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>>17729188
22 isn't too bad.

I would suggest that you begin making plans to move out sometime in the next 2 years or so. 22 was when I moved out, and all of my friends moved out shortly after, at 23 and 24.

I'm from a really small town though, and it tended to keep people locked in.

There's no point in moving out - at any age - if you'll be struggling to support yourself. Don't move out for the sake of 'muh independence' if you can't afford it. And I'm telling you now, if you're only slightly above minimum wage, you can't afford it.

>>17729194
Oh I'm aware I won't make it-- alone, that is. I was considering getting a second job but I'm not sure about doing that just for a couple more.

>>17729068
Recommend you see a psychiatrist, that loss of the will to live and interest in hobbies is a really hard hole to get yourself out of. Meds really do help.

I've battled with depression since my teens and being an introvert doesn't help my case either. Also have a family history of Bipolar Mood Disorder and various suicide attempts (and some successes) so I can chalk it up to genetics. Left my job of 4 years and a decent pay to pursue a more satisfying career - start studying in January so a bit lost at the moment as well. I kept beating myself up and doubting myself, almost like an internal "negative" voice that would just never stop and made my life unbearable. The meds have calmed that voice and I feel more optimistic about my future and my abilities, which were there all along, I just couldn't see it through the "fog" of the depression.

You know what triggers it, and it has a simple solution. Yet you choose not to do it and instead wallow in angst and hope others pity you.

Okay, winter depresses you. There, you're already ahead of 99% of people with depression, you know the root cause. So get a fucking light box
http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/seasonal-affective-disorder/in-depth/seasonal-affective-disorder-treatment/art-20048298

>>17729114
I did take meds for a time, but I stopped eating them, because the only concrete effect they seemed to have was making it harder for me to get an erection.

Didn't notice any real effects after I stopped eating them either.
What did help me, was going to therapy, but unfortunately I haven't been able to see my therapist that regularly in almost a year now, due to me moving to a different city to study.

>>17729131
It is not just the winter, I have had this feeling for a while now, the coming of winter is simply making it worse.

It sounds like you aren't really a part of her life, and none of this is any of your business

>>17729036
only 1 question is she white?

>>17729043
ok thanks. still gonna keep working out tho but i wont do anything else. ive been anonymously talking shit to her knowing it wasnt gonna help but i just cant stand it.

>>17728866
this is how my relationship was going before I broke up.

Any time she wanted to do something and I didn't, it was a guilt trip.

And, any time I wanted to do something she didn't, it was also somehow a guilt trip from her.

>>17728866
So she proposed to do something together, which can turn out fun and instead of proposing something better back you run to /adv/ to bitch about it?

>>17728866
As far as sacrificing your time goes, I mean that's a big part of what a romantic relationship seems to be from my experience, and I just decided I was too selfish for that, and I'm just going to play the field and not get tied down, so that I can always do whatever the fuck I want.

>>17728857
Understand that there's a mountain of improvements that be made, but always have one height up next on the chopping block.

Right now, I'm working on my teeth for the time being, and whenever I'm feeling bad, I just have to remind myself that a better life is on the horizon, and my dental appointment is coming up.

Baby steps, and I'll get there, and so will you.

Being able to smile again for the first time without a computer screen in front of me will be a big help, or atleast that's what I'm clinging to while I wait for my dental appointment.

>>17728860
Yeah that's what a lot of people say, guess I'm just too much of a big picture guy I guess. I often feel clueless on how to deal with my issues and I'm horrendous at breaking bad habbits.

>>17728892
One at a time man, I know I've got 100 other things wrong, but if I just keep chipping away at one of them, I can get through it.

Same approach I take for work when I'm backed up. One thing at a time gets it all taken care of.

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At this point, i dont even care, just pursue it you faggot, you don't know how other people think, you only know how you think!

I don't even understand why you guys even bother with bitches like this.

Like, stop caring so much dude, after all, she's just 'some bitch', 95% of them are. You should never lose sleep wondering about the feelings and thoughts of some bitch. You chat with them a bit, put your dick in and go on with your life.

If it's starting to make you frustrated or you feel like it's not worth it, then don't bother. There are many, many other walking vaginas for you to put your dick in, some of which won't give you half the headache this one does.

Peace.

>>17728799
"bitches like this" watchu mean anon

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>>17728769
Probably not.

Looks like a bug bite. Put some cortisol cream on it twice daily. Should get better.

>>17728781
It's not a bug bite, it's been there for 8-9 years. It fades away and comes back, and changes shape.

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bumping because i actually care

Stop fucking around with drama girls holy shit. Look at this objectively. Why would anyone subject themselves to this never-ending bullshit? Stoppit.

Don't bother with this, this is the type of girl who plays games and all that's going to happen in the end is you're going to get hurt.

That's really the sum of what any advice anyone would give you on this would be.

Oh, and move the fuck on.

>>17728702
No.

>>17728702

No, it's not. I mean, it's kind of shitty to not give them a chance, but it doesn't make you horrible.

Now, going around making people feel bad for being fat, or being rude to them, that's being an asshole. Don't do that.

one last bump

>>17728198
I don't think so. Why would you give a gift to someone who didn't trust you enough to give you their address?

If she won't give you her address, anon, she doesn't want your gifts.

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>>17727122
>posting on 4chan about your ex
>while she's with chad, having sex

Also side question, but how do I stop feeling like he is better than me?

She didn't leave me for him, but the fact that she wants him makes me feel inferior. And I don't know why I should be.

I try to look at the positives. That guy's hair is receeding horribly, not fit, nu-male, and is a manlet. Meanwhile my hair is great, I'm fit and physically active, I'm at a great height! But despite trying to look on the bright side it does nothing for me.

>>17727122
I think this is sort of a universal feeling bro that a lot of people can relate to. That doesn't make it easier to deal with, just might make it a little less frightening to know that every non-asexual man in human history has felt the same way. It's a hard thing, but we persevere and those things become bad memories lost to time.

Huh did you make a new thread?
Make friends, it's a downward spiral

>>17727057
Yeah, I had a different idea, then changed my mind.

>Make friends, it's a downward spiral
Explain more?

>>17727058
By not having friends you miss out on the interaction and social cues.
Next time you're in a situation where you can potentially make friends, you fuck it up because you're weird and said inappropriate things. Not exactly your fault, but it's because you're not used to interaction.
So then you feel even more excluded and so it continues

>>17725273

You need to grow out of this line of thinking, for one it doesn't make a difference to the person she is now, at your age it's better if she knows what she wants and likes in the bedroom. The way I justify it is if their previous sexual partners were from failed relationships, like my ex had a boyfriend for 4 years before me, obviously they were intimate during that period but it was someone she loved and cared about, and now she has moved on to a relationship she deems more suited for her (me). It's another thing if she's riding the cock carousel throughout her 20's and then wants to settle down with you.

>>17725273
>How can you look at her face and honestly feel love for her, the same face that was cummed on by someone else?

Most of us don't think bout sex all the time, so we can ignore whether or not someone came on her face in the past.

Get your mind out of the gutter and realize people are more than the sum of their sex experiences.

You don't. I'm certain it's in your genetics.

Personally, idgaf, but I know some people literally were born with the idea and it never leaves them.

Never distrust your gut instinct. 85% of the time it is right. Dont live life on a 15% chance.confront her about it. Girls are literaly unpredictable when it comes to things like this,but itd be a foul move not to ask her about it.

OP, this is a her problem, not a you problem. The biggest issue you face right now is moving on from her. You don't have to move on from the relationship right now, but you need to go do stuff that interests you, not sit around waiting for her to either dump you or feel better.

A relationship is between two people, if one of them is being a cunt, then its on the other to be like 'hey, stop being a cunt' and if they continue to be a cunt, then you tell them to fuck off and come back after the cunt attitude is gone. Too many people get treated like shit in their relationships because they 'love' someone, fuck that shit, stop it. The most important person in your life is you (until you have kids), regardless of how you feel about someone else.

So if she wants to be distant, let her. If she wants to break up, tell her to go for it. Be a man OP, don't let people influence you so negatively. Men are meant to feel, yes, but you know what the right thing to do is and that is look after yourself first.

>>17724894
I trust her ... One of her friend told me she sometimes have these phases, anyway ... But yeah I'll try to take care of myself, stop waiting for her ... If she want to come back she will come back ... I get it

I'll go first I guess
I met a qt 3.14 asian girl at my college who turns out is from my hometown 5 states away. She's really awesome and we are in a weird intimate but close relationship right now. Really changed my outlook on Uni, I hated it before but companionship changed it. I hope trump wins. Would really make the last month before I kill myself in Bhutan bretty gud

Not all too shabby, kind of lost at the moment, I have a lot of opportunities coming up just hope I don't screw them up. Thanks for asking friend, all the best.

>>17724106
Good luck pal. I believe in you just do your best and thats all that matters