what she's doing is wrong, but forgive her.
I'm someone who has cut ties with all family but that doesnt mean I hold any resentment. I also see nothing wrong with NOT forgiving someone. As long as it doesnt take over your life why should you be the "bigger" person? Dont let people hurt you, you only have a few decades to work and LIVE before you retire. I took the posionous people out of my life that made me feel worthless, so why is that bad? Because they're family? Family should not owe each other anything, if you're there for each other that's great but of not so what? I feel like you need to make real connections with the people around you and maybe you'll find a true friend that way. Maybe even change you surroundings, start somewhere new? I moved states away from people I knew and built from square one a new life that I don't regret because I know who cares for me and who doesnt. Do some self reflecting and figure out what is best for you, good luck.
One of my professors gave me an unfair grade. It was a group assignment and we all did the same amount of work and followed the rubric. Grades just came in and she gave me a 60 the lowest passing grade, while another group member got an 81. I don't know what the others got yet but I bet they are higher than mine. This teacher has had a personal issue with me since about week 3 or so, because she is a cunt and can suck my dick, so we have been passive aggressively hating each other. I know at least one previous grade she graded me unfairly, but the grading rules were unclear (more bullshit on her part) so I didn't really care. This time, according to the rubric I know for a fact the lowest possible grade I could have gotten is a 70, and in actually I probably earned at least an 80-85, but the bitch gave me a 60.
Now I have to go through the grade appeal process which I've never had to do before. The first rule is to talk to the professor. Since she is clearly a biased cunt this is going to be a waste of time, but what can I say to her that will get her most likely to change my grade to save time? That my group members who did the exact same thing I did got 20 points higher because she is a bitch? This is such a crock of shit I would honestly rather just beat her ass, now she's going to waste everyone's time including the dean who I have to get involved when she refuses to change my grade.
This is why you don't get on the wrong side of teachers.
Make an appointment with the Dean of that department and it'll be resolved
Ask why your grade was 20% lower than your other group mates.
How do you deal with the pain and depression of everyday day to day life?
>>17730817
medical grade cannabis
>>17730829
I dunno I used to smoke some pot and it made me so lazy I didn't want to go to class. so it just made it more painful when I had to.
>>17730817
With the barrel of a gun.
Should I beware of guys that are "too gentle"? My last and first bf was very nonchalant and cautious/slow in his movements, and talked slowly. When he hugged me, it was hardly a hug, more like putting arms on each other. kisses were with mouth open and lips hardly touching. Is this normal? what does this say about him, does it havve to do with his parents? or is it because we are both quiet and he is really skinny so he was more fragile? He had a lifeless tone when texting but irl was sensitive and liked to explain small details. (he was also a lying fuckboy on the inside)
My new ldr bf, who i havent met yet, sometimes seems similar to him. he is very serious but at least has a little more personality than the last, and seems fun. He is a lot older and I noticed that he also has similar fingernails to the last guy. I cant tell if he is the overly sensitive type, as that behaviour makes me feel inferior for some reason, like im not the submissive one, and they are judging my every action (i am very shy).
i have little physical expsrience and am just curious if this is the norm or if i am too affectionate and have unrealistic expectations?
I'm guilty of this. Pretty sure that in most cases it's just lack of experience. They don't really know how to act and start having doubts so things they do become half-arsed and akward.
It could be that, or it could be they're still feeling you out and seeing how you will react to advances.
remember, a girl can not only shut a guy down in pretty much any social situation, but can also escalate to rape allegations without herself paying any major price for it.
They may just be being cautious until they trust you more.
>>17730702
*tips fedora gently
m'lady...
Last night, I decided to tackle my little sister as a prank.
Turns out she had diarrhea.
This was nearly 24 hours ago, and she hasn't faced me since. I don't think I can ever look her in the eye again.
anon, you have to shit yourself in front of her. You have to make it even, it's the only way. Do it for your sister, your relationship is important, you can't let dumb shit like this ruin it forever
>>17730691
Literal shit posting.
>>17730697
This. Do it for your sister. She deserves a heroic brother who has her back.
the thought of this has caused me to lose my composure at work.
OP do it. you have to shit yourself to save your relationship.
she may see how much love you have for her and then you can fuck her too.