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>>17737742
"Hey matt.
I know it’s been a damn good while since I’ve ever contacted you, and well over two years since you had last contacted me. But I suppose it’s my turn to try and achieve some closure.
Starting off on the note you started with, I’m very happy for you that you’ve been experiencing so much of life and getting to know who you are more. Nothing makes me happier than an old friend achieving what they set out to do. I do hope that you have only climbed higher, and not stayed static in the last time you made contact.
During the beginning of our time together, as great friends, we had something very vibrant and perhaps that is why it started to turn a bit, tenacious, I suppose; at times in a good manner and other times, not so good.
I believe that I was much too young to understand my feelings and much to naïve to express them in a stable manner. We both had things that we, in a way, clinged onto and needed from each other. For the times that I “loved too much” (as you once stated), I sincerely apologize. I also had a fear of being alone, not just by you at the time, but by other loved ones in my life.
And when I did lose another loved one, my father, I realized just how much of rotten person I was, which spilled into our relationship. It wasn’t just you Matt. I’m glad you’ve had your closure but I have to be completely honest and state that I had my part in our negativity as well. The reason for that was because I had such a tremendous amount of guilt. My best friend (her dad)* in my young life, died with me betraying him. "

"We were together for so long without his knowledge and then I never got the chance to fix that disloyalty. To this day it still shatters me to my core. But after a while I finally realized that during that time I was blaming you, in the back of my head, instead of myself. And for that I am sorry. For all the times I made you feel like a terrible person, I am so sorry. It was that misplacement of blame that didn’t allow me to flourish completely—which affected our relationship and friendship in the end.
Even through all that, there are plenty of days that I miss and think of you and I do not regret anything that happened between us. I have learned so much from it and will probably continue to learn from it for the rest of my life.
So, thank you.
Thank you for being a wonderful friend during those times. Thank you for being a companion during those times. But most importantly, thank you for sharing so much of yourself with me so that I could learn to do the same with others.
I wish you nothing but the best
My dear friend."

Now this was 6 days ago. I never responded. SHe then sent this at 3am

"Sorry for the late message---I just got out from work. But I no longer use Facebook, I activated it to message you and had thought I deactivated it again but realized I didn't when I got an e-mail stating I had received a new request. But I simply wanted to say that in the future, if you want to ever reach out, I still have the same number and e-mail. So feel free. Have a great one Matthew."

>>17737659
Im similar. At first people are friendly, but as I hang around them more without talking much they tend to start not liking me around.

>>17737662
This. They think I don't like them when in reality I'm afraid of them not liking me or not trusting me. I don't talk about myself AT ALL because I'm really insecure and I guess someone telling you about themselves makes it easier to connect with them. People take my reluctance to divulge personal information as "he thinks he's too good for us". I also embarrass very easily so I do my best not to get embarrassed in front of others especially if I don't know them well bit I'm starting to see that being embarrassed or acting goofy in front of people you don't know helps them bond with you. It doesn't make much sense to me but I've seen it in action. Basically letting your guard down

>>17737673
And if you don't have a bunch of superficial shit to talk about on the back of the hand then you're not that great at conversation, thus people will see you as even more repellent. People like pleasure and conversation is also another pleasure.

You have to speak in their terms. I think thats why a lot of guys get into sports without actually liking it. The pretense is for conversation, its all just bullshit. Most conversation is bullshit to cover for human interaction.

Maybe take a bath together and make it a game soaping up his asshole?

>>17737550
Soap and water.
Get in the shower, wash the area, including inside with a finger with soap.
Rinse with water
Repeat x5

Rinse with water once more for good measure.

>>17737560
ooh yes I could wash his butt for him :)
still feel like.. will it completely REALLY clean it?

>>17737474
You've been conditioned since birth by your friends/family/community to behave a certain way, it is only natural that you would experience cognative dissonance when behaving against what you were raised to be. Believe in the Christian God if you want, believe in nothing if you want. Just remember in 150-200 years we will all just be rotting in the ground.

"Live a good life. If there are gods and they are just, then they will not care how devout you have been, but will welcome you based on the virtues you have lived by. If there are gods, but unjust, then you should not want to worship them. If there are no gods, then you will be gone, but will have lived a noble life that will live on in the memories of your loved ones."

You feel bad because you were in a degenerate situation. Doesn't matter whether you're religious or not.

Learn that the ****omg partay~~ life is created for trash by trash.

>>17737507
I get what you mean.

But I just feel like shit after basically being a degenerate. You say to live a good life, but is what I am doing a good life?

Leaving a motel room groggily, clutching your possessions and remaining alcohol, while saying goodbye to two girls who are just as hungover as you, being somewhat disgusted of what happened last night(meaning I was disgusted, not them)

>>17737516
That's exactly how I feel.

I like classical music, I like romanticism and realism art, I read the Stoics, and I'm just about to finish the Aeneid.

How do I go out and meet people if not for this type of stuff?

make normie friends

>>17737433
Stop using that word for one...

Who draws those pictures for WikiHow?

I mean, fuck, I found pictures for the how-to on ABDL.

Depends what you're going into, in all honesty. Will potential employers actually give a shit what school you went to, assuming it's not an ivy league or anything? Is your future career state regulated?
For example I'm going into education, I'm still kind of kicking myself for not going out of state because my own personal hell is imagining a life stuck in the one god forsaken hellhole that is Missouri for the entirety of my life, and I know when I graduate I'm going to be certified in the state MO since that's where I graduated. This means when/if I do manage to escape the midwest nightmare, I'm going to have to jump through extra hoops to get re-certified in whatever state I end up in.

My sister started at a state college, but she wanted to be an animator. In order to have a fighting chance at being an animator, you basically either have to come from Cal Arts, or SCAD. Regardless, she sure as hell was not going to become an animator if she stayed in Missouri, so she fucked off to Savannah because that school was better than "Generic Missouri State college 1." SCAD is a private school though, so tuition's the same regardless of where you're coming from, but the price was still fucking ridiculous. She's in hot water financially now that's she's graduated, but she wasn't going to go anywhere if she didn't leave.

If neither of those things apply to you, then you just have to ask yourself if it's personally worth the risk to you. Would you rather save money and stay at home, so that you have a better chance of making it elsewhere, or would you rather take the debt now, attempt to establish yourself elsewhere, and possibly run the risk of being forced to return home anyway when you fail to do so.

>>17738075
My major definitely isn't state specific, but you DO stand a better chance of making it coming from a reputable school. For the record, I'm majoring in Journalism/Mass Communication and minoring in Political Science, although I might flip those. I also might just say "screw it" post graduation just just submit an officer package for the military.

I wanna save money, but I'm so sick of it here and other than the state's flagship school (which I can't get into) and "runner-up" school, I'm not CRAZY about schools here.

Also, is the Midwest really that bad? East coaster here.

>>17738156
Well then yeah you just have to weigh it out with yourself personally then. Make up your list of pros and cons. What I do when making any major decision, is think up the absolute worst thing that could possibly happen, even if unlikely or irrational. Then I try to decide if I can find some sort of plan should that happen. Usually makes me feel better knowing I've prepared for the worst.
Just remember that what you're doing right now is temporary, the future is a lot larger chunk of your life. Post college is where you really start with the important shit, training wheels have come off, you are officially a real full fledged adult. So you don't wanna do anything now that will fuck up adult you's life. Not saying going out of state will fuck anything up, even the choice to stay home can fuck it up too, but you just gotta think hard about it.

>>17737372
also is there anything we can do to lower the chances of potential pregnancy right now

>>17737372
Get a plan B pill, if you want something more alternative search for an infographic about miscarriage by vitamin C overdose

>>17737374
Drink vodka

>>17737283
You haven't experienced bliss until you've slept as a naked fully-shaved woman under silk sheets.

It's more comfortable.

It's sensual, you feel all the sheets against your bare skin, and it's a different kind of heat if there's no fabric between yourself and the rest of the bed.
There are also many people who feel free or in a positive manner aware of their body when naked.

Of course you can fight someone naked, you're even harder to hold onto. And if someone wants to rape you, do you seriously think the difference is whether you're already naked or not?

>>17737248
That's a cool pic man. And I don't know, maybe you touched something and your skin temporarily reacted to it. I can see it's on your left hand so try to avoid scratching/touching those with something if you're right handed.

Scabies

I got those all over my arms and shoulders once, I can't remember where at. I think after the beach. All I did was scratch them, and they popped. It didn't harm my skin, and I would suggest doing the same, but don't scratch too violently. I'm assuming that I had the same issue as you, but there's no way to be sure.

>>17737195
Lol chill. Move to Virginia if thats that bad.

>>17737195
It's Brandon bitch!

>>17737304

It's goofy but that shit would get you so much pussy pussy in 2009.

Now you hAve to have a Hitler youth cut and be a feminist.

For an internship?
Check glassdoor interview reviews often give examples.
I'm guessing it'd be basic questions like analyzing circuits with transistors and digital logic

What components do you need to buy to build a PC?
How do I set up wifi?
What do if my CPU cooler fan is being really loud?

>>17738265
>>17738312
So they asked me some technical questions and about experience with python. Ultimately they want to send people to North Carolina for headquarters.

>>17737129
Well, what other skills do you have? Honestly, I think you should look into the trades
http://www.bls.gov/ooh/
^Bureau of Labor Statistics

>>17737343

Not much, really. Outside of school/college, I pretty much had no life other than games and the internet. I've worked in fast food and retail. I don't really have the time or money to learn something else.

>>17737129
Join me in the kitchen! I tried for 5 years to put my engineering degree to use. Got fired from a shitty lab job back in May. Friend told me his kitchen was looking for people. Been there since June and I love it despite the pay cut. I should be able to move out on my own next year.

>places will hire and train anyone who gives a shit
>starting pay is better than retail. Turnover makes advancment easier
>once you get cooking the rush down the job is easy
>closed kitchen means never dealing with the public

>>17737011
Do you see anyone that interests you? Shoot them a message, that's what online dating is for. Don't passively wait for someone to message you, and don't settle for someone you won't like just because they did message you. Try not to send an awful message either. Don't make it too long or short, mention something about them that jumped out at you in their profile or that you have in common, try to throw in something witty if possible, and then also try to end it with a question about them, that makes them more likely to respond.

Also what site are you using? Free sites tend to have less serious users.

My met an amazing girl online that I've been married to for 3 years now, so I know it's not impossible. I also met some awful girls online before her though.

All in all, online dating is just another avenue to meet new people with. If you use it correctly, it'll do its job in that department. Just have fun with it.

>>17737038

>met an amazing girl online that I've been married to for 3 years now, so I know it's not impossible. I also met some awful girls online before her though.

Awesome. My friend recently got married after meeting a girl online.

I'm using Match as its paid but I'm also going to try some of the free ones too (although okc seems pretty awful desu)

I know I have to make the first move. I think my ego is just struggling to deal with all the non-attractive women showing an interest in me. I wondered if its because I'm unattractive or because cute women don't bother viewing/winking etc because they get so much attention regardless

>>17737059
Match is where I met my wife actually.

Those unnattractive people are probably messaging everyone. Some people take a machine gun strategy where if they send out enough messages, eventually someone will respond.

>>17736384
bump

Last bump before sleep. Hopefully what I'm asking was understandable.

I don't know, but I have the same issues. Social anxiety sucks.
Any time I get a text I feel a surge of anxiety, it's ridiculous

Wait why are you spending almost half your bank account? What is the purpose of splurging like this?

you could buy 2 55 gallon drums of beet juice

>>17735788
>>17735788
I never buy shit for myself apart from a second-hand guitar I got for $100 months ago. If I spend $1500 now, I'll make the same amount back in 2 months (I work part-time, 18 hours per week).