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>5 months
Given the context, I'd try to make up with her if I were you. You seem to genuinely like this girl. I hope she knows it and I hope the best for you two.
>i've been reading about differences in relationships and started wondering if she's not neuro-typical. it's hard for her to make eye contact, she hates loud noises, she has near singular obsessions with a topic or two at a time, she's awkward physically, has weird boundaries, is offensively direct, can communicate better in writing, and can't read social cues.
Yep, that sounds like the bergs. I have that shit too, it's makes me hard to function in general.

OP you should have talked to her. In fact I would say you are just as bad, if not worse, for that. In any healthy relationship you need to be able to talk to each other to communicate you feelings. People aren't mind readers. You say she wasn't emotionally clued in but I would say you're the one being immature. If your first reaction is to dump her then you should leave her alone for her sake, and not date anyone for a while because that just isn't right.
If she's kind enough to forgive you for being a headass then take her back and learn to fucking talk to your partner.
I've found that if they let you put your dick in them, they usually don't get too upset about some putting some feelings in too.

I have the same issue but I am the girlfriend and my boyfriend and I have had great repercussions in our relationship because of my behavior. I have PTSD from an abusive home (loud noises terrify me, express self poorly, prefer writing, oblivious socially) and a generally unforgiving upbringing with very poor health and no real socialization from my family. I hang out with men, have had a lot of male friends, and generally prefer men because I hate my mother, and enjoy male-dominated hobbies since I was a child. I violated our relationship's boundaries many times flirting/having sex when we were broken up/open relationship, et cetera.. got a beating real bad from my boyfriend once as well from this and generally very rocky relationship but incredibly hard to break up because of our attraction and compatibility. We worked on it.
Greatest advice I can give to you is to establish boundaries as soon as possible, and enforce them by immediately bringing up to her what is unacceptable behavior the moment you feel something is going the way you don't want it to. It is like training a dog, unfortunately. The boundaries must be black and white and laid out quite clearly so in her mind she knows that there is no gray area with her actions. Never assume she knows, never assume she just might not be so oblivious concerning something---consult together. Never bottle up your feelings and be as open as possible to what you feel because she lacks this on her part and needs you to be the one to guide her to open herself up as well. She will refuse, or not know how to, or this and that, but it is something that is extremely important for her to learn---how to process such feelings and discuss them in person, even if it causes great distress.
Either way if you think she's perfect but this is an issue, no problem, just work on it.

>anons, I have endured light verbal teasing!!
>Should I destroy their lives as much as I possibly can?
gee, I wonder why you have trouble making friends

>>17726628
Speak with HR before you do anything else. That's what I did when I was being harassed at work for "looking too menacing"

>>17726628

Next time she calls you a virgin, just respond with "well why don't you help me out with that?"

>>17726558
It's all just niggerish drug paraphernalia mumbo jumbo. If you try to fit in you will stand out even more. Wear a hat, get a gun and practice, and hope those animals stay the fuck away from you.

>>17726558
Oh yeah, and what does "setup bitch" mean?

I also heard a black chick say that to another black chick

>>17726570
woah there polmaster
this is a blue board

>>17726552
I usually just tell my neighbors "hey were having a party this weekend, you're free to come! If you choose not to and we get too loud call me and let me know and I'll take care of it!". Dont be a shitty neighbor.

>>17726577
That I didn't even thought of that just says how good of a neighbour I am. Thanks mate!

>>17726552

keep it on the weekend or major holiday. explain that you are having a party in advance and if its too loud they can give you a call. try to have the party over by midnight.

>>17726540
I have no personality, I think it's mostly cause in all honesty, not trying to be edgy or say to damn good for it but talking to people does not interest me. People don't interest me. I realized this once when I was with a friend, a really nice girl who commented while we were sitting line a a pub "I love people, I wonder what they are all like, where they are going, what they are doing" after that I realized. Shit. I don't care about any of that.

>>17726540
Nobody reads the pastebin edition

>>17726591
I don't think that means you're broken. Not everyone is as socially driven. You can still enjoy talking to people now and then without being endlessly fascinated by them. What makes you say you have no personality anyway?

>>17726627
That's every edition.

Well at least your not blaming others it's a start. If you suffer from real diagnosed social anxiety then seek counseling.
Otherwise you gotta do some soul searching.
If you dislike parts of yourself then improve. Hit the gym. Force yourself into social situations. Watch yt videos on conversation skills and most importantly find your self worth. Get a hobby or develop a skill and you will feel much better. Pursue your dreams and be happy with yourself, for if you get your own self worth from others then you will never feel worthy. Being an introvert isn't a disadvantage of you don't let it. Focus on what you are. You aren't a Chad who hooks up with basic bitches every night and that's ok. You are probably sensitive and shy and you just need to accept that, and improve on it. Build around it not over it. Be you and be ok with being you, cuz that's all you can be.
If you choose to take charge of your life and to be a man, it will get better.
If you do nothing then nothing will happen.
Good luck m8

>>17726537
This.
Good post anonbro, solid advice.

Yeah I know how you feel anon, whenever I have a conversation with people at work they always remark like holy shit you can talk, idk what I'm doing that makes people think that way.

Anyway if you want to chat a bit one on one that might make you feel better, let me know.

Please don't read what's on the circuits and hack me I don't deserve it

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The only possible place is outlined in red.

However, if this is only a PCI slot and not a PCIX slot the you might as well get a new computer.

The wire you are asking about is not needed for your motherboard.

>>17726498
And judging by the CPU fan, a video card would be a waste of money.

you try different things until you do

pick something that feels right and repeat it until you get good
you are part of the majority where nobody is born a master

Tried too many things , I am just a a jack of all trades bit master at none

Why do you want to stop?

>>17726345
i don't

>>17726359
Then why did you ask?

>>17726327
replace it with another addition. Best one is running if you have the time and commitment. Running all the time. multiple times a day. When I was in college I ran 10 miles a day to break all of my bad habits. Not that I intentionally did it. Just would run 2 miles in the morning, 3 mile job mid day, and at night I would run until I felt I ran off whatever I need to which was usually like 5 miles.
Broke my shitty diet habits as well.

>>17726333
Would doing this help with the depression-like withdrawal symptoms. That's a big issue with quitting and when I have this withdrawal I have no desire to do anything including my school work.

Former meth addict here. It took me literally 5 years to stop. Do whatever it takes. Don't swallow everything AA teaches you whole, and don't get shamed if you don't believe their (shitty) beliefs. Look into SMART recovery, but don't swallow everything they say whole.

Read the wikipedia on addiction so you can get an idea of what's happening in your body. Understanding why your mind wants the drug helps put things in perspective.

People who call you stupid or weak haven't been truly addicted. People who shame you for it, or tell you you're inherently a bad person, are just assholes.

Things will go back to normal. It doesn't sound like you used huge doses or have been using for a long time, so the damage to your brain is probably minimal.

GL

See dermatologist, looks like urticaria to me

>>17726268
I use to have some red shit on my face too, and yes it is soooo clearable.

I use to have it like 10x worse than u, but i went to the derm and that shit is basically gone. Still have some acne but yeh the redness has gone away al ot

Bumping because I have the same thing and extensive googling has turned up jack shit
>>17726421
Please elaborate

Engineering jobs are being lost to computer programs, automation, and cheap overseas competition.

If you aren't looking at a career that *has* to be done hands-on and in-person, then you're looking at a career that's on it's way out.

>>17726296
What If 'm going for it to get into robotics?

Not that hard.
But the course load is totally brutal.
You'll be in a class with 20 Indians 20 Chinese and 10 whites.

Your prof will speak either Chinese/Hindi but English very poorly.
Your colleagues will cheat like motherfuckers.

And that's not even the workload.

It's incredibly rough.

>now

Every culture on earth hated women for being cunts

It's because if they take these negative names and make them their own, then guys like you can't use them to insult them. It's really quite simple.

This happens all the time. There's a social norm that some people resent and/or cannot live up to. They feel like a loser, or suffocated by the expectation that doesn't suit them, and after wrestling with it for a bit they decide to steer into the skid and embrace them not fitting in rather than continuing to feel bad about not fitting in.

Most girls who will call themselves, say, a bitch, won't think of it the way you do (nasty, unpleasant girl). They'll see it as a label they get for not being cutesy, patient and sweet enough for a girl. They probably think of themselves as (for example) sarcastic, cynical, straightforward, but a good person at heart. Just a person who will be seen as a bitch by people who expect girls to be all smiles and awws.
Or, slightly more radical, they mostly pride themselves in other qualities (like courage/spirit, their strong will and sharp mind) and feel like they might not be the friendliest girl around, but they're more interesting or more real or whatever than the friendliest girl around.

Hope this gives you an idea.

Having sex with you isn't going to make her fall in love with you, and having sex with her isn't going to make your feelings go away.

>>17726143
I know she wont fall in love with me. But im just worried that sleeping with her will mess me up even more.

>>17726143
This.
Additionally, it will probably amplify your feelings towards her and cause you to do something extremely BETA and completely ruin any chance you might have with her.

I mean like "don't ever talk to me again" type of thing.

None. You are a terrible person.

>>17726097
You have retardation

>>17726097
Yolo, because YOLO!