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>>17735134
I'll listen, anon. I know your pain.

>>17735134
Stop being so sensitive, learn to take a joke and participate in banter.

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>>17735134
>me: Why do you always have to be such a dick?
>Dumbass friend can't believe what she just heard.
>"You..you can't say that! This is the last you will hear of me!"
>Me and cool girl just laughs
>A little time goes by
>"Anon?"
>"Yea, cool girl?"
>"Are you sexist?"
>foooook

>>17735149
Thank you.

>>17735027
Its really not this hard anon. If shes into you shes trying to do the same thing you are.
Look for signs that look as though shes looking for signs you are into her.
Does she look at you and what you are doing when its insignificant. Does she smile and laugh at your shitty jokes. Does she show signs of being awkward or not knowing what to do.

>>17735027
I would say you should just straight up do it and risk rejection. If you two have been having decent conversations, and she seems happy when talking to you, its a pretty good sign she would say yes (granted you ask her out in a calm casual manner).

Just don't become to attached to any outcome - everything is transitory in this existence

>>17735032
>Does she smile and laugh at your shitty jokes?

Yes. She is engaging and hyper-attentive when we talk and there's never a moment she isn't smiling. And that's the problem in this case. It's just in her nature to be like that and I suspect she is like that with just about everyone so I am trying to think of other cues or signs I can look for.

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>>17735005

The only way to do this is to make your goal your obsession.

You get maybe 5 hours in a week to do whatever you want to do (I would say take it on a saturday), the rest of the time you are working toward your goal.

I have a similar goal as you, and be prepared to spend massive amounts of time with an unknown date of payoff. It will feel like you are dragging your balls through glass a lot of days.

1.) every decision you make has to either move you toward your goal or stop you from falling backward.

I will illustrate how I went about my goal to help you out, this will be multiple posts and will take some time.

The first step is define your goal:

Your goal is to become wealthy. Make it concrete, define wealthy.

Wealthy for me is a net worth of 10 million dollars and at least 10k a month in passive income in order to achieve wealth. Passive income is defined as income generated through revenue streams with very little maintenance, such as stocks that pay a monthly dividend or a service (like an app) that generates a revenue stream. This 10 million is in liquiduid capital and does not include things such as a house, car, boat, etc.

My other goal was fitness. I wished to be physically fit and maintain physical fitness, I defined physically fit as benching 225-250 @ 3x6, Squat at 315 3x6, deadlift 405@ 3x6, OHP at 160 3x6 with a run time of 6:30 a mile sustained for five miles at the bare minimum.

Including motivational pics (also watch les brown on youtube for when you need a pick me up).

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>>17735068

2.) Ask yourself how much you are willing to sacrifice.

Make no joke about it, but you must know how far you are willing to go in order to achieve your goal and win. Are you willing to sacrifice your friendships, ruin your reputation amongst your friends, have your family become almost strangers, etc.? You need to sit down and say how far you are willing to go.

Most people never consider what sacrifices they need to make. They think that they would like to make a million but still live the same life they have always had. It never occurs to them they are not millionaires because of their lifestyle. They think of war as glorious and noble rather than the screaming and blood smears of teenagers dying in their own shit. They think of wealth as something idle, like a Dionysian apostle who lounges in a chaise eating grapes, when wealth is the constant, neverending struggle of maintenance and discipline.

As an anecdote. I was willing to do whatever it took. WHATEVER it took. For three years to get myself out of debt I worked at minimum 60-70 hour weeks, spent 800-1000 a month for survival (with about 3-4k for emergencies) and the rest went to paying off my debt. I paid off a 35k debt in 1 1/2 years working a full time and part time job, and that was with losing approximately 10k in the stock market in that time (which set me back 6-8 months).

You will have moments where you seriously consider you have wasted your life and want to chew on some lead aspirin, or take a stroll down the highway.

Always remind yourself these things:

1.) you are fully accountable for everything that Happens to you. You are 100% responsible for everything that happens to you. You are an adult, not a child. Own your decisions. You got t-boned by a car? You should have been paying more attention. Your boss having a bad day and yells at you for no reason? You were responsible for avoiding that situation in the first place. Landlord increases your rent?

Aim towards the actual job itself, you can work out what will look good. Instead of doing what you feel like for 3 years and then trying to find some reasons why you should be a hedge fund manager, go out and get the things you need and present an ideal profile.

A wife can be found somewhere along the way, the key there is being available but not rushing.

Korean will take a long time (years) and be hard if you aren't living there. You might want to see if you can use it usefully somehow, although I'm a fan of random skills.

Gaming depends.. you could get good at a bunch of things or you could be good at Starcraft. Plenty of successful people play games like that and they do it because they like them. I rest by procrastinating on internet forums, I don't even like it, so they are beating me. If it's a cosy hobby even when you're only spending a few hours a week there, it's probably a good way to relax.

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>>17734948
Care to translate, motherfucker? I don't speak retard.

>>17735020
I had to read it like 5 times myself.
Its in code word and after making some inferences my translation is
>should I pay my neighbors door ding(I dinged my neighbors car door). She didn't give me the bill till a year later (for the ding I put in her car door)
House door or any other door doest really make sense and nicking you neighbors car door is a much more likely accident to happen.
OP can confirm if Im right.
If I am pay the fucking bill.

How much?

Withdraw my man. I made the mistake of sticking with a credit I was doing shitty in and ended up with an F and retook the course to bump it to a C+. It was honestly awful to deal with. If it's a mandatory credit just redo it, you'll have the advantage of knowing what to expect.

I dunno, what are your fucking goals?

I'd bet if you have a 2.6, you don't really have any.

So, in that case, what does it fucking matter if you get a d in a class, that goes against your gpa, for a degree you're probably never going to finish, and if you do you'll never use anyway?

>>17734936
>>17734947
Mom is paying for it, taking 2 classes this semester, I just haven't been feeling it at all this semester and I probably should have taken no classes. If I with draw money still has to be payed but she let's me do it with her card and I can do it without her knowing what the status of the class is. SGould I withdraw and hide it?

A few days ago I'm stretching against a wall and she walks up to me and we have a nice talk, she asks me about my competitive results and is really impressed, shes really animated and does a lot of that looking down/up on me, smiling and shrugging and all those little signals. She even flexes in front of me, inviting me to feel her bicep. She spends the session looking at me lots when im not looking etc. This wakes up the obsessive part of me. When I get home, and ever since then I end up wondering what shes doing all the time and feeling generally low over not knowing if I'll be able to get her and finally end this streak of loneliness with a woman Im so stimulated by. These obsessive feelings are very disruptive to me. They ruin my life.

I did like how she seemed to be into me that session. But going without talking to her for a whole week made me feel kind of sad.

Today I walk in, we talk briefly. She mentions that shes really tired after the workweek. I talk to her a few times but dont feel the same thing as last time. Shes avoiding eye contact, seems low and doesnt seem as interested in how its going for me. She does briefly mention how easy a few training drills looked for me though. All and all she seemed colder. Going home this seemingly minute instance of my crushed me. And now I'm deep in the feels.

I'm not stupid. So I'm not gonna ask "Did she decide she doesnt want me?", but instead: How do I stop obsessing over women I like who start giving me attention. It fucks my life up every time it happens.

If you went all out with your personality on the first meet and had an explosive time. The second time is always gonna be less impressive, just be normal. Don't change your tone of voice when you talk to her, you'll find that things can bloom when you're just being normal.

>>17734871
I was acting normal. She was less shy than the other girls, it was the first time a girl had actually walked up to me and shook my hand and introduced herself. Perhaps I looked at her often that but I was mostly into my training, and I acknowledge that new girls often are nervous and tend to stick with the girl group in training so I give them space. Its always like that.

I was particularly smitten when a bunch of us went out to dinner after training a week ago, and was seated with her on the opposite side of the table. She struck me as intelligent, funny and insightful. I couldnt think about anything but her on my way home.

Oh, 2 hours in yet to get a reply from her

>she says she needs to ask her mom
What are you, like 14?

Adults usually don't need to ask permission from their parents before "going out"

>>17734878
She's 17 and I'm a bit older. And yeah, it's unusual. It's a first for me but she explained the situation, basically controlling mom doesn't what her getting knocked up like her older daughter

Make the thread again but about college dropout males and I'll respond
God I swear to fuck I have a solid investment plan but not having a degree (that I wouldn't use, period) makes me feel worthless.

Honestly it seems like women in their 20s are taken already. Especially post college women.

I feel as if I was supposed to meet a woman in college and I didn't do now I am screwed.

>>17734849

Yeah mate I'm not sure, I like to hike a lot and sometimes come across a girl but I mean when you're out in the wilderness and you pass a female really all you can do is just say hello politely.

Work day in day out, there's one cute girl there I might like to date or whatever but not sure how to be professional about it or whatever.

Then come weekends I just go to bars, like nice outdoorsy, weekend vibe bars and even there it's like the girls are in groups and the boys are in groups or there's groups of couples and I just dont know doesn't seem to work.

Holy shit, OP- are you me???

I'm a junior doctor who basically dropped all of my hobbies when I started med school.

What I've done is purchase a rather nice musical instrument and have started to re-learn how to play it. I have also started writing music too.

I think I would have valued having someone interested in taking up the hobby with me.

The best advice I can offer is that you should spend a lot of money on something relating to a new hobby. This will provide you with drive to actually use the device and work on your hobby.

>>17734887
That's interesting, I actually don't play anything and always wanted to learn. I'm afraid my fiancee will kill me if I start making too much noise though.
Really like the point about spending money, a friend recommended I buy a punching bag, might just do it.
Thanks!

>>17734836
don't bother, you won't enjoy things as you did before because now you're dead inside

End it. Overall the best choice in your case.

>>17734837
End what? Close youtube video currently watching, end 4chan, or what?

Upper

Fuck her opinion, she was going to choose a shit tier name, and she had to agree at some point to give you your name

Your father fucking saved your ass.

At least you don't have some weird ass name like mine. I hate my parents for this reason. Feel fine retard

>its another transgender thread
>not even asking for advice

go back to the containment board
>>>/lgbt/
also sage and report

>>17734797
New to 4chan so didnt even realise that existed. Thanks I got some great advice from a video that was linked in.

>>17734785
He's probably bi. My boyfriend is straight and is extremely repulsed by anything with a penis or XY chromosomes. If you're attracted to the opposite sex you're either gay or bi.

shes stupid, you did nothing wrong, if she cant accept the fact that it was a real breakup then she needs to decided real soon if yous are going to get back together now or never because its not called a breakup for a week, its called being single.

I wouldn't really call her stupid seeing as I basically abandoned her even after I told her what I had done. Like I know we weren't dating but I was still so ashamed because we were trying to work things, we just weren't together or seeing each other.

>>17734778
If a girl did this to me I wouldnt even think about considering her under any circumstances. But women are feabile minded creatures so she might let it go.

>>17734751
is it a shower or a grower?

women dont find dick pics hot. we like seeing bodies.

>>17734763
OP never mentioned dick pics.

I'm a full time student. I have a job but it' hard to make that much money while being in school. My plan is to wait until summer and just work my ass off, but not only do I see that as a bit unrealistic, but I feel like it's too long from now to wait. I finish school in about two years and I don't want to have to wait until then to begin working and paying it off, but if that's the best thing, so be it. My life is beginning to move really fast so I need to be clear of this debt as soon as possible.

>>17734721
Just cancel it and you won't have to pay back your balance.

You still have to pay it off if you cancel it, in fact you have to pay the balance in a month if you cancel it. Continue with payments and literally freeze the card in a bucket full of water to stop you from using it until its payed off.